HYENA

He was tested, it showed positive. He was tested again. It was positive. Being tired is completely different than looking high. It is often difficult for someone attracted (unconsciously) to addicts/alcoholics. How do I know? I work in the field; it's my profession.
The things that pop out to me adding the weight of statistics... Forgive me; it's not your fault but I must say this. Statistics say if one has chosen an addict or an alcoholic in the past, they will choose another (often having no idea). I've done the same and after we bought a house together, she was tipping half gallons of vodka straight down the hatch. I can spot an addict/alcoholic in a room full of people because I'm attracted to them. It's a common phenomenon (go to an ALANON meeting and ask them; they laugh about it it's so prevalent). OK...enough of the statistical choices we make.
Next you asked for prayers (or alluded to that asking for an answer). Re-read your post; your prayers were answered before you wrote your post. Should you remain with him? You prayed for an answer and I can tell you he was untruthful. If he tested positive then popped him for a subsequent test, any opiate seeds (poppy) would have been at such a low level, they would be out of the system in less than 3 days (3 days for opiates to clear urine, as much as 4-8 weeks for marijuana). He tested positive; we know that and these tests already have cutoff values to take into account secondary exposure (meaning so many parts per million there is a cutoff where they consider the test negative). Poppy seeds are accounted in most tests and they raise the cutoff a little higher unless someone ate a handfull (and I seriously doubt poppy seed bagels are popular in Egypt--or poppy seed anything). False positive? You just don't see them on a second test because the second test is often gas spectrometry where they burn/vaporize the sample and read the telltake wavelengths of it's content signature. Hard to explain but he was positive (likely with the inexpensive quick test) then the retest was more than likely gas spectrometry. GS is what they use on hair samples and it is highly accurate.
It is difficult to see what has been written and review, but if you open your eyes, your prayers are answered and you know the truth deep down inside. THere is something about this man you are attracted to and as humans, we tend to repeat mistakes. I'm attracted to addicts whether or not they are using, whether or not I have prior knowledge of their use. It's a sick sixth sense I seem to be cursed with. My wife (luckily) has alcohol intolerance so I got lucky this time (because I knew I would more than likely choose an addict or an addict in the making given my dead on history. It's the same reason an abused spouse will often remarry and subsequently (if she survives two previous marriages) keep choosing those who have a propensity to abuse. I can't explain this phenomenon but it is real and tangible. Denial is a huge part of this and working in the field now, "earth people" can see things I previously couldn't. I now can sniff out the users in a room because I have an affinity towards them. Perhaps this is the case?
I can tell you one thing; beyond a doubt, your man has been less than honest with you and if you keep holding out for possible explanations, you will have reservations/reasons not to believe what has just happened, and just happened again (2 positive tests).
If you REALLY want to get to the truth, I believe in my heart you can pull it out of him. If it were me, I would "make it OK" sounding on the phone or webcam whereby he feels comfortable admitting he used a little. If you make it comfortable for him to let down his guard and admit it, then he'll tell you the truth. I hate to say it, but you may consider (what I've used interrogating) is that there may be a way out of all this and if he can tell you what he used, you think there's a good chance you can come up with an explanation for the embassy but he needs to be straight with you. Make it OK for him to admit it and he will; he wants to tell you if you're OK with it. Duirng my days, the heck if I was going to tell anyone unless it was OK with them. If they said it was intolerable and unacceptable, there would be no way I would have admitted at the time I was using XYZ drugs when I was, even in the face of positive tests (and yes, I've tested positive and been in that situation). I know a lot about this and I wish I could see you in person to emphasize you're not seeing what God has set out before you. We all want what we want and we pray for signs....The man stranded on an island refused the boats and helicopters only to starve and die because he was waiting for God to pick him up...God said "I sent a friggin helicopter and boat, what do you want a limousine"?
Open your eyes; you have a full life ahead of you. Be aware of your propensity to be attracted to addicts and take that into account while seeking a spouse. I know my faults and embrace them so I can deal with them. Denial will surely lead me back to the chaos I once lived. Don't spend any more money on this situation. You prayed and your prayers were answered. Go back and review your answers; no one is sending a limousine. You've got two tests and plenty of good suggestions. Be aware of your preference to cling onto the suggestions you WANT to hear versus those you NEED to hear. If this isn't a sign from above, hold out for the limo.
