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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Hank_ in American vs Filipino   
    Who give a rat's azz about a survey. So you are of the belief that a woman that is still a virgin at age 21 or older because that is her choice is not a reality? You believe the poster I was replying to that its because "nobodys tried" .... to that I still respond.... BS! Your thinking is SO derogatory towards women!
    So are you a troll? Using this site to see if taking the "visa journey" or notis for you.... ? Really? (maybe finding a woman would help with that decision) Somethings smells and its not the fish...
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to jamster in American vs Filipino   
    darren's top 20 fun and light-hearted comments
    darren, if those are your top 20 fun and light-hearted things, i'm pretty sure i don't want to read your bottom 20.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to B_J in American vs Filipino   
    This part is from me, Benny..
    The differences I experienced in the Philippines were that people seemed much happier. I also grew to like all the singing. It seemed like everyday when I woke up, somebody in the neighborhood was having a birthday party and the singing had already started.
    For some reason, I liked seeing basketball played everywhere. Until I got involved in a game and got beat by a bunch of kids half my age and they were all wearing flip flops. But, I liked that it was a fun game; not an angry, viscous trash-talking game.
    I really can't explain it, but I simply loved our transportation in town. If we need to go somewhere, we start walking and before we get to the end of the block, a trike would pick us up. And I really, really loved riding trikes. I'm like the Geico piggy, weeeeeeeeeee!
    I loved the scenery when we'd go from one city to another. It seemed like I was the only one in the van looking around all the time.
    I didn't even mind that little stared at me all the time. And it was really cool the first time a kid slapped my hand on his forehead. Yesssssss!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to ~happyndinlove~ in American vs Filipino   
    County Fair "losers" never get eaten?
    BS stereotype.! None of my family has ever eaten our "pet"! Is this is an attempt to embarass your wife? Telling all VJ that your wife's family eats their pets?
    I'm surprised you act like (as an American) you never bartered before. Think a little bit and I'm sure you can recall a recent trade.
    USA bartering? I will give you an example. What do you call trading in an old car to purchase a new one?? Here is a USA Today article for your enlightenment. Yes, it's about bartering in America.
    Here's an idea for you. Might sharpen your obvious research skills. Google "American bartering" or "USA bartering" or any version of the 2.
    Everything you have posted may be the "typical" routine and "RITUAL" at your wife's area BUT, DO NOT include me (my family and ours) in ignorant BS stereotypes!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to thinkerlove0212 in American vs Filipino   
    Darren, you would not last a week if you retired to Philippines. You do not represent any of us well and would make many enemies there.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to b & q in American vs Filipino   
    I'm just glad Darren is back, I have a way to entertain myself at work now!
    :pop: :pop:
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Philwithlove in cooking   
    Darren, my husband loves to cook on weekends as his way of being "sweet and loving husband" to me. Consider it and for sure, gretchen will love you more.
    When visiting with other filipinas, although we dont talk tagalog that much, talking in any dialect/languages is no big deal for my husband. It's my bonding time with fellow filipinos and it's a break for "nose-bleeding talking in full english". LOL. Besides, American husbands of filipinas have their own crowd too. They go visit, have some beer and talk about their filipina wives too. LOL.
    Next time you go visit with the visayan friends of gretchen, visit with the american husband, offer him some drink and with that, problem solved!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to ~happyndinlove~ in Filipina   
    I have been a member on this site since 2009. I have seen / read lots of stereotyping, racism, insulting and degrading posts directed to Pinays in many different ways. These comments come from the same (ole and new) guys over and over. Now, tell me that these men are just kidding each time they post their disgusting comments. Apparently, your understanding about this (what I consider despicable) behavior is different from mine.
    How could you throw your own under the bus? Ridiculing them for how they react to the (endless disgusting) stereotype? Kids cannot communicate their wants very well because they're just kids. Yet, their parents understand and love them inspite of their poor communiation skills. The "men" perpetrating stereotypes aren't kids anymore. I agree that some people are not perfect at communicating, but that doesn't (and will never) justify the degradation and insults these "men" pour onto Pinays.
