Jump to content

G0ds1ay3r

Members
  • Content Count

    162
  • Joined

  • Last visited


Reputation Activity

  1. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to catknit in Marraige Counseling and Advice   
    This is some great background expectations for the OP however I would take a lot of this with a large grain of salt...
    Relationships are a two-way street. Even though there can be some very embedded cultural expectations by one party or the other, it is neither fair or practical to take either person involved and have them adjust completely into the other's expectations.
    A simple example, the OP most likely has a job outside of the home and it appears they are taking the K1 route. It is not practical to think that her man will come over here and while waiting for his AOS not help out around the house. She will also be going through an adjustment period. Nevermind that short of him being able to provide financially and her being able to leave whatever job she has, he should be able to pick up a broom or wash a dish...having the OP on the hook for their financial needs, cooking, cleaning, kids, and taking care of him solely during AOS or until he can find a job is going to lead to resentment and burn out.
    This is where open communication is a complete and total must. A lot of this type of thing is a work-in-progress also. There won't be any easy answers from the get-go. What seems like ration thought [hey - I know - we'll do a chore list and then everything will be ok!] can blow up in your face. So, you dust yourselves off and start again. Marriage, in general, is not for the faint of heart or lazy. Mixing two cultures just makes it all the more challenging.
    I married a man whose cooking ability revolves around making tea and ramen noodles - things happened and now he can cook a handful of things. But, there was a time when I was working 15+ hour a day on nightshift and he got mouthy about not having lunch made for him. He was still awaiting AOS and not working. That didn't go down well with me given my cultural expectations [namely, he isn't mentally or physically disabled - therefore he can make a freaking sandwich!!!!]. My frustration was probably on par with his frustration; that it was lunch time and there was no food ready because at home his momma would have had his lunch ready for him. He now has the abilities to cook/reheat/feed himself and honestly, I think he likes it to some extent [more choice and making things for himself the way he likes it].
    Another communication talking point is whether or not he really gets he is marrying someone who is culturally American and what that means. There will be compromise [like making your own sandwich]. If he hasn't picked up a broom or has never done laundry - there needs to be some discussion about that. I used to call my husband when I was at the laundromat before his came over on his K1 so he could get a sense of the time involved. Again, your lives together, especially during AOS, shouldn't be about your SO looking at jobs online and making some phone calls while being waited on hand and foot [unless that is what YOU want to do and have agreed to doing].
  2. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to JohnR! in Which Parts of the Bible Are Negotiable?   
    As a work of fiction, all of its parts are negotiable. Many different flavors of religions edit it for content and format to suit their specific superstitious doctrines.
  3. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from jaycali in Best way to send in pics?   
    Personally I think that 40 photo's is a bit excessive; we sent in 6 photos and were still accepted. I think quality over quantity.
  4. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to AmericanExpat in Denied Tourist Visa to the US... What now??   
    The form says nothing about anything else going with it... I saw somewhere enclose by birth certificate, and copy of the marriage license... Anything else that anyone knows of?
    IF, for some unholy reason, I ever move back to the US, I am running for Congress. This system could have been designed smoother by Chimps.
  5. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to spookyturtle in Congratulations Mr President   
    It took you a while, but you've finally figured it out. Better late than never. Instead of paying for your food stamps, could I just send you some canned goods once in a while?
    Or you could move to Australia. The government feeds the poor filet mignon, caviar, the finest wine and cognac and everyone gets a free Lexus with free gas for life.
  6. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Mr. Big Dog in Will I need to update my sig by the close of tuesday?   
    You dirty Bigots disgust me; everybody deserves to be happy and if marriage makes people happy then I say let them marry.
    I've got some very nice friends who are married but because of people like YOU Danno they are forced to live in a country they do not like because they are gay; one is a US citizen the other is a New Zealander.
    The DOMA is an ridiculous law and will stuck down eventually as more and more people are waking up to the fact that there is no god and therefore the bible and everything in it is deemed IRRELEVANT!
  7. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Stuart and Katie in Will I need to update my sig by the close of tuesday?   
    You dirty Bigots disgust me; everybody deserves to be happy and if marriage makes people happy then I say let them marry.
    I've got some very nice friends who are married but because of people like YOU Danno they are forced to live in a country they do not like because they are gay; one is a US citizen the other is a New Zealander.
    The DOMA is an ridiculous law and will stuck down eventually as more and more people are waking up to the fact that there is no god and therefore the bible and everything in it is deemed IRRELEVANT!
  8. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to Brother Hesekiel in Sad Day For America   
