Tygrys

You post alot of questions on here for your cousins and friends. Important ones which I would think they would investigate and find out the answers for their selves rather then through another person.

why can't they live together in one of their parents houses? Sounds they they got married just so she could work and nothing else. good luck with that

I am certainly no officer, but if I was one, I would have many problems with this petition.
It makes no sense to me, personally.

Even if it's a genuine marriage,I have no doubt USCIS, will deny their, application, based on separate dwellings. Sounds childish and foolish to me. In the eyes of immigration, it will appear, fraudulent. Think of some quick action before the interview.

You're moving yourself and all your stuff back home to Canada to work on your marriage??? Get real.

While I understand your need to be with your family, I also do not think that spending 6+ months apart would help mend your relationship. You will likely want to take time to figure things out however and I respect that decision.
It's quite possible that your ROC would be finished before then if current timelines keep up as well (people in April from CSC have approvals already.)
Best of luck to you both.

Completely shocked that people come here and lie.

with all due respect i did not come on here for judgment, only advise, there is nothing scary about this at all and since you do not know our history i would request you keep your opinion to yourself. thank you

This is a really tough situation so I understand why you posted seeking feedback on it.
First as mentioned this is a DIY based website so most have not used lawyers. Occasionally someone posts looking for a recommendation and is given via PM some recommendations based on the reason they are seeking one. But generally you are not going to find the forum littered with reviews.With that said- what you personally could gain from a lawyer is assistance in being prepped for the interview considering the circumstances. (you can also get that from individuals here and file with out a lawyer) You have to remember the lawyer can not speak for you in the interview. Your are asking about 'how the laws' and policy work. That can be explained here as well. But at the end of the day I think you will find the policy manual although it consists of strict rules- it also has rules that state discretion is to be used by the Officer in certain situations and thats what you fall under.
So there is not going to be an official policy to quote (or appeal) to say do x y and z and you will be fine or fail to do x y and z and you will be denied. Discretion.
The K visa is basically (and Im assuming youve done research on it) but basically the fiance visa where you make sworn statements of a bonafide relationship with the petitioner. Technically there is no (and Im being very loose with my terminology here; speaking in plain easy to understand English and not manual policy speak)- well for other visa types if you have 'lies' on file its a reason to deny. For the K visa its not. But those lies can still be used against you because you are trying to establish you are telling the truth about the relationship.
The USCIS takes lying very seriously. Lying for benefit is something that never goes away nor is forgotten. So it was a very serious mis-step in attempting to conceal your relationship for a benefit (the F visa). But whats done is done. At this point you can present a very strong case for the K visa including evidences of the relationship as well as your word- keeping in mind to them your word is "meh" and they can deny it. The stronger your packet the less likely it is to be denied. You can search the forums for 'frontloading a K1" because IMO this is what you need to do. The more evidence the better.
I personally am not comfortable with compounding one lie with another or attempting to cover up the lie. As stated honesty is the best and IMO the only policy. The best advice for something like this is when it gets to the interview stage (which it will) to answer the questions asked briefly and only give as much information as being asked. If asked why the F was denied- because you didnt have strong enough ties. No need to elaborate on to other speculation. If they persist and bring up - well why did you answer or state just a friend in previous interview- or what was your answer in previous interview- then its time to fess up and come clean and admit that you answered incorrectly at the time because --- (insert your reason) You never did state why in your post you answered that way...
Hopefully they will appreciate your honesty and judge your application based on the evidence you provided as well as your honesty in the interview and approve it. If they deny it you could appeal but if you read on here youll see thats a wash so youd have to either marry and apply for the CR or simply reapply with more evidence and it will most likely go through the second time. It would be almost like your 'punishment' for lying, them making you jump through hoops and reapply after a denial.
So your choices are to try the K visa or marry and try the CR visa/ Some feel the CR visas are easier to go through because the marriage already took place and you have different types of evidence then you have with the K visa. But if they want to deny you as 'punishment' then it wont really matter which route you took.
I dont know if any of the above information helped or not, but if you are looking for what are creative ways to weasel myself out of the questions- my recommendation is dont. You are not going to outsmart the interviewer or charm them or double talk them- its just going to make you come off looking foolish and guilty and cause a denial.

