RANNK1

livindadream · January 16, 2014

So sorry about what happened to you. I can very much relate because I have been in the same position. Met a Nigerian man online, got the K-1 Visa, he came, we married...within a month I caught him calling some dating line. When I confronted him about it he said he did it to know if I was checking his phone records. lol. The following month I found a profile of him on a dating site, it stated he was single and it had all the pics of him in NY that I HAD TAKEN OF HIM!!! But no mention of me! Again, when I confronted him about it, he got mad at ME and left. Stayed gone for about a month, then out of the blue called me to come back (probably due to advice from his family in order to continue the process since we had not filed AOS at that point)...continued his madness for another month then left again. By that time he had developed friendships with other Nigerians in the area and Im sure they helped him in finding a way out and still being able to Adjust Status. What a mess it all was. A good friend of mine (a Nigerian living in the States) said not to put my heart or finances into this man...and I didn't listen and did both and lost both.

I know there are a lot of cases of Nigerian men doing the USC wrong, but in your case, it just seems like he's a jerk. Take it from me, it's not worth thinking about how much money or time you put into it..you'll drive yourself insane. Just find the strength to let it go and move on with your life. It's people like my ex, that make it so hard for genuine relationships to be approved. And sadly, there are ways for foreigners to stay by just telling more lies. The system is so unjust.

I hated it when he takes beautiful pictues of himself that I took of him, even one of our wedding pictures, every nice picture of happy moments we did have, then uploaded them onto dating websites. He spoiled every nice picture I ever took of him. I hated looking at them knowing what he was doing with them. He even changed the wording of a love letter I sent to him during the courtship phase, and sent it to one of his woman. so disgusting. I hope you reported what he did to USCIS. He will have a very hard time adjusting status. he is probably just living under the table SOMEWHERE.

January 16, 2014

thanks everyone for your support. Its not easy, and was so hard because he got me pregnant right after marriage, so I stuck in there for my daughter, hoping he would grow up and become responsible. I don't know what else to say. Today is our 4 year wedding anniversary. Feeling very sad. I am working on legal separation this week.

January 16, 2014

An old saying... Lessons cost, good lessons cost a lot! Seems you have a lot of lessons you have learned. But you have a beautiful child(ren) and a wealth of experience and hopefully a big dose of self confidence...

Jerks can be found in every corner of the globe, and they seem to be very easy to find! Ignoring warning signs (like the black book dating thing while you were visiting ) out of fear of others saying "I told you so" should be a lesson to others NOT to ignore those types of signals... Regardless of the consequences or what others say. I think too many people (in international as well as domestic relationships) tend to get caught up in the idea of "well, I have x amount of time or x around of money invested so if I give up it will all be for nothing" but they ignore the future cost of continuing down that road. Easier and cheaper in the long run to tuck the tail, say "you were right" to all the haters and quit going down a path if you think it is wrong. Eventually you reach the end of the road... Good for you for moving on... Now don't waste any more time on him... Time for you! Move forward...

You are right, I should have paid heed to the red flags and I didn't. That is my warning to anyone marrying, well anyone in a long distance international relationship. What I wish is that I hung up the phone the first time he yelled at me harshly. At that point we had only been talking for 3-4 months. I ALMOST told him forget it , I am walking away from this little relationship, .. my gut told me to hang up on him, but stupidly I didn't. I regret , I regret I regret.

January 16, 2014

I see with some men....they want their cake and eat it too. They want the marriage for the perks and for how it looks to theirs family back home but they also want the freedom of being single and seeing other women...and as a wife they want you to be ok with it. I don't think in all cases its a scam for immigration...I think they are just bad husbands. Any one can make promises while in the honeymoon stage but when the reality of day to day life sets in...that's when real character shows...in both spouses.

yeah that seems to be him. he thinks its in his nature to cheat and go online. "he can't help it". If I had time to date him in person for a longer period of time I would have figured him out and walked away.

January 15, 2014

I met him on Afroromance dating website in 2008. I only went to Nigeria once to visit him and it was for two weeks. We talked on the phone or did webcame 1-3 hours per day. I met all his family, his aunties and uncles, cousins, immediate family and many friends, even went to his village. I thought everything was going to be very cool. He made it here in dec 2009. He got his 10 year green card in February last years. By mid March he diving into dating websites again and became more ill tempered and rude. It almost seems that he waited until he got his 10year green card, the just gave up on our marriage. things went down him from there. There is nothing I can do to get him deported. Only is he hits me then I can call the cops. He has been arrested for domestic violence here once before and only needs one more DV and he will be deported. Its all very sad. There were a few red flags that I ignored (due to just coming out of a recent divorce- I was emotionally out of whack). He once yelled at me on the phone very loudly for asking him too many questions. I also noticed he was sending emails to women on a XXXblack book website while I was actually in Nigeria. I confronted him and he cried and got on his knees and begged me to forgive me and promised never to do it again.. I almost packed my bags, but couldn't bare the shame of returned home and telling all my wise friends and family members that he wasn't right for me.

