Ellie-and-David

Very selfish statement.
The OP is going through a distressing time and you ME ME ME'd.
Things change, people get scared, the reality of moving kicks in, relationships fall apart and we are talking about real lives and not a statistic so a little compassion wouldn't go a miss.
OP, do as others have said and take the steps to withdraw.
I am sorry this has happened. I wish you the best of luck with the future.

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

Sometimes it is easier to blame it on the universe, than to admit to yourself that ya screwed up.
Maybe some USC's dont make good choices in their partners and feel foolish when the relationship doesn't work out.
More often or not, I think that the "used for a GC" line of thinking absolves them of any real responsibility for anything they have done that may or may not have contributed to the breakdown. It's always easier to have a "nothing to do with me guv" attitude when you want to sleep better at night.
It annoys the ####### outta me when I see thread after thread of..."how do I send them back?" or "I am not going to do AOS even though I married them" or "I'm going to withhold ROC until they behave" Whilst I understand no one wants to be on the hook financially for an ex, more often than not, I see a chorus of agreement with this line of thinking. It annoys me because......I gave up a lot for my husband, and it's not just as easy as going home. I have a job here, what if I cant get one there? If we ever divorced (and I would fight to the death before I threw my hands up on him) why should I go home? I have built a life here. I personally probably would go home, but it would be MY frickin choice after all I sacrificed.
Should I be labelled a GC seeker in those circumstances?
I'm sorry to all of those who have been the unwilling participants in visa fraud, I really am. But the culture of jumping to the wrong conclusion on this website drives me insane. As the immigrant, I find these assumptions downright insulting sometimes.

I'm sorry for your friend, I really am. If she just wants a GC and he TRULY believes this is her only motive then I dont know what you else you want to hear. He should start proceedings to divorce her immediately.
To go along with the AOS knowing it will result in a fraudulently obtained GC is...well....fraudulent.
AND I certainly wouldn't stay with someone who I believed to pose a threat to my own flesh and blood.
That said... manipulating her into behaving differently by dangling her lack of status in front of her eyes is also an abuse of power. I am very happily married to my husband, but being out of status is very scary for me...especially as I have given my whole life up to be here. If my husband threatened me like that, I would be furious. And I might throw something at him during an argument too.
I gave my advice regarding what I believe his next steps should be.
My best to your friend. I hope resolution can be found.

Dont worry, You aren't scaring anyone. You are giving a heavy dose of reality to everyone going through this process. I for one was never under any illusions that this would be easy. I have been voicing my concerns to dave about this for the last 12 weeks or so and that is why we have already taken some of the steps we have. For him, making sure I could integrate myself into the community, make friends and have my own life, is as important to him as having me at all.
Hell.....He'd throw me out of the door and force me to make friends if I was being resistant. We have already arranged tentative plans for me to meet the wives of his work colleagues and are making sure that I have resources to contact my friends and family and get some "face to face" time with my mum by providing her with a high end webcam.
I am also getting a kitten. Probably about 2 weeks after I arrive. Something that is part of my life from the very beginning in Florida. To make it my home and connect me to my new life. It's about making plans, decisions and being realistic about what you can and cant do. I am going to be horribly homesick. I am going to cry alot. I am going to miss England and everyone who was in my life.
But I'm not deluding myself about it. I'm as ready as I can be to prepare for all of this stuff.
I am sorry your husband wont come with you. I really am. I get what you mean about it being different had he had to face going to another country where the culture was so different. But Australia is by all accounts a great place to live (I am desperate to visit one day) and I'm sure he would be able to make his own life. I guess you might need to give him some time. It's only fair now, that he tries to make it work somewhere where you feel comfortable. You already made the ultimate sacrifice....and you both know it doesn't work.
I think your really brave for taking charge and going home and admitting you couldn't do it. Really Brave.

This thread (after an initial ###### fest and back and forth of "my life is worse than yours, no mine is" conversations) had turned in to a place where people were making helpful suggestions on how to pass the time during the wait and as you often do, you came, you saw an opportunity to REALLY drag the entire conversation down and left your "me me me" stamp all over the joint.
No one is happy about being screwed by USCIS, not one person and your self centered and very short sighted if you believe that to be the case.
As part of being an adult you recognize that sometimes you cant have what you want when you want it. Sometimes you have to wait your turn and sometimes you have to suck it up and realize that whilst wait times are completely ridiculous, you made the decision to engage the immigration process and until you are approved..... you can sail through visa journey turning everything to muck OR you can be a big boy and actually consider some of the suggestions your peers have made.
Really consider them.

There was no humor in AI's question and answer post. None. It was just shooting down of helpful suggestions tying it all back in to another "my situation is worse than yours" response.

