tashyta

Thanks everyone for your help! I understand that it will be hard for me to get visa and I've heard that even if I will get it, I might be returned back home on the border... I am not going to stay there, I have a husband who is staying at home and I definately wanna come back to him. I am sure this is not persuading enough, unfortunately. I just want to know if there were any successful instances that people were granted visa even with previous overstay...

Have proof when you returned to your Country to show the Us Consulate. Sometimes they don't have in their records the time you left and if you don't have anything to prove probably they will send a request to Washington to find out when you left USA, and it takes months to have an answer. Do not omit the time you overstayed, because if they have in their records you will ban for life for misrepresentation. Show them boarding pass or activities in your bank account/credit card or employment proving when you returned to your home Country.

The only proof of my coming back home will be the stamp in my passport, however, since I got married and changed my last name, I will need to change the passport. I am not sure they will be returning my original passport back to me. So I will have only copy of this page. Besides, I am almost positive that they have all data in their system

I used http://www.timeanddate.com to calculate that your I-94 expired on June 24th 2007. This means that your year would have been June 23rd 2008. You left on the 2nd June 2008 which means you are 3 weeks under the year so you would have had a 3 year ban that ended on June 23, 2011 meaning your ban is over.

Well, 3 year ban is much better than 10 years, but still there is no confidence that I will be approved to get another visa... A lot of people from my company went to such business trip and some of them were rejected in work visa for no reason. I guess for now with all my unpleasant history I have less chances

Hey Guys,

I am not sure what topic this requst belongs to, so I also posted similar question to 'Work Visa' forum. I just need to know if anyone had something like this or maybe heard anyone else had same situation....

Four years ago I've overstayed my K1 visa for a little bit less than a year. I've heard about ban in 3 and 10 years depending on the time of overstay... Since I came back in 2008, for now (in case I've counted 'a little bit less than a year' correctly) the 3-year ban should be technically over. Please advise if there is any chance that I might get work visa to USA. The company I am working for right now will be sending a request for a business trip to USA. What migh help me in getting approved? I am already married and I definitely will be returning home as soon as the business trip will be over...

Any response or advise will be very appreciated!

You say you waited "almost a year" for him to get his act together but I just want to confirm.. What was the date you entered the US? What was the date you left the US?

If you overstayed for a year it's a 10 year ban. If you overstayed less than a year but more than 6 months it's a 3 year ban.

You did eventually return to the US but you still have a history of overstay, even if there isn't a ban which CAN make it difficult for you to get any other visa to the US. You will need to show STRONG ties to your home country and seeing it's a work visa (rather than visitor) it should be a little easier. All you can do is try.

According to the stamps in my passport, I entered USA on March 26th of 2007 and left on June 2nd of 2008. If I am counting everything correctly, my 90 days of K1 visa ended in June 29 of 2007. From this day I start to count days of my overstay... So I am very close to one year... I am not sure if they will be counting out days or hrs, etc...

Since the OP left at 2008 that is where the ban will start which would make it end in 2011. So it is possible that the OP will not need a waiver since the 3 years already passed.

You definitely will be questioned about that in the embassy. Make sure you have plentry of proof that you will return back and I think you should be fine.

What kind of proofs you think I might need? I will definitely have my marriage certificate with me, also I guess the fact that I work for the company in my country will work...

Hello Everyone!

I have a situation that does not happen very often and hope you will help me with my question...

In 2007 I enteres USA with K1 visa. Never got married because my ex-fiancee had tons of issues with his business (after his service in Iraq) and he preffered them over me. I waited almost a year listening to his promisses and I was hoping for a miracle that we will finally get married. But eventually I left home in 2008 with overstayed K1 visa.

I got married and have a great job. The company I work at is planning to send me to USA for a business trip with all necessary letters (we have our main office in USA). Is there any chance that I will get work visa taking in account this situation?

Thanks a lot for all your help in advance!

Hey everyone! I saw all your posts and thanks a lot for them!!! It's very nice!! I came back to Ukraine in June - the day of my departure was the worst in my life!But I made this step. It's still very difficult, becaus my ex still wants to have me back. He either doesn't understand that we are done or ddoesn't want to or jusr wants to keep me just in case... So far I am trying to work a lot not to think aabout that at all. So now I am doing fine and go on with my life. Thanks to everyone for help!!!

I wish happiness to everyone!!! God bless you all!

