Mithra

This right here is pretty spot on. There are loads of pretty women with low self esteem. No offense OP but I've found that the ones who remind others of their attractiveness over and over are usually the low self esteem type. A quick mention of your attractiveness in your original post would have sufficed.
That being said, I don't really feel like you've been scammed, OP. I feel like, as another poster mentioned, you married someone you didn't really know and found that you didn't particularly like, love, respect, or were attracted to the man your husband turned out to be. Obviously your husband turned out to be a bit of a freak and somewhat of a scumbag but that doesn't mean he set out to scam you. You probably shouldn't have bought him a car and made his life so comfortable if you didn't like or love him.

I'm going to guess that the only MENA men who think older women/younger men relationships are cool and legit are the ones in that sort of relationship. My husband doesn't buy them either. But then scams happen within similarly aged couples, too. All anyone can do is be cautious and look out for themselves.

So having a legit marriage means it's ok to commit fraud and bypass the normal visa process that everyone else has to go through? I think everyone in this forum would argue that they also have a legit marriage/relationship and also would like to be together ASAP. Deciding to live in your husband's country and having several children is a decision you chose to make knowing full well that if you decided to move to the states you would be separated for awhile. You're not new to this site. You know this information. Feigning ignorance doesn't equal not knowing the rules.

I'm going to guess that the only MENA men who think older women/younger men relationships are cool and legit are the ones in that sort of relationship. My husband doesn't buy them either. But then scams happen within similarly aged couples, too. All anyone can do is be cautious and look out for themselves.

I'm going to guess that the only MENA men who think older women/younger men relationships are cool and legit are the ones in that sort of relationship. My husband doesn't buy them either. But then scams happen within similarly aged couples, too. All anyone can do is be cautious and look out for themselves.

So having a legit marriage means it's ok to commit fraud and bypass the normal visa process that everyone else has to go through? I think everyone in this forum would argue that they also have a legit marriage/relationship and also would like to be together ASAP. Deciding to live in your husband's country and having several children is a decision you chose to make knowing full well that if you decided to move to the states you would be separated for awhile. You're not new to this site. You know this information. Feigning ignorance doesn't equal not knowing the rules.

Merry Christmas!
We're planning on staying home this year for Christmas. With the new baby things have been a bit hectic so low key and simple seems perfect. I'm exhausted lol.
This year will be my husband's 6th Christmas in the states and we'll celebrate our 8th anniversary on January 8.
I hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas and very happy and healthy New Year!

That may be but lack of AP would not help anyone who chooses to ignore red flags in their relationship. This is an AP thread not a MENA men are dirtbags and scammers thread. Not saying that what you're saying is untrue, just that AP wouldn't reveal if a guy has bad intentions. It's up to the individual to protect themselves and not become blinded by "love" and sweet talk.
In all my years on this board there may have been maybe one or two people who have taken heed of warnings. Out of hundreds, one or two. Most people must learn for themselves.

Nothing better to do than troll, eh? The length of AP is not a reflection of an individual. It is mostly a process of elimination, mainly names against intelligence. Department of State has absolutely no pressure or reason to complete background checks quickly. Sometimes they do investigations for fraud, but if fraud is determined, the beneficiary will be refused a visa. But the Department of State can't be responsible for YOUR bad choices. You married the guy, if he ended up being a bad apple no one is at fault but you for failing to get to know him well enough and the fallout of your decision to bring him to the US is no one's problem but your own.

Merry Christmas!
We're planning on staying home this year for Christmas. With the new baby things have been a bit hectic so low key and simple seems perfect. I'm exhausted lol.
This year will be my husband's 6th Christmas in the states and we'll celebrate our 8th anniversary on January 8.
I hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas and very happy and healthy New Year!

Awww thanks, ladies! We're overjoyed! Her dark hair and darker complexion were the deciding factors on her name. she's just the sweetest little girl. <3

I don't know if she's excited but she's being really cute about the whole thing. She'll lift my shirt and say, hi baby! Then put it down and say, bye baby! She also kisses the baby. She will also put her stuffed animals under her shirt and walk around holding her back groaning lol.