Tiredness has never warranted my being suspect of using but using drugs always has warranted concerns like those the embassy. Tested once, he was unable to get clean for the second test, tested again and failed again. Funny thing is MOST of the time, we cannot tell when one has been using (ever done an employee-wide drug screen?) You have a solid 10% who come up positive where no one had any idea they had drugs (or traces) in their system.
FYI, no drugs last a year in your system unless it is a year old hair sample. THe longest is marijuanna which can max out at a couple months. OK...done with my book.
IN summary, tell him you know people who smoke pot and it's legal in some states with a doctor's note...loosen him up and make it ok to tell you what happened. Otherwise the deception/denial cycle will continue and begin to cost money and years of your life.
When I was in my prime, I certainly could clean up for a couple months no problem. Employee of the year? That's me! no one knew except me and I would have admitted it to anyone who was OK with the truth back then.
You're a good person. He is a good person who is afraid of coming out. It just may not be meant to be.

He was tested, it showed positive. He was tested again. It was positive. Being tired is completely different than looking high. It is often difficult for someone attracted (unconsciously) to addicts/alcoholics. How do I know? I work in the field; it's my profession.
The things that pop out to me adding the weight of statistics... Forgive me; it's not your fault but I must say this. Statistics say if one has chosen an addict or an alcoholic in the past, they will choose another (often having no idea). I've done the same and after we bought a house together, she was tipping half gallons of vodka straight down the hatch. I can spot an addict/alcoholic in a room full of people because I'm attracted to them. It's a common phenomenon (go to an ALANON meeting and ask them; they laugh about it it's so prevalent). OK...enough of the statistical choices we make.
Next you asked for prayers (or alluded to that asking for an answer). Re-read your post; your prayers were answered before you wrote your post. Should you remain with him? You prayed for an answer and I can tell you he was untruthful. If he tested positive then popped him for a subsequent test, any opiate seeds (poppy) would have been at such a low level, they would be out of the system in less than 3 days (3 days for opiates to clear urine, as much as 4-8 weeks for marijuana). He tested positive; we know that and these tests already have cutoff values to take into account secondary exposure (meaning so many parts per million there is a cutoff where they consider the test negative). Poppy seeds are accounted in most tests and they raise the cutoff a little higher unless someone ate a handfull (and I seriously doubt poppy seed bagels are popular in Egypt--or poppy seed anything). False positive? You just don't see them on a second test because the second test is often gas spectrometry where they burn/vaporize the sample and read the telltake wavelengths of it's content signature. Hard to explain but he was positive (likely with the inexpensive quick test) then the retest was more than likely gas spectrometry. GS is what they use on hair samples and it is highly accurate.
It is difficult to see what has been written and review, but if you open your eyes, your prayers are answered and you know the truth deep down inside. THere is something about this man you are attracted to and as humans, we tend to repeat mistakes. I'm attracted to addicts whether or not they are using, whether or not I have prior knowledge of their use. It's a sick sixth sense I seem to be cursed with. My wife (luckily) has alcohol intolerance so I got lucky this time (because I knew I would more than likely choose an addict or an addict in the making given my dead on history. It's the same reason an abused spouse will often remarry and subsequently (if she survives two previous marriages) keep choosing those who have a propensity to abuse. I can't explain this phenomenon but it is real and tangible. Denial is a huge part of this and working in the field now, "earth people" can see things I previously couldn't. I now can sniff out the users in a room because I have an affinity towards them. Perhaps this is the case?
I can tell you one thing; beyond a doubt, your man has been less than honest with you and if you keep holding out for possible explanations, you will have reservations/reasons not to believe what has just happened, and just happened again (2 positive tests).
