Joe&LuMa

I agree with the others here. Your husband needs to own up to his mistakes. The blame goes solely on him for breaking the rules. Fortunately, you still have options as @missileman graciously outlined for you.
 
Good luck to you.

They are not breaking up your marriage. You are always free to move to your husband country.
 
It looks like he was rightfully denied visa for overstay and received 10 year ban.

Let's be honest here.  No one is breaking up your marriage.  Your husband chose to ignore US law, and he rightfully received a 10 year ban.  That was completely in his control. That is the harsh truth.  Now, you are left with few options:
1.  Seek the help of an immigration attorney.
2.  Try to submit the waivers yourself, and hope for the best
3.  Relocate to your husband's country to wait out the ban.
 
Personally, I would opt for #1.  Good luck to you and your family.

Obviously you don’t know that undocumented means exactly that.  

I think you both are kinda of missing the point of where the OP stands right now. As of right now, the OP has an arrest record for DV charge. Whether charges are dropped/dismissed or a conviction is later determined in the court, the arrest record remains and will follow him for life (yes he can request to have the arrest expunged carries no wait in immigration related cases). For the OP, this means that at this point, she is setting herself up for VAWA or having it where she doesn't need her husband to update her AOS, i.e., getting her GC. If she called the police and has filed  DV report against him once, she has no problem with doing it again. What she is doing is building her "paper trail".
 
We don't have to know the "whole story" of what happened between the OP and his wife because truthfully, it's relevant if the OP is seeking a divorce. Pulling the I-864 is the best thing for the OP to PROTECT HIMSELF in the long run because it's clear that she's protecting HERSELF in the long run. Him pulling the I-864 is not viewed as vindictive tactic or "abusive". Steps have already been taken where she deems that she's "unsafe" and "in fear" to the point where she was granted a no contact order. Whether there's truth or lie to the OP's story, the fact is, a judge or commissioner believed her claim enough at that time to grant a protection order. She is a woman, a foreign woman at that and he wasn't present when the police were called. All she had to do was have the police create a police report for her to go to the court and request a protection order WITHOUT the OP knowledge which means he was not given a chance to come to court to dispute her claims, and that's how her no contact order was granted.
 
Most likely, these "charges" will be dismissed for several reasons (she probably has been schooled that well to know that she "jumped the ball" too quickly before getting her EAD/GC) or when he goes to court, the judge will see that the case has no weight (unless she has proof of physical abuse).
 
OP...if you seeking a divorce and you know that is what you want to do, pull the I-864 and finalize the divorce. It's one thing to have to be temporarily responsible for (i.e., provide temporarily housing/financial assistance for her, but your lawyer can have a timeframe stipulated on how long that has to be), but it's another to be financially responsible for her until she naturalizes.
 
Either way, you need to start thinking about the future of YOUR well-being!

Sounds like she has been well schooled.

The attorney can tell your wife when to stop talking, which is no small benefit.

You need to think long and hard about whether or not this is a good idea for EITHER of you.
 
Youre already complaining and you're not even HERE.

It does sound like you might be much happier staying in Italy, have you discussed this with your Fiance?

But question for OP - I assume they gave the wife 6 months to stay in U.S. on tourist visa.  Is that not enough time for them to sort out their situation, whether they go back to Panama or a different country?  You said that's what they want to do.  If they don't plan on staying in US, then Adjustment of Status doesn't make sense.

This whole post of the OP is kind of disgusting. President Grump?? He is enforcing the Immigration Law just like Panama obviously did to OP....

One thing bucking the system, another to come on here and rub it in the noses of people who are now waiting over a year to be reunited.

Of course Panama won't allow her to continue staying on a tourist visa because that whole region is being flooded by Venezuelans trying to flee their country. You can call it mean for her being taken in to secondary but it was rightfully done because anyone can see what was going to happen and what actually did end up happening. CBP is simple following the law that's it and that's why they sent her into secondary. Also believe it or not but President Trump is simply following the rule of law in regards to immigration, something that hasn't been done for a while now.
 
