Ahmed&Rachel

We had our interview today at 10:45 am. We got our name called at around 11 am. We went straight back to an office where we were asked by the lady officer to raise our right hands and swear in that the answers we give will be the absolute truth. Then she asked us to present identification. I showed her my drivers licenses and he showed her his passport and state ID. I was amazed at how fat our file was sitting on her desk. Everything was there and probably things we had no idea about what was in it.
The first question she asked is what took us so long since we've been nearly married for 4 years.
I wasn't expecting that question and I started to feel shy and nervous because dh had told me right before the interview to let him do most of the talking and not to correct him.
We explained that he was taken into the military for his mandatory duty and I had to finish college.
She asked me if I finished college and I told her yes.
She asked me what my degree was and I gave her the mouthful, Radio/TV/Digital Media Production.
Then she proceeded to ask my Husband the list of questions on the AOS form.
His full name,
His date of birth.
Where he was born.
His father and mother's first name.
His wife's full name.
His wife's date of birth.
The date of our marriage.
Had he ever been arrested for or committed illegal acts.
Was he involved in any terrorist organizations.
Was he apart of the medical syndicate.
Then she spoke to herself that he served in the Egyptian Military and wrote something down.
Then she asked, Is this your signature. (I smiled to myself about that because when he got here and were filling out all this paperwork and he had to sign things he would tell me he never really had a signature before and I would tell him he needs to come up with his own signature and stick with it.)
As she was asking all these questions she was marking off areas in red after his answers.
Then she asked how did we communicate during his time in the military.
I pulled out a book of hand written letters he sent me from Egypt and explained that on his breaks we also spoke through email and webcam chats and phone calls.
She didn't flip through the binder of letters but she did watch as I flipped through the letters for her.
Then she asked if we had a wedding in Egypt.
We said yes.
She asked to see pictures and we showed her binders and binders of studio pictures and pictures at the Mosque with his family and wedding cards, and pictures of our first trip there and the second trip when we lived together for the summer in Egypt.
She asked if my family went to the wedding.
I told her no because of expense but they did some preparations with me before to go like the bachelorette party in Las Vegas and wedding dress shopping.
She asked to see joint evidence and I showed her my photobook I made online with shutterfly.com. She said it must have taken some time to put this together. I smiled and said yes and it's of his time here in the US these past months and the events we've been together with friends and family. She looked through it. I'm glad she did because I really love that book and it's a special time of our first few months together here.
Then I gave her a copy of four months of bank statements for our joint bank account, and two copies of our Verizon Family Plan bills. Then I also gave her 5 supporting letter from our friends and family. She was most interested in my Mom's letter since she's our co-sponsor and explains in the letter we live with her and about our family plan bill. She didn't read through all the letters though. I also gave her a copy of our Paypal account together and letter addressed to both of us for events. I kicked myself in the pants because I remembered that I had forgot to print out his and I's signature on my Master Promissory Note for my Student Loans from 2007 when he was in Egypt and we'd gotten married and the school wanted his name on it as well. That would have also shown our co-mingling of finances.
She said ok I have what I need. She took his passport and took his I-94 and put a red line through his K3 visa. Then she gave back our ID's, our Paypal account info, our cards addressed to both of us and she didn't ask to keep any pictures. I said I hope that we didn't overwhelem her with evidence and asked if she wanted to keep the joint evidence she gave back like the paypal account and the cards or if she wanted copies of any pictures. She said no.
Then she said she will make her decision and we will be mailed a letter in a couple of weeks. She didn't come right out and say we were approved so then I felt nervous with the "not really knowing for certain" factor, but hopeful since she'd seen a lot of our evidence and took his I-94 and crossed out his K3 visa in red that it's a potential approval she just has to take time to read through the 5 letters of support and review everything.

I read the saga... but I am sorry there is nothing wrong in being US citizen. You were naive and you did not understand the law right.
Officer at the entry did his job and he was 100% right in denying entry to your husband after honeymoon. When he first got his tourist visa, he did state he was going for non-immigrant purpose.
After marriage that status had changed and so did his intention so his B1/B2 is not valid anymore.
You driving to Vermont and just handing the form to someone and they would stamp it right away - comon that does not work that way.
From begining of the story, you I can tell someone coming to US on B1/B2 as tourist and falls madly in love and is getting married to US citizen, most likely he/she is only doing that to live in US - comon.
Sorry I am rude, but m honest and frank.

