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It sounds like she got her 10 year greencard? Is so, there is little you can do now but divorce and move on (or ask her if she'd be willing to go to marriage counselling) .
 
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Look at your card, what is the date after the words that say "Resident Since"
 
 
He can't do anything.  Your top priority now is to get yourself out of that situation, there are organizations that can assist you if you need it.

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Once the divorce is final, the window to apply for citizenship would not open until you reached the 5 year mark.

I had very strong ties to Thailand. I own land, had two businesses, large extended family & a 9 year old daughter. Three denials for B 2. I found that all of wasn't enough but its Thailand. Those denials caused my husband to decide to bring us to America where we have become citizens which gave us freedom to do as we please. 
In many cases we have seen here on V J property, jobs, money in banks means little because its all transferable or could be sold just as it is in immigration cases. Your culture, family & with respect the Muslim aspect is your best advantage. Present those as your ties because if broken you would have a very very difficult situation. 
One critic pointed out your age & asked why you don't do certain things. While the question is born of ignorance the answer to that may be key. You have demonstrated for many years devotion to faith, family & adopted country. Use that as your tangible ties. 

In that country and culture it's custom for unmarried females to be fully financially supported by their father, and need permission from the father to do certain things (like leave the country).   

Having a job would be ok but jobs are easy to leave & acquire just as you are about to do. In your case, in that country, its not that unusual for a father to fully support a child especially a daughter. The fact that you rely on him for such support my help you. I doubt he would support you if you didn't return. 
In my experience I found there was no chance to explain anything but your circumstances are unique as is the embassy there.  Best to apply & be ready to explain if given a chance.

Unless the child is an orphan it is nearly impossible to adopt and have the child immigrate. USCIS has rules to prevent adoptions meant to shortcut long family waits. The path is to petition the sibling wait 23 years and then the niece will have a path. If the child is an orphan you have to live with child for 2 years.

For the record, the US Consulate in Toronto doesn't conduct immigrant visa interviews so your file never would've been sent there, it would've gone to the Consulate in Montreal which is the only location that conducts immigrant visa interviews for applicants in Canada.
 
Wait until your file reaches the NVC, once it does inform them that your husband is now back in Thailand and the file needs to be routed to Bangkok.  You may not be able to make that change until the case is officially in the system and assigned a case number (said number will initially start with MTL for Montreal, you will need to get that changed to BKK for Bangkok).

Some officers don't even give the chance to say that you can show docs.  It's at their discretion.  Do you have much knowledge of the Moroccan consulate?  Giving hope for a tourist visa here isn't very helpful.

The chances for your spouse obtaining a tourist visa are very slim. You would have to really show strong ties in the country you live in now. They will look at where your spouse has a right to become a permanent resident of the US, you guys will visit and your spouse might not return to their home country. A lot of people I know married to USC have been denied a tourist visa. Good luck with your journey.

I don't know what to tell you other than your chances of ever getting a tourist visa are slim to none.  Morocco is an incredibly difficult embassy and high fraud 

I am sure all the members know & that you realize our comments are our efforts to help you. 
I am not clear on what you say about Thailand being tainted so early in this situation. It would be a great idea to go to Thailand one day to visit the country for many reasons but that should be preceded by an overall plan to achieve whatever it is you are really looking for. Plan on a winter trip & you will love the weather. 
The description of her & her life sounds very familiar to anyone that knows Thailand or is Thai. The fact that she is telling you that she cant come to you until that house is done should illuminate some things for you. Houses there are owned very differently than here. Ask her who owns the land. Is the house under construction? Who will live there once done? Has it been surveyed? How will the house be paid for? 
Ask her to get a little serious & get a tourist visa. You have nothing to do with that process but she has to submit some info to get the visa. If the embassy grants her a tourist visa it would mean she proved very strong ties to Thailand. Its possible she could get a 10 year tourist visa. I have a female Thai friend who did just that recently with a little help. She can come to visit in person some schools where she could take those dream classes including English. I myself have done that & continue to do so. 
 

I don't think this is all that hard to understand but we have to keep in mind that the O P hasn't even met this women. There should be no discussion of anything related to money & especially sin sod. Neither side realizes the damage that can be done but the Thais just cant let a chance go by & aren't used to investing in a future as an American may be. 
I suggest testing the waters by telling her to do as she indicates by seeking a tourist visa. I don't think she can get one but it would indicate what her true status in Thailand might be. And her will to put out some serious effort. Keep in mind the O P is on disability which may affect travel ect on his part. 

Do you know what it can take to get a tourist visa for a Thai? Do not minimize these aspects in your planning & approach to this situation. Have her send you a copy of her application. Tell her we are here to help her with that visa. Have her post with you. 
 

This is a subject that few understand outside of Thailand. You are fixated on the money & even the amount which is typical of those that don't understand. . Find on Amazon the book,Thailand Fever. Have her find it in Thailand too. Read it & have her formulate questions from the Thai side to help you understand things about her. 
You are in love with a girl you never met & she is bringing up sin sod so early in what will turn out to be a long path to a relationship. Paying a fee this early is never done & I would question why she is bringing it up. I caution you to stay completely out of the subject of money until you have learned some things. 
She says she doesn't care but she does. Thais are never direct. Her parents are pushing her to find out what you are willing to pay. Tell them there will be no discussion of money at all until you have established a relationship. That must be built of a foundation of trust & mutual respect. There is no price to pay for that other than emotional costs. 
You ask what a fair amount would be for sin sod. That is very difficult to determine but it is to be no more than you can afford. The concept that you will be given the money back should be understood because its unlikely. The family needs to look good in front of friends but they are Thai & should know how. Keep in mind if you marry you will be expected to help the family in many different ways down the road. 

