Miss smarty pants

Abuse does not equal fraud. If she's being so abused then she should leave and quit trying to set him up for fraud. Failing to determine compatibility prior to the wedding vows also does not equal fraud. And I have to say~ since you say it's weird to you~ it sounds to me like you don't totally believe her either. If you ask me.... the story doesn't all add up.

Lizz~ there is a pinned thread about this at the top of the MENA forum. It is common in Mena countries for petitions to be returned due to large age gaps....like over 7 years or so. This is a 'soft' denial....basically just a refusal of the consulate to issue the visa. It can sometimes take a long time...several months..to get back to USCIS for review. Then they generally take about another 120 days from the time that they receive it back. Fortunately for you, since it is a I130...it will eventually be reviewed. I reccommend saving every bit of proof you can gather of relationship until that review comes. You will need it if they send you a request for more evidence or a Notice of Intent to Deny (NOID). Sorry you are going through this now, but you may be in for a long wait.
How large is the age gap?

Since you have been married less than 2 years, your greencard is going to be a conditional one~ a two year card. When the time comes to lift the conditions is in two years if you are still married OR when the divorce is final, whichever comes first. You are here. He can not make you leave. But.....either way, in order to lift the conditions you will need proof that you entered the marriage in good faith.
It sounds like what he is doing is not right, and I feel sorry for you for your heartache. But, since you have only been here three days and are not really established here, if you truly came here for him and not for other reasons, now that he has established that he doesn't want you, it doesn't seem like it would be a bad idea to go back home and try to resume what you can of your life without him.

Since you have been married less than 2 years, your greencard is going to be a conditional one~ a two year card. When the time comes to lift the conditions is in two years if you are still married OR when the divorce is final, whichever comes first. You are here. He can not make you leave. But.....either way, in order to lift the conditions you will need proof that you entered the marriage in good faith.
It sounds like what he is doing is not right, and I feel sorry for you for your heartache. But, since you have only been here three days and are not really established here, if you truly came here for him and not for other reasons, now that he has established that he doesn't want you, it doesn't seem like it would be a bad idea to go back home and try to resume what you can of your life without him.

We do not have free medical care in America.
You can not speed up the process.

We do not have free medical care in America.
You can not speed up the process.

Since you have been married less than 2 years, your greencard is going to be a conditional one~ a two year card. When the time comes to lift the conditions is in two years if you are still married OR when the divorce is final, whichever comes first. You are here. He can not make you leave. But.....either way, in order to lift the conditions you will need proof that you entered the marriage in good faith.
It sounds like what he is doing is not right, and I feel sorry for you for your heartache. But, since you have only been here three days and are not really established here, if you truly came here for him and not for other reasons, now that he has established that he doesn't want you, it doesn't seem like it would be a bad idea to go back home and try to resume what you can of your life without him.

Since you have been married less than 2 years, your greencard is going to be a conditional one~ a two year card. When the time comes to lift the conditions is in two years if you are still married OR when the divorce is final, whichever comes first. You are here. He can not make you leave. But.....either way, in order to lift the conditions you will need proof that you entered the marriage in good faith.
It sounds like what he is doing is not right, and I feel sorry for you for your heartache. But, since you have only been here three days and are not really established here, if you truly came here for him and not for other reasons, now that he has established that he doesn't want you, it doesn't seem like it would be a bad idea to go back home and try to resume what you can of your life without him.

Hmm. Sounds like he may be trying to set you up for a Vawa case. I would never be alone with him again. Move away if you can. Change your number and file a divorce. Sorry for you. Thats tough.