Hello Everyone,

Tomorrow my fiancee and her son will depart for the US. I brought her engagement ring with me into Ukraine when I arrived. Is there any kind of declaration that we have to make when when we depart? She is concerned that she may have problems returning to Ukraine with her ring.

Thanks,

Grid

Hey!

My ex-fiance also brought me a ring when he came to visit me. I have never had any problems going to US and back to Ukraine with the ring. I have never filled any papers. I think there should be no problems concerning the ring!

Good luck to you guys!!!

Hello everyone!

Long ago I wrote here asking for advice. Finally I made decision and went back home - to Ukraine. But my K1 visa of course is screwed up because I have overstayed in US for 1 year. Right now I am supposed to have 3 year bar. I want to ask all of you and especially Ukrainians, I want to go back. Where can I find any information about how to do it and under what circumstances I will be allowed to go to USA? And what kind of visa will be the best? Maybe I will go back with the different man

Thank you!

I cant help but have this fear about things not working out when my fiancee arrives here, eventually. I mean shes coming here alone, she has no family or friends here, I am it for her. Now the thing is, what if things just dont work out for us here? Ive been to visit her a few times already and the most we spent together straight was 2 weeks. We had great times but that was just a vacation. You never really know anybody unless you live with them, it doesnt matter how much phone/IM communication you have. So what if things dont go like we thought? Does anyone here ever think about this? Does anyone know of this happening to anyone?

I went through all this myself. We were dating for 3 years and in March 2007 I left everything and moved to US to be with him. We had everything couples usually have. But we didn't get married the first 3 months. Actually we never did. I lived there with him for a bit more than year. We were trying to solve our problemt (he was too busy with his business problems - he is owner of the business and his business was slowly goinf down). So, in June 2008 I came back to my country. Of course now I have 3 year bar just because I was giving him a lot of second chances

But I don't regret anything we had, I loved him greatly and I still do. Now he sais that as soon as he solves all his problems he will come back for me, but I am not sure that I want to go through all this one more time.

It is sad but you can't do anything. Don't be afraid of anything, don't focus on that. Just try your best for it not to happen. Of course when you start to live together you will start to learn about each other from the very beginning. But don't be afraid of that!!! Just try to sopport her as much as she needs it, trust me it will be very hard for her to be there.

Good luck to you and God bless you. Hope everything will work out for you!

Hi, I have a very complicated question. My ex fiance filed a k1 petition for me last 2004. I went to USA, but then he is so nice that he said he wasn't ready and didn't marry me, so I came back home to the Philippines. One month later, he realized he was wrong, so he filed one again for me... we had on and off relationship so the petition was approved but we postponed and cancel and reactivate. Last February 2008, I went to US again to marry him,,, but he is really really nice that he said he can't marry.

My question is, I am the victim here, What if I meet someone new and would like to petition me, will it be a huge problem? I know I will never go back to my ex anymore, I feel like it is a game for him. My worriy is my future application if ever. I am back to the Philippines again anyway. Didn't stay more than 90 days in the US.

That's funny, I'm in the same boat. But my situation is worth. The first time I came here just to meet his family and to visit him. The second time I'm still here in US for 1 year and 1 month, still not married and he doesn't seem to worry about it a lot. I had a chance to leave on May 4th but he asked me to stay and promised that he'll work on our relationship. But I started to doubt that he is still going to marry me. I have another chance to leave back home omJune 1st and I definetela not going to blow this chance. So right now I'm facing 3 year bar:) So, you did great job not staying there for more than 90 days!!! I don't think you'll have any problems if someone will decide to fill a petition for you, though I agree the embassador will ask you a lot of questions. Sorry, that it happened to you too!!! Good luck and God bless you!!!

Hi,

My Fiancée’s interview is scheduled for May 21 at the US Embassy in Moscow. How long is the K-1 valid for? I heard that she must enter the US within 6 months. Is this correct? I can’t seem to find this information anywhere.

Thanks everyone!

Everything above is true. Valid for 6 months, plus 3 in US. And If you want here to work right away (I know most russian and ukrainian women are aeger to work), you'd better Get SSN right away! Good luck to you, guys!

Hi there... I have a stupid question for a stupid mistake...

What happens if the sealed package that came along with the fiancee' visa was opened? I checked around the web but all I could find is the consequences of trying to enter the U.S.

I guess what I need to know is, what should my Fiancee' do and what kind of delay should we expect from this?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read, and hopefuly respond...

