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    help with mama

    in Philippines

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    ok, I know some parts of what I have said are objectionable to some. I hope people understand I do not "own" or "control" Gretchen except in sense which helps her to "feel" as such in her culture. Please note the phrase I posted means more in their culture, plus establishes me as the "role" in the family for me and Gretchen. I am having to walk a very hard line between being respectful, and dealing with other issues. AS for the people at the wedding. These are the "family" they introduced me to. Stating in the beginning these people were "family". Arrangements to have them at the wedding was made a long time ago just after Gretchen and I were engaged in order to provide witnesses for the finalizing of the k-1 visa to AOS. This was before the moeny I started sending to support Gretchen each month. There was a major falling out between families after my second visit. Not sure what it was, but believe it was related to support I was sending Gretchen. Seeing what I saw my last visit. I think it was the purchasing of furniture and other items for the house in June without telling me. Just taking the money and abusing what I was sending. the "family" who they introduced me to tried to warn the mother-in-law, but mama-in-law chose to ignore them. I am not sure the whole story yet. But I am digging very very deeply now before the wedding.

    this is the part I am trying to deal with the demands for money from Kanos. I learned about the "what goes in, goes out". Having been working with Gretchen on it. However, the hard part is her turning over money to her parents, thinking I just had more money to give or for to support both me and Gretchen. I am trying not to offend people on here. Nor am I trying to offend her parents. However, I know I have to start setting some ground rules on money or I will go nuts trying to make everyone happy. then when I am broke no one will understand why in the heck we cannot send any money.

    I mean things started getting out of hand on the second week being there in the village. Money to get home and for food. Money for a farewell party. Money to travel back and forth from village. Money to rent a jeepney. Money for class party. Money for a church seminar. No load on phone, No load in internet smart card. The phone you bought me went to my brother. I bought this phone with money you sent me, it now is going to my mother. Mother got electric to the house in her name. Some of the clothes I took for Gretchen ended up going to other aunts and cousins in the family. It was getting tiring for me. Also, please understand I have sent 160,000php since meeting Gretchen. the money was to support Gretchen. Internet per month was only 1200 php (200php unlimited internet for 5 days, I found this out as leaving.) With the money I sent, they could have bought a boat had they saved each month. But the money was spent on other items without thought to when Gretchen was leaving. Now Gretchen is seeing the living here. Wondering why no furniture yet. buying groceries. Spending time with the kids. My work. Gretchen is happy. But I feel so bad because of how much the trip bit into finances for home here. the first week was fine. the second week, in the village. The budget went nuts. It should have been less for just the two of us. But it absolutely went crazy. The harder I tried to keep on budget the worse it got. I spent nearly 60,000 php or better the second week compared with 35,000php the first week and I did not know the 6,000php was gone until Saturday, the 17th. Talk about being shocked.

    I feel for you Darren... Your responsibility is only to your wife and not her entire clan! Life here is hard. We don't get money on trees! We can't please everyone back in PI... We have to live here too!

    I am not trying to control. But I went on a limited budget, with some allowances for overages. But the problem is the expectations. Somehow there is this thinking the money came in, just spend it. then when she runs out for load, he will send more. No thought as to how it made me feel when I found out what had been going on. You can say all you want about culture, this, that, robbing the cradle. But I feel so much like a schmuck over all the money sent.

    help with mama

    in Philippines

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    omg wish you treated ur girl like a princess....might you make her'a maid'oo peace bro...u stepped thier feet for keeping telling stories about them...share your blessings

    Life here is hard! Money doesn't come from trees. You have to work hard for it...

    Oath ceremony

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Attending the Oath ceremony is not fun. Even less fun it is for guests. Unless your souse really wants to be there with you for personal reasons, you are doing him a favor in allowing him to skip that one. Trust me.

    You make me laugh Just Bob! I talked to him about not attending but now he just booked a flight to be with me that day and fly the next day! Told him about the replies I received from the good people of visa journey though... :star:

    Oath ceremony

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Hi! I will be having my oath ceremony this coming Friday, 26th of August. My question is does my husband have to be there? My application is based on 3 years marriage. He is currently training guys that have to go overseas soon (Afghanistan). I am in Reno and he is in VA.

    I would like fo hear feedbacks...

    Thanks!

    N 400 February Fillers

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

    Posted

    OMG! They're trying to get rid of a whining kid like me, LOL.

    Oath Ceremony

    On August 16, 2011, we scheduled you for your oath ceremony and sent a notice providing the date, time, and location. If you move prior to the scheduled ceremony, please use our Change of Address online tool to update your case with your new address or call our customer service center at 1-800-375-5283.

    :dance: :dance: :dance:

    CONGRATS to N-400! OKflyboy, hope you get yours soon as well! :thumbs:

    Congratulations Mae! Yahoo!

    N 400 February Fillers

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Hey, I know what you are going through... It's been 18 days since my interview and I've learned that Reno has oath ceremony 2 to 3 times a month and til now I haven't gotten my schedule... It sucks waiting! Hopefully we'll get our schedule soon! Let's hang in there! :D

    :( :( :( Still nothing... kinda sucks, but that's ok. I still have 4 days of the week to wait, then it's phone call time for me.

    OMG! Yeah, finally! It's about time! YAY! Congrats, Yong!

    N 400 February Fillers

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Congratulations! :D

    quote name='OKflyboy' timestamp='1312841872' post='4833385']

    Well, I passed :dance:

    Messed up on the question about the number of senators - I was thinking "two for every state" and said "Fifty". The IO looked at me funny, so I quickly corrected myself. She said I was the first person to have ever answered this question wrong :lol:

    I got there at about 11:30, went through security at 11:40, was called in the interview room about 11:50 and was out of there ten minutesbefore the actual appointment time, which was 12:15.

    Anyway, she (her name's Brenda, I didn't catch the last name) was very nice, chatted about weather and her two sons. Saw my husband and three kids in the waiting room and said, "I see you have a good marriage". Asked for my DL, GC and passports. Went over the application questions and Oath lines. Had me read "What state has the most people" and write "California has the most people". I signed two forms, and she told me they will put me on the list for the next available Oath, which happens to be September 14.

    That's pretty much it.

    I hardly slept last night, got up at 5 am, so I couldn't think very straight. I guess I did well after all, considering :thumbs:

    Oath letter and status

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Anyway, should get your oath letter from your field office. Now do some field offices update your status? We only gotten as far as they received our application, the lock box. But already knew that, they cashed our check. Rest of our time was spent camped out by our mail box.

    Hi Nick, I have been getting updates from them since sending my application. I got my stutus update last July 29 that I'm in line for the oath scheduling. Just wondering if the oath letter will come from Reno... And I guess I am the only applicant from Reno and hard for me to do some comparison ;)

    Oath letter and status

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Hi! I would like to know where does the Oath letter mailed from? Is it mailed from USCIS Missouri or from local CIS? And also, do they usually update the status online ? I've read from other people that their status didn't changed. They just got the Oath letter... just curious and for peace of mind :)

    Goodluck to us all!

    Part 9. Information about your children

    in US Citizenship General Discussion

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    Hey Everyone,

    So it's that time again, I'm almost done with my N400 application but I've got a question about Part 9. Information About Your Children. I'm applying under the 3 year rule based on marriage and I've got a stepson. The instructions say that I need to add him as one of my children. Do I also need a birth certificate for him for the interview? Many thanks for all the help!

    I just had my interview and I listed my step kids on the N-400. The IO asked me about them but never asked for the birth certificates. But on the Notice for the Interview, a checklist includes to bring all your children's birth certificate. I brought my step kids birth certificate...

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