January 15, 2014

I am not saying that they are all bad.. Many are very good. His family members are all very good. I thought that was a good sign, but aparently he was a bad apple in the bunch. They are all very angry that he is behaving like this. Of coarse his father also says that if I want the marriage to last, I should close my eyes to anything he is doing as if I am not seeing it. (basically to pretend I don't see him cheating.) Please ask all the questions you want. I don't want anyone else to get hurt like I did. I know its hard because these men are so sexy and wonderful to talk to . I really believed him . Now I wish I didn't.

Boiler · January 15, 2014

Hi everyone. I have not posted or even logged on here for years. I met my Nigerian husband in 2008 and brought him here on a K-1 visa in 2009. I thought he loved me by all the sweet words he said, the hundreds of hours on the phone and webcam, messenger..... Well he was only here three days and took my bank card and purchased dating website subscriptions. He was on several sites. I was not aware of this until three months later. Meanwhile, we got married and I got pregnant . I was devestated when I found out and confronted him. he said it didn't matter because he was just bored and wanted to talk to them for fun and wasn't planning to meet anyone. He promised to stop, but he fell into a habit of doing it every few months, me catching him and then he would do it again. We got into a lot of heated arguements and I turned into a detective in my own house. He claimed to be addicted to it and it wasn't personal. We went to counseling , we prayed and fasted, he even fly to Nigeria to seek deliverance from his Pastor. He still kept having emotional affairs, often getting a woman's phone number and then talking to her secretly. Twice he had physical affairs. By August of this year I caught him again and kicked him out. I told him to get help and if he could control himself, he could return. He decided to get a second job, buy himself a new car, a new tv, anything but get help. On Christmas ev he announced that he want to have all the young pretty woman he wants now and wants to be single. He said he cant stop going on dating websites and will cheat on me if he returns. He is also emotionally and verbally abusive. He never even gave our kids Christmas presents.

He has ruined my life and my kids' lives. He sucked $15,000 from me overall, he took my youth and beauty, he damaged my relationship with my family, I lost my best friend, he took away all my hope and happiness in life. I regret ever meeting him!!!! Everyone told me he is going to scam you or treat you badly, don't talk to him, but I did it anyways.

In addition, I many many other people on here who married a nigerian a few years ago and we all regret. One lady married the guy and he turned around and married a Nigerian woman right after his interview (meanwhile taking thousands from her over the years). Another lady brought her husband here on a K-1 and he cheated on her allll the time, was rude, unloving. He was even doing romance scamming here in the states in front of her and the kids. When he wasn't doing that he was in stip clubs and bars picking up new girls. another lady just found out her Nigerian husband of two years, has been having an affair for the past year with a co-worker much older than him.

Many of these men have no shame and no integrety. Please use extreme caution. Run away!!

Mithmeoi · March 6, 2013

Nnamdi got a message that they have ordered production of his card

February 20, 2013

Definatly add more evidence! I must have spent 30 mailing the package- that was how much evidence I had to submit. reservations are like nickles and dimes, as anyone can make a reservation and cancel it later.

You got to get your hands on joint tax returns and joint finances, joint car insurance, joint health....

February 20, 2013

I think sometimes they just call people in for fun, or just randomly select people to interview. I wouldn't worry too much, but I would be prepared. Bring plently of mail addressed to both of you or mail showing you live at the same address. Bring in a joint lease agreement. Bring in bank statements and any account you may have together. (PG and E, phone etc....) Bring in affidavits from friends and family. (notorized) that will vouch that you two are married and are living together. (four should be enough). Also include joint life and care insurance. Bring a large photo album full of pictures at different locations whereing different clothes and around different people. That should be enough.

Practice some questions with each other - like what you do during the day, cell phone brand, email addresses, favorite foods, recent outings, etc.....

February 20, 2013

Hi people,

My husband's ROC was approved Jan.31st (Thank God). Now we are wondering when his green card is going to arrive. I see that many people are receiving their green cards in the mail in just 10 days or less. Are they just lucky? Its now Feb 20th. Is anyone else here approved at least three weeks ago and still have not heard word from USCIS about production of card or mailing of it?

sorry if this is a dumb question. I can see many people don't have a date for when they received the green card- thought perhaps many people don't update that information.