I know it sounds stupid, but I had the same situation The package came when I wasn't home, so my mom took it, and you know how curious mothers can be... so she opened everything they brought, looking for passport to check whether I got visa or not. When I came home I was shocked. Thank God she didn't tear it apart!!! I sealed it back with the help of... tape. In the US they said nothing to me, maybe I was lucky Good luck!!!

Copies you usually make for yourself. The government workers can lose them or the documents might not reach the embassy and so on. But for the future, you'd better make copies of all documents you fill. Good luck to you!

Thank you all for your support! You can't imagine how important it is to me! Of course from time to time I get wave of doubts about my decision but everyday I'm persuaded more and more that my decision is the right one. I do need to get out of this kind of life. All this time I was working against myself by doing everything what he needed and he wanted to do. And he in his turn did the least out of what he could do. But it's O.K. I'm now more experienced than I was one or two years ago. No matter what I still want to live and enjoy life fully.

Thank you all again, you are absolutely great!!! I love you all and I wish you all good luck! Maybe some day I'll be here again

Hi again.

Well, I see there was some response to my post. I think someone was a bit too sensitive and did not see my real point. I was trying to explain that if someone does not want help it does little good to try to persuade or force them. I have seen this many times, and no matter what the problem is it has to be their choice. You sure read a lot into what I said that as not there.

Also I see many people who use problems as excuses to get their way. This is really disgusting to me, since the people who really need the help become tainted with the bad things others do using the camouflage of the problem. As you see, I am talking about other things besides just PTSD. How do we know that all his problems are caused by being deployed anyway? To me he sounds like a jerk who is taking advantage of Tashyta. She is the one I have sympathy for. And I admit we only have her side of the story, but that is what I am using unless I hear something from her Fiancee... (smile)

I see you also lashed at Tashyta in your zeal. At least you caught that after someone reacted to you. I am a vet and know a lot more than you think about this. I am sympathetic, but we do not even know if this guy has PTSD! This is speculation. We do know he is not holding his end of the bargain with Tashyta! Save your help for her since she is asking for it.

Thanks Caladan for having more common sense about what I said. I do admit I was harsh, but I think Tashyta is getting a raw deal. And reading posts by people about how she can help her Fiancee after he has been irresponsible and gotten her in trouble really bothered me. If he cared about her he would at least have gotten her to go home before and tried to get his self together without adversely affecting her.

I wish you Luck Tashyta.

Thank you!

I think you are right. Plus it's hard to decide who is right if you hear only one side of the story. But somehow he is not here and not asking for help to solve this problem. He is not actually makingany researches about it. what can it mean? People who really care do at least something, right? Once I made him go to the lawyer with me to find out my real situation, and even after that he didn't move.

Well, I gess I wanted to be fooled and blind. My desire was to help and I hve now what I have and I can't change anything:)

To Tashyta

Do what u feel its right for u and your life. If u are not sure about your life with him together and dont feel enough support and love from him...

I know what I talk about. I was in similar situation. Lived with my ex for 2 years in UK, applied for de facto spouse visa and followed him to Australia (he is AUS), we kind of knew it wouldnt worked out but I loved him soooo much and I gave up everything and followed him. Well, I stayed there just 2 months...we loved each other a lot but it didnt worked out. I bought the ticket and last week we spent together was one of the worst experience of my life, we both cried all day but we knew we wouldnt be good together. So the only solution was to leave and live our own lives. He went to the airport with me and we cried and cried. I cried all the way home, almost 24 h on the plane. Took me long time to recovered from what I went through and when I got home I promised to myself I ll never move for man again. few months later I met Robert - now my lovely husband, well, I moved again but this time I was sure about my feelings.

I wish u good luck in your future and good luck with making the right decision. Sometimes u need to be selfish and do the best for yourself and also for him. And yes, if u leave, it will be very hard next few months or years. But u ll be home with all your friends and family.

Thank you!

You just gave me hope and more confidence!!!

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I think the comment that you made (which I've put in bold) is the most disgraceful thing I've heard in a long while, and I, like all Military spouses who live and breath their military lives on a daily basis will back me on saying that your comment was highly offensive!

You obviously have absolutely no idea as to what the troops out there are having to deal with .... of course you won't as the news on the T.V. cannot actually show you.

Try watching your closest friends being blown up in front of your face .... try having to shoot people on a daily basis because your life and your colleagues lives depend on it .... try dealing with the fact that you've just found another of your colleagues dead because he couldn't cope and committed suicide ..... oh, and don't squirm, this is all tame, because if I wrote the really gory facts ..... you'd probably want to throw up.

