James and Cynthia

I'm not sure what warning you are referring to. There is no reason you can't schedule the K1 visa interview online. In fact, if you want to schedule without waiting for the welcome letter, this is how you have to do it, unless you lie to them on the phone and say you already received the welcome letter even though you have not. I have read many posts on VJ saying how to do this online for K1 visa.
This is what I did:
1. Go to this website: http://www.ustraveldocs.com//
2. Select the Philippines for the Country pull-down menu.
3. Do not go to the non-immigrant section. Instead, go to the "Immigrant Visas" section and click on "Applying for an Immigration Visa Appointment".
4. From the Immigrant Visa Appointment page, do not click on "Schedule an Appointment". Instead, look further down and click on "K-Visa Appointment Scheduling".
5. From this page, you enter your passport number, case number, payment date, birthdate, and create a password.
6. The next page asks for passport issuance date and experiation date. It also asks for the address to send your passport to after receiving visa. You need to know City, State/Province, and ZIPCODE.
7. After entering the required info, your name goes to a list and your asked if you want to add another applicant. If including a child with K2, select yes.
8. Go through the same process again entering in the information for the child.
9. Here's the tricky part. If something goes wrong and you exit the site but you haven't created the schedule yet, you can't start over again the same way. After the payment date with passport number has been used once, you can't use it again. Instead, you have to go back to the "Applying for an Immigration Visa Appointment" page again. This time you do select the "Schedule an Appointment" link and not the "K-Visa Appointment Scheduling" link. From here, you can re-enter the beneficieries info and add other applicants for the K2 children.
10. After all applicants are entered, you select them all with the check boxes, and select to set an appointment. Make sure all applicants are selected.
11. Now you just select the date you want and the time. It sets all applicants the same.
12. Last, you can download a PDF file for the appointment letters for each applicant.
That's what I did, and it seems to have worked.
I guess the answer to my question about the child going to the interview is a YES??
-James

I agree. Good answer.
I made a decision when I first decided to ask my wife to marry me. I knew sending money home would be important to her (that's what she did before I met her, so how could I expect her to change now). I knew the best way for me to be happy, is for her to be happy. We do what we can. A little every month, a box or two a year, and a portion of emergencies. It's small compared to my whole budget, but it does add up over time. The key is, we agree on how much every time. No sneaking, no stories, and never a problem. We're happy to help when we can and taking each case one by one depending on circumstances.
If it was my brother, what would I do? My wife's brother is no different. Listen to your heart, your budget, and your wife. Welcome to being married to a Filipino, and also being part of something much more. I wouldn't change a thing in my life. Good luck.
-James

You just need a plain copy. The instruction are clear on that.

Not a 'might work'. It does work. All that is asked for is a photocopy of the marriage certificate you receive back from the court after your marriage is registered. It is in the form instructions.
Page 2 > Copies. Unless specifically required that an original document be filed with an application, a legible photocopy may be submitted.
Page 4 > Based on admission as the K-1 fiancé(e) of a U. S. citizen and subsequent marriage to that citizen Attach a copy of the fiancé(e) petition approval notice, a copy of your marriage certificate, and your Form I-94, Arrival/Departure Document.

Here's a copy of the requirements for certificate of good conduct from Brunei.
http://www.visajourney.com/gallery/albums/userpics/88899/Requirements_for_Police_Clearance_from_Brunei_Embassy.pdf

Sounds like a lot of attorney fees for a divorce with hardly any assets, kids, and no alimony request. Are you doing all this because you want revenge? Your attorney must love this and all the money you and your mom are giving him. Didn't he tell you that you would sue her for immigration fraud? Obviously nothing happened with that. Probably because you can't sue for this, only ICE can. But I'll bet you paid your lawyer well for this. Give up and save yourself 10's of thousands in attorney fees.
-James

