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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from then in ethical dilemma   
    Just Bob: This strikes me as ethnocentric. Is it your belief that no USC should marry anyone one from a high-fraud-risk country? There are plenty of people in other countries who have had "proper training" and there are plenty of "aggressive" and "unadoptable" people here. Manipulation and deceit are human characteristics that are not confined by borders. Your analogy assumes she should have known how to distinguish different "dogs" from the beginning. This is unreasonable given the frequency of marriage fraud, abuse, etc. OP appears to be the victim of a crime. While it is a natural psychological response to blame the victim, it is extremely unfair.
    OP: I agree with the other posts. I think it is worthwhile to contact USCIS. You seem to be a very rational person. The fact he specifically mentioned his sister getting married for papers is significant information. USCIS works with the information they can get - it doesn't have to be a concrete argument. Who knows how they will respond but I think it is worth your time. I wish you the best.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from PalestineMyHeart in ethical dilemma   
    Just Bob: This strikes me as ethnocentric. Is it your belief that no USC should marry anyone one from a high-fraud-risk country? There are plenty of people in other countries who have had "proper training" and there are plenty of "aggressive" and "unadoptable" people here. Manipulation and deceit are human characteristics that are not confined by borders. Your analogy assumes she should have known how to distinguish different "dogs" from the beginning. This is unreasonable given the frequency of marriage fraud, abuse, etc. OP appears to be the victim of a crime. While it is a natural psychological response to blame the victim, it is extremely unfair.
    OP: I agree with the other posts. I think it is worthwhile to contact USCIS. You seem to be a very rational person. The fact he specifically mentioned his sister getting married for papers is significant information. USCIS works with the information they can get - it doesn't have to be a concrete argument. Who knows how they will respond but I think it is worth your time. I wish you the best.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from Tahoma in ethical dilemma   
    Just Bob: This strikes me as ethnocentric. Is it your belief that no USC should marry anyone one from a high-fraud-risk country? There are plenty of people in other countries who have had "proper training" and there are plenty of "aggressive" and "unadoptable" people here. Manipulation and deceit are human characteristics that are not confined by borders. Your analogy assumes she should have known how to distinguish different "dogs" from the beginning. This is unreasonable given the frequency of marriage fraud, abuse, etc. OP appears to be the victim of a crime. While it is a natural psychological response to blame the victim, it is extremely unfair.
    OP: I agree with the other posts. I think it is worthwhile to contact USCIS. You seem to be a very rational person. The fact he specifically mentioned his sister getting married for papers is significant information. USCIS works with the information they can get - it doesn't have to be a concrete argument. Who knows how they will respond but I think it is worth your time. I wish you the best.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from Myopia in Getting deported tomorrow?!   
    Oh wow, I guess I missed the drama on my own post. I need to check in more often. In case anyone is still interested, I'll clarify. My ex-husband has already been convicted and served out the criminal sentences. He is in immigration custody and the court date was his immigration bond hearing. Harpa Timsah is right. I was asking about the process without an agenda. I would like to see him deported. However, I do not want to be a part of the process. When my daughter is old enough to ask why her father was deported, I want both her dad and I to say I played no role. I have not and will not help him financially or legally. I will not testify for him in court. I will, however, provide him his things so he leaves this country with his passport, personal effects etc and not just the clothes on his back. Our divorce is not final but this will not affect it (I already have sole custody, I'm just waiting on the judgement). I want to know what is happening and where he is. If a decision is made, I would need to prep my daughter (either for a visit or a phone call from Africa). I have made peace with him and try to maintain a good relationship. He will always be my daughter's father. I was livid at how our justice system treats violence against women and I was venting (similarly, it pisses me off that animal abuse generally receives harsher punishment than domestic violence). Taking a neutral stance is not a contradiction. Sorry for the confusion. Again, thanks to everyone who took the time to reply.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from leonje in Getting deported tomorrow?!   
