Cat5storm

Hi Idocare,
I am sorry to hear of your misfortune with your Nigerian lover/husband/scammer. I too feel as if I was a victim but in a different way. There was a post similar to my story can’t remember who the poster was. He didn’t need a green card; he was a fortunate winner of the DV Lottery. Here is my story regarding my first and last encounter with a Nigerian man. I met this young man through a mutual friend. I found him to be intriguing, intelligent and first and foremost his fear of God and love for God. Well, he became my main focus and I became his (I thought). After many flights back and forth between the two of us, we decided to cohabitate. Because we were in love, this is when I got LOST IN TRANSLATION. I started assisting him with applications for jobs, passing his resume to girlfriends that are recruiters’ , taking time off to take him to interviews, open house, paying for his medicals expenses, medication and by the Grace of God he became employed. I started going to work late, leaving early so that he would have a way to and from work. Then he became very distance, too tired for sex (not such a big issue, he was lousy in bed), always on the cell phone. I noticed that he was using an 800 number immediately after I left for work (before he became employed). I have Comcast digital voice which records all incoming and outgoing calls. I called the number and it was for VIP Communication. Asked around and it is used to call international. I became suspicious and I installed the software that another poster used. WOW! Found he too is married. All along he was assuring that he wanted to marry me. So you can imagine my hurt when I found out he was already married. He was using me to get a job and to save to get his wife and three children here. I could not believe what I read. I was so into this man, I was trying so hard to make this work. I started learning Yoruba and cooking African dishes to please this man. I started snooping, found birth certificate with the woman name as the mother with his last name. I emailed her and told her the entire story; she simply clicked forward and sent the email to him. I simply deleted the email out of his account (I have access to his email account). That didn’t make a difference because on his daily calls to her, she told him. That’s when I knew it was time to let him know what I knew. He said, that they were not married it’s considered a traditional marriage; don’t know what that mean but I wasn’t falling for it. No more “lost in translation”. I began collecting information I needed to sue him for money invested, receipts, credit card bills, etc. I have his alien number, driver’s license, social security and immigration number. Before I put my Timberlands on and kicked him to the curb, I gave him an invoice of all expenses incurred. He laughed and told me that I was careless, I turned that laugh upside down when I starting calling off all those numbers from memory. To let him know he is more careless than I will ever be. You see, it was a joke and all for own personal gain or should I say selfish gain. I drew up a promissory note for him to sign stating what he owed, when payments should be made each month. The promissory note was in conjunction with the invoice. He stated, that not a court in the US would make him re-pay me for expenses incurred, well for one week he was homeless, he and his luggage were placed on the stairway. Do I regret it, never? He been gone now for one month today and told me yesterday that his time with me was wasted. I laughed because I have something he need and he’s not getting it. Someone on the other post said that the wife may not care as long as she can come to America. Well she didn’t.
My story is different from Idocare but similar. I cared deeply for this man but his motive was to get my friends and myself to help him get a “good” job, so that he could bring his family over. Could never figure out why her name was not on his application or the children for the DV lottery. I’ve heard a lot of horror stories about people doing anything to get a green card but this man has his green card. Yet he is a lying, cheating scoundrel. My daily calls from him are so amusing now. He tells me that I tried to destroy him, what? Guess he said that because I emailed the “misses”. Shouldn’t be cheating. He called me one day, 15 times on my job. The last voicemail was a threat, had to get the police involved although he’s more than 1500 miles from me now, you never know. . The next day after the threat, he called begging me to forgive him that he was annoyed. Now that I don’t answer his call, he leaves a voicemail asking why I won’t talk to him, what’s wrong with me (why something has to be wrong with me)? Not once has the man recognized the pain I am feeling or felt it was all about him. He even stated that I shouldn’t ask him for reimbursement of the expenses because we are friends. No, we were friends is what I told him. Is this man crazy or am I missing something. He also wrote in one of his email to his brother, that “Americans are good if you can handle them”. Guess he couldn’t handle me. Think about that statements lady, “We are good if they can handle us”. You know I am beet red, from even repeating what he wrote. The poster that recommended that software was on the money, I didn’t invoice him for the software that one was on me. I am open for questions, I am sure there will be some from reading all the other information posted on the website. I never went through the process of petitioning for anyone and for what I’ve read and experienced first hand I won’t. I am basically a positive person and I am not trying to discourage you ladies from your journey. Just be careful please. I’ve met a wonderful man from Paris (has dual citizenship) and I don’t have to petition for him. But I will have both eyes open. Limit yourself on what you say regarding your personal life, all personal information place under lock and key. Not to say don’t trust, just be cautious. My so-called friend could quote the Bible and kneel to pray at the drop of a dime but would get on the internet and email his wife, get in the bed with me and try to “sex me up”. I am weary when a man can kneel to pray and then get up and pecker is hard as Japanese arithmetic. Gotta close ladies, I do pray that the men you have chosen are also the men that God has chosen for you. Keep God closer. Please excuse any errors, I am human.