    While I agree with your first^^ sentence, I disagree with the rest. My husband has never categorized me or held me suspect as one of the "rotten" ones. Had he ever treated me as one of the "rotten" ones in any way whatsoever hmmmm, let's say the consequences would be DIRE!! Allowing yourself to be "generalized" is the same as allowing yourself to be stereotyped and complicit with the offense. My heritage is Filipino. My name is Eileen. My life story is unique as is yours. I will not compromise my individuality.
    I personally did not listen to the seminar at the CFO simply because I did not need their BS.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to B_J in Filipina   
    Sadly, one thing I've seen on here many times is where the older American feels the need to "teach" the younger Filipina a lesson, and these lessons are usually demeaning and humilating. Very seldom do we hear where the American man learns anything from his partner.
    I'll confess that, because of my marriage, I've learned to be a better person; I try to be more polite and understanding. And definitely, because of my wife, I am now closer to the rest of my family.
    Of the two of us, she is by far the better person.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Crashed~N2~Me in Filipina   
    I am frustrated with the constant (posted) stereotypes, male chauvinism, abusive sexism and regular insults...thrown at Filipino women and culture.
    IMO and my observation...There are not many men (relatively speaking) that seek and marry a Filipina following "western" relationship equality guidelines (so to speak). "It's a man's world" is the dominate mentality amongst (many but not all) men in Fil-Am relationships. That is (often but not always) why we see posts stating.."my Pinay" or .."my Filipina". (at 46 years old I have never heard an American..man or woman...refer to their spouse as...my American)
    I refer to these (most but not all) men as "predators". They go to PI hunting a product.
    One VJ poster often refers to Filipino women as "units" (even typing the statement makes my blood pressure rise). Not woman...lady...girl...or even female. Nope...he chooses .."unit". Tell me..is he thinking product or person?
    Another will state..."having been married to 3 Filipinas...(get this) I KNOW THEM NOW AND HOW THE FILIPINA THINKS." (I don't think it's a good idea to take advice from a 3 time loser. Common denominator? The 3 time loser.)
    Another poster..."believe me...I've been around the Filipina and I know how they can be." (Have I lost something in translation? Isn't this a blatant stereotype comment made by a racist?)
    (I can quote many more examples but 3 is good for now.)
    My question...what's the motivator? The root or roots of these offenses?
    Asian Flu? Yellow Fever? Olongapo? AC? (The lure is cast and the fish bite?)
    (is it) "Age doesn't matter in PI...? (I welcome stories about Pinay / Pinoy marriages with large (20+ years) age gaps...any1? any1?)
    (could it be) Kano's rejected and burn out with failed "western" relationships having no confidence but the (often very few) Dollars they have in their pocket used to purchase a (better future) wife from a hopelessly impoverished family "gifting" away a breadwinner for a better tomorrow?
    Thank you for reading. Any and all feedback is very welcome.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to May God bless me in March interviews   
    My visa was issued on 28 March as well!!!

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    Mark/Rissana reacted to cardilene in Travel Tax, Terminal Fee, PDOS   
    After so many years of waiting, our petition has been approved, and we already got our visas,
    and had our flight book already. Sadly, and I know many will agree on how much our government
    is taking advantage of every traveling Filipino, every traveling filipino is required to pay
    the TRAVEL TAX, a TERMINAL FEE and have to attend a PDOS (Pre-departure Orientation Seminar (PDOS) or the Peer Counseling Seminar)...
    I can accept that I have to pay the terminal fee (PhP550-750), for I know it is used for the maintenance of the airport
    and its facilities. However, I am not sure where the TRAVEL TAX is going, which is around PhP1620 ...
    While the PDOS is only PhP400, it left me wondering that the government can simply impose any kind of HASSLE
    just to milk a few bucks out of its own citizen, it is quite sad to see that in this day and age,
    traveling Filipinos are helpless in such system. It sucks,..!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Laure&Colin in March interviews   
    I can't wait for March to come! I want to write APPROVED in front of the names in our list!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Harpa Timsah in Filipina Fiancee Freaking Out   
    You're not being very nice to her. Referring to her as a piece of meat on the Golden Corral Buffet, and telling her it's all her fault you can't pay for the visa.
