Nutty

I am posting this because we prepared a Affidavit of Support from a Joint Sponsor.
It is my understanding that social security retirement money is not a means tested benefit. Therefore it can be considered income on the Affidavit of Support.
However, the Consulate Officer in Abu Dhabi said that SS can not be considered income.

When we eat fruit, my husband is always taking the first bite and then insisting I eat the remaining fruit. Pushing it my hand and saying, "this one is really delicious!" He always wants to give me his sweetest fruit.
Brings me a glass of water when I go to bed (doesn't sound romantic, but it shows he cares).
Adjusting my clothing to make sure nothing risque (by his standards) was showing. Although I found this habit annoying at times, I knew it was because he cared about me.
When I was very sick a few times, he would bring me food and sit by my side. Sometimes doing Charlie Chaplin-like pantomime things to make me laugh.
How about your spouses???? What do they do???