It's 65 degrees here and chilly outside for August. Wonder if this is just a hiccup or if fall is coming early.
I made koshari for the first time last night. Hubby told me it was delicious but that it tasted like the American version of koshari. I even used the spices he brought from Egypt but alas. I also made this "5 minute cucumber salad" I got off the internet but it took more like 20 minutes to make. I also did a hummus with pita bread and celery sticks to dip in it. Last I got out the red grapes.
I asked him now does this feel like a meal or do you still feel like we're faking a meal and you're an orphan here? He explained to me that when the female of the house cooks it's like a mother breast feeding her child and showing her care for the family and creating that family bond. I told him I was sorry but I can't relate to his theory. That all I see are the male and female archetypes being placed on people. He asked doesn't it feel good when you're study and someone brings you a cup of tea showing they are caring for you? I explained to him that with the way I was raised as a child I did all the cooking and cleaning and was the little Cinderella slave so sometimes I am resentful and angry in this position again and that I was sorry that I didn't feel the same way he felt about it. Then he said something kind of profound to me because it sticks with me. He said that's because when you're a child it's not your turn to give, it's your turn to take and be cared for. I got kind of sad there because my whole life from early childhood has been me giving and I'm spent. I'm completely drained and exhausted doing for others, but life doesn't stop and give us breaks, it keeps marching on and now here I am giving and caring for a husband and cleaning for a household of four adults and still dealing with the resentment and anger of the past. At least his love is reciprocal.
I REALLY need a vacation. Like some time alone in nature to rejuvenate my spirit.

Buy whatever is cheaper. However, if you buy a round trip ticket be SURE to cancel the return ticket after arriving in the US. There have been a couple of VJ members lately who were denied AOS because the immigration officer thought they'd used their return ticket to leave the US.

I haven't posted in a while...but this thread really caught my attention...
I have to say that I'm quite ashamed we are in the 21st century and some people are so opinionated that they want to impose their own views on others even though it's unrelated to the subject of discussion!
Meghan started the thread to ask for advice from people who have been through a SIMILAR experience (with fasting Ramadan). She did not ask to know how a Christian family would act to their daughter marrying a Muslim man, nor she asked to hear a story about 'the ground-zero mosque'. Nobody is fit to speak for a whole religious group, sect, race, nationality, etc. Every individual should speak for him/herself and out of personal experience. Also, the collected articles and stories that are irrelevant to what the OP has asked shows deep shallowness and a need to take their whole depression out of an unsuccessful experience on a whole culture or a religion which is not right.
Meghan, I have no advice for you more than, stand up for yourself and your personal choice. Your family is an important part of your life there's no doubt, but they will not live YOUR life for YOU. There's a difference between respecting your family's feelings and letting them interfere with your choices in life. It is their right that they should know what you have decided, and it is your job to convince them you have made the right decision and that you are happy.
Good luck and I hope your family comes around and becomes more accepting of your choice!

Tamara, Ive always known your views are shallow but this really surprised me. YOU SHOULD KNOW that by converting Adam to Christianity he had to abandon his family, culture, his friggin identity for god's sake. This girl asked for advice, not for the diluted views of born again Christians.
moving on....
You really need to just take everyones advice and come out. If you converted you need to tell everyone you did. There wont be a right time. I didnt convert nor do I practice organized religion but I still have shallow a$$ people always asking me "did you stop eating pork because your husband made you?" or "did you convert?" etc etc. The questionning wont ever end and if you just open and honest with everyone, the awkwardness will pass and you will be much happier.
Ive been married 5+ years now and my family adapted well, they wont even serve pork at family functions. It takes time, but it does happen.