WHOAA WHOOAA WHOOAAA..
NOW BEFORE YOU GET ALL CRAZY AND THE US GIRLS START GOING CRAZY LIKE HOW WE CANT GET A WOMEN HERE AND ALL THAT....
DONT GET YOUR PANTIES IN A BUNCH.. MAMA DIDNT TEACH YOU HOW TO COOK..
Anyways i had many relationships here in the US .. matterfact my exwife was a filipino but was born in new jerz. I thought i had it all thought i had the most best wife in the world .. till i got devorced and met this filipino girl in the philipines..
Seriously.. damn my girl from the PI cooks for me.. she gives me Sex anytime i want.. fun to hang around with.. and gives me 90% less lip and enjoys when i take her out to the mall and movies and stuff..
I was wayyy missing out... I mean my ex here.. she was always yelling at me telling me hurry up and get my a up so i can take her to the mall or somwhere .. when i just got through my work weekend.. so i take a extra couple min in the shower.. SOOO WHAT.. SHOOT IM TIRED... FROM WORK...
She dont even know how to cook.. I always had to stop at the walmart after work so i can pick up a few frozen dinners so i can eat when i get home... My ex text me at my lunch time talk about when i get home she going to do it with me.. when i get home she sleeping...
She always yelling at me telling me to take out the trash and wash the damn dishes and stuff.. and starts yelling at me 24/7.
I even paid for her school for a dealing class.. and she got the certificate and she auditons and failed 2 times.. and so now she gave up... (waste of money)
She always talking about how i buy bunch of useless expensive stuff "with my money" when i look in the closet and underneath the draw i find a buncha MAC makeup!
Women in america.. seem to have too much damn power.. seriously on the real.. you ladies think you can get whatever you want by just showing off a #######.
TEll me why i gotta pay $5 at a club.. when women get in for free.. FFFFFFFF that... what happend to Equality?? Also.. dont gimmie that bull like you have to go through labor pains and what not...
When you yelling and screaming at me and denying sex once a week.. that my labor pain..
I can goo on and on and on.. but I let you know right now.. women say in the PI treat there man wayy better than here.. foreals

Wait. Don't do this to a friend. Introduce her to an enemy.
-James

What an insult to your girlfriend. Symptomatic of lacking self esteem too.
There is nothing to defend. It isn't anyone's business to judge. Use this as a way of choosing who your friends are. If they try to use this against you in any way, avoid them.
One of the most ridiculous things about this is after you have scored the home run, the superbowl, the World Cup of Men by bringing home the young, beautiful and dedicated wife - getting all defensive about it. All the marketing glorifying this ideal. The billions of men wishing they had this. And you, coming home with the bacon, the olympic gold medal - start apologizing for it.
Wear it proudly and put it in their face. Any criticism is born of jealously, envy and spite. They'll deny it of course - but just laugh at them when they try to cut you down for it and watch how maddening it is for them.
The two standard put-downs are to make her out to be a prostitute on the one hand, and the victim on the other. She's a prostitute for choosing security. You are victimizing her because of her lack of it prior to meeting you. My tendency has been to say darn right, I'm a dirty old man and I love my little wh**. Because they want you to hang your head in shame, so when you do that they run with their tail between their legs. But none of these are my friends. We've only seen that on the internet where the cowardice of anonymity shields them. They know they are in the wrong.

Next time my wife doesn't answer the phone after I treated her like $hit, it's off to the airport for her. /sarcasm My point is this, NEVER EVER threaten your SO with some kind of one-way ticket B.S. I don't care what she did. There is no excuse for that. I can't think of anything worse short of beating her.
It's the equivalent of telling your kid he's off to some home because he screwed up.

To all those saying to "work it out" I say screw that! If anyone ever pulled the threat of "pack your stuff and go back" with me, I'd be gone. If I did that to my wife, she would be gone as well, and I couldn't blame her. This guy sounds like a control freak. Control freaks don't get better, they get worse. I don't care how angry, hurt, insecue you are. Don't go throwing around threats about your SOs immigration status, especially when there's a child involved.
I know there are two sides to every story, but based on what the OP is telling us he sounds like a nut.