You speak of the innocent Moroccan family....yet I have seen time and time again here cases where the Moroccan was not so inncocent.
You come here to an American visa website and tell those of us here in various phases of the process how you believe our marriages should or should not be based.....and write to us in an aggressive tone as if we are sharks out to devastate some poor Moroccan. There are those of us that truly do love our foreign spouses. I would like to say most of us, anyway. The process is too hard not to do it for love. And as for the Moroccans not knowing about the visa process.....please. They know.
So lemme ask you something......you say the process has to be overhauled for couples with sincere intentions. What is your solution? How could you do it better than them? And what would you say to those of us sincere couples who have maintained an international relationship for years because of a denial? And one more thing....did it ever occur to you that EVERYONE may not be able to move to Morocco to be with their spouse or that some people may have obligations in America that prevent them from moving and that the Moroccan moving to America may be, for some, the only way to maintain a relationship on the same continent? The divorce rate among Americans without visa issues is about 50% for first marriages. Throw in some intercontinental issues, cultural differences, financial difficulties and soon your reasons for Moroccan-American marriage failure outweigh anything any visa could fix. I would never assume every marriage that fails after a visa denial was simply BECAUSE of the visa denial. I would also never assume that anyone's failed marriage would be simply because the big bad American 'abandoned' their foreign spouse. And I would not assume that any marriage ending would be easy on either party.
But all that is just my opinion........ I like to hear cases individually before I run out screaming or rush to judgement. Well, usually I do.

I'm happy for you both. It really is great to see these stories.

Officer Covington,
Five years ago today, my Moroccan fiancé and I arrived in PHL. He was coming here on his K1 visa. You took him into the room to interview him, and then you wanted to talk to me. You were extremely rude. You told me to send him back to Morocco instead of marrying him. You told me I wouldn’t be in any trouble if I did. You said at the very least, I should put off the marriage as long as possible to give myself time to change my mind. You said Moroccan men are notorious for marrying “women like us” – older, unattractive, overweight, but who had a little money. You told me he’d beat me up, take my money, and leave me within 2 years, and you’d be surprised if he didn’t.
Well, guess what. He’s still here. Because of the economic environment in this country, we (like many others) are barely scraping by, even though we’re both working. I’m a few years older, and a few pounds heavier than I was in 2006. I’m not unattractive, though – I don’t know anyone who would look beautiful after sitting in an airport for 2 days, then flying for many hours. He has his citizenship. He’s never hit me. He didn’t take money. And again, he’s still here.
You were SO wrong, and I want you to know that.
So, can you explain yourself? Can you explain why he’s still with me? All of the reasons you assumed he was with me are gone – the money, waiting for the green card, waiting for citizenship, etc. He has absolutely no financial or immigration related reason to stay with me now. As a matter of fact, he’d probably be better off financially if he did leave. His income alone would support him better than our combined incomes support the two of us and my children from my previous marriage.
OH MY! Could it be that he’s a decent person, and actually LOVES me? Could it be that he really DID come here just to be with me? Imagine that!
You said something about stopping by to tell you you were wrong if he didn’t leave, but I really have better things to do than drive to the airport to try to find you. Maybe this message will get to you some other way.
And I hope you find peace in your life, because apparently you don’t have any. Or at least you didn’t on December 23, 2006.
Happy Holidays.
venusfire
P.S. I’m SO glad I ignored your ‘advice’.

Once a family were rowing a canoo across the wide river. They lost one oar, that's ok there was a spare.
Then they lost another oar, oops, ok they found an alternative, a book.
Oh dear, they lost the book. Hands would do it and were harder to loose.
Oh NO the last oar. All hands over the side.
It took a long time to get over the river, and they argued and blamed each other for the foolishness that lost the oars...all the way!
15 years later the family are gathered round table on Christmas day, rolling with laughter and hugging each other in love and joy, as they recall the fateful river crossing.
Sometimes the biggest trials and hardest battles become our greatest bonds in love. That's the joy of a family.
Praying you will find peace for your heart and wisdom for your journey.

well, here's yer loophole.
You've filed for AOS, but it's not been granted yet.
A piece of that was the I-864, the affadavit of support.
If you withdraw the affadavit of support before her case is adjudicated, then she can't adjust status. She'll be in country, without any legal immigration status. You withdraw via postal letter to both the 1.. local USCIS office in yer jurisdiction 2..national USCIS office. It's a simple thing, really, this one page letter.
Along the way, divorce her .. Give her a one way ticket back the day after the divorce is finalized, and call it a day.
Now, I'm prolly gonna get lost in some VJ noise, so come back to my post in a few days, and reread it.

She is actually in Morocco now. I'm assuming staying with him and his family. And I believe it's the first time meeting. So I would recommend to the original poster that you continue to think about things, have a nice vacation & investigate things more fully when you get back. Perhaps investigating and debating the truth of what he is saying isn't the safest thing do alone in Morocco. But do go to the cafes, ask to see where he talks to you from. How did he meet his previous fiancé, the much older woman? Was it similar to the way he met you? Online?
Take in the info quietly and get home safely and then make final decisions when you're back home.

