S S

So beating a woman is ok? I think not. Getting into the usa is a privilege that should be honored and respected. The laws should be changed.

Thank you for making this post. I really resonate with this. 
I just had to split up from my ex-husband from who had the same traits... I am waiting on USCIS to let me know if I can remove myself from his i-751 petition that we filed about a year ago. 
I've felt so bad for the last few weeks but reading this is helpful... and thank you @Jeanne Adil for saying that we shouldn't feel embarrassed to have loved someone. He gave me unbearable stress, and panic attacks, all while he mentally manipulated me so he didn't have to work and thought I would support everything for the rest of his life. It was awful and i'm just glad I can move on. AFAIK he is in his home country and hasn't tried to come back to the US. It was a major loss on his part and I'm blessed to be able to have a support system around me and be able to move on and make my life better, and get back to who I was.

@S S
 
Here is a thread about the topic 
 
Personally I feel the more appropriate phrase is 'actionable evidence' rather than 'objective evidence'. While the phrases are very similar- objective means along the lines of unbiased. Your objective evidence can be unactionable. 
 
So what is actionable evidence and how do you get it to the right person? The thread I posted is almost a decade old now but still relevant as reporting procedures have not changed except COVID protocols and the closure to infopass means you will have to mail your evidence to your local office attn FDNS as well as to the service center. 
 
Now I have helped several people with creating packages for FDNS. Some have reported back a successful outcome, others simply disappear as is often the case, a lot of unresolved issues posted about on VJ where they never follow up with the outcome. Sadly most people just don't have actionable type evidences. 
 
Anytime one is in a 'whistle-blower' position they need to be extra careful about what they post and share online. As well as in private groups because honestly you can never know who you are really talking to. Just because someone has a legitimate looking profile,  doesn't mean it's real. The Catfish TV show is a good example of this, plus has anyone seen those deep fakes of celebrities floating around? You need to be diligent now more than ever. 
 
There can be retaliation from who you reporting or from family/friends on their behalf. In addition to safety and privacy concerns- the whole concept of submitting 'objective information' means to not present yourself as someone desperate to cause trouble out of revenge or spite. 
 
You are free to post what you choose about your situation. I would never ask for any details because yes, while it's much easier for you to put it all out there and me and others here give you input back,  its a risk. 
 
 So instead I am just going to give you a bunch of general information and you can evaluate if it applies to you or not and if you have questions or need more information about specific aspect please ask.
 
In general you want to show evidence they lack GMC. To obtain a GC through your spouse you have to make a sworn statement that you entered the marriage in good faith.  If you get the conditional GC you have to prove again at the 2yr mark that yes, 2yrs ago you entered in good faith and nothings happened in the last 2yrs suggesting otherwise.
 
You can be divorced.  Maybe things didn't work out.  Feelings can change. Meaning you entered in good faith, fully intended on spending your life with the person but then your feelings changed. Changed feelings is NOT a reason for denial.  BUT if your feelings changed and you stayed in the marriage for the benefit thats a problem. In that case it's not about whether you entered in good faith. It's about concealing information for a benefit.
 
So the timeline of what happened when during the process matters when trying to use adultery as evidence . If someone had a secret ongoing relationship prior to your marriage and then after the divorce they file for the one they left behind, yeah that's pretty obvious to show. 
 
If you married and cheating occurred during the conditional card- did you know about it? Could you show you were under the belief you had a solid marriage but they were living a secret life and making plans to bounce once ROC was approved? They should've just divorced and filed with a waiver. Perhaps because they had bad intentions initially they wanted to make sure they were approved so they commit additional fraud. Sometimes people are stupid and dig themselves deeper making more problems than they originally had. IDK.
 
To establish they lack GMC when making the initial and if applicable subsequent statement , you ideally want to show evidence that they lied to another government agency for a benefit.
 
This is the most solid and actionable evidence you can submit. 
 
This can be them filing a false police report or restraining order. Cheating on taxes. Applying for social services or programs they aren't eligible for. Documentation of a false statement being made for some kind of benefit whether it's to a cop, a judge, a government office worker, school, etc. 
 
One step lower than that would be showing they lied to a private individual or company for a benefit (someone other than you). Can you establish they defrauded anyone?  Do they have a questionable history with banks or ever submitted false loans documents? Ever ripped someone off and was sued? Had disputes with PayPal or ebay type stuff where people complained they didn't get the product or service promised.
 
