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    Tunisia216 reacted to Nasturtium in June 2012   
    This thread is super slow. We used to have a daily one that would reach several pages... oh and an exercise thread! You guys need to have a party or something in here. Invite the chatty people... write a few poems?
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    Tunisia216 reacted to Jenifer2010 in Problems at Tunisian airports   
    There have been many people spreading false information here. I would be very careful to not follow their recommendations. Instead, here is the link to the EXACT information for French Consulate: http://www.consulfrance-washington.org/spip.php?article383
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    Tunisia216 reacted to sara535 in MENA Relationships Poll   
    Answered the poll, no dirty laundry airing from me
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    Tunisia216 reacted to KittyPollitt in MENA Relationships Poll   
    I'm the USC and my husband is Moroccan. He's here in the States with me and is a dollface model of human perfection. This is my second marriage, his first, and we have a 16 month old daughter. We've lived together in our respective countries for about 18 months.
    My first husband was from Nepal- he was a F1 overstayer who I met when he delivered my Indian food. I don't know to this day if our relationship was genuine or not- I know that we both liked each other, I guess we just got married for the wrong reasons (him to please his parents and anchor himself in America, and me to get back at my smarmy, cheating Moroccan ex boyfriend), and there wasn't enough to it to make up for the cultural differences. Took 4 months of him frying curried spinach every day, stinking up the house and me sleeping beneath a glow in the dark Ganesha with creepy eyes for me to say "I can't take this anymore" and roll out.
    The cultural differences with my current husband are negligible. He's not very religious, and we have the same outlook on life. And he doesn't have a glow in the dark Ganesha in our bedroom, watching everything that goes on (TOOOO CREEPY).
    I'm not addicted to MENA men, but I do like tan guys. But I'm to busy riding unicorns through rainbows and lollipopsland to even think about marrying another dude.
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    Tunisia216 reacted to Staashi in American Embassy in Cairo should be opened now!   
    As of right now, the embassy's services are on hold and are unnecessary because all US citizens evacuated that wanted to. To them, beneficiaries of visas are very, very low on the totem pole of importance. Just because people want to be reunited with their Egyptian fiancee or spouse is not a significant enough reason to reopen in an unstable environment. The embassy will open only when they sense that their American staff is out of danger.
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    Tunisia216 reacted to Ban Hammer in FYI RE: Tunis Embassy   
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    Tunisia216 got a reaction from Sunny123 in FYI RE: Tunis Embassy   
    My favorite was : "Note to Ben Ali : Send the plane back when you're done. It's not yours. "
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    Tunisia216 reacted to Ban Hammer in Merry Christmas   
    this thread consistently appears to be nothing more than a venue to post negativity towards islam and as such it closed.
    a reminder to all of the following:
    Post Content intended to degrade, intimidate, or incite violence or prejudicial action against a broad demographic or group of people identified by a unifying trait or characteristic (discrimination). For instance, racist or sexist content may be considered hate speech.
    Make comments in a Post either direct or implied toward another member that are purposely designed to upset, antagonize, make fun of, belittle, or otherwise instigate an argument that takes away from the personal enjoyment of the Service by other users.
    hanging in there - do not restart this thread or anything similar to it in the future. it is obvious from your post history that you have an axe to grind with this religion. do not do it on vj and especially within this forum.
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    Tunisia216 got a reaction from caybee in Adjusting to America   
    There has been a lot of excellent advice given here, but one thing that I don't see, which I really feel a lot of petitioners do not think about is the shock that you will experience yourself. Yes, the immigrant has culture shock and needs help getting use to life in the USA, missing family, friends, his or her way of life, etc. However there is also a period of drastic change in your own life. You're going from living alone (or living with children, etc) to having someone new in your home full time. Yes you love him and you've waited 6, 9, 12 months or more to have him with you, but things just are not going to work the way that you use to. One poster touched on how her husband didn't accept her coming/going as she pleased, but there are other things as well. You have your own schedule ; when you wake up, morning routine, work, kids, friends, dinner, tv shows, etc and now there is going to be another person who has to be incorporated into that. If you're a person who doesn't do well with change, this can be a huge deal and I experienced my own "shock". I love my husband dearly and the last few years that he's been in the US with me have been a blessing, but it hasn't been roses and rainbows. We had to learn to live together. It's no different than if you marry someone in the US and after marriage live together. I was very accustomed to my quiet evenings, reading, television shows, books, going out with friends, etc. After his arrival I was excited and wanted to entertain him, show him his new home, make sure that he felt comfortable, etc. But after a while it starts to feel taxing ; all those creature comforts that you were use to just aren't the same anymore. Again this might have been only me as I don't deal as well with change as some people do. But it's definitely something to think about and prepare for. In some ways the first few months to year can feel very much like having a new child. No, I'm not calling your husband a child, but he is unfamiliar with the area, has no close family or friends, doesn't know how to get from point A to point B, might not understand how a debit or credit card works, is overwhelmed by the selection at the grocery store and can't wrap his mind around 40,000 versions of the same item, doesn't understand slang terms, and the list goes on and on. You have to take him by the hand and guide him through all of this. From teaching to drive and getting a license, to ordering at a restaurant, to using his new ATM card at the MAC machine or credit card to purchase something, etc. I even had to explain the credit process (credit scores, how to obtain credit, how to keep good credit, )
    Keeping an open mind and being very patient are probably the two best pieces of advice that I can give.
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    Tunisia216 reacted to prince+angel in Monday   
    Morning MENA! Happy Monday!
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