Just thought I would share some information I came across whilst trying to research the NVC backlog for my immigration blog. Firstly - apologies if this information is old hat, I did a fairly comprehensive search for similar threads but couldn't find anything specifically pertaining to the below.
We sent our IV and AOS paperwork into the NVC thirty-one days ago now, and like other users riding out their sixty day wait, are absolutely terrified at the thought of receiving a checklist and having to wait a further sixty days, which we can ill afford. We are mostly worried about the I-864 and supporting documentation for AOS, despite having checked the form several times over, with a fine toothed comb so to speak.
Whilst researching for a future blog article, I came across the minutes for the most recent meeting between the American Immigration Lawyer's Association and the National Visa Center, which was held on November the 4th, 2014. The minutes were revised by the Department of State and uploaded to travel.state.gov in December. The minutes don't really provide any information on the backlog that hasn't been discussed ad nauseam on this site before - but the following points around the I-864 make an interesting read, as I recall seeing a fair amount of posts in which users have been subject to the same issues.
Hopefully, the below answers given by the NVC to questions posed by the AILA might be able to assist some users that have reported AOS checklists for minor discrepancies - chiefly leaving non applicable fields blank, total income not matching income on tax returns, etc. I am of the opinion that if we do indeed receive a checklist for something along these lines, I will take the time to contact the NVC, ask to speak to a supervisor and cite the below points to them, as applicable, as well as contacting our state representatives.
Why? Because I am tired of logging into this forum and seeing families kept apart longer than necessary for small mistakes such as leaving non applicable fields blank that have absolutely no bearing whatsoever on the outcome of the case.With that in mind, arm yourselves with information and challenge the NVC when they fail to follow their own purported policies and guidelines. If we can alter the way in which even one overly narrow-minded pencil pusher approaches their work in applying common sense and reasonable judgment, we may spare thousands of families the agony of being placed at the back of the queue for next to nothing at all. In the NVC's very own words, below - all the sponsor needs to do is prove that they make enough to support their household and the intending immigrant, and nothing more.
The more salient points are highlighted. Though this meeting pertains to cases with lawyers attached, it is a reasonable assumption that processes and procedures discussed below are applied to all cases. The minutes in their entirety can be found here; http://travel.state.gov/content/dam/visas/AILA/AILA%20NVC%20November%202014.pdf
Happy reading and good luck.
Affidavits of Support, Form I-864 AILA: Members report receiving correspondence from the NVC, including the returned Form I-864, Affidavit of Support, requesting that all blank spaces on the form be filled with “N/A” rather than left blank. According to the Form I-864 instructions, if an item on the I-864 is “not applicable” or the answer is “none,” the sponsor is to leave the space blank. Please confirm that the NVC does not require “N/A” or “None” to be placed in all blank spaces on Form I-864. NVC Answer: Confirmed AILA: AILA members report numerous situations in which the NVC has returned Forms I-864, Affidavit of Support, when there is a discrepancy between the sponsor’s current income and the income indicated on the sponsor’s last filed federal income tax return. Under INA §213A(f)(1)(E), a sponsor must simply demonstrate “the means to maintain an annual income equal to at least 125 percent of the Federal poverty line” based on his or her household size. Moreover, there are many legitimate reasons why a sponsor’s current income will not match the income reported on the lastfiled tax return. Please confirm that sponsors are only required to submit documentation sufficient to demonstrate that they are able to maintain an annual income equal to at least 125 percent of the Federal poverty guidelines for his or her household size which includes the sponsored alien, and that it is not necessary for the sponsor’s current income to match the amount reported on the last federal income tax return. NVC Answer: Confirmed. Please note that the Department of State Visa Office has recently reviewed the NVC’s I-864 processes and procedures and has identified some areas where changes will be made. Moving forward, if the NVC determines that the information submitted is objectively complete and if taken as true would satisfy the affidavit of support requirements, the case should move forward. The goal is to reduce processing delays associated with the “back and forth” between the applicant and the NVC on affidavit of support issues .NVC will work closely with posts to ensure that changes in NVC’s processing do not result in an increased burden on posts (e.g. requests for additional evidence related to the affidavit of support ). AILA: While data listed on the Affidavit of Support and in the supporting evidence must be accurate and consistent, where the evidence submitted satisfies the statutory requirements and a discrepancy is de minimis, please confirm that examiners are able to and are encouraged to exercise reasonable judgment in allowing the application to move forward. NVC Answer: Confirmed. This will be addressed as NVC reviews processes and procedures. See above.