mtempelaar

I am so sorry to hear you are having these problems. Someone else who has actually done a K-1 visa can better answer (I'm doing a CR-1 instead) but I believe she can cancel it by contacting USCIS. If you don't get married you won't be able to follow through with the next steps to legally move here. The visa is only valid for a limited time, during which you need to arrive and marry within 90 days. In addition if you do NOT arrive within 6 months I believe it automatically expires. Again, someone who has done a K-1 needs to correct me if I'm wrong here.
My suggestion though, since you have already purchased the ticket, talk to her and see if she is willing to delay the cancellation and allow you to fly there and speak in person, talk through the issues face to face and THEN make a decision. You are in a difficult spot right now but IMO if you love her and she still loves you, it's worth a chance. Long distance relationships aren't easy and an in person discussion may be what is needed to save the relationship. If you can resolve you are here legally and can marry and stay. If it is not resolved, you will have to go back to your home country.
Good luck!
EDIT: I see someone else said it's immigration fraud if you come without intent to marry. I would say to that you ARE coming with intent to marry, even if it doesn't happen, so not sure that's fraud. Can someone else respond?

My heart goes out to you.  I hope you can get the help you need to go back to your home, family and friends.  
 
Going to post a few links here that may help:
 
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/personalfinance/expat-money/10820465/Down-and-out-abroad-There-are-places-to-turn.html
 
 
https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/822887/Support_for_British_Nationals_Abroad_Main_Guide.pdf
 
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Out of 13-20 million people who apply.  

This thread went wildly off course, and quite frankly it didn't need to.   I'm Jewish and didn't take parens as anti-semitic.  That's more of a Twitter thing.  
 
To the OP: If there really is a ban difference for the UK for voluntarily leaving versus deported (and I don't know if there is), I'd go for the option that leaves you the most flexibility in the future.   You can't predict the future.  Don't take a bad situation and make it worse.  More apart time now could save you future heartache in the future.  Just my two cents.
 
If all else fails, there's always work visas in a third party country so you can be together

 
 
 
 

This thread went wildly off course, and quite frankly it didn't need to.   I'm Jewish and didn't take parens as anti-semitic.  That's more of a Twitter thing.  
 
To the OP: If there really is a ban difference for the UK for voluntarily leaving versus deported (and I don't know if there is), I'd go for the option that leaves you the most flexibility in the future.   You can't predict the future.  Don't take a bad situation and make it worse.  More apart time now could save you future heartache in the future.  Just my two cents.
 
If all else fails, there's always work visas in a third party country so you can be together

 
 
 
 

This thread went wildly off course, and quite frankly it didn't need to.   I'm Jewish and didn't take parens as anti-semitic.  That's more of a Twitter thing.  
 
To the OP: If there really is a ban difference for the UK for voluntarily leaving versus deported (and I don't know if there is), I'd go for the option that leaves you the most flexibility in the future.   You can't predict the future.  Don't take a bad situation and make it worse.  More apart time now could save you future heartache in the future.  Just my two cents.
 
If all else fails, there's always work visas in a third party country so you can be together

 
 
 
 

I recommend trying a different bank or a credit union.   Different banks require different documentation.   If you have an SSN and a drivers license that should be enough.  I was able to add my husband to my checking account with just those two, and then later he was able to open a checking account with same documentation at a major bank.

It is possible there may be one.  Just one.

Did you file online?  If so, you can upload more documents at any time

Why not just marry in a third country?

No, it’s already in English. Yes, in rare cases there have been RFEs issued but those were mistakes, and definitely not the norm. I have heard an RFE issued for translation of the birth certificate from a guy who was born in England. You can’t get more English than someone born in England. That’s like the original English right there

Thread is moved from General Immigration Discussion to the US Citizenship main forum.

The immigration process and forms don't end when an immigrant enters the US.  There's adjustment of status, greencard renewals, possibly citizenship.  

If the credit card is a shared one, you need a printout of some statements showing both names.  You should do multiple credit cards, not just one, if possible.
 
There are a lot of utilities that won't show both names or only allow one person as the account holder.
 
Some of the things I did, which I am providing as examples to get your mind working in the right direction:
I opened additional life insurance policies (so employer one plus an new one we did on our own). Provided Pre-Nup and Will/Testment, Living Will Showed my husband was beneficiary on all of my 401ks/pensions/IRAs. I was able to add my husband to home insurance before he moved here and I provided a printout of the policy I was able to add my husband to my car insurance (with a jump in premium) so I could provide a printout of our policy I refinanced my home and as part of that he was added to the deed but not the mortgage.  He signed the paperwork on a visit before he moved here and I provided a printout of the deed change. I *think* I was able to have my husband as beneficary to my stocks I received from current and former employers. Basically, ANYTHING I could add his name to I did.  And then I showed paperwork for it all.  Hell, I even provided a dog adoption application with our names on it

I do not think he was being overly judgemental. 
 
The first is indicative of Lagos being a high fraud embassy, scrutiny is heightened 
The 2nd you mentioned new immigration laws, he was seeking clarification of those laws 
 
in addition, you filed your taxes as single, a problem that can be corrected but that adds cloudiness
lastly, it's been a 2 year separation (or at least 23 months) if you have not seen each other since August 2017
 
Possible indicators of difficulty are being presented to you, I believe they are meant to point our potential problems, not to judge you and/or your situation

Truthfully.

If not in English, yes it needs translation but authentication or notarization not needed. Sounds like you lawyer is after some extra money based on your not familiarizing yourself enough with forms o procedures. Head up to guides above and read until you can recite all steps through naturalization. 

Totally legit.
 