Ok. Since you asked what we thoughtof the situation...... I think you are being lied to. I find it very hard to believe that he could have not known or that he didnt understand. He would have had to grow up under a rock there to not know. I think you will have a very hard time with an approval with those circumstances. But even more, you need to take a second look at your relationship for your own benefit. This is the first time I have ever said this to another vj member and I wish I thought I might be wrong. But im seeing blazing red flags and alarm bells are blaring. Im sorry.

Ok. Since you asked what we thoughtof the situation...... I think you are being lied to. I find it very hard to believe that he could have not known or that he didnt understand. He would have had to grow up under a rock there to not know. I think you will have a very hard time with an approval with those circumstances. But even more, you need to take a second look at your relationship for your own benefit. This is the first time I have ever said this to another vj member and I wish I thought I might be wrong. But im seeing blazing red flags and alarm bells are blaring. Im sorry.

I think most people would say the denial becomes the basis for the date and location of the marriage, not the basis of the marriage itself.

You speak of the innocent Moroccan family....yet I have seen time and time again here cases where the Moroccan was not so inncocent.
You come here to an American visa website and tell those of us here in various phases of the process how you believe our marriages should or should not be based.....and write to us in an aggressive tone as if we are sharks out to devastate some poor Moroccan. There are those of us that truly do love our foreign spouses. I would like to say most of us, anyway. The process is too hard not to do it for love. And as for the Moroccans not knowing about the visa process.....please. They know.
So lemme ask you something......you say the process has to be overhauled for couples with sincere intentions. What is your solution? How could you do it better than them? And what would you say to those of us sincere couples who have maintained an international relationship for years because of a denial? And one more thing....did it ever occur to you that EVERYONE may not be able to move to Morocco to be with their spouse or that some people may have obligations in America that prevent them from moving and that the Moroccan moving to America may be, for some, the only way to maintain a relationship on the same continent? The divorce rate among Americans without visa issues is about 50% for first marriages. Throw in some intercontinental issues, cultural differences, financial difficulties and soon your reasons for Moroccan-American marriage failure outweigh anything any visa could fix. I would never assume every marriage that fails after a visa denial was simply BECAUSE of the visa denial. I would also never assume that anyone's failed marriage would be simply because the big bad American 'abandoned' their foreign spouse. And I would not assume that any marriage ending would be easy on either party.
But all that is just my opinion........ I like to hear cases individually before I run out screaming or rush to judgement. Well, usually I do.

Dont pay for anything for the wedding. I lost a lot of money when my k1 was denied.

Nope....not easy at all. Not easy at all.

Dont pay for anything for the wedding. I lost a lot of money when my k1 was denied.

Did you really just say a K1 in Morocco is an "easy visa"???

You speak of the innocent Moroccan family....yet I have seen time and time again here cases where the Moroccan was not so inncocent.
You come here to an American visa website and tell those of us here in various phases of the process how you believe our marriages should or should not be based.....and write to us in an aggressive tone as if we are sharks out to devastate some poor Moroccan. There are those of us that truly do love our foreign spouses. I would like to say most of us, anyway. The process is too hard not to do it for love. And as for the Moroccans not knowing about the visa process.....please. They know.
So lemme ask you something......you say the process has to be overhauled for couples with sincere intentions. What is your solution? How could you do it better than them? And what would you say to those of us sincere couples who have maintained an international relationship for years because of a denial? And one more thing....did it ever occur to you that EVERYONE may not be able to move to Morocco to be with their spouse or that some people may have obligations in America that prevent them from moving and that the Moroccan moving to America may be, for some, the only way to maintain a relationship on the same continent? The divorce rate among Americans without visa issues is about 50% for first marriages. Throw in some intercontinental issues, cultural differences, financial difficulties and soon your reasons for Moroccan-American marriage failure outweigh anything any visa could fix. I would never assume every marriage that fails after a visa denial was simply BECAUSE of the visa denial. I would also never assume that anyone's failed marriage would be simply because the big bad American 'abandoned' their foreign spouse. And I would not assume that any marriage ending would be easy on either party.
But all that is just my opinion........ I like to hear cases individually before I run out screaming or rush to judgement. Well, usually I do.