We called and the man on the line said we should check in and call every 2-4 weeks. My husband needs to leave the country by next month and won't return for about 4 months, which will go beyond his extension letter. Not sure if he should get a stamp in his passport.

Thanks

February 15, 2013

My husband got his response to the service request we made on Feb 5th

We now have the approval letter, but the email.they sent said he was in initial review and that they were updating his mailing address. This is weird because we didn't update our address and the rock is approved. He never got any email about card production. Or a tracking number.

February 13, 2013

We only put in one year of tax returns and my Nigerian husband was approves with no interview, no delay, and no rfe. Good luck to all stop stressing out everybody u will probably be fine.

February 9, 2013

California Service Center (25 applicants, 11 approved 44%)

VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....

DANILOU..............05/12/12........06/07/12.......06/29/12........01/23/13....

T21..................05/29/12........06/04/12.......07/09/12........--/--/--....

DRAYCHAN.............05/30/12........06/01/12.......07/20/12........--/--/--....(Interview letter received 07/13 for 07/30)

RANNK1...............06/02/12........06/05/12.......09/23/12........01/31/13....(Biometrics letter not received, so had to reschedule in Sept)

NEIL&KAT.............06/04/12........06/06/12.......07/11/12........--/--/--....

DEPRESSEDWIFE........06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/16/12........01/18/13....

VIBER................06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/26/12........--/--/--....

CHRISTI AND IAN......06/05/12........06/07/12.......07/16/12........--/--/--....

YOUSSEF+CHERIE.......06/05/12........06/14/12.......07/19/12........02/04/13....

ROYANDME.............06/06/12........06/08/12.......07/12/12........--/--/--....

LYEKKA...............06/07/12........06/11/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

UNIWORLD.............06/08/12........06/11/12.......07/10/12........01/31/13....

MITHMEOI.............06/12/12........06/14/12.......07/16/12........--/--/--....(RFE received 01/07)

JD63.................06/12/12........06/14/12.......07/18/12........02/05/13....

FIBI12...............06/13/12........06/14/12.......07/11/12........01/02/13....

NEWLIFE2013..........06/13/12........06/15/12.......07/11/12........01/07/13....(Card received 01/11)

ROAD417KING..........06/13/12........06/18/12.......08/06/12........--/--/--....

M AND F..............06/14/12........06/15/12.......07/12/12........01/30/13....

JENNLEAH72...........06/15/12........06/15/12.......07/09/12........12/28/12....(Card received 01/07)

BRIANANDMERNE........06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/17/12........02/01/13....

HART11B..............06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/19/12........--/--/--....

AZURE30..............06/23/12........06/25/12.......08/24/12........--/--/--....(Early Bio 08/23)

MICHELLE SAHAGUN.....06/25/12........06/27/12.......08/01/12........--/--/--....

MATT_RIA.............06/26/12........06/28/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

JESSE28..............06/27/12........06/28/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

Vermont Service Center (26 applicants, 2 approved 8%)

VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....

PEACHEY..............05/30/12........06/04/12.......07/11/12........--/--/--....

JEN&SALAH............05/31/12........06/01/12.......07/23/12........02/05/13....

UGLIDUKLIN...........06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/23/12........--/--/--....

VALERIEA.............06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

LIRAC................06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/13/12........--/--/--....

ACSMAMA..............06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/25/12........10/04/12....(Early Bio 07/06)

MSHELL322............06/01/12........--/--/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

ALEX W...............06/02/12........06/05/12.......07/19/12........--/--/--....

MEANT2B2009..........06/02/12........06/04/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

SONG41...............06/04/12........--/--/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

HAPPYDANCER..........06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

ADETHONY121..........06/05/12........06/06/12.......07/31/12........--/--/--....

JINXXABELLE..........06/06/12........06/07/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

SLOWVERMONT..........06/09/12........06/11/12.......07/10/12........--/--/--....

JEREL AND MARIA......06/11/12........06/12/12.......07/20/12........--/--/--....

STREGA AND NINGIA....06/12/12........06/15/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

NYALL................06/13/12........06/15/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

NOEL194..............06/14/12........07/03/12.......08/06/12........--/--/--....

FPF_IMC..............06/14/12........06/18/12.......07/30/12........--/--/--....

MUAH.................06/15/12........06/19/12.......07/17/12........--/--/--....

R&AINC...............06/16/12........06/18/12.......07/31/12........--/--/--....

THEMATRIX............06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/26/12........--/--/--....

HADEZE...............06/19/12........06/??/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

JUSTINE+DAVID........06/20/12........06/22/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

KRISTIN&DAVID........06/20/12........06/25/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

ALESSANDRO P.........06/25/12........06/27/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

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February 9, 2013

Hello everyone , my husband was finally approved 1-31-2013!!!! We are so relieved!!!!!! Uluwha!!!!! We thank God for everything. We hope all of you will be approved very soon.

