marklovetina

Sorry your fiancé has to go through the Psychological Exam.
Psychological Evals are normally order for some of the following:
Annulled due to psychological incapacity, Excessive Tattoos, Suicidal Scars, Mental history (Severe Depression, Drug abuse etc..).
The exam is unavoidable once they order it. She will need to just stay calm and explain when, what, where and why. She will need to be confident and let them know she has not tried nor use any drugs since that time. Be Truthful, Calm and Confidence is the key here.
The doctor will try and question her integrity. Question if she is still on drugs etc... She must stick to her story she originally stated. If the doctor does not believe her they will order additional psychiatric exam (PEPS).
The first Psychological Exam fee is $23 USD/ P1000 (1 hour or less).
If a second Psychological Exam (PEPS)is ordered, the second exam fee is $70 USD/ P3000 Pesos.PEPS is an additional Psych examination. Where they will have her answer hundreds of questions, puzzle, drawings to make sure she isn't crazy. It is a all day Exam 8 - 12 hours long.
Good news is that most persons ask to do Psych. Evals are approve and move on to the next step (Interview). Unless you are lying and missing up your story. You have nothing to really worry about. Confidence and Prayer will help you through this extra step.
Good luck and God Bless!!!

I just wanted to share my experience with you all. I just returned home from a week long trip to the PI. My Fiancee met me in Manila and we then journeyed 9 hours from Manila to her Province in Bicol by bus. Spent 4 days there meeting her parents and family, sought their blessings, bonded with relatives, and just to take in the experience of her home. Being outside of Metro Manila was also a change of pace I really enjoyed. Great trip. Wonderful family as I expected, Fantastic food, and memories for a lifetime.
Thanks for all the advice I got here on VJ prior to my trip. The Pasalubong ideas were great, even though the extra suitcase fee cost me more than some of the gifts I brought. Damn airline merger (talking about the largest airline in the world based in Chicago). Anyway, here's what I learned that might help you...

Long bus rides generally don't make many stops for CR
Bring 5 Peso coins with you for the use of CRs at the Sari Saris you do stop for
Towns in the Provinces are generally cash only with few ATMs (if any)
Chocolates are always appreciated. Hard candies for kids
Little to no water pressure can be expected. Shower with a pail is often the means or pumping your own water
Do not refuse food offered and never show you don't like what you've just tried
Trikes are small! At 5'10" I could barely fit in the side car
Power/Water outages are not uncommon
Have a night out or two with Titas and Titos and foot the bills

Most of all...

Be courteous and respectful
Don't act like the foreigner who's there to own the town
Talk and plan things through with your Fiancee to see if your intended actions are acceptable
Don't go around flaunting you have money. It's disrespectful and could probably get you into trouble quick

For those of you VJers who have not visited their Fiance(e)'s province/home town, you are missing out on the opportunity for the family to meet you and get to know you. Most especially it gives them an opportunity to ask questions to you and for them to understand the whole K1/K2 Visa process. I had the impression that my fiancee's family thought she would never return home to the Philippines (which I dispelled). Going there was a win win situation and it turned out to be fantastic. I really want to go back again soon. That's how much I enjoyed it.

lazy filipina...

nop.. different ofc. sis..

One can not ignore the Red Flags and glaring character issues when dating and expect a change once married.
There is no way your wife entered into a marriage with no idea what her role as a wife would be, you got a defective model.
There is nothing YOU can do to fix your situation, outside of buying a one-way coach ticket to the Philippines, complete with divorce papers in her carry-on bag. SHE has to want to "fix this." You can lead a horse to the water, but you can't make the horse drink the water.
Simply put, you managed to find a Pinay that needs to do some serious maturing, developing and growing-up. There are way toooooooooo many lovely, mature, motivated to self improve, selfless and appreciative Filipinas that want to be married. Why try to push water uphill?
If she gets pregnant, you have a boat anchor (her and child support) around your neck for 18 years, or 22 years if the kid goes to college.

Hi! While reading your concerns, I guess she may not truly in love with you. Love is never rude and selfish. She has to respect and help you, not being pampered always. I think she came here with you just to please and financially support her family, not really about you and her to live happily as husband and wife. I don't think she will get better especially when she gets her GC as you said she is ungrateful. You need to talk to her about her negative actions especially being rude to your family. If she still doesn't change, then I think you need to be very decisive in sending her back to the Philippines. She will give you more hurts and losses. Be strong and accept realities if you care about yourself and your future. God bless you.

lazy filipina...

I see an airline ticket in your future.
Single.