The goal is to show evidence they do not have good moral character which is required to make a statement of I entered the marriage in good faith or demonstrate that they concealed information to secure a benefit.
 
And as I rambled about above about not trusting stuff on the internet USCIS/FDNS feels the same way about screenshots and profiles and what not. You need to have some kind of solid paperwork. It is possible to turn digital type stuff they would normally disregard into a paperwork format that they would accept  (as light consideration with other more solid evidence) How to do such depends on what it is. Typically it's showing the digital evidence to someone they consider a person of assumed GMC. Priest, Dr, Lawyer, social worker,etc. Someone whose profession is ethics bound. Such person could view the media and submit a letter describing what they viewed and the circumstances they viewed it in. Hence the media can be acknowledged to an extent. 
 
You also need to draft a carefully written statement. Of course you can include emotions- but theres a difference with writing an emotionally charged letter and a letter that is objective yet still contains information about your emotions and viewpoint. Chronological order is usually best. Refer to specific pieces of evidence you are including as you go,  you can label your evidence with numbers or letters and at the appropriate time say refer to #1 attachment. The more things you can connect and establish the better. Receipts to establish one was where they claimed. If you went to 7-11 and got a slurpy and came home to find out your spouse moved out cause the GC came in the mail the day before. Tell them and show the receipt or charge on your bank statement. How the card was delivered proof of mailing. You have to give them the dots to connect without coming across as trying to tell them how to do their job.
 
The online submit a tip system, which I know is endorsed at the bottom of VJ, it is technically an accurate official recommendation... but if you research into it you will find the tips submitted there about this type of scenario are ultimately filtered and disregarded as they only look into marriage fraud rings/trafficking stuff. The FDNS officers are who work on these cases are not guaranteed to be forwarded stuff from the tip system so you want to submit it to them yourself directly.

Hey All,
 
I have been interested to find out if a recent post about this topic would pop up on Visa Journey. Today on my VJ email, it came up, and I have been waiting to share my story. I hope that I don't offend anyone, and I've tried to be kind of objective about an extremely subjective emotional topic.
 
Unfortunately, I am in the same situation as @LionessDeon. I am so sorry that you are going through this! Thank you for sharing your story, and know my heart goes out to you because I GET IT. 🥲
 
I am interested in finding out about other ideas of objective evidence to bring to the FDNS officer at the local USCIS office, as well as share what I was told by an attorney about reporting illegally gotten and use of immigration benefits..
 
First, It's devastating to come out of the fog of covert narcissism and know that I made this risky decision to marry someone and help him immigrate, only to verify from his sister about his true intentions: after being cheated on, abused, and abandoned when he got his permanent GC. I was love bombed at a vulnerable time, the perfect victim! I blindly vouched for him with US Immigration twice! It is humiliating to discuss this, but getting easier when I hear about others' experiences.
 
Second, an immigration attorney advised me that although I will never know what happens to him, I can report him to the ICE tip line/website, there is also an immigration fraud department at DHS where you can send an email about suspected marriage fraud, and then I just found out about bringing objective evidence to USCIS in this post.
 
Because I believe in justice, the sanctity of marriage, as well as providing immigration benefits for people who legally get them, I have reported him. I was told that if he ever at any time applies or petitions for anything or anyone, that my allegations will come up because our marriage is the reason why he immigrated to the US in the first place. It will be closely looked at because of my allegations on record. I was told that it could be soon or it could be years, but my allegations will stay on his immigration record as flags. That is the best that I can do as a federal immigration fraud victim!
 
Third, the healthiest thing to do for myself and for anyone who has experienced this, is to realize that you're not alone, this is a common problem in our immigration system, and it's not up to us to fix it. Just like any other crime, I have reported it to the federal officials who need to know, and now I'm moving on with my life.  As anyone who has been through a traumatic experience would be able to attest to, it takes a long time to heal such a wound.

Knowing that I am not alone, even on a forum such as VJ, which helped me be successful all those years ago, and that I can also come here and share honestly as well, is fantastic.  Hopefully someone will read this, and the red flags that they have been having will stop them in their tracks and slow them down so they can make a good decision  for themselves and their family. 

Hey All,
 
I have been interested to find out if a recent post about this topic would pop up on Visa Journey. Today on my VJ email, it came up, and I have been waiting to share my story. I hope that I don't offend anyone, and I've tried to be kind of objective about an extremely subjective emotional topic.
 