Hi,
The K-1 can only be used once to enter the US. Once used, it can not be used again to reenter the US.
She can leave at anytime. Coming back to the US is another matter.
If she leaves without AP or a green card, then she will need a spousal visa to return.
After she enters on the K-1, she has 90 days to marry you. After !marriage, she can file to get her AP and green card. It will take 90 days to get AP and 6 months to get her green card.
Your plan to returmnho!e to a job immediately (this not waiting for AP or a green card) means you will have to file for a spousal visa and wait about a year.
You need to reevaluate your plan.
Best of luck

It took me nearly 2 years to stop being homesick, I stayed for 12, and now I'm homesick for the U.S after been gone for 3. One week isn't enough time to even get adjusted to being in the U.S. Good luck though!

Why did you buy her a plane ticket right away? My wife when she first got here was VERY homesick and wanted to go home as well. We talked it out and I asked her to give it a couple months BEFORE she makes a decision to go home. I told her she needs to think this all out before she makes a rash decision like that. She has since got over her homesickness and loves it here in California.

I tend to believe in "out of sight...out of mind".
Unless there is rock solid trust and bonding in the relationship,
I think for a newlyweds to live separately for extended period like 2 to 3 years
is going to really strain the relationship.
Is there a way for you to join her or her to achieve her goals in US together?

How long do you have to be in China or Finland to marry?
I agree with the others, sounds like you are rushing things big time.

At his age he'll probably forget all about this in a few days.
Seriously, I would be annoyed (probably a little bit ticked) if my wife joined an online social group and arranged for some dude to come pick her up and take her out.
That's just me.

Not quite -- there's also impulse that continues.

I think it is strange that you did not discuss this ahead of time and want it to be "your thing".
To get in a car with a total stranger picking you up for some whatever meet up is crazy and I would be pissed off too.
There are different things to do TOGETHER as well and I am sure you can find some common ground to enjoy each other.
For some personal time I suggest you find a women's group to hang with.

Any person with half a brain would be pissed if their significant other agreed to meet up with a stranger and DRIVE with them somewhere. That's completely unsafe and asking for trouble. Yes, your husband already has established friends, are you going to hold that against him?

Speaking as a man and a fairly newly wed individual, I can somewhat understand his reaction.
1. Your desire to meet up with other people, especially strangers, gives out the impression that you're already bored with him and your life here, and that you want to spend time with someone else other than him. Sure, it's insecurity on his part, but think about it: you're married to him, and you are still in a relatively early stage of your marital relationship, and you want to meet up with strangers to satisfy something that may or may not be lacking in your relationship with your husband. The difference in age only makes it worse, because he feels threatened about people he does not know spending time with his wife, regardless of how harmless it is.
2. Chalk it up to insecurity or jealousy or possessiveness, but put yourself in his shoes: He has a young wife for whom he went through all the trouble bringing here to start a new life and he is thinking that you have found happiness with him. And then you spring this meetup to him without asking him if it was okay to begin with. You said yourself that he isn't the socializing type - which leads him to believe that since you wanted to meet up with strangers, you find their companionship more enjoyable than his, and he begins to question himself and whether or not he can make you happy.
3. The rift with his sister does contribute to his insecurity. I am 100% sure that he hears some unflattering things about you from her, but you said that you were in relatively good terms at first. Being in a new country is all about adjustments. In-laws are always troublesome because they do not know you that well yet.
I had the same experience with my mother and my brother, who initially said bringing my fiancee (now wife) here is not a good idea, and since she already had children, they said all sorts of things like her trying to take advantage of me and just being with me for the green card so she can petition an alleged boyfriend (of the father of the kids). But once she finally got here, she did her best to get closer to them. In Filipino terms, binobola bola niya para mapalapit ang loob (bluffing her way and kidding with them until they felt comfortable with her). Now, my mother buys her clothes, and my brother even helped decorate and prepare the room that her daughters are gonna be staying in.
4. You should understand that international marriages are wrought with scams, and they are also scared. You should gain their trust and roll with it until they are comfortable with you and start thinking of you as family instead of "that young girl who married someone older."
5. As I said before, you went about it the wrong way... you told him that you will be going with a stranger to a meetup, without asking him first if (a) it was okay for you to go alone, (b) can he go with you because there will be strangers there, and © pleading for him to come with you, even if you already know he probably inconvenience him. The point I'm making is you consult with him since he's your husband, and because you are new to the country. You should apologize to him and ask him to forgive you for not asking him first, and explain calmly your intentions for making those preparations without consulting him. You seemed to have good intentions, but the problem is he does not know about them. Communication is the key. And do this with his sister as well. Sit down with her and be open about your concerns. Tell her that you want to get along with her because you are now family. Maybe tell her that you don't like cats, and that you didn't mean anything bad with your earlier actions. My wife and I get into arguments, but we don't let it simmer. She wants to go outside a lot because she was bored inside the house, but she asks me if she can go. She tells me where she is going. She does not meet with strangers unless I was with her. And I do the same with her. If you do love your husband, work on your relationship. Work on your marriage. Ego will net you a divorce. Good luck.