I think this bs thing about giving email,facebook password is when you don't trust in your spouse. A matter of trust is when you have his/her bank account password. ####### your husband cheking your email,facebook and vice versa.It's so wrong and disrespectful for me.If he can't trust in your word In my opinion you are wasting your time with a freaking control guy.Do you have his email, facebook and bank account password?. Calling the cops because he didn't get things in his way it shows his caracters.Unfortunetely he can withdraw his I-864 and you will be without status here.I am not sure if you qualify for Vawa because considering what you posted here i believe your husband is just a freaking control person,besides that I don't see any abuse to support a Vawa claim.

You are not currently a legal resident. You came on a K-1 and failed to marry in 90 days. Filing for the I-130 will get you legal here, but if he pulls the petition, you're not going to be able to stay. What's worse is he can prevent you from taking the child out of the country. You're kind of between a rock and hard place. I'm not sure why you're so worried about him having your password, my wife and I share our passwords and hide nothing from each other. Its a matter of trust between us, that we trust each other to have each other's passwords. I guess its a matter of trust that he doesn't have your facebook password to. But certainly wouldn't want to make a huge fight about each other having or not having those passwords. Why you're making something that should be so trivial become such a huge issue, possibly ending your marriage is not a good sign. Have you two considered marriage counseling? We're not born knowing how to have a good marriage, we need to learn to have a good marriage. And if you didn't learn from your parents or life experience, marriage counseling can be a good step. But it will only work if both are willing to take steps to improve how you relate as a married couple.

Wait. Don't do this to a friend. Introduce her to an enemy.
-James

Once she got married to this guy, she would have no incentive to stay with me but our relationship has improved dramatically.
Really? She is married to another man and you have a relationship with her? I cannot imagine why a man in your situation would even be considering marrying this woman.
If she divorces him and marries me, will that raise red flags and cause problems for her green card application?
Absolutely it will. Are you willing to assist her to commit fraud in order to get her what she wants? And all she does want is her green card. You are nothing more than a ticket to get her there. She's already demonstrated quite clearly the lengths she is willing to go to to stay here. Do not become a victim to this act.

Sounds like you already know what this is. The relationship you are in looks like a game of Stratego, with no blue flags on the board, all red. What's crazy is YOU KNOW THIS and you are still trying to convince yourself to ride this train wreck without getting hit. I'll keep it simple, break up with her and move on.

Everyone will need to pitch in if we want to actually close the deficit. Or we'll have to say that we will make some serious cuts to the military and means test old age medical benefits - i.e. get rid of medicare and roll it all into means tested medicaid. There's no viable path to just have the rich pay for all that. They need to pay taxes and those taxes should be raised on a progressive basis. But we can't have 98% of the population continue to pay the tax rates that got us into this budget disaster to begin with and hope that we'll somehow close the gap let alone pay down the debt. Not happening. Not possible.

I agree. Good answer.
I made a decision when I first decided to ask my wife to marry me. I knew sending money home would be important to her (that's what she did before I met her, so how could I expect her to change now). I knew the best way for me to be happy, is for her to be happy. We do what we can. A little every month, a box or two a year, and a portion of emergencies. It's small compared to my whole budget, but it does add up over time. The key is, we agree on how much every time. No sneaking, no stories, and never a problem. We're happy to help when we can and taking each case one by one depending on circumstances.
If it was my brother, what would I do? My wife's brother is no different. Listen to your heart, your budget, and your wife. Welcome to being married to a Filipino, and also being part of something much more. I wouldn't change a thing in my life. Good luck.
-James

I agree. If the father is spending time with and helping raise the child, and the father is not causing harm to the child, shame on someone for trying to take that away. Living in america is not so much better that it warrants dividing a father from his child. I hope the laws and courts in the Philippines will continue to stand up for father's rights and others will look at this from the eyes of the father.
-James

I am sorry about the situation but no woman/man is worth giving up your kids. That is selfish of her to ask.

