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You will not lose your clearance. I work with several people who have married foreign nationals. They did not have any issues. My FSO said as long as I disclose what is going on, I am golden. 

I'm pretty much going through the same situation. My husband was denied his spousal visa a few months ago. We need to apply for I601 and 212a6e waivers. At his interview, the CO requested documentation to prove that he was never married prior me - which at the time, I could not understand why they would ask him that, because he was never married. Fast forward to present day, I have three options - move to where he is, pursue the waiver process (another expensive and lengthy process), or go our separate ways. I've met with several immigration lawyers, and trying to process everything. It's very stressful, because we've been married for almost four years and love each other. Our case was in AP for almost a year, and now I know why, because recently told me the truth. I'm dealing with the fact he wasn't upfront. Had I known about all the details sooner, we would have been more prepared and able to seek legal advice years ago. Thankfully, your friend was honest in the beginning of the process, and you are seeking advice on what to do. My situation is not as hopeful.

I'm pretty much going through the same situation. My husband was denied his spousal visa a few months ago. We need to apply for I601 and 212a6e waivers. At his interview, the CO requested documentation to prove that he was never married prior me - which at the time, I could not understand why they would ask him that, because he was never married. Fast forward to present day, I have three options - move to where he is, pursue the waiver process (another expensive and lengthy process), or go our separate ways. I've met with several immigration lawyers, and trying to process everything. It's very stressful, because we've been married for almost four years and love each other. Our case was in AP for almost a year, and now I know why, because recently told me the truth. I'm dealing with the fact he wasn't upfront. Had I known about all the details sooner, we would have been more prepared and able to seek legal advice years ago. Thankfully, your friend was honest in the beginning of the process, and you are seeking advice on what to do. My situation is not as hopeful.

I'm pretty much going through the same situation. My husband was denied his spousal visa a few months ago. We need to apply for I601 and 212a6e waivers. At his interview, the CO requested documentation to prove that he was never married prior me - which at the time, I could not understand why they would ask him that, because he was never married. Fast forward to present day, I have three options - move to where he is, pursue the waiver process (another expensive and lengthy process), or go our separate ways. I've met with several immigration lawyers, and trying to process everything. It's very stressful, because we've been married for almost four years and love each other. Our case was in AP for almost a year, and now I know why, because recently told me the truth. I'm dealing with the fact he wasn't upfront. Had I known about all the details sooner, we would have been more prepared and able to seek legal advice years ago. Thankfully, your friend was honest in the beginning of the process, and you are seeking advice on what to do. My situation is not as hopeful.

I'm pretty much going through the same situation. My husband was denied his spousal visa a few months ago. We need to apply for I601 and 212a6e waivers. At his interview, the CO requested documentation to prove that he was never married prior me - which at the time, I could not understand why they would ask him that, because he was never married. Fast forward to present day, I have three options - move to where he is, pursue the waiver process (another expensive and lengthy process), or go our separate ways. I've met with several immigration lawyers, and trying to process everything. It's very stressful, because we've been married for almost four years and love each other. Our case was in AP for almost a year, and now I know why, because recently told me the truth. I'm dealing with the fact he wasn't upfront. Had I known about all the details sooner, we would have been more prepared and able to seek legal advice years ago. Thankfully, your friend was honest in the beginning of the process, and you are seeking advice on what to do. My situation is not as hopeful.

Oh no! I'm sorry all that is happening to the two of you. I really hope things get better soon and you'll can sort things out. These types of issues make an already stressful situation much worse. I guess doing more research on the I601 & waiver process are first. Then a lawyer next. 

Exactly.....This is why a single lie can create a great deal of havoc............

OMg are you Brian's wife??
 
 

It is not possible to complete the application “family information” section without providing the name and address of the spouse listed in the “personal information” section
 
https://travel.state.gov/content/dam/visas/PDF-other/DS-160-Example_11012019.pdf
 
Read this example DS-160 application very carefully. Then ask your beneficiary to come clean and share exactly what was put on that form so that you can know how bad it is.  
 