    See . . . that's the problem: religion, superstitious belief that assigns events to the imaginary man in the imaginary heaven.
    Something good happens: bless God!
    Something bad happens: blame somebody else.
    It's the 21st century now.
    Projecting one's religious beliefs, such as that a woman should be subordinate to a man and earn less for the same work, or that a rape victim or a girl where a God-fearing daddy humped his little girl in the name of the Lord got her knocked up and the child being born is the will of the same God who allowed the incest to happen in the first place, or that a human being exists when a sperm meets an egg and thus birth control is the work of the devil trying to show the imaginary God in the imaginary heaven the imaginary, erected middle finger, or even that the Earth is 9,000 years old and humans and dinosaurs lived in harmony here a few years back, is not working in an industrialized nation anymore.
    Knowledge is the enemy of religion, and the more we learn and come to know, the more we realize that religion is B.S. from a time where it was used to control the simple minded people of earlier times. The end is in sight.
  9. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from JensJrny2Ray in Romney or Obama and why.. :)   
    4 MORE YEARS!!! YAHOO!!
    Honestly anybody that says that Obama is a socialist seriously needs to clean the ####### out of their head and stop watching faux news; Obama couldn't be further from being a socialist.
    I am from a socialist country so I know what socialism is like and it's not all bad; its actually pretty good.
    Anyways; to the repubs on Visa journey... hahahaha better luck next time.
  10. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from decocker in Will I need to update my sig by the close of tuesday?   
    You dirty Bigots disgust me; everybody deserves to be happy and if marriage makes people happy then I say let them marry.
    I've got some very nice friends who are married but because of people like YOU Danno they are forced to live in a country they do not like because they are gay; one is a US citizen the other is a New Zealander.
    The DOMA is an ridiculous law and will stuck down eventually as more and more people are waking up to the fact that there is no god and therefore the bible and everything in it is deemed IRRELEVANT!
  11. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Penny Lane in Will I need to update my sig by the close of tuesday?   
    You dirty Bigots disgust me; everybody deserves to be happy and if marriage makes people happy then I say let them marry.
    I've got some very nice friends who are married but because of people like YOU Danno they are forced to live in a country they do not like because they are gay; one is a US citizen the other is a New Zealander.
    The DOMA is an ridiculous law and will stuck down eventually as more and more people are waking up to the fact that there is no god and therefore the bible and everything in it is deemed IRRELEVANT!
  12. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from scotinmass in Will I need to update my sig by the close of tuesday?   
    You dirty Bigots disgust me; everybody deserves to be happy and if marriage makes people happy then I say let them marry.
    I've got some very nice friends who are married but because of people like YOU Danno they are forced to live in a country they do not like because they are gay; one is a US citizen the other is a New Zealander.
    The DOMA is an ridiculous law and will stuck down eventually as more and more people are waking up to the fact that there is no god and therefore the bible and everything in it is deemed IRRELEVANT!
  13. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to spookyturtle in Any money on Obama?.........Libs?   
  14. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to Rebecca Jo in Sad Day For America   
    Please take your God out of this country's politics.
  15. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from JohnR! in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  16. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Mr. Big Dog in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  17. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Penny Lane in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  18. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from elmcitymaven in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  19. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from CarlosAndSveta in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  20. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Kathryn41 in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  21. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    Isn't it funny how the rest of the world thinks Romney is a nut job? I mean take a look at Romney's track record and all the things the man has flip flopped on.
    If you stand back and look at this whole election from a nonpartisan view point it is easy to see that Obama will be and has been a much better president than Mitt Romney ever would/could.
    Sure Obama is no peach but hes also no lemon like Romney and he has helped America in the last 4 years turn the economy around. Maybe next election we will get a better choice of candidates but for now Obama is the man for the job.
  22. Like
    G0ds1ay3r reacted to GrayL in What do you do when reality doesn't look good for your team? Republicans just create their own alternate reality.   
    I hope Obama wins, I can't stand Mitt Romney!
  23. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from I AM NOT THAT GUY in Have you voted yet?   
    Voted Via email on Friday :-)
  24. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Rebecca Jo in Obama calls Romney a bullshitter, throws away the election   
    You've got a short memory then.
  25. Like
    G0ds1ay3r got a reaction from Harpa Timsah in Benghazi New troubling evidence   
    lmao FOX "News"
×
×
  • Create New...