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Okay, I googled it! She isn't. Thanks so much! You all have been so helpful!!!!

I asked her! She doesn't know!

. does she have any 2 year 'stay at home country ' requirement? if so, she'd have to ask for a waiver when filing the Adjustment of status.

Not sure. She is Austrian. Does it depend on her country of origin?

My friend has one month expiration on her student visa according to her passport and has been planning to marry her boyfriend this month. Her school just let her know that her visa actually expires in five days as her program has ended. She is distraught as her wedding is already planned! Does anyone know is it possible to get married and submit an I-130 in the next five days? Would she be overstaying her visa if she did this and stayed in the country or is her only option to marry and then leave the country in five days (a very expensive proposition for her right now)? Any advice is much appreciated!!!

Similar experience! My husband came on a K-1 visa and had a medical exam two months ago. I just called a civil surgeon's office in Atlanta and was told repeatedly by the receptionist that filling out the I-693A would cost between $180-300 dollars. I asked her repeatedly why filling out a sheet of paper would cost that much and she told me that the doctor has to do a physical exam. Back and forth we went. I am absolutely disgusted. I am quite sure that if I were a recent immigrant I would just shrug and cough up the dough. It is really awful!!!!

One caveat about moving to his country. If he lives in a developing country, you may make a comfortable living there but it may not be 125% of the poverty limit that you will need to sponsor your husband when you decide to come back. An additional sponsor might be required.

My K1 petition was sent back to Homeland Security. I waited for some kind of decision on it that never came. A lawyer told me to reapply and my petition was approved again by the USCIS. My fiance's interview is Tuesday and I hope this time he won't have a b*%#h for a CO. I regret wasting that time waiting for some resolution for my first petition. It was awful starting all over again but that is what it took.

I remember my sister and I being bored because there was nothing good on TV so we would turn it off and go outside and play. We had one TV and about 5 channels.

This is so horrible! I have been on these boards for two and a half years because of my own (K-1) visa rejected by an incompenetent CO for a flimsy "reason" and have seen it happen again and again. The first thing to do is relax and realize that you are completely helpless. Okay, now, keep calling the Embassy and talking to whomever will talk to you. This probably won't work but you never know. Do try to demand a 221g which is a letter explaining the refusal. I would also talk to my lawyer about reapplying. You may dread the idea thinking about the long wait but you also don't want to waste time hoping for some thing that just isn't going to happen with this petition. When you do reapply you can spell out what happened in detail in the application and when/if it is approved by the USCIS, hopefully the consulate will have a really hard time denying a petition that has been approved twice by the USCIS. You also don't want your stepdaughter to turn 21 before this nightmare ends!

Most of all, take care of your new wife and daughters. I can't imagine the pain they are feeling being seperated from their daughter and sister.

Best of luck!!!

We have been dating for three years and lived together for one of them so I think we are pretty well established but we have to practice as it is hard for my fiance to remember my American relatives' names, American city names and my official job title- things we don't usually talk about in every day conversation.

August 23. They didn't take our I-134 packet though. I emailed the Embassy and they said to bring it to the interview. Are you practicing questions with your fiancee? I hope they don't ask anything strange like my father's first name or something!

I was living in Dharamsala when I met my fiance so I picked up some Tibetan in the year I was there. I recently signed up for a Tibetan language class and was so proud of myself. When I announced to him that I was going to study Tibetan, he asked me, "why?" Deflated, I said, "to talk to your mom". He pointed out that his mother spoke a regional dialect and wouldn't understand the Lhasa Tibetan I would be studying. I went to class anyway but as soon as I realized Tibetan is a tonal language my desire (confidence?!) evaporated. Now I am happy with the little phrases I know, like, "how are you? and "I love you"!

Hey bszoom,

Thanks for keeping us up to date. My fiance's is the same day as yours'. I am so worried I feel sick whenever I think about it!!!

You are so wonderfully helpful! Using your list I made a list for my fiance and told him to be in Delhi by Monday morning. What would I do without visa journey and fellow visa journeyers? After my fiance was told it would take 3 months for an interview and not getting anything in the mail I would have never thought to ask when his interview was scheduled had I not been reading your post. THANK YOU SO MUCH BSZOOM42!!!!!!

Whoo-hoo! I emailed the Embassy and just got a reply that my fiance's interview date is September 12th too! Do you think it will help any for me to be there- as far as convincing the powers that be of our sincereity? This is our busy season at work and I am sure I could take time off work to go to India but I think I would rather spend the money to take to my fiance to Hawaii!

I am so nervous!