February 6, 2013

Hello people. We are still waiting for my husband's ROC approval. He filed June 5th in CSC. We called the customer service number and they told us it is still in initial review. The USCIS website now says they are processing June 8th applications, so they can see that we are now outside of their normal processing times. My husband talked to them then gave gave me permission to talk to them (they won't talk to the USC unless given permission). They told me that they are sending a service request to CSC to see what is going on. CSC will have to respond within 15 days by phone or email. I hope they approve his by then. They said CSC is still delayed.

January 31, 2013

Congratulations m+f. I am attempting to update the timeline. Someone please fix it if I do it wrong.

California Service Center (23 applicants, 5 approved 22%)[/font]

VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....

DANILOU..............05/12/12........06/07/12.......06/29/12........--/--/--....

T21..................05/29/12........06/04/12.......07/09/12........--/--/--....

DRAYCHAN.............05/30/12........06/01/12.......07/20/12........--/--/--....(Interview letter received 07/13 for 07/30)

RANNK1...............06/02/12........06/05/12.......09/23/12........--/--/--....(Biometrics letter not received, so had to reschedule in Sept)

NEIL&KAT.............06/04/12........06/06/12.......07/11/12........--/--/--....

DEPRESSEDWIFE........06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/16/12........01/18/13....

VIBER................06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/26/12........--/--/--....

CHRISTI AND IAN......06/05/12........06/07/12.......07/16/12........--/--/--....

ROYANDME.............06/06/12........06/08/12.......07/12/12........--/--/--....

LYEKKA...............06/07/12........06/11/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

MITHMEOI.............06/12/12........06/14/12.......07/16/12........--/--/--....(RFE received 01/07)

JD63.................06/12/12........06/14/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

FIBI12...............06/13/12........06/14/12.......07/11/12........01/02/13....

NEWLIFE2013..........06/13/12........06/15/12.......07/11/12........01/07/13....(Card received 01/11)

ROAD417KING..........06/13/12........06/18/12.......08/06/12........--/--/--....

M AND F..............06/14/12........06/15/12.......07/12/12........01/30/13....

JENNLEAH72...........06/15/12........06/15/12.......07/09/12........12/28/12....(Card received 01/07)

BRIANANDMERNE........06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/17/12........--/--/--....

HART11B..............06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/19/12........--/--/--....

Azure30..............06/23/12........06/25/12.......08/24/12........--/--/--....(Early Bio 08/23)

MICHELLE SAHAGUN.....06/25/12........06/27/12.......08/01/12........--/--/--....

MATT_RIA.............06/26/12........06/28/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

JESSE28..............06/27/12........06/28/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

Vermont Service Center (25 applicants, 1 approved 4%)

VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....

PEACHEY..............05/30/12........06/04/12.......07/11/12........--/--/--....

JEN&SALAH............05/31/12........06/01/12.......07/23/12........--/--/--....

UGLIDUKLIN...........06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/23/12........--/--/--....

VALERIEA.............06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

LIRAC................06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/13/12........--/--/--....

ACSMAMA..............06/01/12........06/04/12.......07/25/12........10/04/12....(Early Bio 07/06)

MSHELL322............06/01/12........--/--/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

ALEX W...............06/02/12........06/05/12.......07/19/12........--/--/--....

MEANT2B2009..........06/02/12........06/04/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

SONG41...............06/04/12........--/--/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

HAPPYDANCER..........06/04/12........06/07/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

ADETHONY121..........06/05/12........06/06/12.......07/31/12........--/--/--....

JINXXABELLE..........06/06/12........06/07/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

JEREL AND MARIA......06/11/12........06/12/12.......07/20/12........--/--/--....

STREGA AND NINGIA....06/12/12........06/15/12.......07/18/12........--/--/--....

NYALL................06/13/12........06/15/12.......07/24/12........--/--/--....

NOEL194..............06/14/12........07/03/12.......08/06/12........--/--/--....

FPF_IMC..............06/14/12........06/18/12.......07/30/12........--/--/--....

MUAH.................06/15/12........06/19/12.......07/17/12........--/--/--....

R&AINC...............06/16/12........06/18/12.......07/31/12........--/--/--....

THEMATRIX............06/18/12........06/20/12.......07/26/12........--/--/--....

HADEZE...............06/19/12........06/??/12.......--/--/12........--/--/--....

Justine+David........06/20/12........06/22/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

Kristin&David........06/20/12........06/25/12.......07/27/12........--/--/--....

ALESSANDRO P.........06/25/12........06/27/12.......08/02/12........--/--/--....

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