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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Genesisfan in Felony   
    I know the AWA. I actually know someone who was convicted of an AWA charge as a minor but charged as an adult. His conviction was sealed by the original judge after he completed incarceration, probation and therapy at 21 years old. He even had to spend 6 months on the registry after those laws were passed in the 90's. Many years later he was able to immigrate his wife and her 2 minor children using CR-1/2 Visas and AWA had no impact on their process.
     
    Honestly, we believe is all comes down to the background check. In his case the conviction never showed because it was sealed. He also chose the CR Visa because there is less scrutiny at the embassy interview stage. If the I-130 gets approved then the embassy doesn't even question criminal background.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Phil&Mich in Balikbayan Boxes   
    I just want to say something regarding "Sending Money is better than sending a box full of stuff"...
    Mind you I don't want to start a debate on which is better or the merits of either side because this really isn't about that, it's about understanding & respecting your spouse's cultural background.
    There is a lot more to "Balikbayan" than can be conveyed in words. Here is a good attempt to capture it though:
    Balikbayan
    It's not uncommon for a family member to spend decades working overseas only returning home every 5 years or so and then staying for a matter of days or a week at a time. Children being raised by Lola while Mom or Dad or both are somewhere else working to support them is as much a part of their reality as baseball and 1 hr commutes to work is ours.
    So many seem to think that the Overseas Filipino becomes a money conduit to the family back home and they miss what's really happening. Family ties are so strong that the Filipino maintains an emotional connection across the seas which eclipses any amount of money that could be sent.
    The reason those Boxes are loved so much is because they are packed with LOVE from a family member who will never forget those they left behind (for whatever reason).
    We'll send 2 boxes a year to our (marry a Pinay and you've married her whole family) family in Pinas. She spends months collecting things to stuff the box full of. Anything that we don't need anymore does in the next box. She's looking forward to weekends filled with garage sales so she can fill the boxes. Of course Mom wants SPAM & Corned Beef (apparently it tastes better when it's free) and some products that are readily available to her locally. American candy is a favorite for everyone of all ages.
    Is it annoying when I find another stash of BB Box stuff in the closet or library, only slightly. Is it cute to see her get excited about being able to do this for her family, it's awesome.
    So if you're thinking about it from a financial sense then you'll never get it. It's about respecting her culture and becoming part of it.
    Just send 1 box a year and you'll be fine, sure it would be nice to not waste good money on shipping the box and send the cash instead but it really just isn't the same to them.
    FWIW, we do send her Mom money on a regular basis also...
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from RO_AH in Balikbayan Boxes   
    Regarding the why of Balikbayan Boxes, the point has nothing to do with how much the things cost here vs there. It's about the family member who is abroad helping to take care of those they left behind. In the Philippines mail isn't an everyday thing like here and packages are even more special.
    My mother-in-law always asks for SPAM in the B.B. Boxes (as we call them) even though it's actually cheaper there. Like she says to my wife, it tastes better because it's free! Ha ha ha...
    Seriously, when they know a Box is arriving it's a big event for everyone in the family (locally) because it's more special than Christmas. It tells them that they are still remembered and loved by the distant family member.
    When we send the boxes we try to include something for everyone in the family, even if it's something small & seemingly trivial.
    I guess it goes with the way OFW (Overseas Filipino Workers) have become a normal part of life in the Philippines.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from pushbrk in CR1 Extending VISA   
    Once she enters the US she will receive a stamp in her Passport that acts as a temporary greencard. In theory she could turn around and get on the next flight back home and re-enter later.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from NikLR in CR1 Extending VISA   
    Once she enters the US she will receive a stamp in her Passport that acts as a temporary greencard. In theory she could turn around and get on the next flight back home and re-enter later.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Meanis in Considering divorce CR1   
    Just to clarify, there is no such thing as a permanent Greencard. What you have now is a CONDITIONAL Greencard and the condition is your marriage to your USC Wife.
    After Removal of Conditions you will receive a Greencard (note the absence of CONDITIONAL) which doesn't rest on the condition of marriage to a USC. This Greencard will need to be renewed every 10 years unless you naturalize.
    Even the old Greencards without expiration dates could hardly be considered "Permanent" as they all are revocable.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Benj113 in Green Card Holder to Petition Filipina Girlfriend   
    Not if they want to build a future together in the US, the OP would risk losing his LPR Status at worst or a lesser hindrance would be delaying his eligibility to naturalize.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from gramercy in Can VAWA be EXPEDITED & approved without RFE?   
    Actually, withholding immigration benefits can be considered emotionally abusive if it is used as a means to control or trap the victim. So while you are correct that in and of itself this isn't abuse your are incorrect in automatically assuming that it can't be abusive.
    I do agree that getting an expedite on VAWA is probably not going to happen as they are by definition outside of the norm for Immigration cases.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Lirfita in Anyone here with the Fil side of the relationship on Gumarias Island   
    Just looking for any couples where the FIL half lives on the same island as my wife.
    She's on Gumarias Island, town is Jordan.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Marc_us82 in Filipina   
    Great post Crashed...
    My Wife is exactly that and she just happens to be from the Philippines. I've had a hard time with some of the posts discussing Filipinas as they're children. The patterns almost always is something like:
    Older white guy with a failed marriage or 3 hunts a child bride in the Philippines (usually because he believes he can control her or something like that).
    He treats her like a spoiled child through-out the K-1 process and throws every extra cent he can scrape together at her.