This thread (after an initial ###### fest and back and forth of "my life is worse than yours, no mine is" conversations) had turned in to a place where people were making helpful suggestions on how to pass the time during the wait and as you often do, you came, you saw an opportunity to REALLY drag the entire conversation down and left your "me me me" stamp all over the joint.
No one is happy about being screwed by USCIS, not one person and your self centered and very short sighted if you believe that to be the case.
As part of being an adult you recognize that sometimes you cant have what you want when you want it. Sometimes you have to wait your turn and sometimes you have to suck it up and realize that whilst wait times are completely ridiculous, you made the decision to engage the immigration process and until you are approved..... you can sail through visa journey turning everything to muck OR you can be a big boy and actually consider some of the suggestions your peers have made.
Really consider them.

This thread (after an initial ###### fest and back and forth of "my life is worse than yours, no mine is" conversations) had turned in to a place where people were making helpful suggestions on how to pass the time during the wait and as you often do, you came, you saw an opportunity to REALLY drag the entire conversation down and left your "me me me" stamp all over the joint.
No one is happy about being screwed by USCIS, not one person and your self centered and very short sighted if you believe that to be the case.
As part of being an adult you recognize that sometimes you cant have what you want when you want it. Sometimes you have to wait your turn and sometimes you have to suck it up and realize that whilst wait times are completely ridiculous, you made the decision to engage the immigration process and until you are approved..... you can sail through visa journey turning everything to muck OR you can be a big boy and actually consider some of the suggestions your peers have made.
Really consider them.

There was no humor in AI's question and answer post. None. It was just shooting down of helpful suggestions tying it all back in to another "my situation is worse than yours" response.

This thread (after an initial ###### fest and back and forth of "my life is worse than yours, no mine is" conversations) had turned in to a place where people were making helpful suggestions on how to pass the time during the wait and as you often do, you came, you saw an opportunity to REALLY drag the entire conversation down and left your "me me me" stamp all over the joint.
No one is happy about being screwed by USCIS, not one person and your self centered and very short sighted if you believe that to be the case.
As part of being an adult you recognize that sometimes you cant have what you want when you want it. Sometimes you have to wait your turn and sometimes you have to suck it up and realize that whilst wait times are completely ridiculous, you made the decision to engage the immigration process and until you are approved..... you can sail through visa journey turning everything to muck OR you can be a big boy and actually consider some of the suggestions your peers have made.
Really consider them.

There was no humor in AI's question and answer post. None. It was just shooting down of helpful suggestions tying it all back in to another "my situation is worse than yours" response.

This thread (after an initial ###### fest and back and forth of "my life is worse than yours, no mine is" conversations) had turned in to a place where people were making helpful suggestions on how to pass the time during the wait and as you often do, you came, you saw an opportunity to REALLY drag the entire conversation down and left your "me me me" stamp all over the joint.
No one is happy about being screwed by USCIS, not one person and your self centered and very short sighted if you believe that to be the case.
As part of being an adult you recognize that sometimes you cant have what you want when you want it. Sometimes you have to wait your turn and sometimes you have to suck it up and realize that whilst wait times are completely ridiculous, you made the decision to engage the immigration process and until you are approved..... you can sail through visa journey turning everything to muck OR you can be a big boy and actually consider some of the suggestions your peers have made.
Really consider them.

So glad it worked out for you! I tell ya, we stumbled on to watching the movies together and the sense of normality it added to daily contact was so helpful. There is only so much to talk about, especially if that is all you end up doing for months and months on end.
At this rate, you might actually want to talk to him by the time he gets off the plane

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

I don't know what Mr Florida is trying to do.
Well i did mention in the second post that u wanted to withhold the visa process for few months.I made some mistakes in the first post so i posted another one right after that,if u read it carefully.
Secondly,u wrote in your post that i never wished u valentines day,well apart from sending u the gift i also wished u on valentines eve and dedicated a song which was especially composed for u.I am not saying u are wrong but u need a girl of your mentality who is happy with materialistic things than something thoughtful like this.U threatened me to tell my dad u r stopping the VISA process for next few months just for the florist fault and last year i did not send u anything?.If u had a sister whose fiancee said something like this i would have seen how u would have reacted.Anyway i am thankful to u and i am declaring this in this forum for SPENDING DOLLARS ON ME.If u remember i had quit my good old 2 jobs JUST FOR U.First job i had quit because u wanted me to do the paper work for K1 with full concentration and second one i left cos i promised u i would quit the day i get my NOA2.How did u suspect my intentions to move i don't know.i did ask u 100 questions before moving,thats because i was keen to know.
Thanks for letting the world know about us,and making it so public.I may not be right,but i can bet i could never satisfy your needs.Good luck on your new search.
Hopefully there wont be anymore posts by u trying to humiliate me.People on VJ have better things to do and lets not scare them with our weird and bad experience.
Take care

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

Your positivity just radiates AI422.
What a lovely influence you are around these parts. Maybe you could really spread the joy and radiate that positivity elsewhere.
Oh and also.
Shut up.