Right now you’re being BS’d and since if you check “married” you HAVE to provide a name and address for the spouse (which the IO also has in front of him) you’re the only one in the loop being left in the dark.  If you don’t name the spouse, you can’t ever submit the application or it’s incomplete and gets rejected.

Me?  I’d be unhappy if I invested all that effort into someone who left out that critical detail that yes married was checked but didn’t add that a “spouse” was also NAMED in that application.  I’d be more unhappy if I got lied to and made to look stupid over it.
 
You can’t miss that and you are supposed to print out that application to bring to the interview by the way.  You’re getting snookered.  Your beneficiary?  Checking married AND naming a fake spouse puts him in a very bad place.

They’re giving him a chance to fix it, they have to because if he can produce some document then he’s off the hook.   Once the admission is made that there is in fact no spouse the denial reason will switch to a much more serious one than a missing document.
 
No wonder Nigeria is such a high fraud country if the “agents” routinely lie on simple B visa applications.  I don’t think you can lie on that level though unless the applicant participated.

Good luck

The best thing to do right now is have a long, serious conversation with your wife.  It's time to be completely open, honest, and sincere with each other about the future of your relationship and how you can move forward in a positive way after receiving the denial letter.  If you really are in love with each other and want to be together, you'll find a way.  You're not getting your US visa anytime soon, and maybe never unless things change significantly.  You really have three options as I see it based on your post history:
 
1.  You get a job in Jamaica that pays well, keep at it for a year or more, to show that you have some ability to work continuously in a stable job that has potential for a successful career in the US.  Your wife gets a better job or a second job to increase her income, keep at it for a year or more to show that her income is higher than it is now, and more stable.  Submit evidence of this increase in income with a new I-864 a year or two from now and hope for approval.
 
2.  She moves to Jamaica to live with you there and you both work and make a life together and be happy.  This may be the best option since she is a home care provider so she could take care of your father while you work and earn income to support everyone.
 
3.  You end the relationship and move on.
 
Good luck!

You surely knew that she has to re-establish domicile or provide such evidence of her intention thereof before your visa can be issued?
 
This may sound harsh but separation is a normal part of this procedure. Many people endure longer periods of separation. You were very fortunate to have been living with your wife in Pakistan. You chose to relocate to the USA and this just how it is. Had she not become pregnant, she could have visited you during this time. But you you made a conscious decision to make a baby (we all know how not to get pregnant) before you were able to live together in the USA. You are adults. You have to live with the consequences or your decisions. Nobody at the embassy is going to process your case any faster because you decided to have a child. That’s on you, my friend, 
 
Now, your AP time is longer than most countries. But that’s how it is for many Pakistani applicants. Nothing can be done about it. 
 
I would recommend you seek professional help for the depression you are experiencing. I understand that six months is a long time to be apart (at one point we were apart for longer) but to feel as though life isn’t worth living when you have a loving wife and child on the way waiting for you suggests that you are suffering from depression. And that needs medical help or it will get worse. 

This is specifically asked for in the paperwork you file.  If you try and lie, you can be banned from ever getting a visa.  Get comfortable with the fact you’ll be telling her.

Previous marriages, arrests, and criminal history should be discussed... Not only because you'll have to disclose them, but also to start your new relationship by being open and honest with each other.

You cannot hide it.  And yes, the CO can and will discuss it with the fiancé at her interview.  Also:  dude, really?!

Hi Everyone! I have not been on Visa journey in a LONG time! But, I wanted to share some positive news and spread a little hope! 
My husband & I received an email Monday that he can now come to Ankara to get his Visa!!!!! This is 6 months after his interview. We had previously applied for the Fiance Visa but were denied so we have been waiting almost 5 years to be together! The happiness is mind numbing and we both have cried from joy. 
There is hope....try to stay positive!!!!