My fiance hasn't gotten anything in the mail and lives in Himachel Pradesh far from Delhi. I had already sent him all the forms that I could print out from the internet but I know he doesn't have the medical paperwork to take to the doctor. All the paperwork has to be submitted at least five busines days before the interview? So is our only option him going to Delhi two weeks early to get the medical paperwork, do the medical there and then submit all the papers and wait in Delhi until his interview?

Hi,

My fiance was told the same thing when he submitted his paperwork yesterday about the interview being scheduled one month later and occuring two months later. How did you hear about your fiancee's interview three days after your fiancee submitted the DS-230 etc.? Thanks!!!

Eek! I would be pretty mad too if I left my country with the assumption that I would be getting married and then my fiance was saying things like, "I do not want to be forced into a marriage when there are issues with the relationship." There are always going to be "issues" with a relationship. You promised her marriage, took her through the visa process and now saying that you don't think it will work out in the long run. Instead of making her out to be the crazy one, you should have a little sympathy for her and look at things from her point of view and try to allay her fears. Her fears and insecurity clearly seems to be justified because all you want to do is dump her.

Man, I have been working on getting my fiance here for two years. What I wouldn't do to get him here. Even fighting with him every day seems a whole hell of a lot better then having him on the other side of the world. I would love to have a real relationship where I could fight with him and get irritated by the things he does instead of this ghost email/phone call/inet chat relationship we have to slog through. At least if we are near each other we have a chance. Sheesh, appreciate what you have.

Can you trick her? You know, maybe, "Hey, baby, let's go visit SE Asia!" and then leave her there? Or maybe you can have or pretend to have a really blatant affair and make her want to leave. Ah, go get a vasectomy! Come home with all the proof from the doctor and then she might want to leave you. Um, I had better stop. my creative evil thinking is starting to scare me.

I think even the most careful person can be fooled. Two years is a small price to pay for a greencard if you really want or need to leave your homeland. If you knew your eighty year old husband was going to die in two years and leave you a million dollars, you could probably kanoodle him for two years if your were really hungry for money. If you hated your boss but there was a big promotion two years down the pipe, you could smile and pander for that time. People do stuff like this all the time for a lot smaller payoffs. So people who think they can't be fooled are fooling themselves.

The OP is right to be sad and hurt and a warning never hurt anyone.

One month would seem like a blessing with all the time I have been waiting! The aide at my Congressperson's office called but couldn't get anymore information than I could. To soothe my mental health issues I bought a ticket to India (retail therapy!).

I really do wonder what has happened to our country. I can't understand why we are bothering to discuss illegal immigration when our legal immigration system is in such a mess. My fiance is in India and wouldn't be able to get a tourist visa but at this point if he was European, Canadian or south of the border and we were having this much trouble, I would absolutely go illegal. I am an ESL teacher and I have a student who is a naturalized American. Her husband is illegal and I asked her why she doesn't make him legal since she has that option. She told me that he would have to go back to Mexico and wait and her family needs him here. It makes sense- especially when you can't count on the USCIS processing things in a timely manner. Another one of my student's is a permanent resident- here absolutely legally- and he is looking at a 5 year wait to bring his now pregnant wife over. It is absolutely ridiculous. Why play by the rules when the short term costs are so (too!!!) high?

I really can't believe it. Long story, short. My first case (KI filed in April 2005) was given a 221g after the interview, couldn't get info from the New Delhi Embassy to clarify what I needed to meet the 221g, asked for an extension, they finally gave me the information I needed, accepted my fiance's passport and a month later sent it back saying our petition had expired and was being sent back to DHS. Reapplied, waited 8 months for my NOA2. Did numerous celebratory dances and now I am in AP at NVC. I just found out by calling them and asking when my case would be forwarded to New Delhi. I was told they couldn't tell me why my petition was in AP, how long it might be in AP and when I asked what the person's name was whom I was speaking with she told me she couldn't tell me and that there was no one who could give me any more information. How cloak and dagger is that! Than I asked if this was the United States of America (it is, unrecognizable though it may be). I am sooooooo sick of this bureaucratic nonscense and being treated like a nonperson.

I have been waiting over two years to get my fiance here. Advice, sympathy, any one else who is in the same boat!! I am just about to break down; I can't take it any more...

My fiance is Tibetan. He doesn't have a last name so taking on his last name is a moot point. I wouldn't have changed my name anyway.

Oh, and back to your original question, I did include a copy of the credit card in his name and the bills in my name in our paperwork to illustrate that we are financially intermingled because I thought it would help convince someone of the validity of our relationship as much as phone records and love letters.

My first petition was returned because it expired and the CO chose not to revalidate it, not because it was denied. So I didn't have to wait for a final notice from the first one. I was able to resubmit.