sweetchops

also i dont plan on looking for a job in the U.S.. I dont plan on anything. I just go with whatever unexpected twist arrises. Im still young and my career paths being molded. I could be back working in USA next year, or I may never be living in the USA again. I just dont know, but it would be nice to know what options i have given any unexpected situations. I just keep my online resume on job recruiting sites. sometimes i get U.S. employers calling me, sometimes i get foreign employers, so i dont really look for any job. opportunities come and i go with the best one that throws itself at me. So, i dont know where ill be in the future, and thats why im stressed, because i have to know my options for all situations.

well sometimes I get job offers at the spur of the moment. if suddenly i get a job offer that is too good to turn down, and the starting date is within a month, well I have to take it, if its in the best interest of the future. Ive had cases like this, so I just want to know what to expect should I have a situation like this. So, if i need to return to the U.S. in 2-3 weeks to start a new job, pretty much I leave her behind? Yes / No? And if she visits using her tourist visa during the immigration process, i would assume she would need to fly back to finish the last stage of the immigration process? Im not incredibly rich and paying for a $1,500 round trip ticket, then another $1,000 to fly her back after immigration clears is not cheap for me, but i guess itll just have to be..

On the other hand, if I am in Syria still, and i get a job offer that begins in 2 or 3 weeks in the USA, in this case I pretty much have to leave her behind while she files for immigration? 2 to 3 weeks doesnt sound like much time to go through all the immigration stuff. Or are there easier ways to deal with a situation like this as well, such as a "sped up" immigration process in which the majority can be finished upon arrival in USA?? Or should i just accept that in this scenario, i pretty much have to bite the bullet and leave her behind for a while?

Also she has many many many blood related family members who are already U.S. citizens, such as her uncle and many cousins. Will this speed up the process or possibly provide any additional options?

Ok, but what if I have to move back to the USA on the pronto? Like suddenly i obtain a job offer and they need me back in the states in a couple weeks? In this case, pretty much i have to leave her and have her go through immigration while im back in USA away from her?

Also, another qusetion. What if i visit family in USA and bring her along on her tourist visa, and plans change and suddenly I obtain a job during my temporary stay in USA. Under these circumstances, she could go through immigration if i can prove that the employer notified me that I was officially hired while I was already back in the USA in what was originally expected to be a temporary visit. Correct?

Oh and sorry, just a bit stressed. Not to sound rude or anti-government or anything.

basically having that in mind, just makes me nervous about the future and is more stressful than just going through the immigration right after marriage. Hope that makes sense. i dont want to always be wondering if her immigration will be denied even if we been married for many years. That would keep me from ever being able to move back to my country as well, as I dont believe in divorcing her because of U.S. governmental logistics denying her immigration. If her immigration was denied just the following months after the wedding, then divorce would be a little more justified since we have not had lots of time to grow accustomed to living with each other and building a life with each other.

so, ya, i have a right to be more stressed concerning the variables for my case, as opposed to filing for immigration right after the wedding. Basically I cant feel realaxed until the whole immigration thing is completed, and if i dont go through immigration for say, 15 or 20 years in the distant future, then im not going to feel relaxed about future prospects of returning to my home country America

i plan on doing everything legitimately. I just worry about the future and if plans DO change, the possibility of me having to leave her for a long time if I have to go back to the USA. I think its a lot worse to be married for a few years, become accustomed to living with her, then having to leave her for a year, as opposed to leaving her for a year from the very begining, then never having to worry again once the immigration is completed. Thats my problem. Marrying her then leaving her then living with her forever is less stressful, to me, than marrying her, living with her for a long duration THEN leaving her for a duration before reuniting. Makes moving back to my homeland less tempting.

ok, so put simply, if I need to return to USA perminently, basically its Bye bye, see you in a year or so, heres some rent money while your going through Immigration in Syria. Is that pretty much how its going to have to work? Even if we have been married for years and she has visited USA multiple times? ALl of a sudden now she cant visit the USA as soon as I need to move back perminently?

ok, but the point is its NOT to bypass immigration. So if she has the tourist visa already, and has already visited USA a few times, temporarly, and suddenly theres a job offer back in the USA or some other reason I need to return to the USA perminently, do I have to leave her alone in Syria (or send her back to Indonesia) and go through the immigration there, or can she come back to the USA on the tourist visa and go through immigration there?

