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Here's a few questions I may get flamed for: WHY actively seek love in another country with people who don't speak a common language? And if you can't see the person stood in front of you, and you can't understand each other....how can you feel love? How can you feel a bond with what that person says...Maybe you're in love with the interpreter, lol.

TY for answering...but I'm more curious about those who can't speak English....the article mentions 'telephone translation' as well as 'email translaton' so if you need an interpreter to even speak....how do you create a bond & fall in love?

I had the same thought too, it's almost like Cyrano de Bergerac or something.

And like the other women in the thread (who said that the male USC is the norm, are there statistics showing such) I couldn't vote as no options applied, but I'd say it's highly inaccurate. For example, whenever I visited him, I stayed in his apartment and he drove and most of the time we ate in. I guess in some cultures that doesn't work. And he gets free calls to me with his mobile provider, so most of the telecom expenses are text messaging.

But think of it this way... so your mail-order bride costs a lot. Think of the prices of dating services! It's a bargain! (I had a friend who used to sell dating service subscriptions, I couldn't believe how much they charged. Oh, and for the sarcasm-impaired....that comment was tongue-in-cheek.)

Thanks for posting the Cyberhome link! I happily got it to play my fiancé's Danish Monty Python DVD last night!!

I came back from Iceland to the States this past weekend and it was fine travelling, I say go for it. Just pack your makeup on the top of your regular luggage so you can get it easily when you arrive.

I don´t know if it goes in this thread or not, but we can´t add info for our embassy. When we click the link here: http://www.visajourney.com/consulates/index.php?letter=I that says to add a new embassy, we get http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?pg=c_update which just takes us to the forum home.

What does being tech savvy have to do with a plasma TV? Plasma TVs are just for spoiled people.

I don´t want diamonds or a plasma TV. I´d rather save my money and have time to spend with my family. I'm tech savvy, I work in the tech industry.

Congraulations!!!

Thanks for sharing your experiences. I never would have thought they would ask such weird questions. My high school experience was one I would rather forget so I never really talked about it with my fiancé.

It reminds me of history tests where they worry about you getting the year of every event right when the real point of history is to learn the events that happened and how those events shaped other events, and society.

When I was in Malaysia...

Things I miss here that we had there: the really good tepanyaki, these yummy japanese cookies we got from the Isetan, pandan muffins, and this spicy/noodle/egg breakfast thing you could get anywhere. I forget what it was called, but it smelled like morning there.

I had several Malaysian friends in university, and the thing I loved was this dish with cubes of rice and a peanut sauce, did you have that there? I don't even remember what it was called. It was different than the Indonesian peanut sauce you can get here, it was spicy and so good.

I miss food from my fiancé's home country too, mostly dairy products. Why are US dairy products so yucky? I end up making my own súrmjólk (cultured milk) and skyr (like a yogurt but made like a soft cheese). And I miss shrimp cheese, which you can't exactly make yourself because it's highly processed.

I worked for Kelly temp services a few times. (They did the typing speed test and asked me what software I knew). Both times worked out really well for me, the first job was to replace someone while she was on maternity leave so it was a long-term temp job. I was on summer break from school, but I was offered a full-time position after my temp stint was up (although I turned it down as I was going back to school). The second was supposed to be a short job and wound up extending indefinitely. The company was perfectly happy to continue paying the temp agency. I just found a better job that was more in my field and left for that one.

Em... what about this guy?

If that cow is a guy, then we have bigger problems.

I believe if this was just a religious ceremony and party, then they should be alright. If a marriage certificate is issued than that’s a totally different subject. I believe religious ceremonies do not constitute marriage in the eyes of the law.

Hmm, I'm fairly sure that they DO. After all, the priest is licensed to sign the marriage license. I would confirm this before assuming that it was safe. I don't think a priest can marry you in a non-binding way.

As for the age issue...personally I think if a child is able to walk around and talk he/she is WAY too old for breastfeeding! Time to dry up the milk mom!

BABIES NEED BREAST MILK UNTIL 12 MONTHS OF AGE. THEY SHOULD NOT BE DRINKING COWS' MILK. At least both my kids were walking before they were 1 year old.

In terms of breastfeeding in toddlerhood, as someone else said earlier, the World Health Organisation recommends breastfeeding at least until 2 years of age if not beyond. If anyone is interested in informed reading, WHO has plenty of information on their site:

http://www.who.int/child-adolescent-health...t_exclusive.htm

As to people complaining about breastfeeding in public, that IS what breasts were made for, you know. Although I agree in being discreet and not showing flesh when nursing.

I read about lasagne gardening but I don´t know a whole lot about it. But there is a book out, try searching at your local library (they can usually borrow ones from nearby libraries if they don´t have it.)

The beer trick mentioned earlier in the thread is the BEST for slugs.

Icelandair is the best!

I think your idea of a bowl of water with floating candles or blossoms sounds lovely. I borrowed a library book that did creative things with glassware (cake stands, bowls) that you could find a a yard sale or thrift shop. It was something like Simply Elegant Weddings (although don't quote me on that). There were neat ideas for table decorations there.

Don't rule out fresh flowers if you really want them. http://www.freshroses.com/ has really nice roses and they are really inexpensive. But if you like silk flowers, it's YOUR wedding, go for it!

