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IMO the best he can do is let you and your son go back to your country.

When he is ready to act like a responsible husband and stepfather he may try filing again and then deal with the consequences of his previous actions for being selfish or silly.

I am sorry that you are in this situation, I wish the best happens for you and your son.

As some said before look for legal help to know all your options.

OP I can understand you feel bad and angry, he may be just talking to other girls or he may be cheating.

You are not responsible for what he does but you are responsible for what you do.

You cannot force somebody to be how you want them to be, hitting him is wrong. Nothing good can came of it.

If you dont have a place to go you can go to a police station or a church, they may direct you to a shelter while you figure out how to get divorced. I dont think you need vawa, you already have a green card and you can remove conditions after your divorce.

I love my husband, and divorce is not an option for me. I think that is the easy way out. Im going to monitor his behavior, try to help him look for a different job and see what happens. I think he needs more time to adjust

As said before he has options he does not have to endure something if he does not like it.

Patience and tolerance can help him a lot to adjust. he is hardly going to have exactly what had back at home.

If it matters, it seems the entire Central America really doesn't like Mexicans.

Then there are the people from the city who discriminate the ones from the country or the south from the north it goes on and on..

it matters only to the people who may want to validate their own disproval on another group.

If he dislikes so much Mexicans, why would he work in a Mexican restaurant?

That must be a torture for him, would it not it be better to work at McDonalds or find a Dominican restaurant?

and I agree with the other poster, How is his english?

I would recommend you to do what is best for you and for your daughter, and wait a bit longer before making big changes in your life. It may be part of his adjustment.

If he comes to NJ-NY area, yes he will find more Dominicans, I live here with many of them, 2 of my best friends are Dominicans. When I go back home I use some words that my family don't recognize and I know is my friends fault. so he may get used to the Mexican Spanish some day.

Generalizations are Generally wrong, is wrong to judge people based on stereotypes, but when you don't know much about a place or a group of people is easier to follow one or 2 stereotypes that than it is to travel and really know how people lives in another culture, not everything is as we see on TV.

I think you and I know not all the Americans are the same, why is it difficult to believe that not all Mexicans, or Haitians are.

If he moves to NJ-NY area and he does not like the cold, he may miss Texas in January and February.

long time ago... I got mine cancelled twice, both times I received a cancellation letter for unforeseen circumstances, so frustrating.

I was told by my interviewer (on the third take) that the district offices were scheduling too many interviews in the local offices and they had to cancel a few. It did not seem to be anything special.

bottled water ok

Food ok, if you have the time to prepare from scratch.

too many conservatives on some ingredients kill the taste.

The green card marriage game they're playing is fascinating to watch as a third party.

Will the woman be able to get her green card then dump the guy? Will the guy prevent her from achieving her ultimate goals?

or

Did he find a younger wife to support him for the rest of his life? Will she be able to achieve any personal goal at all?

One of them may be giving to that GC a higher value than it really has.

Hi Cmptrsdeal,

Maybe you said it and I missed it but, are the forms for her AOS already filed?

Did she finish school already? you need to talk, she may be able to get a part time job or a full time job to help with the expenses, I find it odd that you did not know about her loan after been married for 5 years, was she visiting you often in your country? There must be a way to help each other.

I also think, you are doing good thinking all this from the begining, the shock will be less when you are really here, I wish I had been a better planer when i moved.

In my case the work permit took 3 months to arrive so, it will be some time that you cannot work, you will depend on your spouse and savings.

When you are ready to work, dont focuss only in IT jobs, anything will help to get you started.

Good luck!

I dont think you are the first one writting a tread here pretending to be the other spouse, actually i think it happens too often, but you are the first I see accepting you did it. If you sent your information to ICE or/and USCIS i guess you are done. I also recommend you to move on.

I feel guilty, I watch the show, and I have been looking for comments in the Internet.

I wish these couples are being paid well enough.

and i would like to get one of those robots too...

Some people don't feel fulfilled simply being a housewife. If she wants to work, why not allow that?

I agree, I have always worked but for a small period of time when I was waiting for EAD, I would not like to depend only on what my husband's wants to give me.

I feel sorry for your wife, I can totally relate, I came from a very close family, is a way of living for many of us, families are stronger together, I think that you don't see the same here in the US because there is more health or social help in cases of emergency. I hope your Mother in law could get better enough for your wife to feel is safe leaving her on somebody else's care, or that you can find some other arrangement to keep your marriage.

Poor girl!

I hope she be very happy in America.

Praying for you and your family.

Praying for you and your family.

Maybe they just want to see their daughters that they miss.Can you visit more often?

Have they told them what else they need for the tourist Visa? maybe is some document that they can get.

If they live comfortably back home that amount may not be enough to live here.

Your parents may understand if you explain them why you think that petitioning them is not a good idea.

I am sure they would love to see where you live and share some time with you and your sister but moving definitely may be a different story.

Everyone,

Thank you very much for all of your replies...

I have a degree in computing systems as well and I have never worked as IT, i have been in manufacturing for more than 20 years, my Experience in Mexico helped me to get a job here in the same area, there are many places where they need somebody who can handle information. Don't despair.

I would get your US citizenship. This way, you will have an option to return to the US if you decide to go to Mexico for a few years.

I agree with this, get your citizenship and focus on what you can do, if you have a degree it may be easier for you to find work in any side of the border. You have more options.

Buena suerte

Nice Story. I wish your marriage continues that strong forever.

I have a pending family process that is why I still read VJ I think that if there are changes on the laws or times that immigration is taking I will find out here.

I knew VJ when my process was already started, I feel sorry about reading about so many stories that end bad because of abuse, fraud ( or because the OP feels like he/she has been a victim of fraud or abuse). There are many divorces in general but I have learned here that for international couples there is an extra difficulty to get together and an extra pain on separations. I am very happy that my husband never gave much importance to the fact that I got a green card and citizenship because of him, we have been focused always on other things. On our 10th anniversary we both agreed that it would be ok to go for another 10 years .

You need information or other services,

Do not worry too much, those options for info pass are not too strict once you are there.

I hope everything works for you, if you cancel your sponsorship succesfully, he may come back trying to win you back to continue his process, do not give in. And avoid contact with him if possible, do not make vawa easy for him.

Be strong protect yourself and your daughter.

these are my options

You need Service on a case that has already been filed

You are a new Permanent Resident and have not yet received your Permanent Resident Card

You want to file an application in person

You need information or other services

You need a form.

You are a United States Military Member, Military Retiree or a Military Dependant