Mr. K

With all due respect to the varied opinions expressed in this thread, I don't think the OP deserves the bashing he's getting. In a traditional Vietnamese family, children do not say no to their parents, not even if the parent is 90 and the child is 70. They would incur the wrath of the entire extended family. Unless the parent was clearly wrong, they wouldn't back the child against the parent even if they were sympathetic.
Also, there are probably a lot more actors involved here than just the son and his parents. His parents obviously know the family of the bride or they would not have arranged the marriage. In addition to the traditional reasons two families will arrange a marriage of their children, immigration may also be a factor here. The wife may already have family members in the US, but none who are eligible to sponsor her or her parents. If she marries a US citizen and becomes a citizen herself then she'll be able to petition for her parents, who will then be able to petition for their other children, and so on. However, this doesn't mean the marriage is a sham. The law doesn't require the bride and groom to be in love. It also doesn't require that a desire to immigrate or help your family immigrate not be on your list of reasons for getting married. It just says that it can't be your primary reason for wanting to get married.
I have some sympathy for the OP. Against his better judgment, he did what a good Vietnamese son would do and he obeyed his parents. Now he feels trapped in a loveless marriage. If he divorces her then he will probably have repercussions to face within his family.
As far as his wife, I doubt she gave up much to come to America and marry him. On the contrary, she had everything to gain and very little to lose. It's unlikely she owned any property. If she was fortunate enough to have a job then it probably didn't pay more than $2 or $3 per day. If her family was relatively well off then she might have lived in a home with actual tile floors instead of concrete, and a real bed instead of a straw mat on the floor.
A VAWA claim is a non-starter. There was no abuse. Nada. The only thing he's doing that she doesn't want is ending the relationship, and that doesn't qualify as abuse by any stretch of the imagination.

If you no longer wish to be married, then go ahead and end the relationship. I don't think you should feel obligated to get her legal PR status, in any way. Her GC should be based on bonafide relationship to you. If the marriage isn't working out, then there is no reason for her to get a GC. The Green Card is not a way to "make things right." She can return home to VN. I'm sure the social ostracisation that she might face there isn't fun but one can survive it. I come from India so I can understand the issues of "family/societal pressure" even though my own family is pretty progressive. Neither should you be pressured into remaining married just because some think it's the "right thing" to do. Frankly, I doubt that a VAWA claim will carry any weight -- it's not like you've been beating the ####### out of her or abandoned her on the highway with a suitcase.

Your profile says you're in Tuscon. Assuming this is true, you should be scrupulously careful not to go anywhere where there might be an immigration checkpoint. CBP's policy is not to try to deport someone who appears to be eligible to apply for AOS, but that doesn't mean they won't detain him (possibly for days) while they check out his story.
In case you're wondering, the current district court stay on SB-1070 doesn't affect the CBP or ICE at all. They can and do demand proof of legal presence at immigration checkpoints. Find a way to file the AOS as soon as humanly possible. He'll be lawfully present when you receive the NOA1.
A K1 can file an EAD during the 90 days that the I-94 is valid, but the card issued will expire when the I-94 expires. They can't file again until they file for AOS. In short, the answer to your question is no - your husband can't file an EAD now without also filing the AOS.

I have seen many people come on this site feeling helpless after a heartbreaking disappointment either from a denied petition, complications, or just trying to prepare for what’s ahead. In their quest for directions, I have observed people kick them while they were down. I have observed mockery. I have observed sarcasm with disrespectful intentions. I have observed bullies and I have observed disrespectful tones either in response to the OP or a participant’s comment.
Just before you make a comment, bear in mind this site is rich in diversity, and you can’t use your own cultural exposure to judge others’.
It is ok to introduce some humor but let it be to cheer up the OP/participant(s) and not to mock. If you have nothing respectfully constructively to say, please, don’t waste your time commenting. We are all adults already married or about to, so, please, show some class.
It is ok to disagree as there are always different perspectives to an issue. If you want to hide behind your computer and be rude …take that sh*t somewhere else where you can “freelance” as much as you want.
Adjust that Attitude! A bunch of words is more than enough for the wise!

Wow, they denied based only on the same surname... ridiculous. They didn't want to give the visa in the first place. The U.S. is not the only (or best) place to live.

Gary, really, what do you know of the caribbean consulates?
Give the dude a break.

If I were you, I wouldn't marry him nor would I get on the plane. Immigration issues aside, it sounds like he is not that serious or committed about you. If there are doubts before getting married, they will only be exacerbated after marriage.

I met my fiancee in person in Ghana. And being the born skeptic that I am, I do not believe in love at first sight. I visited my fiancee several times during the visa journey, got to know her family, and became good friends with one of her friends.
To rid yourself of thoughts of fraud, start mentioning or considering that you want to live in their country permanently. We were going to live only in Gh at one point. Then we decided to do the visa to allow her to meet and know my fam.

I know this is way too simplistic, but don't you wish it was as easy as showing up at a USCIS office and showing them that you are, in fact, in the country?

Guess what. When he reports this to USCIS, they will automatically suspect him of not being a good husband and it is the reason she left. Then she can claim some type of spouse abuse and be on the fast track for citizenship. Seen it happen more than once.

Nigeria and most of Africa is civilized.

A trailer park in Jackson, Kentucky and not a Christian? Don't make me laugh.

Yet, if the attackers are Christian, but never identified by their religion, Christians are not thought of as attackers, just as victims. The news is definitely skewed toward Muslims as the enemy. How convenient for you.

Interesting how the media identifies Christians by only religion when they're the alleged victims, and Muslims are only identified by religion when they're the known perpetrators. Not much of that the other way around. How convenient that is for Muslim haterz and their leaders.

getting married to more than one wife is not a crime in several parts of the world including Nigeria, so stick to what u know and dont write stuff u dont know!

According to USCIS we don't have to pay the 545 admin fee for this if we file concurrently with I485. My spouse refuses adamantly to submit to the admistration of vaccines. Since freedom of religion is a basic right guaranteed by the US constitution, I see no legal grounds for USCIS to deny the application for inadmissibility due to religious objection. If one is denied the basic right to practice their religion, it is inhumane, unconstitutional, and admissible in court as religious discrimination. By the way. Where did you obtain the information that this is unlikely to be successful? Have you attempted to file this document and been denied? Do you quote specific statistics involving real cases, or is this just an opinion?

If she thinks you can send her back, then do it. Or else you might regret not taking advantage of her not knowing.