More info:
https://www.uscis.gov/forms/uscis-immigrant-fee
 
CR-1 fees (excluding medical):
USCIS Filing Fee – $535 - This is the fee required to get the ball rolling with your petition. It goes along with the Form I-130 in the initial filing of the CR1/IR1 visa petition.
National Visa Center (NVC) Immigrant Fee – $445   This consists of a combination of 2 fees – Affidavit of Support fee of $120, and the DS-260 visa application fee of $325.
USCIS Immigrant Fee – $220 The immigrant fee is paid via the USCIS Electronic Immigration System and is required for the green card.
 

For a USC

Incarnation? They should focus on the here and now.

I also had an ESTA and applied for and received a B2 visa in 2017. I took a letter with me from my work’s HR department, confirming I had a 7 month career break authorised and that my job would be kept for me when I returned...proof of return flights purchased for both me and my dog (I didn’t use forums then, so didn’t know of the risks of buying your flight before getting your visa)...and a bank statement to show that I could support myself whilst there, without needing to work. 
 
The HR letter was obviously a very important inclusion as it demonstrated that I still had strong ties to my country and explained how it was viable for me to leave the country for 6 months (and my bank statement supported that). 
 
It was during that long trip that I met my future husband - I then came home for us to start the K1 process.

Things always change.  You can't rely completely on one other application as your rule of thumb.   Statistically speaking, that's a very low sample size.
 
The application is different
The Petitioner and Beneficiary are different
The immigration officer/interviewer is different
The questions will likely be somewhat different.
 
My husband did a naturalization application.  It took 10 months and his interview was stressful. A peer of mine did an application for his mother for the same local office, she was initially rejected, had to do second interview and it took > a year. Someone who reports to me did an application right after my husband and he was approved and took the oath within 2 months Three examples, same local field office, three totally different experiences.  
 
There is no way to predict 100% how long you would have to submit it but if you end up in Administrative Processing, it could take a while (I agree with the 1 year as a possibility provided previously).     
 
If your family member is hestitant, have them provide sponsor documentation in a sealed envelope to you to bring with you.  If it's needed (sounds like it will be) unseal and hand over.   If not needed, you hand the sealed envelope right back to the family member afterwards.  But you really need to bring that affidavit with you.    Don't give the the consulate a chance to deny it based on finances.
 
BTW, I understand you are stressed but the people on this forum are trying to HELP you.  

Things always change.  You can't rely completely on one other application as your rule of thumb.   Statistically speaking, that's a very low sample size.
 
The application is different
The Petitioner and Beneficiary are different
The immigration officer/interviewer is different
The questions will likely be somewhat different.
 
My husband did a naturalization application.  It took 10 months and his interview was stressful. A peer of mine did an application for his mother for the same local office, she was initially rejected, had to do second interview and it took > a year. Someone who reports to me did an application right after my husband and he was approved and took the oath within 2 months Three examples, same local field office, three totally different experiences.  
 
There is no way to predict 100% how long you would have to submit it but if you end up in Administrative Processing, it could take a while (I agree with the 1 year as a possibility provided previously).     
 
If your family member is hestitant, have them provide sponsor documentation in a sealed envelope to you to bring with you.  If it's needed (sounds like it will be) unseal and hand over.   If not needed, you hand the sealed envelope right back to the family member afterwards.  But you really need to bring that affidavit with you.    Don't give the the consulate a chance to deny it based on finances.
 
BTW, I understand you are stressed but the people on this forum are trying to HELP you.  

Things always change.  You can't rely completely on one other application as your rule of thumb.   Statistically speaking, that's a very low sample size.
 
The application is different
The Petitioner and Beneficiary are different
The immigration officer/interviewer is different
The questions will likely be somewhat different.
 
My husband did a naturalization application.  It took 10 months and his interview was stressful. A peer of mine did an application for his mother for the same local office, she was initially rejected, had to do second interview and it took > a year. Someone who reports to me did an application right after my husband and he was approved and took the oath within 2 months Three examples, same local field office, three totally different experiences.  
 
There is no way to predict 100% how long you would have to submit it but if you end up in Administrative Processing, it could take a while (I agree with the 1 year as a possibility provided previously).     
 
If your family member is hestitant, have them provide sponsor documentation in a sealed envelope to you to bring with you.  If it's needed (sounds like it will be) unseal and hand over.   If not needed, you hand the sealed envelope right back to the family member afterwards.  But you really need to bring that affidavit with you.    Don't give the the consulate a chance to deny it based on finances.
 
BTW, I understand you are stressed but the people on this forum are trying to HELP you.  

Things always change.  You can't rely completely on one other application as your rule of thumb.   Statistically speaking, that's a very low sample size.
 
The application is different
The Petitioner and Beneficiary are different
The immigration officer/interviewer is different
The questions will likely be somewhat different.
 
My husband did a naturalization application.  It took 10 months and his interview was stressful. A peer of mine did an application for his mother for the same local office, she was initially rejected, had to do second interview and it took > a year. Someone who reports to me did an application right after my husband and he was approved and took the oath within 2 months Three examples, same local field office, three totally different experiences.  
 
There is no way to predict 100% how long you would have to submit it but if you end up in Administrative Processing, it could take a while (I agree with the 1 year as a possibility provided previously).     
 
If your family member is hestitant, have them provide sponsor documentation in a sealed envelope to you to bring with you.  If it's needed (sounds like it will be) unseal and hand over.   If not needed, you hand the sealed envelope right back to the family member afterwards.  But you really need to bring that affidavit with you.    Don't give the the consulate a chance to deny it based on finances.
 
BTW, I understand you are stressed but the people on this forum are trying to HELP you.