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By Melissa's own admission- This guy belly ached for an expedited interview at the Embassy by going thru friends in high places and then because of a hangover wanted to reschedule....He cannot catch a plane on time....What next?
Honestly, I've been on VJ a while, I've seen people whose IQ I was sure was less than average complete their immigration and start their lives together more organized and motivated than these two.
It's not real anyway. It's a bored, attn hungry VJer and soon that Vjer's buds will be along to throw poop at those that say this is not real.

Melissa, how can you honestly say ( and keep a straight face) that what Gary writes about his wife is BS ( pretty, well educated, happily married to him...etc) ----when your own recounting of YOUR life is such a pile of disorganized crapola that reads like a cheap fiction novel.
Really.
If what Gary says is BS ( personally I don't think so)....but if it is...it's more believeable than your BS.
edit-I don't have my Phd......you think that's BS too?

How can he possibly have overslept? I was so excited the night before I moved here I hardly slept at all.

OMG now I remember. This is the same couple that was arguing on the forum about where they were going to honeymoon and Julian was sure he was going to arrive on a K-1 and then honeymoon in some foreign country and HE alone would be the exception to the travel rule for K-1s. Some people just have no life.
I would never imagine the wedding itself is a complete goat shtup! This is better than MCat abd his stripper wife he never had sex with.

cos he doesn't exist!

I think mutual suicide might be the only way out of this.

The phone jockeys are not immigration officers, hence why they give blatantly incorrect information repeatedly.

I want to second what's been said before. Forgive me if I overstep my boundaries. Ask your husband to do all that he can to make sure to protect you from being hurt - to minimize any negative interaction between his mother and you. Should any negative situations arise (and it's highly likely that they will), it is he, not you, that should establish the boundaries in your relationship as a couple. His mother is a guest in your home and needs to abide by the rules of your home. The bottom line is that you, as the woman of the home, get respect at all times. I know, as a SAn woman myself that that can be difficult because you want to be a good hostess and have harmony between his mother and you. But, that should not happen at all costs. You should never have to endure disrespect or abuse just because you prefer to be gracious - especially not in your own home.

Wow. The lack of compassion for those less fortunate boggles my mind. I would gladly give up a few measley months of my time to take care of those whose circumstances are dire. What a sad display.

What ever happened to just being nice?

I have seen many people come on this site feeling helpless after a heartbreaking disappointment either from a denied petition, complications, or just trying to prepare for what’s ahead. In their quest for directions, I have observed people kick them while they were down. I have observed mockery. I have observed sarcasm with disrespectful intentions. I have observed bullies and I have observed disrespectful tones either in response to the OP or a participant’s comment.
Just before you make a comment, bear in mind this site is rich in diversity, and you can’t use your own cultural exposure to judge others’.
It is ok to introduce some humor but let it be to cheer up the OP/participant(s) and not to mock. If you have nothing respectfully constructively to say, please, don’t waste your time commenting. We are all adults already married or about to, so, please, show some class.
It is ok to disagree as there are always different perspectives to an issue. If you want to hide behind your computer and be rude …take that sh*t somewhere else where you can “freelance” as much as you want.
Adjust that Attitude! A bunch of words is more than enough for the wise!

That's your 'friends' problem (love how everyone has a 'friend' when they argue a point) if he/she even exists.
Funny thing though, you're here whining about people whining, priceless.
If you don't have anything to contribute that would be of some help to the original purpose of the thread, don't bother posting rude #######.

wow, and i thought i was harsh. seriously, that was rude.

Cracking under the pressure? Not likely and I am not stressed the least. As far as sarcasism, I may be the best at that but only to people who really need it.
Gary replied as he normally does. He takes any chance he has to belittle a poster here to show how smart he is.
I get very annoyed at all the repeat posts on topics answered many times before that if they would take 5 minutes they could answer themselves. I just reply read, read, read.

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?

Um, no. I'm actually in no rush for my visa, I see my fiance all the time and I'm actually trying to figure out how to delay my POE. So I'm not wound up, but thanks for asking. I take issue with Gary and Alla's rude comments and sarcastic tone which is totally uncalled for when someone is just asking for help. Not everybody's first language is English and sarcasm doesn't parlay well into text or to someone whose first language isn't English. It is easier just to be straight-forward and helpful instead of confusing people and possibly causing hurt feelings.
Wow, you could have just said all that initially. That's my entire point...and I agree you have given constructive information, but using sarcasm that others may not understand is just wasting time for everybody.
Oh and sheenaspapi actually answered the question as well, albeit in a more helpful manner.

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?

As other posters have pointed out, sarcasm has no place in the immigration forum. It is less than useless as well as being inappropriate. If you have nothing useful to contribute to the discussion - such as an honest answer to an honest question - then do not participate in the thread.
My apologies for responding to this so late - I have only just signed on for the day now.

Um, no. I'm actually in no rush for my visa, I see my fiance all the time and I'm actually trying to figure out how to delay my POE. So I'm not wound up, but thanks for asking. I take issue with Gary and Alla's rude comments and sarcastic tone which is totally uncalled for when someone is just asking for help. Not everybody's first language is English and sarcasm doesn't parlay well into text or to someone whose first language isn't English. It is easier just to be straight-forward and helpful instead of confusing people and possibly causing hurt feelings.
Wow, you could have just said all that initially. That's my entire point...and I agree you have given constructive information, but using sarcasm that others may not understand is just wasting time for everybody.
Oh and sheenaspapi actually answered the question as well, albeit in a more helpful manner.

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?

Seriously...WOW! If only the world were that black and white.
I am in the same boat...apparently our uncontrolled moment of passion means that I am going to be a dad for the first time and we are over the moon. It wasn't planned, but it happens. Even to responsible adults. I think the question was really asking "is there anyway of speeding things up so that the couple can be together to celebrate the birth of their child and to start making plans to give it a great life."
Not sure if you have ever tried being apart from your fiance who is handling the pregnancy on her own whilst you are 6000 miles away and powerless to help with the burden of everyday life. It makes the whole thing so much harder so perhaps a little bit of sensitivity would be good. Or a simple no...or better yet just don't reply at all! A harsh and ridiculously insensitive comment.

To come out and tell someone they will have problems in their relationship (a relationship nobody here except the OP knows anything about) is very uncalled for.

You are really on a roll with the sarcastic comments lately. Why do you bother wasting your own time when you could just as easily close the window and let someone else answer? People post here because they're confused. It's great that you understand the process so well but not everybody gets this stuff as easily as you do. If you don't want to use your knowledge of the process (which I know you know a lot about) to be helpful, why even bother?