I would be upset if my spouse went online, found a group of strangers to meet up with, and made plans to meet them without mentioning any of it to me beforehand.
Especially, if he asked for a ride from someone before even asking if I wanted to go or if I would drive him.
My husband and I have actually considered doing something with a meetup.com group, but haven't gotten around to it yet.
It was brought up by one of us, discussed, groups were looked at together, etc...
I'm only guessing here, but the fact that he wasn't included in ANY of this is why he is upset and thinks you are doing something suspicious.
Edit to add:
You said " I just thought I didn't want to trouble my husband since this was going to be my thing."
As a married person, I firmly believe it is okay for each person to have their own "thing", but that involves communicating your intentions with each other so no one feels left out or insecure about it.

I think I remember you. If I remember right your SIL and your personality just don't match up, you didn't like her cats so I'm sure that didn't help. I also remember some other issues you were having with your expectations of them.
As for the meet up, you have no clue who the person is that you gave personal information too, you have no idea if the person you spoke to is not some nut. Just because he organized it doesn't mean the guy is going to be a safe person to be alone with. Heck I host a party every year for Canada here and the only person who ever contacted me was by email and then we swapped FB info to check each other out. Sure she could of be a psycho but neither of us were ever going to meet up alone.
The whole point of going to group meet ups is to not be alone with a perfect stranger. This is a safety issue and your husband went into the the protector mode. Now he did over react and then turned nasty and that was not called for.
Why did you not even ask your husband if he wanted to go, I mean give him the chance to say no at least?
Ok not the thread I was looking for but this makes more sense of why he acted the way he did. Still not acceptable though.
http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/474677-anxiety-about-upcoming-aos-interview-due-to-a-secret/#entry6747944

If I were your husband I would be suspicious of your behavior because this hook up thing is not only bizarre but a slap on his face...

I have to say, I used to feel the same as you JimmyHou
And I do still agree that the song, lyrics and the whole arrangement is far away from being great.
But, what I have realized is that this song can and has been successfully bringing the spirit of Americans and what the America stands for. And that feeling that I often see in the people listening to that songs has nothing to do with a song, more like a song is used as a trigger to feel very patriotic at the given moment.
I don't know, maybe I won't be understood here, but that song.. However poorly written, did grew on me and do feel chills when I hear it. Maybe because it reminds me when I became a citizen and there is a whole movie playing in front of my eyes of what I have accomplished and life I lead in the past 14 years...
So although I do consider myself a 'music snob' , this song does get a pass.. Every time

Because they have never worked at least 10 years in US and contributed into Medicare.
You can get health coverage for them here:
https://www.healthcare.gov/

Why would the American taxpayer pay for their medical insurance? You would be their sponsor, it would be up to you to help them with that.