Unfortunately, I am in the same situation as @LionessDeon. I am so sorry that you are going through this! Thank you for sharing your story, and know my heart goes out to you because I GET IT. 🥲
 
I am interested in finding out about other ideas of objective evidence to bring to the FDNS officer at the local USCIS office, as well as share what I was told by an attorney about reporting illegally gotten and use of immigration benefits..
 
First, It's devastating to come out of the fog of covert narcissism and know that I made this risky decision to marry someone and help him immigrate, only to verify from his sister about his true intentions: after being cheated on, abused, and abandoned when he got his permanent GC. I was love bombed at a vulnerable time, the perfect victim! I blindly vouched for him with US Immigration twice! It is humiliating to discuss this, but getting easier when I hear about others' experiences.
 
Second, an immigration attorney advised me that although I will never know what happens to him, I can report him to the ICE tip line/website, there is also an immigration fraud department at DHS where you can send an email about suspected marriage fraud, and then I just found out about bringing objective evidence to USCIS in this post.
 
Because I believe in justice, the sanctity of marriage, as well as providing immigration benefits for people who legally get them, I have reported him. I was told that if he ever at any time applies or petitions for anything or anyone, that my allegations will come up because our marriage is the reason why he immigrated to the US in the first place. It will be closely looked at because of my allegations on record. I was told that it could be soon or it could be years, but my allegations will stay on his immigration record as flags. That is the best that I can do as a federal immigration fraud victim!
 
Third, the healthiest thing to do for myself and for anyone who has experienced this, is to realize that you're not alone, this is a common problem in our immigration system, and it's not up to us to fix it. Just like any other crime, I have reported it to the federal officials who need to know, and now I'm moving on with my life.  As anyone who has been through a traumatic experience would be able to attest to, it takes a long time to heal such a wound.

Knowing that I am not alone, even on a forum such as VJ, which helped me be successful all those years ago, and that I can also come here and share honestly as well, is fantastic.  Hopefully someone will read this, and the red flags that they have been having will stop them in their tracks and slow them down so they can make a good decision  for themselves and their family. 

Hey All,
 
I have been interested to find out if a recent post about this topic would pop up on Visa Journey. Today on my VJ email, it came up, and I have been waiting to share my story. I hope that I don't offend anyone, and I've tried to be kind of objective about an extremely subjective emotional topic.
 
Unfortunately, I am in the same situation as @LionessDeon. I am so sorry that you are going through this! Thank you for sharing your story, and know my heart goes out to you because I GET IT. 🥲
 
I am interested in finding out about other ideas of objective evidence to bring to the FDNS officer at the local USCIS office, as well as share what I was told by an attorney about reporting illegally gotten and use of immigration benefits..
 
First, It's devastating to come out of the fog of covert narcissism and know that I made this risky decision to marry someone and help him immigrate, only to verify from his sister about his true intentions: after being cheated on, abused, and abandoned when he got his permanent GC. I was love bombed at a vulnerable time, the perfect victim! I blindly vouched for him with US Immigration twice! It is humiliating to discuss this, but getting easier when I hear about others' experiences.
 
Second, an immigration attorney advised me that although I will never know what happens to him, I can report him to the ICE tip line/website, there is also an immigration fraud department at DHS where you can send an email about suspected marriage fraud, and then I just found out about bringing objective evidence to USCIS in this post.
 
Because I believe in justice, the sanctity of marriage, as well as providing immigration benefits for people who legally get them, I have reported him. I was told that if he ever at any time applies or petitions for anything or anyone, that my allegations will come up because our marriage is the reason why he immigrated to the US in the first place. It will be closely looked at because of my allegations on record. I was told that it could be soon or it could be years, but my allegations will stay on his immigration record as flags. That is the best that I can do as a federal immigration fraud victim!
 
Third, the healthiest thing to do for myself and for anyone who has experienced this, is to realize that you're not alone, this is a common problem in our immigration system, and it's not up to us to fix it. Just like any other crime, I have reported it to the federal officials who need to know, and now I'm moving on with my life.  As anyone who has been through a traumatic experience would be able to attest to, it takes a long time to heal such a wound.