She can not file for naturalization due to never being a LPR or a PR.

Well what do you expect when you come here complaining about the system that works just fine? They startes working on making the wife legal resident as soon as they arrived and this is exactly what border officers suspected they will do.  Also there is no such thing as 90 day rule, really. Glad you specified they applied for AOS not spouse visa. 
 
 

You fault the border officers for sending the wife into secondary when they were doing their jobs. They were right in questioning her. Based on your story she was going to use the visitor visa to live in the US regardless.
 
The extension is a possibility but not a guarantee. The options now are to file for a spousal visa and for her to return to Venezuela while it is being processed. Or file for AOS.
 
This has nothing to do with bad border officers or Trump. A person can't use a visitor visa to go and live in another country. Look what happened to the wife in Panama. It was basically the same thing. Best for them to get the process done so they can stop breaking rules because they are scrambling.

Perhaps this is a good time to refer to the VJ ToS.
 
Personally I have little time for those who so obviously flout Immigration laws, and not much for those who 'post for a friend' and complain about the system that they have just abused.

And apparently they were right.... 
 
Yep. The extension won't work. 
 
That's not how spouse visa works. They can apply but the wife would have to leave US and return to her country to wait out the process. Currently it takes from 12 to 14 months. 
 
There is no such thing as waiting 90 days to apply for spouse visa. 
Never heard and doubt it's real. Plus she cannot get a citizenship without a green card first anyway. 
 
 
 
You mean spouse visa or aos? Two completely different things. 
As soon as her tourist visa expires she will be out of status and deportable. 
Comparing it to Anne Frank is kind of disgusting  though. No offense. 
 
They already made a mistake of not applying for spouse visa prior to coming to the US and using the tourist visa to immigrate.  Basically they committed immigration fraud. 

IMO you should maybe finish with this lawyer service after the K1 process is done. That is being highly incompetent that he blamed it on some software. Thousands of people file on their own and don't make these mistakes. 

I strongly suggest you do not fly to the US until you have the money set aside to pay for AOS.  Save it yourself, be part of the solution.

My jouney is over!!!
I am happy and proud to say that as of today I am an American citizen!
so happy and relieve that my journey in USCIS is finally over. I wish the best to everyone whom still waiting.
 
 
 

Same reasoning, why would you want to bring over people who already have lives of their own? It's part of being a grown up, moving out and beginning your own life. Nobody needs to be joined at the hip of their immediate family. And marrying/moving here with the intent of eventually bringing over every man and his dog you're related to . . . well I'd be offended if I were the US citizen and that were expected of me before my spouse even had their feet under the table. 

Have to agree with Ishnura. If you choose to migrate to the US, whether through just say K-1/CR-1 visa, you have to choose whether it is what you want to do, not just because later you can bring your parents.. You are migrating to start a 'new life', not to forget the one you left behind, but not to bring it with you either. The US has been overly generous with migration, and that isn't up for debate; but change is needed.

What about them ? They're adults, lived for years on their own so what exactly is the problem ?

Well in terms of the "child"---it really should be used for CHILDREN...and will continue to do so, thankfully.
Personally, I don't consider someone over the age of 21 a "child" anymore, but that's just me, so I can see the reasoning behind eliminating the adult child category.  Most of the adult "children" have spouses and children of their own, at that point---which then means they could end up sponsoring them, too, at some point later on---hence the whole "chain migration" thing again which is what Trump wants to stop.
 
Parents---I think it should be more fine-tuned on the eligibility factor for them instead of cutting it out completely.  Age, health, etc.
But I can see the need to cut it out completely, too.

The vast majority of countries do not allow you to petition parents, siblings, or adult children. They assume that once you are an adult you can function without every adult in your family being there.
 
As has been mentioned immigration is a privilege not a right.