BlueBonnet

Its not just about income. If you dont make the income requirements you can use your assests aswell.

To my disappointment, I didn't know racism exists, until I came here.

JUST GOT MY TEXT AND E-MAIL LETTING ME KNOW THAT I GOT A RFE.... IM SO HAPPY CAUSE I KNOW THAT SOMEBODY IS WORKING WITH MY APPLICATION. HOPEFULLY IT AINT NOTHING MAYOR.

Looking at your time line, hes been here almost 3 months. It was a bit like that for me too. I left behind a house, a 50K a year job that I had had for almost 20 years, family, I gave everything up. I came to the USA for him, and found as the summer rolled around he was working a lot. Here I was, with no one really to talk to, no job, in a house I still wasnt really comfortable in, bored out of my mind and feeling like I couldnt contribute. It was pretty much the complete opposite of my life back home.
The first month, oh it was bliss, I hadnt seen him in so long, now here he was and it was amazing. After the first couple months, we hit a few bumps just trying to figure out how to live together - you know, his socks on the floor, my tampons in his medicine cabinet - silly things, but still not what one is used to. After the bliss its reality, and its harder on the person coming in, because they are changing everything all at once, it can be overwhelming. For me, alot of it was that I couldnt contribute finacialy, I hated that, I felt like I put so much pressure on him ( I had money, but I wasnt earning ).
Is he miserable, probably, is it you, probably not. Its culture shock, its missing family, its feeling useless, its to much. But it does get better. Dont give up on him after a couple of months, give him time.
One thing my husband did for me, was take me out all the time. Because we were long distance, we spend our days at home so we could be on the internet so we could be together. Niether of us ever went out, so when I got here, he took me out all the time. And that was nice, a real change for my life style of the past 3 years with him. All I can really say is just give him time to adjust, do things he loves to do, get out of the house alot, visit family ... keep busy.
For me, after that first few great months, it was probably 2 more months before we really settled. We had to learn how to live together, and that can be hard. Now, our marriage is strong and Im glad I did what I did. ( move here )
I still have a problem with the health care, so much insurance needed here and there, and such low wages, but Ill adapt eventually.

"Someone" is mistaken.

The OP mentioned that they have a 6 month old baby .... are you aware that her hormones are still out of balance. It takes about a year before all that is back in check, so please stop complaining about her actions, and just try to be more patient and understanding of what she is going through.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Just got home from the consulate - visa approved!!!!
It was exactly what I expected thanks to the information found on these forums, got to meet a few fellow vjers, I was the 2nd person through so I didn't get to see whether they left as happy as I did but I'm sure they did.
A huge thank you to everyone on this site for you knowledge and generosity, I'll post my review soon, not that I have new information, but now I'm off to work.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Honestly, when I read posts from people who ask questions like this OP ... what they want is a mind reader.
NO ONE here can answer these questions. Were not interviewing you !!! Were not reading and researching your petition !!!
So what is left ?
Our experiences, our knowledge, our travels though the process. WE CANNOT ANSWER WHAT IF QUESTIONS !!! We can only answer what WE went through !!!
I try so hard to stay out of conversations that revolve around, what do I do if the officer says this or that . . . theyre impossible to answer and if the OP doesnt like the answer ... we get 5 pages of useless posts.
The people who have gone through the process, and hang around to help ... are doing exactly that ... were here to help ! We want to help, were not getting paid, this isnt our job. So please, ask your questions, just try to make then at least relevant.
There is no reason to get defensive and uptight, you - the OP - doesnt have to justify anything to any of us here ... but we dont have to justify our opinions to you either. If you want straight forward, no opinions for your petition, go hire a lawyer. If you want honest answers on the forms, please ask us, if you want to know what will happen next week, hire a physic .... lets try to be reasonable here. Ask valid questions, and you will get valid responses.

Without having read previous posts from the OP, people who come here do need to understand, that unless they are asking a specific question, on a specific form, where the question is straighforward, and therefore the answer will be straighforward, that anything else is pretty much up for debate and opinions. We can offer up our personal experiences and hopefully some knowledge. The poster is going to get our opinions and possibly our judgements.
Any person who uses any open site, posts any question ( that isnt direct and specific ) is going to get some responses that they possibly dont like.
If you arnt willing to read up immigration rules and laws and learn on your own, where you make the choice to ask questions, you are putting yourself out there for any and all responses. And the OP of any thread is open to this, because they have opened the door for it.
There is no point to rant and rave over what you view as unfair and judgemental responses . . . its going to happen. So your choices are, read the guidelines, hire a lawyer, ask only specific questions to specific forms. If you choose none of those, and still post, then you have to be open to peoples opinions.

Sometimes when she calls me 'Darling' it sounds like 'dumbass.'

Thanks again for all the advise. This is where everything stands as of right now. We used a lawyer to process out K1. I got a hold of him today and updated him on my situation, he immediately drew up the letter to withdraw my petition for AOS. He also is sending me tomorrow to a local Uscis office here that has a fraud unit. At this point I still don't know where my husband is, and I am thinking I might never know. For many reasons this might be the best thing for me due to some of the threats, but to be honest it really is driving me crazy. I am taking advise of others and attempting to put my emotions on hold and do what I have to do to protect myself right now.