If you REALLY want to get to the truth, I believe in my heart you can pull it out of him. If it were me, I would "make it OK" sounding on the phone or webcam whereby he feels comfortable admitting he used a little. If you make it comfortable for him to let down his guard and admit it, then he'll tell you the truth. I hate to say it, but you may consider (what I've used interrogating) is that there may be a way out of all this and if he can tell you what he used, you think there's a good chance you can come up with an explanation for the embassy but he needs to be straight with you. Make it OK for him to admit it and he will; he wants to tell you if you're OK with it. Duirng my days, the heck if I was going to tell anyone unless it was OK with them. If they said it was intolerable and unacceptable, there would be no way I would have admitted at the time I was using XYZ drugs when I was, even in the face of positive tests (and yes, I've tested positive and been in that situation). I know a lot about this and I wish I could see you in person to emphasize you're not seeing what God has set out before you. We all want what we want and we pray for signs....The man stranded on an island refused the boats and helicopters only to starve and die because he was waiting for God to pick him up...God said "I sent a friggin helicopter and boat, what do you want a limousine"?
Open your eyes; you have a full life ahead of you. Be aware of your propensity to be attracted to addicts and take that into account while seeking a spouse. I know my faults and embrace them so I can deal with them. Denial will surely lead me back to the chaos I once lived. Don't spend any more money on this situation. You prayed and your prayers were answered. Go back and review your answers; no one is sending a limousine. You've got two tests and plenty of good suggestions. Be aware of your preference to cling onto the suggestions you WANT to hear versus those you NEED to hear. If this isn't a sign from above, hold out for the limo.
Tiredness has never warranted my being suspect of using but using drugs always has warranted concerns like those the embassy. Tested once, he was unable to get clean for the second test, tested again and failed again. Funny thing is MOST of the time, we cannot tell when one has been using (ever done an employee-wide drug screen?) You have a solid 10% who come up positive where no one had any idea they had drugs (or traces) in their system.
FYI, no drugs last a year in your system unless it is a year old hair sample. THe longest is marijuanna which can max out at a couple months. OK...done with my book.
IN summary, tell him you know people who smoke pot and it's legal in some states with a doctor's note...loosen him up and make it ok to tell you what happened. Otherwise the deception/denial cycle will continue and begin to cost money and years of your life.
When I was in my prime, I certainly could clean up for a couple months no problem. Employee of the year? That's me! no one knew except me and I would have admitted it to anyone who was OK with the truth back then.
You're a good person. He is a good person who is afraid of coming out. It just may not be meant to be.

He was tested, it showed positive. He was tested again. It was positive. Being tired is completely different than looking high. It is often difficult for someone attracted (unconsciously) to addicts/alcoholics. How do I know? I work in the field; it's my profession.
The things that pop out to me adding the weight of statistics... Forgive me; it's not your fault but I must say this. Statistics say if one has chosen an addict or an alcoholic in the past, they will choose another (often having no idea). I've done the same and after we bought a house together, she was tipping half gallons of vodka straight down the hatch. I can spot an addict/alcoholic in a room full of people because I'm attracted to them. It's a common phenomenon (go to an ALANON meeting and ask them; they laugh about it it's so prevalent). OK...enough of the statistical choices we make.
Next you asked for prayers (or alluded to that asking for an answer). Re-read your post; your prayers were answered before you wrote your post. Should you remain with him? You prayed for an answer and I can tell you he was untruthful. If he tested positive then popped him for a subsequent test, any opiate seeds (poppy) would have been at such a low level, they would be out of the system in less than 3 days (3 days for opiates to clear urine, as much as 4-8 weeks for marijuana). He tested positive; we know that and these tests already have cutoff values to take into account secondary exposure (meaning so many parts per million there is a cutoff where they consider the test negative). Poppy seeds are accounted in most tests and they raise the cutoff a little higher unless someone ate a handfull (and I seriously doubt poppy seed bagels are popular in Egypt--or poppy seed anything). False positive? You just don't see them on a second test because the second test is often gas spectrometry where they burn/vaporize the sample and read the telltake wavelengths of it's content signature. Hard to explain but he was positive (likely with the inexpensive quick test) then the retest was more than likely gas spectrometry. GS is what they use on hair samples and it is highly accurate.