In a case like this, i dont see this as any real exploitation of the tourist visa since the tourist visa was applied for and obtained for legitimate reasons of temporary visitation. Im just saying if plans change..

ok, so if i showed a contract and got a letter from my current employer showing that my employment is in Syria and that obviously we plan on returning to SYria where i reside, this should improve the chances, right? Also maybe if i paid the rent on my apartment in Syria for the upcoming month after my planned return from USA, this would help as well. Are these the type of things your talking about in order to convince them that its only for temporary visits? then again, a 10 year visa may still be hard, considering my employer only does 2 year contracts at a time... I dont see how to convince them with any type of material papers.

Also, what would happen if suddenly I did plan on moving back to the USA perminently at some point in the next few years. Can she return to the USA on the tourist visa then we just go through the immigration there? Some of this stuff just seems silly. She comes from a fairly well off family, financially. will this help? For indonesia standards shes pretty rich, but probably lower middle class for U.s. standards.

i am just afraid how weird it will seem to my family if she cant come visit with me once a year and i just have to tell them every year, "OH my wifes just back in Syria, one of these days u will meet her..maybe.." My family may start thinking bad things, like shes some mail order servant sex labor type bride and im just locking her away in a closet, especially with all the stereotypes of Muslims oppression of women.

im still confused. If shes married to me, why would they care whether shes shes a potential immigrant to USA or not. If she immigrates and stays in USA, fine, big deal. IF not, fine, big deal. i dont get it. Why should a regular Visa be harder than an Immigration visa.

Ok, just a guess. Are they afraid maybe she will get the Tourist Visa, then suddenly leave me and go to the USA without me and stay there? or possibly go to the USA to "visit" family, then run off and not come back to Syria with me? something like this? Thats all i can think of.

oh wow, so I can get her a tourist visa that lasts 10 years?? That would be real nice. is it multi entry??? And why would they deny it? I would find that somewhat offensive for them to deny my wife the right to visit my family (which at this point would also be her family) once a year. Would they actually deny her that right? I dont understand why they would allow her the VIsa to immigrate, but not a tourist VIsa to visit family once a year.

Ok, on the positive side, im glad to hear I can go through the procedures in Syria. On the other hand, im still confused about one thing. Can I go through the Immigration procedures in Syria, even if i dont have a set date for when to bring her to the USA? in other words, can i get the green light to bring her back, then just bring her back to the USA whenever I feel like moving back, whether it be in a month or in 5 years???

Another problem is, I dont know when I plan on moving back to the USA perminently (if ever), but obviously I still have to visit friends and family back at home at least once a year. It will be a little weird if I cant bring my wife with me and my family never meets her (doubt my family is going to come to syria). My grandma is getting old and id like for her to get a chance to meet her. Also we plan on having children at some point. So what do I do if I just want to bring her to the USA with me once a year or so to visit family for a couple weeks? I was told the immigration is only to bring her back perminently. ANd please tell me theres a better way than to simply get her a stupid Tourist visa, because Tourist visas for America take months to get for people from countries like Syria or Indonesia, and im not going to go through that every year if it takes half the year just to get the visa.

My situation is a little more complicated than most. I am American, and I am going to Indonsesia to marry a Indonesian girl. However, I work as an English teacher in Syria. I only have a couple weeks off, so its only enough time to register the marriage with the Indonesian gov and get her the Syrian Visa at the Syrian Embassy in Jakarta. ITs not enough time, obviously, to go through the U.S. immigration process. When the time comes to get her the AMerican visa so i can bring her back to the USA, am I going to run into any problems? Will I be able to go through the immigration while im in Syria via the U.S. Embassy in Damascus??? Or is she going to have to go back to Indonesia and separate from me for who knows how long? that will be very depressing.

Also, i dont know exactly when I will be returning to the U.S.A. However, is it possible to get the immigration process over with ahead of time, so that when I do return to the USA, she will have the green light to accompany me back home?? if there were some family emergency back in the USA or some unexpected event and I had to return immediately, it would be nice if she could come with me, as I WILL NOT leave her in Syria alone and I would hate to just send her on a separate flight back to Indonesia.