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Hi, it is depends of what kind of illness she has. But I don't think it would be a basis for Visa denial. A delay maybe. 
I petitioned my mother last year January 2017. She was sick during the petition. I would like here to come over, so I can take care of her. I can't just go home there and stay there. I have to work. I am the bread winner. So, regarding her illness, 2 doctors diagnosed it as lung cancer but we don't know what stage because my mother does not want to do the biopsy. The nodules are spreading very fast. Fast forward, after the case closed, we received an interview date for January 2018. She did her medical test to find out she had a severe tuberculosis. Doctors even told her that she might not able to come here in the US because of the severity of her illness. She is skin and bone. It was depressing. As a normal procedure she had to undergo 8 months treatment. Thanks to God, the antibiotics they gave her was working for the first month she had started taking it. On the second month of treatment, she stopped coughing and her appetite to eat is back. She gain weight each day. She has to complete the months of treatment and completed it on Sept. 25. So, everything went well. She is cured, passed her visa interview, done with PDOS and booked her ticket to arrived here before thanksgiving. I am sharing this to you, to encourage you, that whatever illness she might have, DON't lost HOPE. Keep your FAITH knowing that God is in control. God bless. 
 

Hi, it is depends of what kind of illness she has. But I don't think it would be a basis for Visa denial. A delay maybe. 
I petitioned my mother last year January 2017. She was sick during the petition. I would like here to come over, so I can take care of her. I can't just go home there and stay there. I have to work. I am the bread winner. So, regarding her illness, 2 doctors diagnosed it as lung cancer but we don't know what stage because my mother does not want to do the biopsy. The nodules are spreading very fast. Fast forward, after the case closed, we received an interview date for January 2018. She did her medical test to find out she had a severe tuberculosis. Doctors even told her that she might not able to come here in the US because of the severity of her illness. She is skin and bone. It was depressing. As a normal procedure she had to undergo 8 months treatment. Thanks to God, the antibiotics they gave her was working for the first month she had started taking it. On the second month of treatment, she stopped coughing and her appetite to eat is back. She gain weight each day. She has to complete the months of treatment and completed it on Sept. 25. So, everything went well. She is cured, passed her visa interview, done with PDOS and booked her ticket to arrived here before thanksgiving. I am sharing this to you, to encourage you, that whatever illness she might have, DON't lost HOPE. Keep your FAITH knowing that God is in control. God bless. 
 

Hi, it is depends of what kind of illness she has. But I don't think it would be a basis for Visa denial. A delay maybe. 
I petitioned my mother last year January 2017. She was sick during the petition. I would like here to come over, so I can take care of her. I can't just go home there and stay there. I have to work. I am the bread winner. So, regarding her illness, 2 doctors diagnosed it as lung cancer but we don't know what stage because my mother does not want to do the biopsy. The nodules are spreading very fast. Fast forward, after the case closed, we received an interview date for January 2018. She did her medical test to find out she had a severe tuberculosis. Doctors even told her that she might not able to come here in the US because of the severity of her illness. She is skin and bone. It was depressing. As a normal procedure she had to undergo 8 months treatment. Thanks to God, the antibiotics they gave her was working for the first month she had started taking it. On the second month of treatment, she stopped coughing and her appetite to eat is back. She gain weight each day. She has to complete the months of treatment and completed it on Sept. 25. So, everything went well. She is cured, passed her visa interview, done with PDOS and booked her ticket to arrived here before thanksgiving. I am sharing this to you, to encourage you, that whatever illness she might have, DON't lost HOPE. Keep your FAITH knowing that God is in control. God bless. 
 

I agree with the above post. Tell him to apply to nursing home to gain experience. 