It is difficult to see what has been written and review, but if you open your eyes, your prayers are answered and you know the truth deep down inside. THere is something about this man you are attracted to and as humans, we tend to repeat mistakes. I'm attracted to addicts whether or not they are using, whether or not I have prior knowledge of their use. It's a sick sixth sense I seem to be cursed with. My wife (luckily) has alcohol intolerance so I got lucky this time (because I knew I would more than likely choose an addict or an addict in the making given my dead on history. It's the same reason an abused spouse will often remarry and subsequently (if she survives two previous marriages) keep choosing those who have a propensity to abuse. I can't explain this phenomenon but it is real and tangible. Denial is a huge part of this and working in the field now, "earth people" can see things I previously couldn't. I now can sniff out the users in a room because I have an affinity towards them. Perhaps this is the case?
I can tell you one thing; beyond a doubt, your man has been less than honest with you and if you keep holding out for possible explanations, you will have reservations/reasons not to believe what has just happened, and just happened again (2 positive tests).
If you REALLY want to get to the truth, I believe in my heart you can pull it out of him. If it were me, I would "make it OK" sounding on the phone or webcam whereby he feels comfortable admitting he used a little. If you make it comfortable for him to let down his guard and admit it, then he'll tell you the truth. I hate to say it, but you may consider (what I've used interrogating) is that there may be a way out of all this and if he can tell you what he used, you think there's a good chance you can come up with an explanation for the embassy but he needs to be straight with you. Make it OK for him to admit it and he will; he wants to tell you if you're OK with it. Duirng my days, the heck if I was going to tell anyone unless it was OK with them. If they said it was intolerable and unacceptable, there would be no way I would have admitted at the time I was using XYZ drugs when I was, even in the face of positive tests (and yes, I've tested positive and been in that situation). I know a lot about this and I wish I could see you in person to emphasize you're not seeing what God has set out before you. We all want what we want and we pray for signs....The man stranded on an island refused the boats and helicopters only to starve and die because he was waiting for God to pick him up...God said "I sent a friggin helicopter and boat, what do you want a limousine"?
Open your eyes; you have a full life ahead of you. Be aware of your propensity to be attracted to addicts and take that into account while seeking a spouse. I know my faults and embrace them so I can deal with them. Denial will surely lead me back to the chaos I once lived. Don't spend any more money on this situation. You prayed and your prayers were answered. Go back and review your answers; no one is sending a limousine. You've got two tests and plenty of good suggestions. Be aware of your preference to cling onto the suggestions you WANT to hear versus those you NEED to hear. If this isn't a sign from above, hold out for the limo.
Tiredness has never warranted my being suspect of using but using drugs always has warranted concerns like those the embassy. Tested once, he was unable to get clean for the second test, tested again and failed again. Funny thing is MOST of the time, we cannot tell when one has been using (ever done an employee-wide drug screen?) You have a solid 10% who come up positive where no one had any idea they had drugs (or traces) in their system.
FYI, no drugs last a year in your system unless it is a year old hair sample. THe longest is marijuanna which can max out at a couple months. OK...done with my book.
IN summary, tell him you know people who smoke pot and it's legal in some states with a doctor's note...loosen him up and make it ok to tell you what happened. Otherwise the deception/denial cycle will continue and begin to cost money and years of your life.
When I was in my prime, I certainly could clean up for a couple months no problem. Employee of the year? That's me! no one knew except me and I would have admitted it to anyone who was OK with the truth back then.
You're a good person. He is a good person who is afraid of coming out. It just may not be meant to be.

He was tested, it showed positive. He was tested again. It was positive. Being tired is completely different than looking high. It is often difficult for someone attracted (unconsciously) to addicts/alcoholics. How do I know? I work in the field; it's my profession.
The things that pop out to me adding the weight of statistics... Forgive me; it's not your fault but I must say this. Statistics say if one has chosen an addict or an alcoholic in the past, they will choose another (often having no idea). I've done the same and after we bought a house together, she was tipping half gallons of vodka straight down the hatch. I can spot an addict/alcoholic in a room full of people because I'm attracted to them. It's a common phenomenon (go to an ALANON meeting and ask them; they laugh about it it's so prevalent). OK...enough of the statistical choices we make.