Knowing that I am not alone, even on a forum such as VJ, which helped me be successful all those years ago, and that I can also come here and share honestly as well, is fantastic.  Hopefully someone will read this, and the red flags that they have been having will stop them in their tracks and slow them down so they can make a good decision  for themselves and their family. 

Hey All,
 
I have been interested to find out if a recent post about this topic would pop up on Visa Journey. Today on my VJ email, it came up, and I have been waiting to share my story. I hope that I don't offend anyone, and I've tried to be kind of objective about an extremely subjective emotional topic.
 
Unfortunately, I am in the same situation as @LionessDeon. I am so sorry that you are going through this! Thank you for sharing your story, and know my heart goes out to you because I GET IT. 🥲
 
I am interested in finding out about other ideas of objective evidence to bring to the FDNS officer at the local USCIS office, as well as share what I was told by an attorney about reporting illegally gotten and use of immigration benefits..
 
First, It's devastating to come out of the fog of covert narcissism and know that I made this risky decision to marry someone and help him immigrate, only to verify from his sister about his true intentions: after being cheated on, abused, and abandoned when he got his permanent GC. I was love bombed at a vulnerable time, the perfect victim! I blindly vouched for him with US Immigration twice! It is humiliating to discuss this, but getting easier when I hear about others' experiences.
 
Second, an immigration attorney advised me that although I will never know what happens to him, I can report him to the ICE tip line/website, there is also an immigration fraud department at DHS where you can send an email about suspected marriage fraud, and then I just found out about bringing objective evidence to USCIS in this post.
 
Because I believe in justice, the sanctity of marriage, as well as providing immigration benefits for people who legally get them, I have reported him. I was told that if he ever at any time applies or petitions for anything or anyone, that my allegations will come up because our marriage is the reason why he immigrated to the US in the first place. It will be closely looked at because of my allegations on record. I was told that it could be soon or it could be years, but my allegations will stay on his immigration record as flags. That is the best that I can do as a federal immigration fraud victim!
 
Third, the healthiest thing to do for myself and for anyone who has experienced this, is to realize that you're not alone, this is a common problem in our immigration system, and it's not up to us to fix it. Just like any other crime, I have reported it to the federal officials who need to know, and now I'm moving on with my life.  As anyone who has been through a traumatic experience would be able to attest to, it takes a long time to heal such a wound.

Knowing that I am not alone, even on a forum such as VJ, which helped me be successful all those years ago, and that I can also come here and share honestly as well, is fantastic.  Hopefully someone will read this, and the red flags that they have been having will stop them in their tracks and slow them down so they can make a good decision  for themselves and their family. 

Hey All,
 
I have been interested to find out if a recent post about this topic would pop up on Visa Journey. Today on my VJ email, it came up, and I have been waiting to share my story. I hope that I don't offend anyone, and I've tried to be kind of objective about an extremely subjective emotional topic.
 
Unfortunately, I am in the same situation as @LionessDeon. I am so sorry that you are going through this! Thank you for sharing your story, and know my heart goes out to you because I GET IT. 🥲
 
I am interested in finding out about other ideas of objective evidence to bring to the FDNS officer at the local USCIS office, as well as share what I was told by an attorney about reporting illegally gotten and use of immigration benefits..
 
First, It's devastating to come out of the fog of covert narcissism and know that I made this risky decision to marry someone and help him immigrate, only to verify from his sister about his true intentions: after being cheated on, abused, and abandoned when he got his permanent GC. I was love bombed at a vulnerable time, the perfect victim! I blindly vouched for him with US Immigration twice! It is humiliating to discuss this, but getting easier when I hear about others' experiences.
 
Second, an immigration attorney advised me that although I will never know what happens to him, I can report him to the ICE tip line/website, there is also an immigration fraud department at DHS where you can send an email about suspected marriage fraud, and then I just found out about bringing objective evidence to USCIS in this post.
 
Because I believe in justice, the sanctity of marriage, as well as providing immigration benefits for people who legally get them, I have reported him. I was told that if he ever at any time applies or petitions for anything or anyone, that my allegations will come up because our marriage is the reason why he immigrated to the US in the first place. It will be closely looked at because of my allegations on record. I was told that it could be soon or it could be years, but my allegations will stay on his immigration record as flags. That is the best that I can do as a federal immigration fraud victim!
 