    Oh wow, I guess I missed the drama on my own post. I need to check in more often. In case anyone is still interested, I'll clarify. My ex-husband has already been convicted and served out the criminal sentences. He is in immigration custody and the court date was his immigration bond hearing. Harpa Timsah is right. I was asking about the process without an agenda. I would like to see him deported. However, I do not want to be a part of the process. When my daughter is old enough to ask why her father was deported, I want both her dad and I to say I played no role. I have not and will not help him financially or legally. I will not testify for him in court. I will, however, provide him his things so he leaves this country with his passport, personal effects etc and not just the clothes on his back. Our divorce is not final but this will not affect it (I already have sole custody, I'm just waiting on the judgement). I want to know what is happening and where he is. If a decision is made, I would need to prep my daughter (either for a visit or a phone call from Africa). I have made peace with him and try to maintain a good relationship. He will always be my daughter's father. I was livid at how our justice system treats violence against women and I was venting (similarly, it pisses me off that animal abuse generally receives harsher punishment than domestic violence). Taking a neutral stance is not a contradiction. Sorry for the confusion. Again, thanks to everyone who took the time to reply.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from TBoneTX in Getting deported tomorrow?!   
    Oh wow, I guess I missed the drama on my own post. I need to check in more often. In case anyone is still interested, I'll clarify. My ex-husband has already been convicted and served out the criminal sentences. He is in immigration custody and the court date was his immigration bond hearing. Harpa Timsah is right. I was asking about the process without an agenda. I would like to see him deported. However, I do not want to be a part of the process. When my daughter is old enough to ask why her father was deported, I want both her dad and I to say I played no role. I have not and will not help him financially or legally. I will not testify for him in court. I will, however, provide him his things so he leaves this country with his passport, personal effects etc and not just the clothes on his back. Our divorce is not final but this will not affect it (I already have sole custody, I'm just waiting on the judgement). I want to know what is happening and where he is. If a decision is made, I would need to prep my daughter (either for a visit or a phone call from Africa). I have made peace with him and try to maintain a good relationship. He will always be my daughter's father. I was livid at how our justice system treats violence against women and I was venting (similarly, it pisses me off that animal abuse generally receives harsher punishment than domestic violence). Taking a neutral stance is not a contradiction. Sorry for the confusion. Again, thanks to everyone who took the time to reply.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from Bsze in Getting deported tomorrow?!   
    Oh wow, I guess I missed the drama on my own post. I need to check in more often. In case anyone is still interested, I'll clarify. My ex-husband has already been convicted and served out the criminal sentences. He is in immigration custody and the court date was his immigration bond hearing. Harpa Timsah is right. I was asking about the process without an agenda. I would like to see him deported. However, I do not want to be a part of the process. When my daughter is old enough to ask why her father was deported, I want both her dad and I to say I played no role. I have not and will not help him financially or legally. I will not testify for him in court. I will, however, provide him his things so he leaves this country with his passport, personal effects etc and not just the clothes on his back. Our divorce is not final but this will not affect it (I already have sole custody, I'm just waiting on the judgement). I want to know what is happening and where he is. If a decision is made, I would need to prep my daughter (either for a visit or a phone call from Africa). I have made peace with him and try to maintain a good relationship. He will always be my daughter's father. I was livid at how our justice system treats violence against women and I was venting (similarly, it pisses me off that animal abuse generally receives harsher punishment than domestic violence). Taking a neutral stance is not a contradiction. Sorry for the confusion. Again, thanks to everyone who took the time to reply.
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    MamaAsiya got a reaction from Deputy Purple in Getting deported tomorrow?!   
    Oh wow, I guess I missed the drama on my own post. I need to check in more often. In case anyone is still interested, I'll clarify. My ex-husband has already been convicted and served out the criminal sentences. He is in immigration custody and the court date was his immigration bond hearing. Harpa Timsah is right. I was asking about the process without an agenda. I would like to see him deported. However, I do not want to be a part of the process. When my daughter is old enough to ask why her father was deported, I want both her dad and I to say I played no role. I have not and will not help him financially or legally. I will not testify for him in court. I will, however, provide him his things so he leaves this country with his passport, personal effects etc and not just the clothes on his back. Our divorce is not final but this will not affect it (I already have sole custody, I'm just waiting on the judgement). I want to know what is happening and where he is. If a decision is made, I would need to prep my daughter (either for a visit or a phone call from Africa). I have made peace with him and try to maintain a good relationship. He will always be my daughter's father. I was livid at how our justice system treats violence against women and I was venting (similarly, it pisses me off that animal abuse generally receives harsher punishment than domestic violence). Taking a neutral stance is not a contradiction. Sorry for the confusion. Again, thanks to everyone who took the time to reply.
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