    Sickening.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to skidivawannabe in Things you find na kakaiba sa US of A   
    Just because people take their time it doesn't mean they have nothing better to do. Travel around the world and you will see the pace of life varies from place to place. Travel to Italy and you'll be overwhelmed on how SLOW they are. LOL So does that mean they have nothing better to do? I don't think so. It's culture. Maybe that's why people who live in these slow-paced places are better natured in general.
    On the other side, the waitress is "kicking you out" because they want to get out of their shift ASAP because they are tired and want to get off from the floor away from nasty, ill-mannered, condescending, entitled customers who think you owe them even your personal time. LOL.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to maim3 in Things you find na kakaiba sa US of A   
    It's MORE FUN in the PHILIPPINES!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to TimeTravel in My CR1 Interview experience   
    Congratulations! May God bless you both!
    Enjoyed to read your story!
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to marklovetina in Age difference of fiance to fiancee?   
    we filed K1, but i think there is no difference between a couple married which is Cr1 or filing a fiancee visa.... honey ko is older than me for 23 yrs., he doesnt have lots of money in his pocket.. bank... i am not desperate to come here in US.. i have a good life in the PH... Y i am here in US right now...? it is bcoz honey ko doesnt want to live in the PH...
    i am not hypocrite.. some woman marry white guys bcoz they want to come here in US.. they want security.. but who among us doesnt like security?... sometimes woman marry older guys bcoz they doesnt like young guys... as to my previous marriage to a young man it didnt work out... so i preferred to marry an older guy.... but it doesnt mean too that there is no responsible young man... it is just bcoz i fell in love with honey ko... bcoz we have a good chemistry working out our marriage...
    our relationship is not base in money.. but for (L) ... right now honey ko doesnt earn any money... but still i support him whatever he wants to do... that is love...
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to TeapotGirl in Age difference of fiance to fiancee?   
    I am marrying him for both reasons plus we get along and I am happy. I would not marry just because I love him nor because of money. Breads "When were hungry love will keep is alive" is bull**** same thing with 4M's. I never had a death on a immediate family and that sounds devastating.
    1. P6k? Is there any call centers in remote area? I am Level 2 technical troubleshooter. It pays 5 figures every month. (clue- P10K x 2 plus) It pays more than food chain supervisor or teacher.
    2. True, you have to at least in the 2nd year college to have a job as a sales clerk here in Manila. But I didn't become a sales clerk. I could have teached if I wanted to but call center pays more.
    3. Call my line "get any guy if I wanted to" boastful but I heard that line for countless of times from the same people like you who has issues with my relationship.
    4. Inner beauty is a Beauty contest cliche. True, but beautiful people always sells and easily liked. It pays to be beautiful.
    5, I am just not sure if I want to live in the US or not that's why I took K-1 route--So why did you ever had your fiancee petition for you --another red ** . - HUH? I have never been in the US. How will I know if I really don't like it there if I wont give it a try?
    6. Me and my fiance have been together for 5 yrs. Yes, I am on a trial error stage- where to live Oh yeah, my fiance is very aware of this and as a matter of fact, he's the one who told me that it's ok to relocate because he noticed that I can't tolerate the AC. I may have worked in a building with cold freezing AC temp but I wear 2 thick layers of clothing from neck to toe.
    My fiance is retired, so he can basically be anywhere in the world so residence is not an issue to him. He just leave it to me where I can be happier on both career and cultural side. He knows that even if call center pays a lot, I do not like it. I just do it because I sent my brother in a nursing school. He just graduated this November. I know he'll have a hard time to look for a job because of the course's oversupply but he is on his own now specially when I get married
    Now, I do not mean to be boastful. I just do not like the term DESPERATE so I have to tell you what's my background so you could cut me some slack. I am personally against some young girls marrying a way old foreigner so this guy will support her entire family. Because of that, couples like us becomes affected with such stereotyping. Well that's fine. I just need to be a croc skin for the most part.