That's the most important point .'' Love'' if you guys love each other so much it means that you are going to make it .We all know that life is not always happy or as we say in Egypt life is not always rose LOL .You will have your bad and good time thats for sure .
But as much as you guys love each other you will survive .
And i notice that we are just talking here about how the '' Woman '' make her husband happy and how to help him to adjust to his new life .We always have to talk about how the man be a good husband to his wife .
Here are some tips about how to be a successful husband
1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

you obviously don't know tamara. anyone with long time history here knows what she's all about, and it is indeed very ugly. meghan may be a new poster, but she caught right on to what tamara's all about straight away.
having a christian family, that doesn't behave like ignorant, hick, bigots, i'm really offended to hear this ####### touted as a "christian family's point of view". no christian in my family would dream of behaving that way, nor would they ever believe something like "coming from a christian family its unacceptable to be married to a muslim" or "Its no surprise that your mom would react this way if she thinks you have converted or thinking to convert."
they would be so offended to hear that that kind of behavior is to be expected because they're christian.

Anybody have a similar story?
My fiance and I have been together for three years now. I was born into a Christian family, but made the decision to practice Islam. Three Ramadans ago, not yet a Muslima, I decided to do Ramadan as much as I could. My family would be mortified if I had told them, but I did mention my fasting to a cousin, and it later got back to my family that I was fasting and it was a scandal, but no one talked about it openly- just behind my back. Last year I was fortunate enough to be living in Granada where my fiance lives and was able to do Ramadan freely. Now I am back in the states awaiting my fiance and practicing Ramadan in my own home. My fiance thinks it is best we do no discuss my practicing Ramadan with my family because of how upset they would get and cause alot of problems for me. However, my mother has been picking at me since the first day of Ramadan to get me to eat, admit I am doing Ramadan, or just bring up the subject of Christianity with me. First of all, she called me up the first day of Ramadan to have dinner (scallops- my favorite) with them at six- I told her I'd be busy till later and might stop by. Then she started asking me what I ate for lunch in the cafeteria at the school where I work and went on about how they ought to have crawfish etoufee, shrimp scampi, baked chicken or whatever at the school. I finally told her I couldnt talk since she refused to change the subject. She called me back ten minutes later saying she was going to stop by my house to bring me some homegrown vegetables and some pastries, and she wanted me to make a pot of coffee. Told her I was going to be out running errands and hung up. She called me a couple of minutes later to say they would have dinner early and that I could run my errands later. Told her sorry, cant.
She knows exactly what she's doing and knows I'm fasting but wants to tempt me. So I never went over to their house and I broke fast at the appropriate time at home. I ignored her call the next day, but called her back Sat. morning. She said she wanted to go to this new store that just opened and did I want to go with her. I told her sure, but we'd leave at 9 cause I had to be back for 11 ( I did not want to get stuck with her at lunch). She shows up at my house at 1030, of course, we both silently know this is on purpose. Anyway we go to the new store, then to the bank. I needed to stop by target to get something, but on the way (she's driving, my mistake, I shouldve driven) she says we ought to go to my favorite cafe and get my favorite salad there. I told her I didnt have time and needed to be back soon cause I had to be at work at 1. So what does she do? Orders it to go. I tell her really, Im not hungry and I'll eat later.
So shes being very obnoxious about it all and waves the food in my face when she gets back in the car. I'm trying not to make too big of a deal but shes really overdoing it. We get back to my place. She starts dishing everything up, I tell her not to get me a plate cause I still have to get ready for work, etc. and I'll eat later. She refuses and almost physically forces me to eat with her. I tell her to stop being childish and pushy and that I'm leaving for work, shell have to eat alone. She says "NO Come back and tell me why you're not eating. Jesus would want you to eat. Come back." I ask her if she knows how to lock up after herself and I leave the house for work.
I call my fiance on the way and tell him the ordeal. He tells me I did right in not eating and that I have to be a little harsh with her so she'll stop. She is seriously pushy!
He tells me I ought to be nice to her next time, but let her know I'm not going to put up with any foolishness. So later when she calls I hesitate to answer, but pick up. She wants to know at 5:30 if I want to eat crabs. I tell her maybe, that I'm taking a nap and I'll let her know later. She asks me if I'm taking a nap because I'm hungry, I tell her I'm taking a nap because I'm tired. She asks me if I will go with her to church tomorrow, I say maybe. She says " that sounds like no to both" and I tell her I'm tired and I'm going back to nap.
I never went to her house or anything so here I am. The big pink elephant in the room. They know, I know, but no one wants to say the R word and I know if someone says it, they will launch a Christian "jihad" on me and will make a huge deal for months about it just like they did when I got engaged "to a Muslim".
I'm pretty much disgusted with their behavior and wish my family would stop the pushiness and the evangelizing. You cant force anyone to do anything even if they are your child.
They same thing happened when I stopped eating pork and drinking alcohol several years ago and they still try to get me to eat/ drink it.
Anyone have any similar stories?