I agree with most of what you said but someone can show only “the part they want you to see” whether that relationship started online or offline. It's not true that “of course” you only know part of a person that you meet online. There are often relationships that were founded offline where the couple didn’t really know each other but thought they did and entered into a marriage. Just like a relationship with a foreigner needs more effort and work than a domestic relationship, so does an online relationship needs more work and attention [i'm talking specifically about the ones started online] than an offline one. But it doesn't mean you can't know the person you are spending time with. Skype, wireless internet, mobile phone internet, computer screen sharing and all this new technology allow people to "practically" be with a person met online. It does require a lot of time with a computer to make this kind of relationship work and be successful, so it is not for everyone.
My husband and I dated online for an entire year before we met in real life and later we got married and we are now living together. I didn't find out any "surprises" about him once we could ditch the computers, nor did I find out any surprises since I've been living with him fulltime. He's the same man, through and through, because I gave lotsssssss of time to our online relationship and so did he. We used to sleep on Skype at night, cook/study/watch tv (everything!) in front of Skype in the daytime, and shared all computer/internet info with each other. We made videos of our life when we couldn't spend it on the computer so we could see how the other lived daily. People think it's weird but that's what we needed to do to make it work. This all was despite random/sometimes scheduled rolling blackouts. I can only imagine the time you can spend with someone online if you have no rolling blackouts to deal with and/or live closer in time zones. Relationships all need different strategies based on the type (domestic, international, online, offline, etc). International relationships have their differences from domestic ones, just like online relationships have their differences from offline ones. Family and friends have been teaching, sharing, and warning about "normal" domestic relationships, so when any of us are entering into a international relationship we are experiencing something we may never have been told or warned about. The same is true for online relationships and more so for online AND international ones. The bottom line is that all relationships need time, attention, and care in order to be successful (and sometimes still don't work out!) but the things you need to pay attention to are different depending on the type of relationship you have. Starting a relationship online doesn't mean you are automatically limited in knowing the other person and that success is more difficult for you to obtain. In ANY relationship, if you don't give it the quality time and attention it requires, success is going to be more difficult for you. A successful relationship is not about where that person is from or where you developed your relationship or how MUCH time you spent together, but about how WELL you got to know that other person.
The number of weeks, months, years you spend with someone (whether offline or online) doesn’t matter if both of you were not working on and developing your relationship in that time.

Oh. true---you are right there. Really I am going to take this action for her sake, not mine. This will be the biggest gift I can offer---to send her home, and release her from the misery of life in the USA, and return her the better quality of life she came from. I am trying to be selfless.

Fill out one for yourself, and another for your wife. You sign your G325-A, she signs hers. And oh, the signatures need to be original, not scanned, faxed, or photocopied.

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I did an 8 hour layover at Narita airport coz it was the cheapest ticket that I can get... but i wasn't dreading the 8 hour, i was actually looking forward to it, I know Narita airport is a good layover and there are a lot of things to do there. I spent my layover looking around the shops and even buying a couple of souvenirs, and when i got tired of that, i took out my laptop and watch some DVD movies.
Although I do understand the OP's situation of having a kid with her... I suggest bring some toys, if you have a laptop, bring DVD's that your kid like so that your kid can watch while waiting... Also looked online what are the facilities that the layover airport has to offer so that you can plan some things to do... Most airports nowadays, especially international ones are like malls... you will be surprise of how much you can do.
Patience... patience... patience... and understanding. Goodluck and hope you have a good trip!

What do these (highlighted) words mean?
I have a question please, if you don't mind... do American men refer to their American wives as "their AMERICAN"? "Your American"? "His American"? "The American"? And vice versa? Why is it, the Pinay has to be referred as "My" or "His" Pinay? Is it difficult to say "my" / "his" fiancee and or "my" / "his" wife? I'm guessing you are trying to be complimentary but, your "the/his pinay" comments make me wonder and ask myself...do you think we Pinays are human or.. an object.
If you can refer to your own fiancee as "my fiancee"... why can't you do the same to others'? What is the difference between "your" Pinay fiancee and other American's Pinay fiancee?
Again, I am happy because my husband has never referred to me as 'His Pinay". He's indeed one of a kind!

Yep, lots of April and May Filers are still waiting for their petitions to be approved - including my fiance and I. You are right, it's not fair. And it does make me angry at times. But as there is nothing we can do but wait, it's best to keep yourself busy, try to stay positive and not to take it personally. Don't fight it because it will only make you go crazy...just go with the flow. I think this process is the Universe's way of teaching me patience. Stay strong!