Next you asked for prayers (or alluded to that asking for an answer). Re-read your post; your prayers were answered before you wrote your post. Should you remain with him? You prayed for an answer and I can tell you he was untruthful. If he tested positive then popped him for a subsequent test, any opiate seeds (poppy) would have been at such a low level, they would be out of the system in less than 3 days (3 days for opiates to clear urine, as much as 4-8 weeks for marijuana). He tested positive; we know that and these tests already have cutoff values to take into account secondary exposure (meaning so many parts per million there is a cutoff where they consider the test negative). Poppy seeds are accounted in most tests and they raise the cutoff a little higher unless someone ate a handfull (and I seriously doubt poppy seed bagels are popular in Egypt--or poppy seed anything). False positive? You just don't see them on a second test because the second test is often gas spectrometry where they burn/vaporize the sample and read the telltake wavelengths of it's content signature. Hard to explain but he was positive (likely with the inexpensive quick test) then the retest was more than likely gas spectrometry. GS is what they use on hair samples and it is highly accurate.
It is difficult to see what has been written and review, but if you open your eyes, your prayers are answered and you know the truth deep down inside. THere is something about this man you are attracted to and as humans, we tend to repeat mistakes. I'm attracted to addicts whether or not they are using, whether or not I have prior knowledge of their use. It's a sick sixth sense I seem to be cursed with. My wife (luckily) has alcohol intolerance so I got lucky this time (because I knew I would more than likely choose an addict or an addict in the making given my dead on history. It's the same reason an abused spouse will often remarry and subsequently (if she survives two previous marriages) keep choosing those who have a propensity to abuse. I can't explain this phenomenon but it is real and tangible. Denial is a huge part of this and working in the field now, "earth people" can see things I previously couldn't. I now can sniff out the users in a room because I have an affinity towards them. Perhaps this is the case?
I can tell you one thing; beyond a doubt, your man has been less than honest with you and if you keep holding out for possible explanations, you will have reservations/reasons not to believe what has just happened, and just happened again (2 positive tests).
If you REALLY want to get to the truth, I believe in my heart you can pull it out of him. If it were me, I would "make it OK" sounding on the phone or webcam whereby he feels comfortable admitting he used a little. If you make it comfortable for him to let down his guard and admit it, then he'll tell you the truth. I hate to say it, but you may consider (what I've used interrogating) is that there may be a way out of all this and if he can tell you what he used, you think there's a good chance you can come up with an explanation for the embassy but he needs to be straight with you. Make it OK for him to admit it and he will; he wants to tell you if you're OK with it. Duirng my days, the heck if I was going to tell anyone unless it was OK with them. If they said it was intolerable and unacceptable, there would be no way I would have admitted at the time I was using XYZ drugs when I was, even in the face of positive tests (and yes, I've tested positive and been in that situation). I know a lot about this and I wish I could see you in person to emphasize you're not seeing what God has set out before you. We all want what we want and we pray for signs....The man stranded on an island refused the boats and helicopters only to starve and die because he was waiting for God to pick him up...God said "I sent a friggin helicopter and boat, what do you want a limousine"?
Open your eyes; you have a full life ahead of you. Be aware of your propensity to be attracted to addicts and take that into account while seeking a spouse. I know my faults and embrace them so I can deal with them. Denial will surely lead me back to the chaos I once lived. Don't spend any more money on this situation. You prayed and your prayers were answered. Go back and review your answers; no one is sending a limousine. You've got two tests and plenty of good suggestions. Be aware of your preference to cling onto the suggestions you WANT to hear versus those you NEED to hear. If this isn't a sign from above, hold out for the limo.
Tiredness has never warranted my being suspect of using but using drugs always has warranted concerns like those the embassy. Tested once, he was unable to get clean for the second test, tested again and failed again. Funny thing is MOST of the time, we cannot tell when one has been using (ever done an employee-wide drug screen?) You have a solid 10% who come up positive where no one had any idea they had drugs (or traces) in their system.
FYI, no drugs last a year in your system unless it is a year old hair sample. THe longest is marijuanna which can max out at a couple months. OK...done with my book.
IN summary, tell him you know people who smoke pot and it's legal in some states with a doctor's note...loosen him up and make it ok to tell you what happened. Otherwise the deception/denial cycle will continue and begin to cost money and years of your life.
When I was in my prime, I certainly could clean up for a couple months no problem. Employee of the year? That's me! no one knew except me and I would have admitted it to anyone who was OK with the truth back then.
You're a good person. He is a good person who is afraid of coming out. It just may not be meant to be.