To watch movies together, we used to find the relevant link....click....and count down. Try sidereel.com for some inspiration. Or we'd go and rent a movie and click play at the same time whilst having google voice chat open. I'd do just voice chat with him whilst watching and it was great. We'd get to laugh at the same moments, cry at the same moments.....most of the time it would encourage incredibly random conversations and we'd have to press pause and have a talk about what we were watching. Totally dorky....but it added a sense of "normality" to our relationship.
We also used to log in to yahoo games, set up a private room and I would kick his butt in poker whilst talking smack to him about what a crappy hand he must have. Talk is great, but sometimes something else is just what the doctor ordered! :-)

To watch movies together, we used to find the relevant link....click....and count down. Try sidereel.com for some inspiration. Or we'd go and rent a movie and click play at the same time whilst having google voice chat open. I'd do just voice chat with him whilst watching and it was great. We'd get to laugh at the same moments, cry at the same moments.....most of the time it would encourage incredibly random conversations and we'd have to press pause and have a talk about what we were watching. Totally dorky....but it added a sense of "normality" to our relationship.
We also used to log in to yahoo games, set up a private room and I would kick his butt in poker whilst talking smack to him about what a crappy hand he must have. Talk is great, but sometimes something else is just what the doctor ordered! :-)

We had a 5 hour difference and that was bad enough. 16 must be very stressful!
How did we cope? Well, I have to admit, during the period of wait I had no life outside of work and David. On weekdays, I would get home from work, eat....and then retire to my bedroom to talk with him. On weekends, I would use the time difference to my advantage and get everything done I needed to do before he woke up. Then, we would spend all day talking, watching movies together (1,2,3...then press play!) he would read me to sleep, leaving my video open whilst he went about his business. We lived and breathed for one another, spending every second we could.....talking, laughing, FIGHTING!!, all the normal stuff. Sometimes I resented him being so far away and having no independence during the long wait. Mostly, I just could not wait for the day when we could just sit in a room together. Not talking. Just being together.
In fact, when I first arrived, I told him not to talk to me anymore. We'd talked enough!
That seems so far away now. The key seems to be to look to the future during the wait. I know him better than any man I ever spent time with because of the time spent talking. It doesn't matter that people tell you this, because the visa wait is like purgatory.....but once on the other side, you'll tell others during their wait that......it. will. be. okay.
And the record, I would have used every family connection I had to speed up the process. The other side of the coin is that.....the wait strengthened our relationship and to this day makes us realize just how much we love each other even when we are biting each others heads off. Many relationships do not endure the visa process. Ours did. Life is gooooooood......full of the stresses of all relationships.....and goooood!

We had a 5 hour difference and that was bad enough. 16 must be very stressful!
How did we cope? Well, I have to admit, during the period of wait I had no life outside of work and David. On weekdays, I would get home from work, eat....and then retire to my bedroom to talk with him. On weekends, I would use the time difference to my advantage and get everything done I needed to do before he woke up. Then, we would spend all day talking, watching movies together (1,2,3...then press play!) he would read me to sleep, leaving my video open whilst he went about his business. We lived and breathed for one another, spending every second we could.....talking, laughing, FIGHTING!!, all the normal stuff. Sometimes I resented him being so far away and having no independence during the long wait. Mostly, I just could not wait for the day when we could just sit in a room together. Not talking. Just being together.
In fact, when I first arrived, I told him not to talk to me anymore. We'd talked enough!
That seems so far away now. The key seems to be to look to the future during the wait. I know him better than any man I ever spent time with because of the time spent talking. It doesn't matter that people tell you this, because the visa wait is like purgatory.....but once on the other side, you'll tell others during their wait that......it. will. be. okay.
And the record, I would have used every family connection I had to speed up the process. The other side of the coin is that.....the wait strengthened our relationship and to this day makes us realize just how much we love each other even when we are biting each others heads off. Many relationships do not endure the visa process. Ours did. Life is gooooooood......full of the stresses of all relationships.....and goooood!

We had a 5 hour difference and that was bad enough. 16 must be very stressful!
How did we cope? Well, I have to admit, during the period of wait I had no life outside of work and David. On weekdays, I would get home from work, eat....and then retire to my bedroom to talk with him. On weekends, I would use the time difference to my advantage and get everything done I needed to do before he woke up. Then, we would spend all day talking, watching movies together (1,2,3...then press play!) he would read me to sleep, leaving my video open whilst he went about his business. We lived and breathed for one another, spending every second we could.....talking, laughing, FIGHTING!!, all the normal stuff. Sometimes I resented him being so far away and having no independence during the long wait. Mostly, I just could not wait for the day when we could just sit in a room together. Not talking. Just being together.
In fact, when I first arrived, I told him not to talk to me anymore. We'd talked enough!
That seems so far away now. The key seems to be to look to the future during the wait. I know him better than any man I ever spent time with because of the time spent talking. It doesn't matter that people tell you this, because the visa wait is like purgatory.....but once on the other side, you'll tell others during their wait that......it. will. be. okay.
And the record, I would have used every family connection I had to speed up the process. The other side of the coin is that.....the wait strengthened our relationship and to this day makes us realize just how much we love each other even when we are biting each others heads off. Many relationships do not endure the visa process. Ours did. Life is gooooooood......full of the stresses of all relationships.....and goooood!