Please try to be patient. I know I was not.
But I always try to remember I cannot complain until 5 months passed. Mine came after 3.5 months. It was the hardest wait. I seen others approved who applied after me. But, I remembered a passage from the Bible that states a story that Jesus offered men to come work tomorrow and He will pay them. Some people arrived at 6am and some arrived at 6pm. Jesus paid them all the same. The people who worked since 6am became mad. Jesus said why are you mad....You got what I promised. So, in the end most of us will get what is ours... even if others get a better deal, we knew what we were signing up for.
Good luck

I'm not at all saying don't give them advice but some people are very harsh about it, basically callingthat person stupid... I have actually seen that. A simple "not a good idea" and an explanation would suffice. No need to be mean to people.

While there are a few people here who are perennial pessimists, most people here are genuinely trying to help. When someone says that they've done something, or suggests that they want to do something, that's well known here to be a big mistake then people are definitely going to strongly recommend against it. That's why this site exists - to make sure people are getting good advice.
People are told repeatedly not to make any concrete plans until after they have the visa in hand. This advice even comes from the consulates. When someone insists on doing something that they've been told repeatedly not to do then it's only proper for people here to condemn that action. It may not be "nice", but if people "don't say anything at all" then other new members will get the impression that it's OK, and they'll blame VJ for not warning them when their world collapses around them because their visa was postponed or denied.
Just because one person does something they were warned not to do and they get away with it, that doesn't make it advisable for others. One person's experience does not become a blueprint for everyone else. It's the collective experience of everyone that should be relied upon. You might have made firm wedding plans in advance and things might have worked out fine for you. If so, congratulations. However, if you advise someone else to do the same thing and their plans blow up in their faces because the visa is delayed then you'll have to live with the fact that you helped contribute to their misery.

Do you have kids from him? how long does he stay here in the Philippines when he visits? talk to a lawyer, maybe their is a chance to dissolve the marriage for the ground of abandonment since their is no financial support. Message me if u need help. I have friends with connections. I am sorry u got yourself fooled. I don't think he filed your papers. Stop listening to his lies..you are getting old waiting. Move on! God bless you.

First, just to clarify the Prostitute thing, the Prostitute is the one who receives pay and provides sex, the John is the one who provides payment and received sex. She is the Prostitute and you're her highest paying John!
Now if you want to use the labels "BLIND", "DUMB", "STUPID" then go right ahead.
I'm assuming shes physically stunning? Maybe you feel she's "out of your league"? If that's the case then your ego wants so badly to believe that you are worthy of a woman you've elevated so much.
The irony is that her actions have proven that her beauty is very shallow and masks a lot of ugliness just beneath the surface. She is the one who should be hoping she is worthy of a man such as yourself.
I think you know the answers to your questions and how she will not change if you bother to import her to the US.
In short if the sex is worth the expense then go ahead and bring her her but expect to lose that in very short order.
Otherwise just file for divorce locally (where you live) and move on with your life...

Hello! Why does it matter whether he is African American or Caucasian? Does that matter in this situation? Why did you even have to bring his race up? Is it your friend or you that needs the advice? At any rate, she should know if he has another woman or not nobody on here can help her. She needs to follow him and see what he does when he is not at home or just come out and ask him.

Just the same, this is yet another reminder about cultural differences. Some differences make life hilarious, while some are daunting. I read about folks here wanting a K-1 visa and who have not even met one another yet. Getting to know the other person in detail is never a bad thing, and this shows it. I am glad the OP posted this, in case others see themselves using the same line of thought.

OK - You've gotten some good feedback from folks on the logistics of the error that transpired for your petition. In view of the blame game- then perhaps now would be a critical time to work on the relationship, maturity and attitude issues as well. This petition process is only the tip of the iceberg. Marriage and living together is usually a difficult partnership to be in no matter who you are. Takes a lot of 'you may have spilled the milk, but we'll clean it up together.' .... and that needs to come from both of you.