This post really chapped my hide, so my response will be much testier than normal.
I highly doubt this is some grand conspiracy to deny you. You didn't follow directions. Of course the USCIS is going to take your money. You sent them a package and asked them to complete work, which they did by reviewing it and recognizing that you failed to follow directions.
Wait for the letter in the mail, it may be an RFE after all. If it is a denial, well, serves you right for not following directions. You have no one to blame but yourselves. And the only people who should be posting with righteous indignation about this situation are the people whose cases were delayed by a few hours because someone wasted his or her time reviewing yours, which wasn't even complete.

Depends on your financial status I guess. I pursued my fiancee, she did not pursue me. I met her through a friend who son is married to her friends sister. She happened to be one of my facebook friends. Every situation is different, so is every culture. How would they live without me being in their life, they would life as they always have and my fiancee would be there working to help the family unit survive. I have no regrets in helping her family. THey are not greedy and have never asked for any money. I give an allowance to help because I can afford to do it and my soon to be wife will have peace of mind that I took care of the responsiibility that she is obligated to do in her country, when I remove her from doing it to concentrate on our marriage, life together and starting our family. To each their own, but for one thing, no one can compare their situation to others, they are all different, different cultures, etc...

That is the Filipino culture. Tyey raise their children, sacrifice for their education all the way through college and the children put back into the household when they get a job. It is unreasonable for you to think that a person marrying a Filipina should not do anything for the family. We are taking one of their bread winners from them that they have sacrificed a lot for. A set amount should be agreed upon with no miscellaneous expenses popping up on a frequent basis. Yes the Filipina wife could work and send money home to help her family since she can make a lot more here in the U.S. even working at a fast food chain, but should also contibute to her household here in the U.S.. When you make statements, just be aware that their culture may be different form yours. I wan to marry a Filipina and I know what comes with it. I didn't go into it with my eyes closed.
Now as how much I send to my Fiancée and her family, it is $330.00 a month. That is because I choose to give her and her family a support allowance of $250.00 a month and the rest is for internet and cable TV that I offered to pay for. She or her family have never approached me and asked me for any money. I make a good salary, got a 12% salary increase for my recent promotion in August 2011, so what I send does not hurt me. I was blessed with a good promotion and it came at the right time for a reason. What I send to her and her family is a small price to pay for my happiness and her peace of mind that I love and care for her family and they are taken care of. When she comes to the U.S. and we marry, she will not work as we are trying to have children soon and I informed her that she did not have to work and I would send the allowance to her family. My fiancée’s family is not lazy. Her father is a police officer who will retire in the next two years and makes roughly 17,000PHP, which is roughly $405.00 a month. She has four younger siblings, an older sister and her mother doesn't work because she is raising the children while papa is at work and they are responsible for paying on her and her sister’s student loans and board certification for her older sisters accounting tests that she had to take 3 times before finally passing and the ongoing education expenses for her younger siblings. The average working Filipino is lucky to make 400PHP ($8.00 USD) a day. So I don't have a problem with my financial responsibility if it will help support her family and make their life a little easier. Living in the Philippines for most Filipinos who are not educated or do not have skill sets to get a good paying job, is very hard. Some families are lucky just to have rice, small bananas and salted fish to eat to stay alive. Now granted some families will take advantage when their daughter is married to a foreigner because they look at us be rich. Most of us aren't but we have a better lifestyle than most Filipinos who are poor. One thing I will say in conclusion is that even though a lot of Filipino families are poor, they are happy with what they have and would even offer you the last food they have if you visited them. I am proud that my wife is Filipina, I love her family and I will retire in the Philippines as soon as I reach retirement age. I guess I just love the Philippines, their culture and family values. I am american, but I consider mysely pinoy also. Just my two cents worth.

Belittling others for a bad habit is never useful or beneficial. If one were to seek some form of counseling and/or cessation program, you really think calling them weak and filthy is going to facilitate the process any? Give them the benefit of a doubt and treat them as an equal if your intention really is being supportive and not tooting your own horn. Like you, they aren't oblivious to who they are.