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    sjr09 got a reaction from Anh map in Black ink pen or Blue ink pen???   
    Black ink can look like photocopies.
    Both my wife and I singed our sigs 'only' with blue ink for any doc that required original signature, no problems.
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    sjr09 reacted to Visitor in Should I give up or fight for him?   
    I can't believe so many people are telling the OP to go to marriage counseling. That only works when BOTH parties want the marriage to work. Clearly the guy in this partnership does not wish to stay married any more!
    This isn't just a rough spot in a marriage or a few marital problems that can be ironed out.
    The guy doesn't want to be married anymore. Sad but true! He's too young to be married and know what he wants. He just enjoys the chase and will continue to be an internet predator.
    You asked in your thread title if you should give up or fight for him.
    Who are you going to fight?? HIM??? You can't fight him for HIMSELF!!
    You are NOT fighting another woman for him. You WOULD be trying to fight HIM. He's already said he doesn't want you anymore. Sad and hurtful words to be sure but it is what it is. You should move on while you are still young and have your whole life in front of you.
    Try looking ahead a few years and see where you really want to be. You sound intelligent and have ambitions. Surely you don't want your future to include a spouse who is untrustworthy and unreliable. Surely you would want a real man who will stand by you through thick and thin. A man who doesn't have to have his laptop snooped though to check on him. Sounds nice doesn't it to have such a man?! Sorry to say this isn't him. Get rid of the kid you married, continue with your schooling and your ambitions and move on with your life. You are young and will get over it. There are plenty or men more worthy of you than this kid.
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    sjr09 reacted to Boiler in Quotas on fiancee visas for the Philippines?   
    http://lmgtfy.com/?q=221g
    Here you go.
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Inky in Quotas on fiancee visas for the Philippines?   
    Your posts have contributed nothing positive or informational to the subject other then attacking other members.
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    sjr09 got a reaction from C-ma'am in Quotas on fiancee visas for the Philippines?   
    Google 221g........... Google is your friend
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Coloradocouple95 in I am in need of advice for Co-sponsorship   
    Now that we know what country she will be interviewing in I don't think you'll find much help for you questions in the Philippines forum. If you change your flag to the country she is currently living in, then your post wont carry over to the Philippines forums Try posting in Middle East and North Africa forums.
    Good Luck
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    sjr09 reacted to Penguin_ie in K1 again same beneficiary   
    Everything will be exactly the same second time around- same forms, same waiting etc. She will be asked some pointed questions at the interview as to why she didn't get married first time, I assume you have a very good reason.
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    sjr09 reacted to Gary and Alla in I-129F RETURNED REJECTED   
    A mistake in the amount of the check or any other very BASIC error often means there are other issues which would not cause a rejection but WILL cause an RFE. Good advice!
    The only things that cause a rejection are improper check amounts, lack of payment or lack of signatures. Any other error will be addressed with an RFE much later and at greater loss of time.
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Iyawo Ijebu in FILING PETITION   
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Wally G! in FILING PETITION   
    How long does it take the average person who has no knowledge of the petition process, to review instruction, gather documents, ask question and complete forms and mail in their petition?
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    sjr09 reacted to Ban Hammer in FILING PETITION   
    part of the forum expertise is in recognizing that professional help is the best option in some cases due to a variety of factors. to believe that every vj member's situation fits the cookie cutter concept of self help is seriously misinformed.
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    sjr09 reacted to pushbrk in FILING PETITION   
    It doesn't have to work that way. Just as there are multiple ways to "skin a cat", there are many methods of managing an immigration process. Not all of them involved mailing things, anything, to any third party.
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    sjr09 reacted to Dan and Judy in Propane Protocol in PI   
    would it be fair for the man to carry the tank to the refill station and the woman to carry it home?
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Matt & Bing in UGENT Many do not know about this!!!!!!!!   
    The reason being, it has nothing to do with US polices or US visa requirements. Therefore it will never be on any packet instructions
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    sjr09 got a reaction from I AM NOT THAT GUY in UGENT Many do not know about this!!!!!!!!   
    The reason being, it has nothing to do with US polices or US visa requirements. Therefore it will never be on any packet instructions
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    sjr09 got a reaction from thinkerlove0212 in CFO Seminar   
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    sjr09 reacted to Leatherneck in Harsh Question   
    I tend to agree with you here, the Poverty Guidelines would be a challenge for a single person to have a decent existence, depending on where one lives. But to think of trying to be married and only be at 125% of the Poverty level is scary, then adding children to the mix is quite frankly frightening.
    With an income hovering meagerly above the Poverty Guidelines, there is little room for emergencies or for the things in life that just tend to happen.
    In the politically correct environment of today, one is considered 'mean,' 'hateful' or lacking compassion to suggest that others be responsible for themselves and take responsibility for their actions.
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    sjr09 reacted to EmelyNJoel in Harsh Question   
    I've seen a number of people complain about the 125% of poverty requirement. 125% of Poverty level is really NOT a lot of money.