What kind of flowers are you wanting to have? Corsages and boutonnieres and bouquest? I found a website for you on how to make boutonnieres: http://www.ehow.com/ehow/ehow.jsp?id=17568 (sorry the embed links thingie doesn't work in my browser). I used to work in a florist, so I could make them in my sleep, but I seem to recall that was one of the first things we showed new people how to do.

If you want to do hand-tied bouquets, they are really easy. You can get a bunch of roses, trim the stems to the desired length, wrap exposed stem with thick ribbon and tie a bow around it. They can be really lovely. If you don't make the ribbon go down all the way, you can do this ahead and store them in a vase.

Good luck!!

I have to go to my fiancé´s country to buy bras since they don´t sell size 32 bras in the States in anything bigger than a B cup... grrr

OK, I know this is an old post but I just saw it and it really pisses me off and I have to respond to it:

Not tryin to argue but I have one question for you ... What will you do if she gets denied ? And denied ? And denied ? If there was absolutely no way she can come here ? It was your choice to marry someone from overseas ... right ? Yes, I have a professional career here that is taking off pretty well. I will graduate from my university in December (I would never leave before graduation), however my husband is way more important then anything tangible. Give me the entire world on one hand and my husband on the other, and I would choose him ... no matter the circumstances, no strings attached. That's all I am trying to say. Haven't you ever heard of "for better or for worse" ?

To me this is a case of "don't judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes". You are just graduating from university, how do you know what it is like to have a child? As other people said, I would do just about anything for my fiancé but I would not and could not give up my children for him.

So, if he didn't get approved, we'd just have to have the annoying LD relationship thing until my kids were old enough to go to college, and then I'd move there. Yes, it would suck. But there is no force on earth that could get me to leave my kids.

My original answer was "yes I would have moved there" but it has a "but I can't" attached to it. If I moved there, I would never see my daughter (except maybe for a week or so out of the year). And I would have some custody battle with my son, which I would likely lose. I would live there in a heartbeat if it weren't for that.

I have had more problems with Íslandspóstur than USPS. We sent a present to his niece and sent it surface (which you never ever should do)... apparently all USPS surface mail waits until the ship is full and then goes to Germany customs before going to its destination country. So that was slow enough. Then Íslandspóstur never bothered to tell his sister that she had a package and sent it back to the States the day before she finally called and asked after it. So I sent it again airmail.

We also have gotten something like 3 or 4 packages held up at Icelandic customs, so they could read my sappy handmade card or whatever.

But I have to thank Íslandspóstur since them sending back a package after 4 months was what caused us to start talking on email.

The K visas, being non-immigrant visas, don't require vaccinations.

He will need them for AOS though, so it might be good to get them out of the way. My fiancé opted to get his taken care of now.

I don't really know how it is there, but my fiancé already made his appointment in Reykjavík before he has even gotten the packet. (The doctor said this was OK.) He knew which doctor to call because some friends of ours were doing the spouse visa thing so he just called the same doctor as our friend used.

Again, YMMV, but I think it was about a month to the appointment from when he scheduled it. 3 or 4 weeks. Canadian doctors may be busier than Icelandic doctors.

2) I have to print this form and fill it out by pen? cus I can't seem to write on it like the I-29 one.

Maybe it has to do with your version of Acrobat Reader? Because on my computer not only could you write into it, it said you could SAVE your filled out version. I think I have the very newest version of Acrobat.

I printed it out and handwrote, though, because it was one of the shorter forms.

No, I didn't call the NVC, I'm more concerned with knowing when it gets to him rather than the exact day it was mailed. I'm happy enough to know it was most likely mailed this past week and he could maybe even get it tomorrow if we are really lucky.

Re: the embassy, there isn't a whole heck of a lot on their site. I tried that a while back. Can people say what typical packet 3 reqs are (in terms of USC documentation)?

I just got the letter from NVC saying the packet 3 would be mailed in less than a week, and it was dated Monday. So I'm assuming it's on its way to him.

I was going to visit in 2 weeks so originally I was just going to bring all the documents when I went, but if he gets the packet before I come we'd like to just get it sent off. I tried looking at the government sites, and looking through the board, but it was unclear what he needed from me for packet 3 vs what goes with him to the interview. I can global express mail the whole pile of paperwork, but it's just annoying when I will be there anyway.

So....

I think he needs my I-134 and supporting documentation for that.

What else will he need to send back his paperwork?

I got this letter too (yay!) Since it says it was "recently received" by NVC and will be sent to consulate "within a week", how do I fill out my timeline? The letter was received sometime before 7/17 and will be sent I guess sometime before 7/24. So what is received at NVC and left NVC?

They probably just put that because they don't want to sponsor anyone on an H1 visa and they get a lot of applicants from people outside the country. (Speaking from someone who's been on the hiring end a few times.... H1 visas can be REALLY time consuming. At my last job we ended up losing a potential employee because the H1 visa took so long.)

Why is there nothing like 0, or 15 seconds?

We met in person (I had asked his friend to hold my seat and he was sitting in it for me), so I think there was about 15 seconds between where he was getting off the seat for me and introduced himself.