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Actually, I find that all rather offensive. You are entitled to your point of view but the way you put it forward is obnoxious to say the least.
Both parties give up things to be together, not just the USC and not just the spouse. I am giving up a well paid job (I earn FAR more than my husband does), the country I have lived in all my life, close contact with my friends and my family (it's not just a small car journey or walk anymore), a country I am comfortable in and understand. All to be with my husband and I do it gladly... but how can you say that is not giving up important things? Not everything is about money. Those other things you mention: effort, heart and time... well, we both are equal is those, he gives no more time, love or effort than I do. No relationship should be so one-sided as you seem to show, otherwise it's no relationship at all.
Also, the money used for a USC to petition for their spouse is THEIR money, not just the USCs money. It may be old fashioned but once you are married, everything is shared, there is no "his" or "mine", there is only "ours". If the marriage breaks up and then the story changes to it was the "USCs money" then that is resentment talking. If you are talking about fiance(e) visa's then that is different but a marriage license doesn't have to be the first moment your posessions become "shared".
Marriages break up for numerous reasons and your comment implies that it is always the non-USCs fault. If a foreign spouse gives up his/her home country for a year or so, gets a job, helps support the family and the marriage breaks up due to unforseen circumstances, I don't think the foreign spouse should be immediately told they have to leave. After all, they have worked for that amount of time to create a new life for themselves. Not all marriage splits are non-amicable either, it could be a joint decision to separate and on good terms.
I have no idea what the future will hold, but I have hope that my husband and I will grow old together. Should things not work out that way, I don't know whether I will come home to the UK or want to stay in America. However, I would like to have the option... not just be thrown on a plane and told to leave (exaggeration, obviously). At this point, it is only my husband and his family that are my reasons for wanting to be in the States but, after living there for a while, who knows.

Correcting CSC applicants number
California Service Center (23 applicants)
VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....
EXTRACARE..........05/29/10..........06/07/10.......07/20/10........--/--/10....
TRI_GEAR...........06/01/10..........06/03/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
SKYKATE............06/01/10..........06/03/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
GCHAN100...........06/01/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
KAFFY..............06/02/10..........06/07/10.......07/27/10........--/--/10....
AANDLKC............06/04/10..........06/07/10.......07/16/10........--/--/10....
CELLARLILY.........06/04/10..........06/07/10.......07/22/10........--/--/10....
C AND J............06/04/10..........06/14/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
TRUFFLES...........06/04/10..........06/14/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
WEATHERMAN.........06/08/10..........06/10/10.......07/23/10........--/--/10....
BLUEGREEN..........06/09/10..........06/16/10.......07/27/10........--/--/10....
ALWAYSWAITING......06/12/10..........06/14/10.......07/23/10........--/--/10....
CHINTAN............06/15/10..........06/21/10.......07/26/10........--/--/10....
YGANDMAT...........06/15/10..........06/21/10.......07/15/10........--/--/10....
MCFEI..............06/18/10..........06/21/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
SHEL444............06/18/10..........06/21/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
THANH..............06/18/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
MEOWGIRL...........06/22/10..........06/28/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
WELLYWENCH.........06/22/10..........06/23/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
FOULTE.............06/22/10..........06/24/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
KELZM..............06/24/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
SHE_HIM............06/25/10..........06/28/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
EM79SUGAR..........06/28/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
Vermont Service Center (24 applicants)
VJName.............Date of I-751.....NOA1 Date......Biometrics......Approved....
MRS W..............05/28/10..........06/02/10.......07/26/10........--/--/10....
OLD DOMINION.......06/01/10..........06/03/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
CIVIRAM_HCL........06/01/10..........06/08/10.......07/20/10........--/--/10....
HONDO1Z............06/01/10..........06/04/10.......07/20/10........--/--/10....
DHSPLEASE..........06/01/10..........06/11/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
LIZARED78..........06/03/10..........06/08/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
ELMIRA.............06/04/10..........06/07/10.......07/20/10........--/--/10....
SSAH...............06/04/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
L640...............06/06/10..........06/09/10.......07/21/10........--/--/10....
EARMUFFS.......... 06/06/10..........06/12/10.......07/27/10........--/--/10....
LINDSEY Y KOKI.....06/07/10..........06/10/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
LADYAMALTHEA.......06/10/10..........06/14/10.......07/22/10........--/--/10....
ALETHEIA...........06/10/10..........06/14/10.......07/22/10........--/--/10....
DOMINICANGIRL3.....06/10/10..........06/16/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
JMK................06/11/10..........06/16/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
MDTOVA.............06/15/10..........06/17/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
TRAZOM.............06/15/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
LA VIDA ES BELLA...06/16/10..........06/19/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
MALLA..............06/17/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
KJW................06/21/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
RANDOM NONSENSE....06/22/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
MARCUS AND LAURA...06/22/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
ALL4KWEKU..........06/22/10..........06/25/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
KITEEGIRL..........06/29/10..........--/--/10.......--/--/10........--/--/10....
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