Well..wow. That was a lot of reading. I felt that I needed to respond to this because my situation is similar (feel free to read my timeline in my signature for details). We visited back and forth for over a year, and during my last visit here, he proposed, we got married. We've lived together before and each time I came here to visit and each time I went back home. We have tons of proof of marriage, there was no intent to immigrate, that doesn't mean that I don't have the right to apply for AOS because other people go through K1 or CR1 processes and have to be away from their loved ones. Each case is different, some get approved, others denied, it's a scary and long process that we all just want to get over with.
Back to topic, he asked for advice, I didn't see him state that it was her intention to immigrate, most couples live together while they're visiting anyway so that has no bearing on the situation. My husband and I did this without a lawyer, if you can read, you can fill out all the forms and send it in without problems, if there's something missing, they'll send you an RFE, Bottom line, if the during the interview they suspect that you committed visa fraud, then you have a problem, however, no one can know that but you. The steps my husband and I took:
1) Did a lot of reading on VJ and USCIS.
2) You (the petitioner) will need to file form I-130 for your wife
3) Your wife (the beneficiary) needs to file the I-485 and I-765 (for employment) and the I-693 (medical exam from a civil surgeon)and also there is the I-864 which proves that you are able to support her financially.
4) Form G-325A (biographic) for both of you.
5) Form G-1145 for email and mail notifications.
Each form comes with a separate instructions file and the required papers that need to be attached to each form are listed. It will require a lot of reading and concentration but it can be done.
Certain evidence that the marriage isn't a fraud is also required to be submitted, like pictures, affidavits (which a sworn notarized statement from people who know you), joint bank account, property, etc. All this information is available for you under the forms section on the USCIS website.
There are also certain lawyers that will give free consultation over the phone. IF you feel that you need it, use it and if you feel that you'll feel better to have a lawyer, I would hire one. Regarding the overstay of your wife, If you get your notification that your application has been received and under review, she is not allowed to leave the country or the application will be considered abandoned and you will lose the fees you paid and have to start over. If she does overstay before the notification, I believe it will be forgiven since she is married to a USC.
Good luck.

That is really rude.
I think you misunderstand how things work.
Don't you think it would be preferable if a lawyer told them that?

I have a filipina friend who live in Hawaii who also married a filipino USC, they have been in Hawaii for 10 years... if you see her right now, you will not think that she went through a lot with the in-laws before... she said that in the early stage of their relationship she was struggling so much she almost gave up... but she keep on bravely... she works, never complain and just let things go...i think everything slowly change when the in-laws did not see her as a threat, she also reached out to the in-laws making them feel comfortable that she is not competing with their son's attention... and i guess when you start to have kids... this will greatly help. Right now, they have a small business of their own, their own place and 3 kids.
I am guessing that you are a young couple? This is the reality of marrying of young man, you have to be part of their growing up... This is also very common in the Philippines... sons will always be their mom's baby, same way as daughters will always be Daddy's little girl... actually, its not only Philippines... You said you are working right? Concentrate on your work, start a hobby... like I said things will fall in place at the right time in the right place... we are famous for being "matiisin", survive!!! your husband need your support too... understand also his situation of being in the middle of it... his mom and aunt might be a source of stress for him... and you are also a source of stress for him... you cannot make him turn around 360 degrees by pushing him to understand how you feel... stay with him and be supportive... he will come out of it soon enough.
God bless!

I guess, she will be happy in the US, besides, her sister is there that's a plus for her compare to any Filipina that no relatives in the US at all. If Love brings her there in the US, I am sure she will be happy living there. I am sure she will not go back in the Philippines when she step in the US. No reason to apply for K1 and will not get married. As you said, you love your fiancee very much. K1 is a short visa for her to stay there, after the visa end, what will happened? go back to Phils again and you will be separated? That's a sad thing. Returning in the Philippines with her after your retirement is always possible. But if she will return in the Philippines after K1 is ended is another bloody suffering of separation for a couples who truly love each other. God bless.