That's why, just in case, whenever sending a private message or speaking out loud, I praise the USCIS and send them all my love. 😅

Wow! Some really harsh judgments in here on this one!  Everyone is wired differently.  Some people do really well in LDRs.  Other's struggle with it.  Just because it's easy for some, does not make it easy for others.  Being former military, I can assure that this process is very different from a "deployment" (for those that think just because soldiers do this that makes this somehow less painful). There have been times when the waiting and the distance - and the waiting without any real information regarding the process - no "day to count down to", so many things just in "limbo" indefinitely - it's broken me down completely.  Texts where tone gets read wrong, little things that would not have even become an issue if handled face to face becoming big things, unintentionally taking the pain and stress of distance out on each other, the pure exhaustion (neither of us sleep well apart, but together we slept soooo well), etc and so on.....  My fiance and I are both very "high touch" love language people.  We both have baggage from previous relationships (who doesn't really?).  Everyone has issues in varying degrees.  Neither of us are wired or built for LDR.  And there have been times when we really thought it would break us.  Ultimately, we both came to see that it doesn't matter what happens - we can't live without each other.  We could breathe in and breathe out and go through the motions of life - but we'd feel dead inside.  We don't want to even consider a life without each other, so no matter what we face - we face it together knowing that "our day" will come.  I understand the OP's lament.  I don't hear "weak relationship between two people with issues who wouldn't work out in the long run anyway".  I hear a person in pain, a pain that so many of us in this forum have felt and still feel.  While there may not be an answer to the OPs question, I can at least say "You're not alone.  Yes, the waiting is a special kind of hell.  It's made me vomit, lose sleep, cry at random on the bad days,  and hurt with a pain I didn't know was possible.  Hang in there!  Eventually the time WILL pass and you WILL get to be together and one day you'll look back at how long these days felt and they will be only a small percentage of the years shared together building a life.  Try to remember, especially during times of conflict with your partner, it's not "You vs Them but "You BOTH together vs the problem".  Sometimes it just hurts and it's easy to transfer that onto your partner. Try to learn to simply breathe and say "It hurts to be apart".  Embrace it, feel it, validate it - then let it pass.  Each day is a new day and it's one day closer!  

Am a bit shocked of the arrogance of some people here. Indeed the stress caused by the immigration process is incredible. Not everyone can handle that and not every relationship/marriage survives. Just to say smth like they didn't love each other enough shows lack of empathy and humility. I agree to comments before that you only know what you are facing once you are in it. There is nothing that can prepare you for the emotions you are going through. The pain, anxiety, loneliness can be more than overwhelming especially paired with the uncertain timeframe of immigration. I am glad I am from an Esta country and was atleast able to visit a couple of times. No idea how relationships survive for a year without seeing each others in person. I am sure the number of relationships together with raise of depressions regards the immigration process isn't small. Unfortunately there is no statistic for that.

The main reason for posting this question was merely curiosity. Many things factor into relationships not making it. And it isn't a matter of not loving each other either. The stresses of this process, regardless of knowing what you sign up for in the beginning, can become more than one or both ever expected. Yes, you should know what you signed up for when you start this whole relationship, marriage, immigration process. And majority do, and believe they can make it through these stresses....but no one knows the extent until you go through it. 
 
This was not a post in relation to my own marriage or our own stresses with this wait to be together.  It was just as I said, merely curiosity.....thank you everyone for their opinions. 

You gotta relax . 
 
People are stuck in AP for years sometimes. 3 months is not that bad yet. No one is prolonging this process on purpose. AP is always requires for additional  checks.

You just need a little more patience with this process, when it's taking long for an  approval we always think about the worst that can happen. Try to relax and find activities to keep you occupied.

They really didn't ask that many questions. I'm so excited!!! So happy to have finally reached this point! 

We're going to wait until she gets her Visa and try and fly her out here before Christmas

Hooray, it's back up! Happy for everyone here who was waiting! Thanks all for being a part of this thread and sharing information and being supportive. It helped more than you know!

it working ! so happy. ready for me to do last things. thanks GOD!

Its Up! Finally!! Thank you!! I was able to get in !!!