CanGal

Hey Everyone, wow, I never thought that this thread would get this much of a response. It's kind of crazy. I just want to clear some things up that I think people kind of started going along with that I never stated before. People just need to read a little more clearly.
A) I never mentioned masturbation whatsoever or my views of if I thought it was wrong or not and that I was asking my Hubby to give it up, wasn't even brought up on here.
B) I wasn't snooping. I really don't have to explain myself, thats not the issue. When you have highspeed internet and you both use the same computer daily and leave it on daily and he hops off to work and you get on, if he was searching how couldn't I get pop ups? *Shrug* I had no reason to snoop whatsoever.
C) The bikini models were not your everyday "Victoria Secret" model who are essentially modeling off the bathing suite. This was porn, they were 98% naked thats the thing. Also the issue wasn't really the bikini models in itself, it was the fact that he was "looking" to "look". Big difference if you happen to be in a real life circumstance like a beach setting and its there.
D) I have never ever demanded that he listen to my way of thinking and rules and beliefs and that he should give it up entirely. I have never come across that way and he admits that. He isn't good about talking in general about alot of things. He's quite, i guess he chooses his words carefully.
E) When we met we talked about these things and he is the one that would address them and he was the one that first told me that he believed in the particular things that I stood for which is one thing that attracted me to him.
F) He's not a bad guy. He's never been a bad guy. I have given him a big break. I am actually pretty care free on a lot of things.
G) I'm not religously brainwashed. I can't change your oppions and your all entitled to your oppinions. I'm glad you shared them with me. But I believe and have faith that my relationship with the Lord and what he commands of me and requires of me is not to "Limit" me from fun and to strap me down but to set me free. Only truth can set you free and I believe those boundaries are there so that I can live freely. Thats the very essence of God. He loves me, he loves us all, he only wants the best for me.
H) I love my husband very much, and yes this is an issue that bothers me on a higher level. Nothing has ever happened to me in the past to warp my view on this thats just how I feel about the issue. I can't essentially in essence control everything he does but I can hopefully influence him and just stand up for what I believe is right and stand true to that. I have the right to make the decision in allowing it into my marriage or not. I choose not too

And I dont believe sex is wrong, its a GREAT thing really. Its a wonderful thing, i just believe it should be kept within the privacy of two people in marriage. I took a vow in forsaking in all others not just physically but on all levels. Nothing wrong with fantasizing when it's your other your fantasizing about. Why would I want to fantasize about being with anyone else but him, I married him so I could be with him and freely live in that.