Third, the healthiest thing to do for myself and for anyone who has experienced this, is to realize that you're not alone, this is a common problem in our immigration system, and it's not up to us to fix it. Just like any other crime, I have reported it to the federal officials who need to know, and now I'm moving on with my life.  As anyone who has been through a traumatic experience would be able to attest to, it takes a long time to heal such a wound.

Knowing that I am not alone, even on a forum such as VJ, which helped me be successful all those years ago, and that I can also come here and share honestly as well, is fantastic.  Hopefully someone will read this, and the red flags that they have been having will stop them in their tracks and slow them down so they can make a good decision  for themselves and their family. 

never be embarrassed for feeling love for another human being and trusting that love 
it is his loss 
it just amazes me that some who go thru this and DOUBT  the initial interview that the embassy makes and fight so hard to overcome a NOIR/NOID
the CO's in any embassy not only follow guidelines but they are privy to information they can not (or at least should not ) divulge to the USC
Besides red flags ,  there may be family history or past visa requests (like visa or embassy shopping ) that the Co sees and the USC knows nothing about
 
i was lucky
i fought a NOID/ i am still married over 12 years now
but i am lucky /not smart maybe/ just lucky to have a good one 
he got the green card. naturalized and is still with me/ so,  again i am lucky
 
i don't think we know much about immigration when we start the process/ and foreigners know more / this in itself should be a red flag
i didn't even know about the DV lottery
i don't think we know that the person could get the CR1 and arrive in the US and immediately leave us and we can do nothing 
the person can divorce and file waivers and we are hooked to the I 864 for 10 years
seeing all this in proper prospective ,  its scary and should scare us all

it does not show that a biological father/child relationship exists
because the evidence submitted was created after the date of our evidence request and therefore not
persuasive enough to establish the claimed relationship. Our request was for the oldest available
evidence. Furthermore, we outlined the secondary evidence that could help establish your claim. You
did not submit any of the listed secondary evidence.
 
This section of the denial notice is key.  Use the list of acceptable secondary evidence as a guide, or work with an attorney to get as many of those documents that you can.  Since it is a high-fraud country, they are understandably very suspicious of any documents created recently.  Document forgery is a big business in Nigeria based on many posts here on VJ.  So focus your energy on locating any old, existing documents that you can find from the list they sent you.  Good luck!

I appreciate your insight and advice. I’m not here to seek vengeance or retaliation. I’m here to share my story and my experience.  I am hoping to bring awareness to NPD and make a difference in a positive way. I have spoken with over a dozen women who sponsored Jamaican men and their stories are the same as mine.  I have a couple friends that live down there and have witnessed things first hand. It’s not all Irie and unsuspecting Americans are being taken advantage of. Yes it happens everywhere. Bad people live and hurt people from everywhere everyday. I’m telling my experience. I will let go and move on to heal most definitely. It was a huge learning experience. I pray no one else will be tricked into believing in a false persona, a fake “humble Rasta” who cried before the court of his love and devotion yet stabbed me in the back at every opportunity with his constant lies, cheating, mind games, and deceit.  

Sorry to hear that your marriage ended like this, it must have been very painful for you after so many years and emotional investment.  All relationships have challenges to overcome, sometimes they work out, sometimes they don't, for all kinds of reasons.  Meeting and falling in love with someone from another country adds so many levels of complexity:  the long distance period, different cultures, religions, and often languages, the questions about the foreign partner's true intentions, and many others.  Thank you for sharing your experience, hopefully it will help others to be careful, to spend lots of time in person, and not rush into marriage and US immigration.  All the best in your journey going forward and your healing process.

I think it is really important for both the USC and the foreign national to be aware of the possible issues when you marry someone you've only ever spent time with online and on vacation.
Meeting and marrying a narcissist is one problem, but you can also marry an abusive, controlling spouse and not see the red flags until you live together. 
It might also be the simple issue of not really being compatible in day to day life. 
 
But, most people are in love and won't listen to warnings.
 
So often the questions raised by members is "How fast can I bring my partner to the US?"
Not
"How do I navigate a relationship with someone from a different country/culture?"
"How do I prepare my partner for the realities of living in the US?"
"How do we navigate the difficult conversations around financial responsibilities towards family back home, frequency of visits back home and building our new life together in the US?" 
 
@LionessDeon I am so sorry you fell victim to this person and I hope the outcomes of your actions are satisfactory,  you're able to heal from the hurt. And I wish you health and happiness going forward. 
 