    The next part might seem harsh, but if 125% of poverty level IS a lot of money to the USC, then maybe they should reconsider whether they have the means to bring a foreign national to the US for marriage, and to start a family.
    No I'm not hating... and I don't' want to start a flame war, I just want to make sure people are prepared for their situations. Part of that is planning for the unexpected, having money put away for a rainy day, etc. is part of that being prepared.
    So I'm asking the VJ community for their opinions on this. Seriously no flaming. An intelligent discussion on being prepared for major life events.
    I'd liken this to couples who actually plan a pregnancy for when they are emotionally and financially ready, and those couples (like most of us) who get pregnant and deal with the repercussions as they are able.
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    sjr09 reacted to in Ok Scandal, Marc stopped in to say hi. What about you?   
    You have talked with him at least a couple hundred times. Your memory can't be that bad.
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    sjr09 got a reaction from Mark&Fatima in Share your interview experiences   
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    sjr09 reacted to SMOKE in She's doing it again.   
    bipolar
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    sjr09 reacted to A and T in She's doing it again.   
    My advice is once she has the baby, get a paternity test DO NOT sign the birth certificate without one. Her actions make it seem as if she has something going on behind your back. Taking the car out, not coming home, being mad at you while "on the phone" Play it safe make sure the child is yours , if it is then support your child and divorce her if thats what she wants put her out of the house.
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    sjr09 reacted to rlogan in She's doing it again.   
    I mentioned this before as a juvenile manipulative stunt. Creating the problem themselves... Then blaming you for it. The more practiced manipulators are very cunning and subtle about engineering these instead of playing it so obviously like a six year old. Regardless, the difference between this and kicking you in the nuts is that at least kicking you is open and above-board instead of underhanded and deceitful.
    Well, no - that may be a catalyst but it merely set loose all the built-up resentment, disrespect, anger, etc. that is at the core of your problems.
    You mentioned you "don't believe in divorce". The problem with that is the only way people like this learn is by having consequences to their actions. Younger and immature women need to have their boyfriends leave them because of their malicious behavior. Then they learn cooperative behavior. But if they are just malicious people at heart then there is nothing you can do about them except leave them. If you have told her you don't believe in divorce then you've told her she will never be held accountable. You're going to have to change that belief or else she'll change it for you. It doesn't mean you divorce her tomorrow, but if she doesn't start acting like an adult then by the time you do finally decide to divorce her then it's too late. You will despise her so much from so many years of abuse that any chance of forgiveness is lost.
    If she is 27 years old and therefore 23 when you got together then she's either got a personality problem or she just doesn't love you. The fact she is pregnant and you are on a diet can be factors but this has been a long-term problem. One of the things you have to do is recognize that the purpose of malicious behavior is to get you angry. To hurt you. The instant you see what they're up to - call them on it and refuse to let it work on you.
    Lira put her wedding & engagement rings down on my desk in front of me three days ago and said "We need a break". She was angry because I made her do something difficult in deep snow on the snowmachine and it has been hard for her to get over her fear of it. But it is absolutely a life and death matter if we are twenty miles out in the wilderness and she blows it like she was doing in practice. But when she put the rings down, I started laughing, and finished the script for her: "I really mean it this time...". I got her laughing too. These Filipina Units do have a manufacturing defect called "Stupid Pride". If you yell at them for making the same mistake three times in a row that's the best way to call stupid pride into action. So they'll "show you" by quitting. Then they're going to act out maliciously. So I diffused it instead of letting it ruin a whole day. Whenever she does this I tell her I know exactly what she is up to, and it isn't going to work: you want me to be angry. If you butt heads with her then it just escalates.
    She has spent three days practicing now, and she is getting much better. I hid the wedding rings real quick while the kids had her attention distracted at the time of this little event. Heheheheh. I let her know where they were yesterday. She thought she could find them without having to ask. Hopefully you guys could get to the point where you can overcome stupid pride like that and end up making a fun game out of what happened.
    Counseling is definitely in order for its value in impartial referee service. Not that she is all to blame. Nobody's perfect including you. But if she won't do it then the future is pretty easy to see. She's going to use that baby as a manipulative weapon to hurt you, and ultimately the real victim is going to be the child.
    "Shaming" is what the literature calls it when she says that you "can't handle it on your own" without a counselor. She knows that is deceitful and underhanded, but she has no scruples about that. This is the reason for bringing her into counseling. So that when she is guilt-tripping you, lying, shaming, using selective memory, etc. the counselor can call her on it. When it is perpetrated upon the child, or if the child is made a pawn in the war between spouses - it is a bad environment for them to grow up in.
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    sjr09 reacted to Darnell in She's doing it again.   
    He can always change his mind about the divorce.
    What he CANNOT change is her behavior. Only SHE can change that - and she's not interested to do that.
    I stand by my original posit.
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    sjr09 reacted to Darnell in She's doing it again.   
    Yup, after 4 years, she pulls this? time to go.
    4 years is enough time to blossom into an adult. She's not done that. I never mentioned 'over-night' - that's yer label.
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