Send her packing back to the Philippines. I brought a Filipina here on a K1 and she acted like she was loving, said she'd never leave me, more BS and more BS. I married her and 2 days short of 10 months of marriage and with her having her 2 year conditional green card for 7 months, she betrayed me, left to go to Redwood City, CA where her American brother-in-laws visits his sick mother every 6 motnhs and then goes back to the Philippines. She was just like yours, selfish, materialistic, me, me, me, stayed up in her room and alienated herself from my friends who are my only family left, watched TLC on the computer that I paid for to make her life easier, always on FB. 3 days after she left I obtained pictures of her with her arms around her brother-in-laws best friend, go figure. Save yourself the heartache and get rid of this ungrateful Pinay. There are more over there that are more representative of the true Filipina, but be prepared. I have not found one Filipina yet that didn't have a little fire in thier blood. It is how you communicate and adjust with them and they to our culture. I know it may seem hard for you to make this decision right now, but according to your timeline you haven't done her AOS yet. Don't do it and send her back. I got over the betrayal of my ex and found a better Filipina that I met througha coworkers nephew's wife that had become friends with me and my ex. She didn't like what my ex did and thought I deserved better. I was introduced to her sisters friend who I asked about, since she had already been one of my facebook frineds for over 2 years and I am now finally happy with her and her family. Her father is a police officer and I used to be one in the Air Force and lived in the Philippines for 4 years. My sweetheart is conservative, not materialistic, has a Bachelors' degree in Hotel, Restaurant and Management. She will not work when she gets here as I make a good salary and can support all of our needs and her family's at home. We are concentrating on having our family first, then a new career for her later once the children are of school age. If you need me to find someone nicer I will ask my fiancee if she has any family or friends that are trust worthy. Where is you Filipna from and how did you meet? My mother always told me there are more fish in the sea. She was right and the Philippines is a really big sea. Just choose wiser. Cut your loss right now while you still can. You will be happier in the end. Let her go back to her family and stop providing all financial support immediately. You can send me a personal message if you want to. Stay strong, I was once in your shoes feeling weak, worthles, didn't feel I deserved to be loved. I questioned was there something wrong with me and what did I do to deserve what happened to me. I threw myself a pity party for over a month until I realized the problem was not me, it was her. I found Jovi and life has never been better. Your weakness and hurt will pass. Finding a loving and true Filipina seems to cure everything. It did for me.
I also forgot to mention that when my ex left, within 2 months I received a big promotion, 9.7% increase in pay August and anoter 3% in January 2012. Who gets to enjoy all of the perks now. My new, conservative, loving and not materialistic FIlipina. God is good and will get you through this. Good luck.

Obviously only you know most of the components on your situation, not all cause there is the saying: "his version, her version and the truth", but based solely on what you wrote.
The relationship had red flags while she was in PHils, she could not do anything and you had to go and hold her hand for the visa process. I bet there were many others you, intentionally or not, chose to ignore.
Your post is full of red flags since her arrival, mistreating your accepting family, not wanting to do anything, etc.
Now the reasoning, if she is doing this before acquiring "tenure" (marriage), just imagine what is coming down the pipe.
If you ask me, you are quite lucky to find out before you get marry, most unlucky guys won't find out until is way too late and VERY expensive.
I understand the emotional/time/financial investment and I also bet this is what's preventing you to cut her loose, but trust me, the sooner you take action the smaller will be the toll on you.
I know it is tough, but just imagine if she was a local girl, what would have done?
Wishing you the best.

Look there is a secret to selecting good women for marriage. Usually the secret is that you have to go through the kind of relationship you are in now to allow you to pick better next time. I really looked into my Filipina's character to see how much she was supportive of me during our entire dating period. I judged her by her actions and it didn't take long to find out that she was a keeper.
These signs you speak of were there but you just were not looking for them. It's not your fault if you had no experience with negative combative non supportive disruptive women who can't take care of themselves but want to cause you trouble. Although my Filipina has not arrived, I will assure you that she is not selfish and I am positive she will support our goals and our family structure because we are in this together and she will give more than I request. I will do the same for her.
I can tell you one thing. If everything you say is true, patience with this woman (in most cases) will only cause you heartache, trouble, greif. She might get marginally better over time but with someone this far off balance, she will never provide you the love and support you need and you might even loose your health, financial future and everything else because she might pull you under with the ship.
It's your call but I think you know in your heart what is best what to do after the advice of your friends, family and your readings...

I don't know. I would have the same fears but now your living it.
I would say: If you find yourself begging then end it now. It will get worse before it gets better.
Pinays have strong ties to their family but to disrespect your family is just not their way. You drew a short straw.
If it was me, I was just send her back. I know you don't want to, but I hope your heart does not overtake your brain.
None the less, do what you fell is best and live by your decisions.

lazy filipina...

no consience,she doesnt know how to appreciates what you did for her and her family.

