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    jeanita68 reacted to aaron2020 in SS Card for Minor child   
    If your stepdaughter arrived on an immigrant visa, she qualifies for a SSN.  Since she qualifies for a SSN, she will not qualify for an ITIN.  

    You will have to try to get her an SSN to claim her as a dependent on your tax return, or file without claiming her and amend your return when she gets a SSN.  It's not ideal, but that's your only alternative.  

    Best of luck.
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    jeanita68 reacted to RamonGomez in SS Card for Minor child   
    A tax advisor told me that a dependent needs to have an SSN at the time taxes are due. 
     
    If OP cannot get an SSN by April the best bet would be to file an extension so she'll have until October to get the SSN.
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from EriRob in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Yea.. DR also as its issues, but a beautiful country. And i will retire there. We working on getting custody of my step daughter. The lawyer said we have a very good chance, and in this case he never saw a judge turn down the parent thats in the child life. We presented everything we had. My husband will continue with the plan to arrive here. And the lawyer advised us to continue with the immigration process. He said it will help to show the judge we in the process of getting her to live with us
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from QueenComley in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Yea.. DR also as its issues, but a beautiful country. And i will retire there. We working on getting custody of my step daughter. The lawyer said we have a very good chance, and in this case he never saw a judge turn down the parent thats in the child life. We presented everything we had. My husband will continue with the plan to arrive here. And the lawyer advised us to continue with the immigration process. He said it will help to show the judge we in the process of getting her to live with us
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    jeanita68 reacted to Shanshanjamrock in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    I'm really happy to hear that things are progressing I have no doubt that things will work out in both you and your husband  favor stay bless.
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    jeanita68 reacted to Ontarkie in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    The mother is not allowing her to leave because your husband pays for everything. You said it yourself. He pays her schooling and everything else. He is the grandmothers cash cow and if the grand daughter leaves she gets no more money. 
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    jeanita68 reacted to geowrian in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Agreed - requirements to emigrate vary heavily from country to country. In some, just the mother's permission may be needed in some circumstances. In others, written permission and/or a court order may be required, regardless of custody.
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    jeanita68 reacted to Ontarkie in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Be careful with that. Full custody in some countries give the custodian parent the rights to move the child to another country. 
    I had to have a court order to move my kids to the US and I had sole custody. So please do not post blanket statements out there,  someone may think it is that way for all countries. 
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    jeanita68 reacted to SusieQQQ in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    You missed my point, but I get that it’s often hard for people from places like the U.K. to comprehend that there are countries that make the US look like a far safer option, never mind the better education opportunities etc. There are reasons many people actually send their children to the US while they stay behind and it’s not because they don’t care about the children. Anyway OP has already said that they’ll move there if necessary. 
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from Daisy.Chain in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Yea..we definitely wont kidnap or smuggle her. And she doesnt live with dad because they make him believe he has no rights to the child. Yes my husband works and he pays for everything. Thats all they want from him bur no let her live with him not even in DR. He jus thinks because her mom says no he cant. He has rights he is her father. She is not evening working and has never worked so she claims. My husband gives grandma everything for the child. 
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    jeanita68 reacted to Shanshanjamrock in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    It sound to me like the mom is jealous, spiteful are just have badman toward the dad, but on the other end it get confusing because she is not living in the country she doesn't visit the child on a regular basis but she doesn't want the child to have a better life, it's not like she's benefiting from what the child is getting because she is not the one who have the child. when I came to the United States I left my three year old living with my parents his dad only take care of him financially he doesn't visit him he doesn't call him he doesn't check up on him he will just either send the money with someone or have brother to meet him somewhere and I filed for my son and he didn't even know and the day before my son was leaving my dad call him and let him know that my son was leaving which I told him not to but he thought he was the father and he should know and that was it I wasn't having any problem with immigration he didn't need to sign anyting but I guess every Caribbean  country is different and mine is Jamaica. A couple people have said it on here that you should go to the court and try and see if you have a better chance of getting her continue to love and care for her and I see you do very much best of luck
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    jeanita68 reacted to MJMH in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Full custody does give the parent the right to relocate to another country with the child. The mother can visit her in the US as much as she can visit her anywhere else. She is not living with her anyways. The grandmother is elderly and sick. I would take this matter in front of a judge, and let the court grant you full permission to take the child to the US.
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    jeanita68 reacted to Pinkrlion in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Right now accept the visits. Your husband will have his GC soon, he can go down every month or he can stay until the court case is filed, etc.  
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    jeanita68 reacted to HRQX in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Exactly. OP mentioned Trinidad earlier. DR citizens only get 90 days of visa-free stay. OP also mentioned that bio mom doesn't work. Odds are that bio mom is an illegal in Trinidad.
    http://www.nationalsecurity.gov.tt/Services/Application-Forms/Residence
    http://www.nationalsecurity.gov.tt/Services/Application-Forms/Work-Permit
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    jeanita68 reacted to Unlockable in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    No, no, no, no, no!
     
    Get this out of your head immediately. Take this from someone who has gone through the Dominican process and know a little about the permission. If you proceed with that plan, all it takes is the other parent to file against you. You may think you will be safe in the US. I am telling you, the worse problem you can have with this immigration process is doing something like this with children.
     
    And not just the legal aspect of this, morally this is the worse thing you can do. Think about if you were in the other parents shoes. What if your ex took your child to another country?
     
    You are thinking very selfishly right now. For now, your safest and best bet is make alternate plans.
     
