visaveteran1

Before you marry a FSU lady, get HAZMAT training. When you're "in the field" (kitchen or bathroom) don a respirator, latex gloves, scuba wet suit, rubber boots with acid proof soles.
Be careful...it's hell in there boys!

FYI, I'm now separated from my wife. She and her son moved out this week and moved into an apartment. We have a verbal agreement to separate and next week we'll sign a real agreement in front of a notary. After that, we wait six months and I file for a divorce myself. No rip-off lawyers needed...at least it seems not.
I'm feeling quite liberated at the moment and enjoying my alone time greatly. The energy in my condo has shifted to a pleasant calm and tranquility.
I can't say how this will turn-out, but today I'm feeling I've taken an important step in getting out of an emotional Gulag. Perhaps that's too dramatic, but I do feel this is the right thing to do.
Happy Thanksgiving!

Let me add my congrats to Sergey as well. He sounds like my natural son who's in a PhD program in physics and math. All I can say is he didn't get his gift for math & science from me.
So...I hate to pull this away from the celebration mode but as it started as my thread, I'll retake it for the moment.
OK, this is tough to put out openly but my wife and I are not getting along. AND, I have to say I have had the idea cross my mind as to whether I've been had...exploited? She's mentioned even divorce before and her attitude seems to have gotten worse since her son came over. If I was the suspicious type, I'd wonder if this is a visa scam or something similar? I mean, now her son's here for two months and my wife is going off on me every few days and already got him an apartment. She's even stated "I have to take care of them." I ask myself, where is the money for deposits and rent coming from? He makes $10 a hour before taxes. My wife makes about the same.
Of course, she says I'm a crazy Vietnam vet etc, etc. and I'm the problem. Let me be perfectly clear, I've spent a small fortune and put a LOT of energy into giving her the best life I can afford. And, just for the record, I've never laid a finger on her, both because that's not in my code of conduct AND because I'm not an idiot.
I've fought thinking the worse...but now I wonder is she trying to provoke me? Or is she mentally ill? Pre menopause? Or is this a strategy? I've done so much for her and her son, yet she acts like I'm a piker. Nothing makes her happy. Sex is more and more absent. If I mention that, she says "I didn't ask." ASK! Now I have to book requests?
I have to say, I'm getting concerned. Not sure which way to jump. Lawyer? Immigration officer? Wait and see? Try harder to fix things?
I know this will come as a shock to many, but I need the forum's support more than ever.
I'm scared. I could loose everything if this goes bad. At my age and recovering from cancer, my energy and will are low. My dream wife has become my nightmare wife.
Help!

The Topic: "Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Farting In Front of Russian Women, but were Afraid to Ask."
My wife's from the Siberia villages...outhouses, wood stoves, no privacy, watching animals being slaughtered. You think farting is a problem for her?
She calls a fart "pook-pook." I freely pook-pook in her presence. No place is off limits..even the car. Let me tell you cats something...there's nothing stronger than chemo farts. Trust me...I speak, unfortunately, as an expert. My wife weathered the storm without complaints. Those pook-pooks would melt the barrel off an AK-47.
So, you dudes who're letting your wives make you walk down the hall to pook-pook have you by your man parts, and acting like momma's "nice boy."
Cut loose and cut often.

The Topic: "Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Farting In Front of Russian Women, but were Afraid to Ask."
My wife's from the Siberia villages...outhouses, wood stoves, no privacy, watching animals being slaughtered. You think farting is a problem for her?
She calls a fart "pook-pook." I freely pook-pook in her presence. No place is off limits..even the car. Let me tell you cats something...there's nothing stronger than chemo farts. Trust me...I speak, unfortunately, as an expert. My wife weathered the storm without complaints. Those pook-pooks would melt the barrel off an AK-47.
So, you dudes who're letting your wives make you walk down the hall to pook-pook have you by your man parts, and acting like momma's "nice boy."
Cut loose and cut often.

Let me get my "good boy" card punched and offer yet aother obligatory, gratuitous and repetitive "congrats" comment. Let me say that LL is one of my favorite posters and he and I are definitely old-timers relative to most current posters. I think he's a very level-headed and honest man and puts out his thoughts strongly but in a way that people can take in. So, I see a man who will, hopefully, be a good father. For all the superficial effortless "congrats" that you've been more than acknowledged by, let me take this to a deeper place...the sacred masculine work of raising boys to men.
So...from one father to another, welcome to the reason we, as men, exist...to father, teach, reprimand, bless, guide, and model what a good man looks and acts like to our sons. (Girls are a different story and I have none, so I can't comment.) Let me say that has little to do with sewing seeds or "making a baby"...it is about being a generative, strong, masculine, role model to your son. This never ending mission will test you, tire you and bless you. And you will grow as much as your son...IF you can walk the path of authentic fatherhood...not just kiss him goodbye at the daycare center and watch him play soccer, and fret about what school he gets in.
My gut feeling about you, LL, is you will walk that path and honor the sacred work of raising a boy to become a good man...we certainly need some these days.
So, rather than offer you yet another "congrats," let me honor you for starting down this new mysterious road...offer my blessing as you walk it...and challenge you to do this important male work in a good way. As a strong male presence in my life once said to me quite simply and powerfully...""Men are waiting!" Indeed they are.
As to my earlier comments...I didn't know we had categories for threads. So, this one was "congratulatory." And nowhere along the way, say after 5 or 6 pages of "congrats" can we move in a different direction. Funny, I thought we did that here in the RUB forum. OK..now I see we follow some new protocol.
I also note a female from Canada deemed my post inappropriate, Well...maybe for certain women. But I know a number of women who don't ever want kids. I wonder how they might feel with all the one-sided "congrats." Maybe we can other them a congrats for their choice. Or is that inappropriate too?

Let me get my "good boy" card punched and offer yet aother obligatory, gratuitous and repetitive "congrats" comment. Let me say that LL is one of my favorite posters and he and I are definitely old-timers relative to most current posters. I think he's a very level-headed and honest man and puts out his thoughts strongly but in a way that people can take in. So, I see a man who will, hopefully, be a good father. For all the superficial effortless "congrats" that you've been more than acknowledged by, let me take this to a deeper place...the sacred masculine work of raising boys to men.
So...from one father to another, welcome to the reason we, as men, exist...to father, teach, reprimand, bless, guide, and model what a good man looks and acts like to our sons. (Girls are a different story and I have none, so I can't comment.) Let me say that has little to do with sewing seeds or "making a baby"...it is about being a generative, strong, masculine, role model to your son. This never ending mission will test you, tire you and bless you. And you will grow as much as your son...IF you can walk the path of authentic fatherhood...not just kiss him goodbye at the daycare center and watch him play soccer, and fret about what school he gets in.
My gut feeling about you, LL, is you will walk that path and honor the sacred work of raising a boy to become a good man...we certainly need some these days.
So, rather than offer you yet another "congrats," let me honor you for starting down this new mysterious road...offer my blessing as you walk it...and challenge you to do this important male work in a good way. As a strong male presence in my life once said to me quite simply and powerfully...""Men are waiting!" Indeed they are.
As to my earlier comments...I didn't know we had categories for threads. So, this one was "congratulatory." And nowhere along the way, say after 5 or 6 pages of "congrats" can we move in a different direction. Funny, I thought we did that here in the RUB forum. OK..now I see we follow some new protocol.
I also note a female from Canada deemed my post inappropriate, Well...maybe for certain women. But I know a number of women who don't ever want kids. I wonder how they might feel with all the one-sided "congrats." Maybe we can other them a congrats for their choice. Or is that inappropriate too?