Justine+David

This is INCORRECT. You need to enter the USA within 6 months of the K1 visa issuance. You need to marry within 90 days of entry into the USA. Please don't post stuff if you're not absolutely sure...other "anonymous" folks read this site too.

I second the advice of going over to visit him or fly him out to the USA as soon as you can.
You've spent a lot of money on this relationship already--doesn't it deserve the chance of seeing whether this is normal blues or the symptom of something larger?
When David came over and we got married at the court the next week, I had a momentary flip-flop, is this right for me? But like others have said, many people feel that way and feel nervous because yes, this IS a big step. Marriage (for us) meant forever. It's heady to be making that kind of decision and he's also dealing with the fact that he's leaving his country and way of life. Even though David is from the UK and speaks English, the adjustment is still felt for him even today...yesterday he told our landlord that we might be moving out in a few months and I said have you never heard of a poker face? lol, but he felt like he would always talk about it with his UK landlord and I said that's not what we do in America to corporate apartment headquarters. It's easier than when he arrived, but it's still hard sometimes for him because there are still things that he doesn't know or catch the nuances of a situation.
So, keep talking to him and i think you guys should be face to face. I see from your timeline that you got NOA2 in April. You're so close to being done! Does he have his interview and medical scheduled yet? The K1 visa is designed so that you intend to marry within 90 days of arrival. But he could enter the USA, decide he doesn't want to marry you, and leave without consequences (within the 90 days). It's not ideal, but it may be a solution for you.

I guess I'm a little confused. How was he able to find money to fly back home but not file to adjust status? Adjusting status should be his number one priority because of this exact situation. Unfortunately, he will have to start all over again with the immigration process.

To be fair, his case does not seem that sympathetic.

First of all, I don't appreciate you replying to MY OPINION in a condescending manner. That's one. Two. By sucking it up, I meant for her to keep US as her primary place of residence until she gets her citizenship. She can always go and stay with her husband for up to 6 months.
Whatever OP ultimately decides to do, will not be decided by anybody on this forum. She simply came to see her options. What I suggested, is an option.

The point of the visa is to marry so that one can apply to adjust status. Marriage is not the end goal and does not protect the beneficiary from overstay.
I would borrow money to file for AOS, because she could get a job earlier and earn back the money sooner.

I know that if my husband had ever been denied his visa to the US, I would have done anything to make sure we were together even if it meant moving to his country, or a 3rd country. My husband left his family and friends, his job, the country he loves, everything to be with me. So what if you are a California girl through and through? I've been to the UK, it's a great place with good quality of life. You keep saying your husband is your entire world and how important it is for you to reunite, but you aren't making any effort to be with him since his denial other than make excuses as to why you won't go to him. If you have to move to the UK what's the big deal? So you won't have family around to help, but you just said he was quitting his job, so HE can take care of your child. I moved away from my family 22 years ago to be with my then husband and raised my children without the help of friends and family, I survived, so did my children(very well I might add). You are making every excuse in the book not to be with him, while you say in the next breath how important he is and how much you need to be together. You have a decision to make, either find a way to be together with him, or move on with you life. Making excuses and saying you won't move from California is pretty childish, in my opinion, you didn't even want to pay a consultation fee of a few hundred dollars to Laurel Scott. If you love this man as much as you say and you want to be reunited as a family than you should be willing do what it takes. Sorry if I sound harsh, but it's the reality of the situation and you need to suck it up and figure out what needs to be done or move on with your life without him. Nothing about immigration is easy, even without a situation like yours, it is what it is, try to pull yourself together to make things work if that's truly what you want. Good luck!

If the California Girl OP doesn't want to move to the UK, I doubt Manitoba would be any more attractive.

And what about the baby that is his?
You think she will leave the baby in the US knowing she can not legally get back to the US?
If the baby goes with them and he takes the baby out of VN without her permission, he would be committing parental international kidnapping.
Brilliant idea.

She has been arrested for assault multiple times and has abused her children to the point that Child Protective Services has had to take them away. This is not the type of person that should be living in America on a green card.
Please know that I am a registered nurse and I recognize that she has deep psychological problems that need to be addressed. There are better mental health programs (not to mention free) in the United Kingdom and maybe being deported will kick her hard enough in the pants to get help.
Seriously though, OP, if her green card is expired, you need to call USCIS and let them know about the situation. I honestly think it's best for all involved. I can't imagine what it must be like for those kids to a) move to another country b) be abused by their mother c) placed in foster care in an entirely different culture. That is so messed up and I really fear for them. At least if they went back to the UK they could be among their home culture.
ETA: OP, I know you do. But is anything really going to change? Time to take charge instead of wishing for yesterday...

Its probably not necessary to post pictures of the babies

Usually when taking in documents, they check the basics such as the correct fee being submitted, signatures all in place etc. They don't actually look through your file in any detail until it's your turn to be adjudicated, many months later. That is when they caught the fact you'd filed for AOS before marrying.
Well, no. Just because you tell them to do something doesn't mean they're obligated to. You need to follow the rules like everyone else and file for AOS AFTER marriage, not before.

Sorry, but the blame is not on the NBC. It's on you for filing for something you were not qualified for.
Since the mistake was yours, you do not qualify for a refund or fee waiver. USCIS will only refund the fee if the mistake was theirs.