Hmmm (pumkin loves bear) ...sounds to me like (A loves A) for some reason. Coincidence i guess? anyway moving on...
As has been stated by Aya previously, when you are married to someone else you are not just husband and wife..you are the best friends in the whole world. If your husband is truly Muslim he wouldn't be talking to the other sex anyway and would keep himself to his wife as he MUST be doing. And EVEN if we disregard religion completely (for fear of this turning into a religious debate), Why would he want other (female) friends when he already has his wife? isn't she enough for him? isn't his wife capable of providing him what a man wants from a woman either emotionally or physically? Where's the notion or commitment then? Why would the word ( i love you ) mean anything anymore when he already has a lot of women to flirt with? and How in the world can this husband be called a Husband when he doesn't even give a ####### about what his wife feels or need?
As for the fact that we didn't hear either side of the story i think Aya's Amazing reply has been enough proof to you that people here knew Sandra from the start and that she would never do something like that after she gave a lot to make this one sided relationship work. He DID NOT deserve her. period.
One final thing... Egyptian men are better huh? well news flash for you... i am an Egyptian man... and i stand her and tell you that although you can say there are some good Egyptian men that can be better than others for their religious commitment that starts from a very young age or the way they were bred... those are not as common anymore...there is a general decay of morals nowadays for reasons that needs hundreds of pages to cite or even mention. No respect for women as human beings or at the very least, they lack emotions after marriage when they run out of their cheap love talk and realize they just want a wife that would shut up and clean, cook, wipe their asses, take care of kids, study for them, get the lunch ready the second he rings the door bell, massage him when he's tired, go to work so she can help with the expenses, manage after all this ####### to look beautiful enough for him so that she can attract him and keep his gaze off women in tight pants in the street, while he sits without even showering before he wants to be close to her and growing a huge belly exponentially (citing women don't care about looks like men do). Unfortunately and for all the wrong reasons the reason why a lot of relationships between Egyptian men and American women end up in ruins and that Egypt is a high fraud country is that the above sort of men are the ones usually attracted to the idea of marrying a foreign woman and start a new life outside their country. I AM NOT by any means accusing all Egyptian men who marry American women of this... we have a lot of successful relationships here and genuine ones at that. But the failure rates are higher than the success rates or else we wouldn't be labeled as a high fraud country. the reason why is that the idea of getting a visa out of here usually attracts the bad type of Egyptian men that i talked about. Good ones are always there... but bad ones are swarming everywhere.

Thank you for your kind words guys. It is sad that it has become something out of the ordinary to be said and done. People sometimes forget the simplest of things that really CAN make a difference...all the difference in the world actually. The very basic idea of love itself is usually forgotten after a while until marriage either turns into a routine that you practice out of habit only or a selfish desire of possession and control. IF only people would remember this very simple idea: If you truly love someone, your greatest joy in life is to paint a smile on her/his face. What we need to realize is that we have been fused together in the strongest bond in the world. Can you burn your arm? Can you stick a knife in your own heart? Can you pluck the flesh off your bones? Of course not! because these are all part of your body!. Well... your partner is now literally the other half of your soul. Start treating him/her likewise...

As a matter of fact (a loves a) you need to understand some important points here. First, i do believe Sandra and i don't need to really hear about his side of the story to read the obvious signs of FAIL written all over this cheater. Second, being a husband not only means that you agreed to provide and protect this woman that chose to love and trust you with her life, but also to cater to her needs and respect her feelings. This is the barest minimum of your duties as a husband. Yes i said duties and not charity you give to your wife when you feel like it. What this man did is simply stabbing her in the back and abusing her repeatedly if i understood well. As for...
well if you have the right to tell your wife not to have affairs with other men i think she has full right to tell you to stop talking to other women as well, and you should be doing that on your own anyway. As a husband one should at least keep his wife informed of any woman he contacts regularly, notably work colleagues since you are not supposed to be having affairs with other women anyway for no reason. That makes them feel involved and gives them more reasons to trust you, and avoid jealousy to boot!.
Basically, all you need to do is simply sit down and ask yourself: "How would i feel if my wife ......?". Put yourself in her position and try to feel what she would go through. If you TRULY are in love, you will do so effortlessly.