    Also God isn't just teaching to be humble but also not to be judgmental. That's what Jesus Christ taught us about Mary Magdalene, right?
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to MI.PI in Age difference of fiance to fiancee?   
    I don’t think that a huge age gap between couples may be considered a norm in the Philippines. While there are some known personalities in the country who are in this category, it is still a situation often found to be inadmissible by most people. I must say though that if it involves a filipina and a foreigner, then people are more tolerant about it.
    As to the real intention and reason for getting into this kind of situation, I don’t think it is anybody’s business to even question it. There are a lot of factors to consider in every decision we make in our lives and unless you are in the exact same circumstances, then no one has the right to judge other people’s choices in life.
    In most cases, I don’t think younger filipinas make a conscious effort to be out in the dating scene and be on the look out for much older guys. Same goes for the older foreign guys who happen to find a much younger woman. It just happens that fate and circumstances brought them together, developed fondness along the way that eventually led to lifelong commitment of marriage. Somehow, these couples are aware of the fact that there will always be prejudice and judgment and I admire those who are able to overcome this hurdle in a respectable manner.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to southcalhog in Age difference of fiance to fiancee?   
    I Agree with "Ron and Diana", I find that comment rather offensive myself. i dont know what you base your opinion 'on", whether you know some individuals in that age disparity or if it is your own opinion based on whatever. Unless you KNOW a 50 year old and a 20 year old personally, that relationship went South, I would withhold judgement on others, Especially those I know nothing about!! :thumbs:
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Dan and Judy in Irritated   
    She has nothing in common with these "much older" ladies except you. It is just silly to expect them to become best bud's. Imagine how much fun it would be for you to go spend a special weekend with her great uncle George who is 20 years older than you and lives on a sugar plantation. Just you and him kicking back in your hammocks sipping tuba and exchanging war stories.
    Imagine not only getting to spend the weekend with him, but having him live close by so he could stop by whenever he felt like it and insist that you stop by his place to catch the latest spider fight.
    And then to top it off, imagine your wife bitching at you because you don't seem sufficiently grateful for his lavish attention.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Ron and Rhea in Irritated   
    No worries on the spelling, there were a few, ironically the use of the word, 'to' to explain that you were 'too' tired, was one, haha...just messing with you...Are you a Marine? Noticed your 'signature', I am one.
    But I digress.....
    I think your post contains a lot of feelings from you Dex. I know you love your wife and want her to get out and become more acclimated, and in time she will. You have provided the path for her, however she has to be willing to walk it.
    As for the invite to KC, maybe your wife feels awkward now that the other Filipina isn't going? I assume the other gals are all Caucasians...? Maybe she feels awkward or uncomfortable at this stage of her being here to go off to another state doing a GNO, 'girls night out'...? Maybe it would help if you pictured yourself in the Philippines, with the same thing going on....? Seeing from her eyes?
    Thats just my opinion Dex, you seem to have a loving relationship, so it is just a bump in the road, it will work out. Maybe you can explain to your friends why your wife doesn't want to go.
    Good luck.
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    Mark/Rissana reacted to Dan and Judy in reputation   
    On the serious side, the crime here was not lack of communication but a deplorable lack of discretion. Both his parents have talked to her and the lady from the church he calls his spiritual mother.
    Then he goes and tells her that he is keeping her a secrete from the family and the church. He had no need to tell her that. Of course that would freak a girl out, especially since in her eyes
    they are already married. She wasn't making up the words, that's what he told her.
    I think Brandon has an acceptable reason for not making a public announcement before Beth gets here but not a great one.
    He said "but if I tell people now they will judge her by my x"
    The truth is he is afraid of them judging HIM to be an idiot for making the same mistake again.
    His plan is to wait for her to get here so they can see that she is different.
    The plan would work fine without mentioning to Beth that she was being kept a secret.
    It just caused her needless anxiety.
    Beth, as he said, he is ashamed of himself for letting himself be used by the first wife. He is not ashamed of you. In fact he is looking for you to be his redemption.
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