Topic moved from Moving to the US forum to Bringing Family members of Permanent Residents to America forum
It is immigration fraud to come to the US on a non-immigrant visa with an intent to adjust status. Besides, spouses of LPRs cannot adjust status while on VWP/ESTA, only spouses of US citizens are able to. So to answer your question, no it isn’t the right thing to do and even if it were, AOS is not possible.
Being apart the last thing anybody here wants to do. As a permanent resident, the process of petitioning a spouse is very lengthy and it won’t be ASAP. Unfortunately, that is the reality of US immigration.