Sending you a PM. 

I am sorry you that you had a bad experience and thank you for sharing this with us so we can all keep an eye out. I would like to suggest to you that even though you had to endure this terribly unpleasant ordeal, your ex-husband is the ultimate loser. Good people perform acts of kindness in good faith and they frequently - as a consequence of their benevolent and generous natures - extend them to those who are undeserving. In such instances, life has taught me that letting go is by far the best option and that the pursuit of vengeance - however gratifying in the short term - ultimately begets unease and discomfort in the long term since vengeance is against the very essence of who we are. I don't know your ex-husband, he may well be a narcissist, that is, he may possess narcissistic personality traits or he might be inflicted with full-fledged NPD - the former and latter, as I am sure you are already aware, are quite different.  He may also just be an individual without a moral compass. I had a terrible experience recently with an ex-partner and I was looking for answers too. I did a lot of research online and concluded that she had a Cluster B personality disorder. In retrospect, she may or may not have had the disorder. I am not a psychotherapist and despite my extensive research on the disorder (whose markers seemed an excellent match) I am ill-qualified to diagnose her condition. So instead of focusing on labelling her - in my attempts to come to some sort of understanding as to reasons behind the hurt she caused me (and perhaps some closure), I ultimately realized that the only way to heal was to focus on myself and to let her and her "disorder" go. No amount of research on the topic was going to help me heal and overcome. No amount of understanding was going to help to me attain closure in any capacity. Closure and healing would emanate from directing my efforts inwards as opposed to outwards in form of therapy, meditation, exercise, intellectual engagement, maintaining a positive and supportive social circle, professional advancement etc. I hope you understand that my intention is not to diminish your pain and sense of betrayal but rather to have you conserve your effort and energy by forgoing the desire for vengeance and getting even in the interest of refocusing you on you such that you can get to that place of healing sooner. Best of luck to you!

Oh yes they do indeed. I’ve read several posts about narcissistic USC bring spouses over here and abusing them.  The unsuspecting victim can come from both sides in any country. Thank you for sharing this. We all need to be aware. I hope you are healing and finding the help you need. 

Hi I'm the immigrant. My ex husband, the USC, was narcissistic. He gaslit me and manipulated me. He enabled his mom to do the same. Narcissists can come from any country imo

Good point.  If evidence of fraud is strong enough, it can affect naturalization status.
Again, of course, learning the results from USCIS would never happen.

ROC complete.  I assume he will quickly file for naturalization. He wanted us to file for his mother while we were married. I didn’t want to. He wasn’t working fast enough for her and she visited with a muli entry visa in 2020 and never went back. He told me he wants to file for her and “lots of people get through”. 

In general, anything that would convince a neutral or skeptical stranger of your point.
  -- printed transcripts of admitting to illegal acts or nefarious intent
  -- photos of someone "caught in the act" of whatever it is
  -- third-party evidence of incriminating acts (e.g., credit purchases for self or lover)
 
Others here will have more to add.

Thank you.  Any advice on how/what objective evidence includes?

This is good to know; however, ICE has had its hands full for years with no end in sight, and it seems to focus on group illegalities (e.g., workers in meat-processing plants) than on individual cases.  USCIS is prepared and equipped to deal with the latter.
If you're inspired, collect objective evidence for these and submit it (1., separately) to USCIS and (2.) to ICE.

There is actually a category on the ICE reporting site for fraudulent marriage. But knowing USCIS for reporting is good information too. 
He is currently trying to get his physically abusive brother here through a young American girl half his age that my ex works with. She has no idea what’s going on. His mother is here illegally housed at hotel chain who supplies her a room in exchange for room cleaning. 

Folks, let's minimize posts about 90-Day Fiance, or those posts will have to be removed.
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One doesn't contact ICE for this.
 
The proper avenue is the FDNS officer at the nearest USCIS office.
Go in person, carrying all the objective evidence of the fraud that you can collect.
Include the A# of the individual whom you're reporting.
Ask for the FDNS officer.
Be polite and unemotional.
Explain that you have objective evidence of relationship fraud for "your expert analysis."
(This will relax and flatter the FDNS officer, who will be used to emotional complainers.)
Hand it all over, thank the FDNS officer for accepting it, and leave.
Sadly, you'll never hear anything further, but at least you've done all that you could.

OMG, I am sorry to hear this.