I would rather give solid information to someone with impure intentions than turn away someone who needs help, personally. Don't want to push a truly hurting person back into the arms of their abuser and make them think the real world out there is against them. You can never be sure who is who.

He is on March 24th : ( but good luck to you and everyone else!!

I guess I'm a little confused. How was he able to find money to fly back home but not file to adjust status? Adjusting status should be his number one priority because of this exact situation. Unfortunately, he will have to start all over again with the immigration process.

Baltimore is same day, same oath every day from everything that I've read.
Still awaiting on the letter on the official date, but I imagine it will be sometime in March. lol, I haven't tried to prep David at all (he is the UKC) because not knowing what is going on for months on end, it would have made me crazy. So I just decided to only start it when he got the letter. He probably already knows most of it though, as he's very politically inclined. He'll just need to learn stuff like the governor of Maryland and our state reps/senators.

I got an email from the embassy this morning. They said my husband's visa has been issued and he has to be in the States by March 9, 2014.
Most of you know our story. We were in AP 16 months when our visa got denied because the embassy said we were not legally married because I am a Christian and he is Muslim. We hired an immigration attorney and won our appeal. Our case was sent back to the embassy where we were kept in AP almost another 2 years.
My husband is strong and he kept our marriage together through the long wait.
I want to thank all my friends on visa journey that supported us and encouraged us through the years.

One of the August filers just got an interview date for February according to trackkit. I assume we'll get our own letters in a few weeks based on that. Remember that the processing time was updated only in November, so it's probably past that May date anyway and they're always off because it's based off the earliest person they are still processing whereas the bulk of people are much farther down the line than that, based on what I've read and seen in my own experience through our visa journey.
It is pretty annoying though...we're supposed to be going overseas and moving in a couple of months. I hope they can start moving quicker soon.

Ok, BALTIMORE PEEPS!
I'm August filer,i filed n-400 in the end of August,got case status update on January 21,the case has been scheduled for the interview.
have received the letter today(week later) and it is scheduled for the end of February.
For the ones who filed in September-they are getting to you,i believe in a week or 2 your case status will be updated and most liely you all will have your interview in march(depends on when exactly you filed).
So hold on,you're about to be there!))
Good luck to you all,keep posting your your progress!

please he came for advise not to be attacked...........
sara

The OP is mostly at fault here. She has 3 kids, works hard at a job, so she should have her ####### together more than she does right now. With all that life experience, she has been incredibly naive in thinking that no matter how many times you tell someone what life is like coming from a third world country, they can't truly grasp everything until they get here. Why would she only spend 8 days on a "vacation" with him before deciding to get married?
I feel bad for him...it might be a scam, it might not be a scam. Either way, the USC is at fault for not having enough street smarts, especially when she has 3 kids that she needs to look out for.
Unless she gets married, there is absolutely no recourse for the fiance because he has to be married to apply to VAWA and even if he marries another US citizen, he won't be able to adjust while staying here because he entered on a K1. Sadly...he has no path for legal immigration while staying here. Anyone suggesting she should get married to get him a legal stay is advocating against VJ's TOS.

The OP is mostly at fault here. She has 3 kids, works hard at a job, so she should have her ####### together more than she does right now. With all that life experience, she has been incredibly naive in thinking that no matter how many times you tell someone what life is like coming from a third world country, they can't truly grasp everything until they get here. Why would she only spend 8 days on a "vacation" with him before deciding to get married?
I feel bad for him...it might be a scam, it might not be a scam. Either way, the USC is at fault for not having enough street smarts, especially when she has 3 kids that she needs to look out for.
Unless she gets married, there is absolutely no recourse for the fiance because he has to be married to apply to VAWA and even if he marries another US citizen, he won't be able to adjust while staying here because he entered on a K1. Sadly...he has no path for legal immigration while staying here. Anyone suggesting she should get married to get him a legal stay is advocating against VJ's TOS.

The OP is mostly at fault here. She has 3 kids, works hard at a job, so she should have her ####### together more than she does right now. With all that life experience, she has been incredibly naive in thinking that no matter how many times you tell someone what life is like coming from a third world country, they can't truly grasp everything until they get here. Why would she only spend 8 days on a "vacation" with him before deciding to get married?
I feel bad for him...it might be a scam, it might not be a scam. Either way, the USC is at fault for not having enough street smarts, especially when she has 3 kids that she needs to look out for.
Unless she gets married, there is absolutely no recourse for the fiance because he has to be married to apply to VAWA and even if he marries another US citizen, he won't be able to adjust while staying here because he entered on a K1. Sadly...he has no path for legal immigration while staying here. Anyone suggesting she should get married to get him a legal stay is advocating against VJ's TOS.

The OP is mostly at fault here. She has 3 kids, works hard at a job, so she should have her ####### together more than she does right now. With all that life experience, she has been incredibly naive in thinking that no matter how many times you tell someone what life is like coming from a third world country, they can't truly grasp everything until they get here. Why would she only spend 8 days on a "vacation" with him before deciding to get married?
I feel bad for him...it might be a scam, it might not be a scam. Either way, the USC is at fault for not having enough street smarts, especially when she has 3 kids that she needs to look out for.
Unless she gets married, there is absolutely no recourse for the fiance because he has to be married to apply to VAWA and even if he marries another US citizen, he won't be able to adjust while staying here because he entered on a K1. Sadly...he has no path for legal immigration while staying here. Anyone suggesting she should get married to get him a legal stay is advocating against VJ's TOS.