My wife will kill me.

Im going to admit that I have not read all the responses. I just want to get my 2 cents worth in here.
Based on the original post, where you say that he mentions about how he paid for it .. and youre not sure if he is trying to get you on the hook for looking like he paid you for a greencard and so you have no say in his life.
Im a believer that if something doesnt feel right, it probably isnt.
If he is potentially setting you up for this, you do need to report him ASAP. Because if you aiding him in anyway of committing fraud you would be scared too, but as an innocent victim you have to protect yourself. You have to explain your side and let them know your findings and his threats.
Also, if you are still able to pull the support end of the AoS, do it, quickly. I remember when I printed off the agreement with the USC and the Government I had my husband leave the room with it, and read it thoroughly. From the other room he yelled, "Im not signing this, its says you can sue me !" I told him to pack my bags then b/c I couldnt stay. Now of course he was joking and he did sign, but the agreement you signed with the government is real. No jokes. If your spouse goes on any government assistance, requires any help, YOU are on the hook and could be for 10 years. No offense but the way your husband has started his life here, I would hate to see this for you.
This just doesnt sound like your average argument to me, and the timing is really messed up and conveneant. Please take care of yourself first and foremost. If nothing else, this man has made his decision, now its time to protect yourself.

Finally being with your loved one = priceless

Honestly everyone here responding to the OP can only speculate, the OP is the only one who knows this man, and knows what she is feeling in her heart. If you ( the OP ) believes, with everything you are, that he scammed you, that he used you, that you believe this in your gut wholeheartedly then you have an obligation to report him to ICE and make all attempts to cancel the petition. If you think it was just a marriage gone wrong, even though you dont know why, then dont be spiteful about it, just let him go and live his life.
I believe women have amazing intuition, that even if we dont want to believe it, we already know the truth. You have to follow your heart on this.
Having said the PC stuff, IMHO he was looking for a way out. To have a little fight and just end everything is very suspicious. People fight, and leave for some air and cool down time. But to just end it and leave, doesnt feel right to me. It sounds more like he picked a fight to get the end result he was looking for. Im really sorry for this, going through the process to end up where you are is so unfair. I wish you the best in your decision.

Looking at your time line, hes been here almost 3 months. It was a bit like that for me too. I left behind a house, a 50K a year job that I had had for almost 20 years, family, I gave everything up. I came to the USA for him, and found as the summer rolled around he was working a lot. Here I was, with no one really to talk to, no job, in a house I still wasnt really comfortable in, bored out of my mind and feeling like I couldnt contribute. It was pretty much the complete opposite of my life back home.
The first month, oh it was bliss, I hadnt seen him in so long, now here he was and it was amazing. After the first couple months, we hit a few bumps just trying to figure out how to live together - you know, his socks on the floor, my tampons in his medicine cabinet - silly things, but still not what one is used to. After the bliss its reality, and its harder on the person coming in, because they are changing everything all at once, it can be overwhelming. For me, alot of it was that I couldnt contribute finacialy, I hated that, I felt like I put so much pressure on him ( I had money, but I wasnt earning ).
Is he miserable, probably, is it you, probably not. Its culture shock, its missing family, its feeling useless, its to much. But it does get better. Dont give up on him after a couple of months, give him time.
One thing my husband did for me, was take me out all the time. Because we were long distance, we spend our days at home so we could be on the internet so we could be together. Niether of us ever went out, so when I got here, he took me out all the time. And that was nice, a real change for my life style of the past 3 years with him. All I can really say is just give him time to adjust, do things he loves to do, get out of the house alot, visit family ... keep busy.
For me, after that first few great months, it was probably 2 more months before we really settled. We had to learn how to live together, and that can be hard. Now, our marriage is strong and Im glad I did what I did. ( move here )
I still have a problem with the health care, so much insurance needed here and there, and such low wages, but Ill adapt eventually.

IMHO this is poor advice from a new member. I dont see fraud here, she was married to him for almost 4 years, the marriage didnt work out. I have been married over a year now, I love my husband with everything I am, does that mean that if in 3 years I dont love him ( for whatever reason ) that he should be allowed to use the threat of immigration at my every turn ?
The OP is obviously hurt, as anyone would be when the partner they love and adore tells them that they dont feel the same way anymore, that does not however give him the right to manipulate her through threats of deportation.

IMHO this is poor advice from a new member. I dont see fraud here, she was married to him for almost 4 years, the marriage didnt work out. I have been married over a year now, I love my husband with everything I am, does that mean that if in 3 years I dont love him ( for whatever reason ) that he should be allowed to use the threat of immigration at my every turn ?
The OP is obviously hurt, as anyone would be when the partner they love and adore tells them that they dont feel the same way anymore, that does not however give him the right to manipulate her through threats of deportation.

When I read your post, and i saw the marriage was four years, that didnt give me the impression of a fraudulent marriage. It just sounds like a marriage gone bad and that you are looking for an excuse to make the reason behind it make you feel better about the situation. Just let her go and move on. If this goes to a divorce court it may not look very good on your behalf to the judge if you try to have her deported on fraudulent charges and they are found to be untrue.