    Once she arrives in the US he either expects her to instantly be the perfect wife and shed the childish mannerisms that he had previously encouraged or he gets upset because she expresses an opinion of her own.
    When things fall apart it's because she scammed him!
    I'll admit my wife is 27 and I'm 42. I'll admit that she has at times acted immature. But I've never treated her like a child and I've always expected her to be my partner in our marriage and life together.
    I do think at least one of the persons here using the term "Filipina Unit" does it tongue in cheek and that doesn't offend me.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Rondo1971 in US Citizen with arrest warrant   
    You can bet her legal problems got worse by fleeing prosecution. She may have even been convicted in absentia already depending on how long ago this was.
    Your best bet would be for her to return to the US and face the music before making any rash decisions.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from user19000 in Form I-751 Denied for my Wife! WTF!?   
    The proof of miscarriages ins't necessary and is in fact a bit morbid.
    How is USCIS "being a knob", the OP failed to provide sufficient evidence so USCIS sent him a form letter stating such and listing recommendations for evidence that could help them get the approval they seek. So tell me what did USCIS do wrong in this case?
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from user19000 in Does violate school bus stop affects Removing Condition?   
    Why? It's a traffic ticket, what's there to fight she passed a stopped bus with it's lights & stop sign out. It will cost more to retain a lawyer & fight it then to just pay it and move along. There's now criminal charge so what's the upside of spending more money?
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from newacct in Denial of Citizenship   
    FWIW, you can't claim to be a US Citizen even after the interview and approval until AFTER YOUR OATH CEREMONY.
    He should expect to be put in removal proceedings shortly as that False Claim to US Citizenship will unravel his LPR Status also.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from user19000 in Divorce after 1 year of marriage   
    Then why did you allow yourself to get rushed into the marriage?
    The only way out from under the affidavit of support would be for you to prove that she actively committed fraud.
    You say the she didn't enter the marriage in good faith but in order to get her Status Adjusted she had to prove just that with your help!
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from user19000 in Dissolving love and a missed green card   
    Actually all of the advice for her to hold the Greencard for Ransom is a violation of the TOS as she has NO LEGAL RIGHT to possess HIS greencard.
    If he didn't have AP and left BEFORE the approval then I would agree that the OP should report this to USCIS when she return the Greencard to them.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Kathryn41 in U-visa certification   
    Regarding U Visa, doesn't that require a current and ongoing case to which the visa recipient is key?
    On the VAWA idea, you don't even seem to know if she's still in the US, maintained her LPR status or even is still your wife. I elieve you should focus your efforts on getting solid answers to these questions as that info will directly impact your ability to file.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from jenkatx in Need advice getting husband deported   
    He doesn't need VAWA, he can file to ROC after a divorce.
    ICE might be interested in knowing that a GAY man married a straight US Citizen for immigration benefits.
    A also believe working under the table to avoid paying taxes is a Federal Crime called TAX EVASION which ICE & USCIS don't appreciate an LPR doing.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from rade2rising in USCIS... DENIALS ARE GOING TO HAPPEN...   
    You are making a common mistake, assuming that SORNA & AWA are really about protecting children. The fact is that they are not. Neither is the Center for Missing & Exploited Children. It's really just politicians who have found an easy way to get voters behind them.
    AWA & SORNA are both reactionary after the child has already been abused. Find one part of either that works towards prevention.
    The Registries tell parents to be on the look-out for the stranger pervert hiding down the block but it's a fact that more than 90% of sex offenses against children are committed by "insiders" who are either family members, considered to be close trusted friends of the family or in some other position of trust within the child's life such as teacher or babysitter.
    The Registry gives parents a false sense of security so they are more likely to let their guard down. While keeping an eye on the guy down the street who has never had any contact with their child they are overlooking the all of the adults in their child's life on a daily basis.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from rade2rising in got denied after 3 yrs and 8 months of waiting..   
    And exactly what are you adding to this conversation?
    Don't ignore inconvenient facts. It's a fact that the US has failed on EVERY FRONT to do anything real or effective protecting children (or anyone) from sex offenses.
    The SOR (Sex Offender Registry) is worthless because it contains people convicted of Peeing in an alley behind a bar, skinny dipping, walking from their own bathroom to their own bedroom naked after a shower whilst a neighbor kid was peeking into their window, 18 year old having sex with 16/17 year old girlfriend, unlawful restraint (Yes in Illinois Unlawful restraint conviction gets you on the registry).
    The Registry and current laws have parents looking at the stranger down the street but "Stranger Danger" is in fact the lowest level of threat to our kids despite the fact that those are the cases that get all of the press. 90% of Child Sex Offenses are committed by relatives or close trusted family friends.
    If the Registry was working then please enlighten me as to why over 90% of Sex Crime arrests are of people who have no previous sex crime record?
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    Deputy Purple reacted to Harpa Timsah in Certificate of Finality was after NOA1   
    Your petition will be denied. You were not free to marry at the time you sent in the I-129F, and that is a requirement. You could withdraw the petition now and file a new one now instead of waiting for the denial before starting again.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from Harsh_77 in Adoption   
    Umm, yeah as others have said legal guardianship & a re-entry permit are te proper route.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from beejay in Adoption   
    Umm, yeah as others have said legal guardianship & a re-entry permit are te proper route.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from velrich in Adoption   
    Umm, yeah as others have said legal guardianship & a re-entry permit are te proper route.
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    Deputy Purple got a reaction from VanessaTony in Adoption   
    Umm, yeah as others have said legal guardianship & a re-entry permit are te proper route.
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