I don't think i can add anything to what have been said before. All i can do it congratulate you on your strength. I am an Egyptian man and i do know these types, and assure you that you just escaped a long journey of torment, deceit and misery. As for his cheating i will simply link a reply i gave in a similar thread about another cheating husband.
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/266165-regretting-that-i-am-a-us-citizen/page__view__findpost__p__4077966
May god be with you and stay strong.

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I am truly lost as to what I should say. There are a lot of mixed and raging feelings going through right now that I can hardly even focus enough to put words together, but I will try. I think saying (I am disgusted, revolted, repulsed, sickened and nauseated…etc) would never suffice. This is one of the moments that make me feel ashamed of being Egyptian. Never be ashamed of who you are because you are the innocent. He is the guilty.
It is this piece of filth and the likes of his kind are the reason why genuine relationships are being scrutinized and put under the radar for so long and causing pain to every loving couple who end up in AP or get treated like thieves just for loving each other from two separate places across the globe. I cannot and do not even want to begin to understand how a man can cast away what defines him as a human and emotionally violates a vulnerable woman, using the most wonderful gift in the world as a weapon at his disposal. Turning love into a living nightmare to chain the unsuspected victim just so he can escape bad economic conditions or just belong to a first world country for a change.
How many times it tore my heart to see warnings of Egyptian men fraud on a lot of embassies newsletters (and specifically Egyptian males) because of men like this. I hope they do burn in hell for their deceptions and the damage they have done to their partners and other Egyptians in general.
I am truly sorry for you that you had to go through this. I know that my words are cheap but I hope you would find support in them, or at least know that someone out there knows your pain. I think we have a lot of members who had the same experience and I am sure they can help you through these difficult times.
Please do not drown yourself into depression for someone who doesn’t even deserve a single tear. You have don’t nothing wrong. You loved unconditionally and sacrificed everything for your love’s sake. It just turned out that this love wasn’t true on his side. It is true that you might have done a mistake of not seeing the signs earlier and noticing his desperate attempts to just get a visa, but who am I to judge? We all know how love can blind us and it happened to me personally several times before. I hope other women would read about your experience and open their eyes more and protect themselves against the likes of this jerk. DO NOT let it break and lose confidence in yourself and lose the ability to love again. Wounds do take time to heal. Let it heal and in time we will all pray for you that you will find the true love that a person like you really deserve.

I am truly lost as to what I should say. There are a lot of mixed and raging feelings going through right now that I can hardly even focus enough to put words together, but I will try. I think saying (I am disgusted, revolted, repulsed, sickened and nauseated…etc) would never suffice. This is one of the moments that make me feel ashamed of being Egyptian. Never be ashamed of who you are because you are the innocent. He is the guilty.
It is this piece of filth and the likes of his kind are the reason why genuine relationships are being scrutinized and put under the radar for so long and causing pain to every loving couple who end up in AP or get treated like thieves just for loving each other from two separate places across the globe. I cannot and do not even want to begin to understand how a man can cast away what defines him as a human and emotionally violates a vulnerable woman, using the most wonderful gift in the world as a weapon at his disposal. Turning love into a living nightmare to chain the unsuspected victim just so he can escape bad economic conditions or just belong to a first world country for a change.
How many times it tore my heart to see warnings of Egyptian men fraud on a lot of embassies newsletters (and specifically Egyptian males) because of men like this. I hope they do burn in hell for their deceptions and the damage they have done to their partners and other Egyptians in general.
I am truly sorry for you that you had to go through this. I know that my words are cheap but I hope you would find support in them, or at least know that someone out there knows your pain. I think we have a lot of members who had the same experience and I am sure they can help you through these difficult times.
Please do not drown yourself into depression for someone who doesn’t even deserve a single tear. You have don’t nothing wrong. You loved unconditionally and sacrificed everything for your love’s sake. It just turned out that this love wasn’t true on his side. It is true that you might have done a mistake of not seeing the signs earlier and noticing his desperate attempts to just get a visa, but who am I to judge? We all know how love can blind us and it happened to me personally several times before. I hope other women would read about your experience and open their eyes more and protect themselves against the likes of this jerk. DO NOT let it break and lose confidence in yourself and lose the ability to love again. Wounds do take time to heal. Let it heal and in time we will all pray for you that you will find the true love that a person like you really deserve.