    Think long and hard about this.
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    jeanita68 reacted to fip & jim in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    This is not true. Custody does not give a person the right to remove a child from one jurisdiction to another. Dominican Republic is a Hague Convention country. This treaty ensures that children that are internationally abducted by a parent are returned to their country as quickly as possible.
     
    You need a specific court order to remove a child from one jurisdiction to another. I did this for my child. I did it before we filed our immigration petition. I represented myself in court and made a comprehensive proposal detailing how immigrating was in the best interests of my child. I detailed how I would ensure my child could continue relationships with people from the home country. This is the only way you can obtain a visa for a child that is a citizen of a Hague Convention country. The first thing they ask you at the consulate interview for the visa is if you have permission to permanently remove the child from the country and they want the original paperwork (court order or signed permission from the other parent) to prove it. 
     
    If the mother won't give permission then you will need to get a court order. Personally, I wouldn't be content with only a signed permission as people can and do change their mind. If you apply for a court order they usually insist that all parties attend mediation to resolve any issues before appearing in court and finalizing either permission or denial. If the mother won't attend then a decision will be made in her absence. Given that the grandmother is caring for the child too then that will need to be resolved. There's been a lack of planning here. There's been a lack of research about the process and the requirements. The alternatives haven't been thought through. It's not enough to hope for the best where children are involved. The child needs to maintain relationships with the people that are currently in her life. Immigration is tough. Assimilating in to another culture is tough. The laws are there to protect children. People often mistake parental responsibility for parental rights. The child has rights, the parent has responsibility. A judge will look at facts about who has behaved responsibly and make a judgement (based on the factual evidence presented) on what is in the best interests of the child. 
     
    I would offer mediation (with a qualified mediator) to see what can be resolved. If the grandmother is elderly then that needs consideration too (what if she got sick or died in the current situation?). Detail, in minute detail, your proposal (e.g. I offered my child's other parent pay less child support so there was funds for visitation. I detailed exactly how much plane tickets to and from the US are, etc.). In my opinion this situation needs sorting out regardless of immigration. Informal agreements often leave children vulnerable if something goes wrong. Once your husband has left the Dominican Republic and has become a permanent resident of the US it will be even more difficult to negotiate an arrangement for his child. This needs sorting ASAP. Leaving this until 8 days before he is planning to leave does not bode well for proving responsibility and forward planning if he wishes to bring her to the US. 
     
     
     
     
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    jeanita68 reacted to SusieQQQ in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    I understand- but if you move to DR he will lose that visa (it will expire) or any green card he gets after he immigrates (green card has US residency requirements to keep it) and you will have to apply again ahead of a move to the US. Or roll over as some people say you can do, I don’t know details of that.
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    jeanita68 reacted to MJMH in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    It does not matter. You take her to court for custody. If she does not respond, then he should be awarded full custody. Just make sure she has not left an authorization for the grandma to care for the child in her absence. He has rights as well. Is he on the child's birth certificate? That helps a lot, many men are not, especially if the couple was not married.
    If he is granted full custody, then he will be able to bring her to the USA. Also, I know in many Latin American countries they have started to take into account what the child wants. So make sure you have a forensic psychologist (one that works for the DR justice system) do a full psych report on her, how she relstes to her mother, to her dad, grandmother, etc. The fact that the mom has not even visited in the oast two years could also count against her. While it is not uncommon for women to leave their kids to their mom while they go to "work" in other countries, it could also count as abandonment.  You'll know more when you speak to the attorney. Also, see if in the DR they have public defenders for children. I know in my country, Paraguay, they do, and they were an awesome help to me when I was going through a divorce and fighting for child support and alimony. Use all the means available to you.
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from Sarge21555 in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    What if we just proceed with the process and get her visa and take her anyway?
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from Diane and Chris in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Thank you! Seeing how much my husband loves that lil girl makes me love him even more. He wouldn’t never leave her so this is hard for us right now, we discussing all possibilities. But under no circumstances will he leave her and neither will I. I love that little girl like she is my own she is apart of my life, and if moving to DR comes sooner than later than it shall be. 
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from dentsflogged in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    What if we just proceed with the process and get her visa and take her anyway?
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    jeanita68 reacted to USS_Voyager in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    I might come to that. But maybe it’s just a temporary move. How old is she now? 10? It’s only 8 more years before she can make the decision on her own. The other way to look at this is just a temporary move to DR.
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    jeanita68 reacted to SusieQQQ in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    That's easy to say when you live in a first world country. Very different when you don't.
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    jeanita68 reacted to Daisy.Chain in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Here are your options to be together with your husband:
     
    - You negotiate successfully and bio mom signs the paper. I like the idea of you flying her there regularly so her mom can visit and she can see her grandma. Stepdaughter could even petition for her mom sometime far in the future after turning 21 (if that procedure is still around)
    - Husband goes through the court to try to get sole custody
    - Husband comes without stepdaughter
    -You move to the DR
    -You try to get stepdaughter in without the letter (almost certainly won't work and has big bad repercussions!)
     
    I hope the first one works out!
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    jeanita68 got a reaction from SusieQQQ in Step child parent not wanting child to go to US   
    Thank you! Seeing how much my husband loves that lil girl makes me love him even more. He wouldn’t never leave her so this is hard for us right now, we discussing all possibilities. But under no circumstances will he leave her and neither will I. I love that little girl like she is my own she is apart of my life, and if moving to DR comes sooner than later than it shall be. 
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