I don't know if she's excited but she's being really cute about the whole thing. She'll lift my shirt and say, hi baby! Then put it down and say, bye baby! She also kisses the baby. She will also put her stuffed animals under her shirt and walk around holding her back groaning lol.

Please quote one post that was degrading to your SO personally. Not one person, aside from yourself, knows your SO so I'm really not sure how it's possible that someone degraded him. If you mean that people mentioned that SOME young Arab guys are scam artists, yes SOME are but that's not degrading anyone that's stating a fact. No one said your guy is a scammer. No one here knows him to say he is. People are simply telling you to be cautious and take your time. I'm not sure how that's bad advice. I would advise someone to do that even with an American guy.

I'm sorry but that above is ridiculous. 23 year old men from any country can be capable of being lazy and childish just the same as 23 year old men can be mature and responsible. It's not where they're from that matters, it's how they were raised, their own personality, and what they've been exposed to.

Please quote one post that was degrading to your SO personally. Not one person, aside from yourself, knows your SO so I'm really not sure how it's possible that someone degraded him. If you mean that people mentioned that SOME young Arab guys are scam artists, yes SOME are but that's not degrading anyone that's stating a fact. No one said your guy is a scammer. No one here knows him to say he is. People are simply telling you to be cautious and take your time. I'm not sure how that's bad advice. I would advise someone to do that even with an American guy.

I'm sorry but that above is ridiculous. 23 year old men from any country can be capable of being lazy and childish just the same as 23 year old men can be mature and responsible. It's not where they're from that matters, it's how they were raised, their own personality, and what they've been exposed to.

Like momof1 mentioned, waiting for the visa even if it takes a long while is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. My husband and I are 6.5 years post visa issuance and arrival to the US. We were apart for 2.5 years between meeting each other, getting married, and waiting for the visa. The wait was difficult. I cried and whined and complained. 6.5 years later I look back and think, what the hell was I crying, whining, and complaining about? It seems like forever ago. We've lived so much life since then. We've been through tough times and joyous times. We've lived apart due to work. We've had a child together and now have another on the way. We've almost ended things a few times the first 4 or so years. All of that makes the visa process look like a cake walk, easy peazy. So success is not living in two different countries while waiting for a visa and it's not getting the visa. It's living day to day life and making things work even when it would be easier to go your seperate ways. I'm not saying our life is always hard but there were hard times that certainly blow waiting for a visa out of the water. I'm also not saying our marriage is a success because we're both still breathing and anything can happen at any time to f things up.
And for the record, YOU are more focused on the visa as a sign of success than most others in this thread.

The guy you congratulated on having a successful relationship has been in the US a month or so. Again, how is this a success? I don't read backwards. I keep reading how you're thinking a guy who has been here a month or so is a success because he managed to overcome a denial and get to the US. He successfully overcame a denial and gained entry to the US. He successfully put up with having to chat online and talk on the phone for a couple years. He hasn't been a success story in terms of May December MENA marriage, yet. You're not getting it. Plus you're very abrasive and insulting for no reason.
I, personally, did not say this woman's boyfriend is going to leave her for a younger woman. I don't that he will or won't. I'm not psychic. That is not the ONLY reason MENA marriages fail. You guys in the much older woman/younger man relationships get super defensive like everyone is out to get you. The advice about being careful becomes OMG he's totally going to leave you because you're old!!! You guys need to calm down.

The guy you congratulated on having a successful relationship has been in the US a month or so. Again, how is this a success? I don't read backwards. I keep reading how you're thinking a guy who has been here a month or so is a success because he managed to overcome a denial and get to the US. He successfully overcame a denial and gained entry to the US. He successfully put up with having to chat online and talk on the phone for a couple years. He hasn't been a success story in terms of May December MENA marriage, yet. You're not getting it. Plus you're very abrasive and insulting for no reason.
I, personally, did not say this woman's boyfriend is going to leave her for a younger woman. I don't that he will or won't. I'm not psychic. That is not the ONLY reason MENA marriages fail. You guys in the much older woman/younger man relationships get super defensive like everyone is out to get you. The advice about being careful becomes OMG he's totally going to leave you because you're old!!! You guys need to calm down.