I am truly lost as to what I should say. There are a lot of mixed and raging feelings going through right now that I can hardly even focus enough to put words together, but I will try. I think saying (I am disgusted, revolted, repulsed, sickened and nauseated…etc) would never suffice. This is one of the moments that make me feel ashamed of being Egyptian. Never be ashamed of who you are because you are the innocent. He is the guilty.
It is this piece of filth and the likes of his kind are the reason why genuine relationships are being scrutinized and put under the radar for so long and causing pain to every loving couple who end up in AP or get treated like thieves just for loving each other from two separate places across the globe. I cannot and do not even want to begin to understand how a man can cast away what defines him as a human and emotionally violates a vulnerable woman, using the most wonderful gift in the world as a weapon at his disposal. Turning love into a living nightmare to chain the unsuspected victim just so he can escape bad economic conditions or just belong to a first world country for a change.
How many times it tore my heart to see warnings of Egyptian men fraud on a lot of embassies newsletters (and specifically Egyptian males) because of men like this. I hope they do burn in hell for their deceptions and the damage they have done to their partners and other Egyptians in general.
I am truly sorry for you that you had to go through this. I know that my words are cheap but I hope you would find support in them, or at least know that someone out there knows your pain. I think we have a lot of members who had the same experience and I am sure they can help you through these difficult times.
Please do not drown yourself into depression for someone who doesn’t even deserve a single tear. You have don’t nothing wrong. You loved unconditionally and sacrificed everything for your love’s sake. It just turned out that this love wasn’t true on his side. It is true that you might have done a mistake of not seeing the signs earlier and noticing his desperate attempts to just get a visa, but who am I to judge? We all know how love can blind us and it happened to me personally several times before. I hope other women would read about your experience and open their eyes more and protect themselves against the likes of this jerk. DO NOT let it break and lose confidence in yourself and lose the ability to love again. Wounds do take time to heal. Let it heal and in time we will all pray for you that you will find the true love that a person like you really deserve.

I am truly lost as to what I should say. There are a lot of mixed and raging feelings going through right now that I can hardly even focus enough to put words together, but I will try. I think saying (I am disgusted, revolted, repulsed, sickened and nauseated…etc) would never suffice. This is one of the moments that make me feel ashamed of being Egyptian. Never be ashamed of who you are because you are the innocent. He is the guilty.
It is this piece of filth and the likes of his kind are the reason why genuine relationships are being scrutinized and put under the radar for so long and causing pain to every loving couple who end up in AP or get treated like thieves just for loving each other from two separate places across the globe. I cannot and do not even want to begin to understand how a man can cast away what defines him as a human and emotionally violates a vulnerable woman, using the most wonderful gift in the world as a weapon at his disposal. Turning love into a living nightmare to chain the unsuspected victim just so he can escape bad economic conditions or just belong to a first world country for a change.
How many times it tore my heart to see warnings of Egyptian men fraud on a lot of embassies newsletters (and specifically Egyptian males) because of men like this. I hope they do burn in hell for their deceptions and the damage they have done to their partners and other Egyptians in general.
I am truly sorry for you that you had to go through this. I know that my words are cheap but I hope you would find support in them, or at least know that someone out there knows your pain. I think we have a lot of members who had the same experience and I am sure they can help you through these difficult times.
Please do not drown yourself into depression for someone who doesn’t even deserve a single tear. You have don’t nothing wrong. You loved unconditionally and sacrificed everything for your love’s sake. It just turned out that this love wasn’t true on his side. It is true that you might have done a mistake of not seeing the signs earlier and noticing his desperate attempts to just get a visa, but who am I to judge? We all know how love can blind us and it happened to me personally several times before. I hope other women would read about your experience and open their eyes more and protect themselves against the likes of this jerk. DO NOT let it break and lose confidence in yourself and lose the ability to love again. Wounds do take time to heal. Let it heal and in time we will all pray for you that you will find the true love that a person like you really deserve.