Do you know what it can take to get a tourist visa for a Thai? Do not minimize these aspects in your planning & approach to this situation. Have her send you a copy of her application. Tell her we are here to help her with that visa. Have her post with you. 
 

My husband didn't even talk to anyone about this subject. He took care of our mom then & does to this day 12 years later but refused to put on a show for others. We are happy to help when we can like any family would. 
I suggest you pay what you feel is fair while realizing the family will need help in the years to come. Save a little for the beach house & fish. 

My husband didn't even talk to anyone about this subject. He took care of our mom then & does to this day 12 years later but refused to put on a show for others. We are happy to help when we can like any family would. 
I suggest you pay what you feel is fair while realizing the family will need help in the years to come. Save a little for the beach house & fish. 

Please use caution here. There are many good people in Thailand of course but I suggest care in looking at all of this. She sounds like a picture of stability especially for a Thai. Why is she as you said " miserable "? 
She can obtain a tourist visa? Based of what she told you? Then ask her to come to meet you in the USA. 

I am not surprised to find your questions and plans are about money from the beginning until I remember you haven't even met her yet. Everything you have discussed is about money yet you say it isn't important. Its one aspect that shouldn't be a part of the discussion at this point. 
I lived in Thailand for 35 years so have a good idea of how things are done. You may learn, but with what you know now you have a lot more homework to do. My advice is to begin at the beginning. 

Hey  For starters, I am the foreign beneficiary of this couple and coming from Asia, I understand a fair bit about the culture of giving dowry to the lady's side. I also am aware of people coming from poor countries or backgrounds to expect the gentleman to support the lady's family after marriage (sometimes the support begins before marriage even) or even just for the sake of improving their reputation among relatives and villagers. If the guy is able and is willing to provide the support, to each their own. Obviously it is not my money and I shouldn't have a say in it.
 
However, I'm just a bit shocked by the amount of dowry that was asked of you. THB1.5 million amounts to $45,000 in USD (MYR192,000 in my currency), that is a sh-t load of money to say the least. It almost seemed like the lady is being sold to a bidder! 
 
As much as you feel like you are a couple, an online relationship is just that, before you actually spend time in person. Personally, if there wasn't already talk of marriage nor is she engaged to you, it really is kinda premature for that kinda discussion to have come up despite it being initiated by the both of you. As it was pointed out by others earlier, the sum of the dowry is not fixed. It's usually a negotiation between both sides. Once again, THB1.5 million/USD45,000 is an overreach. It is probably a whole lot cheaper if you were to just build them a house and pay for all of it plus forking out every dime for the wedding in Thailand. For real. 
 
Unless you are actually gonna get married, don't pay the dowry. Pay only a reasonable amount of dowry and within your ability when the time comes. Be very cautious because you never know if someone is trying to scam you or rip you off. Don't get reversed psyched into things. Sometimes people make you feel guilty or sorry for them just so they can gain what they want from you regardless of their reasons. 
 
All the best with your relationship! Hopefully it is as real as you think it is and it is a love partnership instead of a mere business relationship. 
 

I am not surprised to find your questions and plans are about money from the beginning until I remember you haven't even met her yet. Everything you have discussed is about money yet you say it isn't important. Its one aspect that shouldn't be a part of the discussion at this point. 
I lived in Thailand for 35 years so have a good idea of how things are done. You may learn, but with what you know now you have a lot more homework to do. My advice is to begin at the beginning. 

Why not meet her first???

This is a subject that few understand outside of Thailand. You are fixated on the money & even the amount which is typical of those that don't understand. . Find on Amazon the book,Thailand Fever. Have her find it in Thailand too. Read it & have her formulate questions from the Thai side to help you understand things about her. 
You are in love with a girl you never met & she is bringing up sin sod so early in what will turn out to be a long path to a relationship. Paying a fee this early is never done & I would question why she is bringing it up. I caution you to stay completely out of the subject of money until you have learned some things. 
She says she doesn't care but she does. Thais are never direct. Her parents are pushing her to find out what you are willing to pay. Tell them there will be no discussion of money at all until you have established a relationship. That must be built of a foundation of trust & mutual respect. There is no price to pay for that other than emotional costs. 
You ask what a fair amount would be for sin sod. That is very difficult to determine but it is to be no more than you can afford. The concept that you will be given the money back should be understood because its unlikely. The family needs to look good in front of friends but they are Thai & should know how. Keep in mind if you marry you will be expected to help the family in many different ways down the road. 

This is a subject that few understand outside of Thailand. You are fixated on the money & even the amount which is typical of those that don't understand. . Find on Amazon the book,Thailand Fever. Have her find it in Thailand too. Read it & have her formulate questions from the Thai side to help you understand things about her. 
You are in love with a girl you never met & she is bringing up sin sod so early in what will turn out to be a long path to a relationship. Paying a fee this early is never done & I would question why she is bringing it up. I caution you to stay completely out of the subject of money until you have learned some things. 
She says she doesn't care but she does. Thais are never direct. Her parents are pushing her to find out what you are willing to pay. Tell them there will be no discussion of money at all until you have established a relationship. That must be built of a foundation of trust & mutual respect. There is no price to pay for that other than emotional costs. 
You ask what a fair amount would be for sin sod. That is very difficult to determine but it is to be no more than you can afford. The concept that you will be given the money back should be understood because its unlikely. The family needs to look good in front of friends but they are Thai & should know how. Keep in mind if you marry you will be expected to help the family in many different ways down the road.