So, next time you think 'problems because of being deployed in Iraq, who cares?' ..... stop, and take a minute (while you sit in your comfortable chair, stuffing your face with tasty food) ..... and actually give some thought to the guys out there who are fighting so that you CAN sit in your comfortable chair and CAN stuff your face with tasty food ..... because trust me, they don't have those luxuries that you have ..... they don't get to kiss their wives at night, or often see their children being born .....no, they're fighting so that your sorry ####### is safe.

And because of that, their families get to go without .... and when they return home, it us, the military families that have to pick up the pieces.

Have a bit of respect.

If Tashyta wants to turn her back on a guy who bravely fought for his country and our freedom, then so be it .... not all people are 'man' enough to deal with the fallout of war.

I wish the guy luck, and I hope he gets his back sorted and gets help for his head and somehow gets to re-build his life after giving US (you, me & everyone else) everything he had.

Some of us out here don't run when the going gets tough, we batten down the hatches, we hold our positions, and ride out the storm ..... no relationship is easy, but this issue makes a relationship even harder.

And if anyone from USCIS is actually reading this, your inclusion of war veterans in delays on the I-130's is a downright disgrace, you should be ashamed!

I was never turning my back on him, ever. That's why I'm still here!!! Everytime I was asking him to let me go he was persuading me that he would work on our relations but it never happened, I was the one who was trying to save something between us. All this time he just kept feeding me with all sorts of promises but those promises never turned into anything except words. He wasn't even trying to do anyting about my situation!

He kept saying that since we haven't married within 90 days it doen't matter anymore and I believed him till not so long ago I decided to make some researches about it and found out that IT DOES MATTER!!! And even then he didn't do anything. At the same time he was blaming me that I don't help him with his business and was telling me that I am selfish! Everytime he was telling me that I wanted to cry, coz I was working my a.s.s. off at his work and I was trying to take on myself as much as possible so that he wouldn't be so stressed. Plus I took over everything concerning his house (except bills), he doesn't do anything there. I am working there for free, I get from his business absolutely nothing and I'm working there from 7 a.m. till 10/10.30 p.m. 5/6 days a week!

I don't think that I was the one who turned back to our relationship! And all this time I was just closing my eyes and didn't want to believe that he just didn't care. And still I am afraid to leave him because I CARE ABOUT HIM. I know it's sad, but I need finally to do something for myself, I want to live and enjoy life not constantly being afraid whether some one will turn me in or I'll be cought or whatever.

He was never talking to me, and everytime I asked him to talk to me he just turned around and walked away...

Why didn't he just marry you as soon as you arrived here?

I don't really know. Well, three months are not enough to get to know each other very good - that's what he told me. I assume that even one year is not enough...

How long did you know one another prior to moving there on the K1?????

close to 4 years, but to know each other on the distance and start to live with each other ad get to know each other closely are different. When I came here I found out that he is absolutely different person from the one I used to know

Why didn't he just marry you as soon as you arrived here?

I don't really know. Well, three months are not enough to get to know each other very good - that's what he told me. I assume that even one year is not enough...

Yes, he will feel better chatting to his friend who was there .... they did a lot of stuff that makes most of these guys feel terribly guilty .... but they forget that it was what they were trained to do sadly. Back in the civilian world, their experiences seem quite surreal and often mess their heads up for a while.

Also, he could choose to mobilise for a year as Active Duty (Active Reserve) ... as he's NG, there's probably a strong chance he'd be kept Stateside not sent back to Iraq (????) .... it may help him sort his finances with a more solid paycheck and certainly give him immediate access to help .... and there would be no need to worry about health insurance as you'd get Tri-Care ..... just a thought.

He injured his back in Iraq and hi is not deployable for now but the military requires from him a surgery which should be done in couple months. and usually after surgeries you should stayin the bed for couplemore months which he can't afford with business problems.

As a PTSD survivor, what was just written is fairly typical of someone trying to cope w/ post traumatic stress. Google PTSD and read up a little on it. Your man needs help in coming to grips with his experiences in a war zone even if he does NOT realize nor want it.

He doesn't want it simply because it'll take time which he doen't have. Right now he has to solve tons of problems: business, army, health, taxes and most of them already overdued. He doen't know what to start from. And I'm sure he'll refuse just because of lack of time. Though I know he talks from time to time with his friend who was also in Iraq about war and consicuences and he sais he feels better after those conversations.

The problem is that he doesn't know himself what he wants to do with his own life, he hasn't decided yet