Please quote one post that was degrading to your SO personally. Not one person, aside from yourself, knows your SO so I'm really not sure how it's possible that someone degraded him. If you mean that people mentioned that SOME young Arab guys are scam artists, yes SOME are but that's not degrading anyone that's stating a fact. No one said your guy is a scammer. No one here knows him to say he is. People are simply telling you to be cautious and take your time. I'm not sure how that's bad advice. I would advise someone to do that even with an American guy.

Like momof1 mentioned, waiting for the visa even if it takes a long while is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. My husband and I are 6.5 years post visa issuance and arrival to the US. We were apart for 2.5 years between meeting each other, getting married, and waiting for the visa. The wait was difficult. I cried and whined and complained. 6.5 years later I look back and think, what the hell was I crying, whining, and complaining about? It seems like forever ago. We've lived so much life since then. We've been through tough times and joyous times. We've lived apart due to work. We've had a child together and now have another on the way. We've almost ended things a few times the first 4 or so years. All of that makes the visa process look like a cake walk, easy peazy. So success is not living in two different countries while waiting for a visa and it's not getting the visa. It's living day to day life and making things work even when it would be easier to go your seperate ways. I'm not saying our life is always hard but there were hard times that certainly blow waiting for a visa out of the water. I'm also not saying our marriage is a success because we're both still breathing and anything can happen at any time to f things up.
And for the record, YOU are more focused on the visa as a sign of success than most others in this thread.

The guy you congratulated on having a successful relationship has been in the US a month or so. Again, how is this a success? I don't read backwards. I keep reading how you're thinking a guy who has been here a month or so is a success because he managed to overcome a denial and get to the US. He successfully overcame a denial and gained entry to the US. He successfully put up with having to chat online and talk on the phone for a couple years. He hasn't been a success story in terms of May December MENA marriage, yet. You're not getting it. Plus you're very abrasive and insulting for no reason.
I, personally, did not say this woman's boyfriend is going to leave her for a younger woman. I don't that he will or won't. I'm not psychic. That is not the ONLY reason MENA marriages fail. You guys in the much older woman/younger man relationships get super defensive like everyone is out to get you. The advice about being careful becomes OMG he's totally going to leave you because you're old!!! You guys need to calm down.

Please quote one post that was degrading to your SO personally. Not one person, aside from yourself, knows your SO so I'm really not sure how it's possible that someone degraded him. If you mean that people mentioned that SOME young Arab guys are scam artists, yes SOME are but that's not degrading anyone that's stating a fact. No one said your guy is a scammer. No one here knows him to say he is. People are simply telling you to be cautious and take your time. I'm not sure how that's bad advice. I would advise someone to do that even with an American guy.

Like momof1 mentioned, waiting for the visa even if it takes a long while is really nothing in the grand scheme of things. My husband and I are 6.5 years post visa issuance and arrival to the US. We were apart for 2.5 years between meeting each other, getting married, and waiting for the visa. The wait was difficult. I cried and whined and complained. 6.5 years later I look back and think, what the hell was I crying, whining, and complaining about? It seems like forever ago. We've lived so much life since then. We've been through tough times and joyous times. We've lived apart due to work. We've had a child together and now have another on the way. We've almost ended things a few times the first 4 or so years. All of that makes the visa process look like a cake walk, easy peazy. So success is not living in two different countries while waiting for a visa and it's not getting the visa. It's living day to day life and making things work even when it would be easier to go your seperate ways. I'm not saying our life is always hard but there were hard times that certainly blow waiting for a visa out of the water. I'm also not saying our marriage is a success because we're both still breathing and anything can happen at any time to f things up.
And for the record, YOU are more focused on the visa as a sign of success than most others in this thread.