Sounds like you may need to do her one more big favor. Put aside your feelings and think only of her. Send her back home to the Philipines where she can be happy again.

complete your timeline so that everyone on VJ benefit.
Thanks

we filed K1, but i think there is no difference between a couple married which is Cr1 or filing a fiancee visa.... honey ko is older than me for 23 yrs., he doesnt have lots of money in his pocket.. bank... i am not desperate to come here in US.. i have a good life in the PH... Y i am here in US right now...? it is bcoz honey ko doesnt want to live in the PH...
i am not hypocrite.. some woman marry white guys bcoz they want to come here in US.. they want security.. but who among us doesnt like security?... sometimes woman marry older guys bcoz they doesnt like young guys... as to my previous marriage to a young man it didnt work out... so i preferred to marry an older guy.... but it doesnt mean too that there is no responsible young man... it is just bcoz i fell in love with honey ko... bcoz we have a good chemistry working out our marriage...
our relationship is not base in money.. but for (L) ... right now honey ko doesnt earn any money... but still i support him whatever he wants to do... that is love...

USCIS initiates the background checks of the applicant/petitioner and identifies issues that may need to be addressed either during an interview or by asking the applicant/petitioner to submit additional information or documentation. USCIS reviews the applicant's/petitioner's criminal history, determines if there are national security concerns that need to be addressed, and reviews the application/petition for fraud indicators.
I believe they only do background checks on the petitioner during the USCIS stage but once the case is forwarded to US Embassy in Philippines they will do the back ground check on the beneficiary remember part of the requirement is the police/NBI clearance.

Not sure if this is allowed on VJ so if its not, sorry and just delete it but I created a FB support page for Pinay Military Wives.. I find it hard to connect with other wives (because we are in the National Guard, but activated), and I think this would be a great avenue for us to talk about non-visa related issues (there's VJ for that) Anyway, its called Pinay Military Wives.. feel free to add!!

Exactly...

For a K-1 Visa, the I-94 can not be extended.
a K-1 Visa holder can marry someone other than the petitioner, but can not AOS. there is no waiver. they would have to return to their home country and have an I-130 filed for them.

Is there no way that they can patch things up? If none, then she has to go back home. Being out of status, she will have a hard time looking for a stable job, she can't apply for SSN and driver's license. How will she sustain her stay her without money?

If she decides to take the risk and remain here illegally, the likelihood of being deported is very small. The ICE has bigger fish to fry than to track down eveyone who overstays a visa. It might even be difficult, if not impossible, to get a marriage license because some states nowadays are doing their part to deny privileges to illegal immigrants. None will grant her a drivers' license.

No, she cannot.

I will say like the other posters that the answer is no. If she entered the us with a K1 visa then she has to adjust status through the guy who petitioned her she cannot adjust status through any other marriage petition. She also cannot adjust status through labor certification or any other method. There are no waivers or excemptions to this EXCEPT ONE which i will explain.. later
You say she is out of status as of right now well if she is out of status for under six months from the date of here I-94 EXPIRATION than she will have a 3 yr re-entry ban placed on her if she is out of status for 6 months or more than she will have a 10 yr re-entry ban placed on her. if she has just lost status it would be in her best of BEST interest to just go back to phils ASAP and wait out her 3 yr ban and try again. if she is here 6 months or more she will still have to go back but alot more painful.. (I would consult a good attorney DO NOT take my advice as face value i'm an amatuer like everyone else here not a proffesional)
Now, to the EXEMPTION if she wants to get legalized and get an exemption from the 3/10 yr ban she will have to overcome here inadmissability charge on her record. If she falls in love with a guy here or if she is in phils the USC will have to file a fiance petition or marriage petition whichever is appropriate. This process can only be done in her native country.. She will get here interview for her petition she will be DENIED a visa at that point for being inadmissable due to overstay of her visa. Then the USC must apply for a waiver of inadmissability waiver I believe (I-601) and the USC must prove that being seperated from his fiance/wife would cause extreme hardship. If the consular deems there is is proof of extreme hardship she will get approved and thus a visa will be issued.... This process is very expensive many thousands of dollars and can take 2 to 3 yrs for completion Manila is one of the toughest embassies when it comes to waivers (I HEARD) and you will definitly HAVE to hire a GOOD IMMIGRATION lawyer to handle the case...
I wish her the best but she has shot herself in the foot for violating her visa. If she is out of status for a short time I wouldSTRONGLY STRONGLY recomend her to go back(3 years is not that long a wait compared to the alternative) so she will not have to go through the hell i just explained... there is a forun a sister forum that has people who are in her mess and going through the waiver process www.imigrate2us.net there is alot of information on this forum about wiaver of inadmissability
I wish her the best of luck and hope she will do the right thing in her life. if you want to ask any questions please email me and i will be glad to help you.. sorry there is not immediate good news but there is good news and a way out but it is a hard climb to get to the light.
there is a lawyer that claims to be a guru on hardship waivers if she ever needs it her total price is between 6500 and 7500 for each case but has a very high success rate http://www.visacentral.net/index.html if she ever needs help this woman might be able to help. She gives free advice on immigrate2us.net chats often her name is laura Scott
disclaimer I am not a lawyer nor do i claim to be this is my own knowledge of experiences i had or seen please verify all facts stated with a qualified immigration attorney