Birdo

Just my personal opinion; don't bring it up..

That is crazy. I thank my lucky stars that the officer was happy just stating "you paid the ticket, right" because I did not have any way of getting any kind of records since the ticket was already purged from the court records (infractions get purged from our local records after three years), and I doubt I could have gotten any kind of police report for it either. I was only armed with a printout of the court website where it states all infractions get purged after three years, a printout of the name search which shows no hits for my name, and my driving record from DMV showing good standing.

Yikes. 4 plus 1's on the above post. is there even an emoticon holding its head hanging in shame??
And to let this be a lesson to every woman who suffers a true assault- oh my I hope not. If anything this thread should be a lesson to those who wish to play advocate to victims when they have no idea what they are talking about.
It is harder then it seems. In a high stakes situation like this where the clock is ticking and misinformation or a mis-step can drastically alter the outcome- well...
No one can choose the path that "sara" or any victim takes. No one can force them down one road or another. Everyone has to make their own choices. The only thing you can do is lay out the different options in an accurate and compassionate way that they understand and let them choose for themselves what they want and then guide them through it.
The ball was dropped in this thread so many times in this thread it was ridiculous. People just not listening to what she was saying. (The outline was clearly given I think around page 5 or 6 of the steps in her county of what was to happen after the arrest in terms of arrangement/bail posting etc- Sara said she found out the bail amount- logic dictates she was told this amount because the court set it, meaning the husband could pay it at any time and be released. Why there was this 'you have until Wed' theory going on?? I have no idea... Some how people misaligned her timeframe to the outline.
As for constantly referring her to the phone numbers and the help lines and saying talk to the court advocate or the shelter advocate or the DV advocate. Well Im sorry it simply doesnt work that way. Anyone whos been in the system can tell you (and Im very surprised and disappointed that no one in all this time has come to this thread and provided any real answers or support besides the general flag waving and well wishing- and Im talking about the people that I know to be qualified that have just ignored it)
But regardless for those that dont know- the system kind of works like a supermarket. Everyone (the advocates and social workers) have their own limited job, with it own limited functions. Like in a supermarket theres the butcher and the deli guy that will slice the cheese and deli meats and the bakery lady that does the bread and muffins and the produce man. Then theres the stock boy that handles the cans and the cashier. They all wear the same aprons and work at the same store. But try asking the butcher guy to slice you some cheese or ring up your cart or if theres more Cheerios in the back cause theres no more on the shelf and there going to look at you like you are nuts. Limited jobs- and they are going to refer you to someone else who kind of looks like them- I mean same apron and all, same store, same name tag, just different specialty.
Theres no one person that walks you up and down every aisle personalizing your experience in the market- and theres no advocate that helps you through a complicated situation like a DV assault with a RO and a divorce and immigration and court all at the same time. So you get a lot of shrugs and the hmph well I just help with transportation call so and so, and well I just help with housing and hmm well I just help with the RO- oh you dont need help with that then why are you calling me- you want to talk about court you need to call the court lady. And for someone who doesnt speak English- heck for someone who DOES speak English after going through a DV situation and being weakened already its enough to make you want to just sit in the corner and wait to die.
Combine that with the confusion a percentage of women feel when their spouses are arrested for DV. Its almost the same kind of guilt a child feels when the parents are arrested for child abuse. It was my fault. In the case of an adult woman (or man) defending the spouse is not because they are stupid or foolish- but because of severe mental abuse (brainwashing and trauma) which clouds their ability to think straight. These are the kinds of people that need the support the most IMO. And shouldnt just be written off as get some courses or seek some help.
Anyway. Re Anger management course. It is possible for that to be included in the RO- however I feel it is unlikely at this point given the fact that the DV charges were dropped that the RO judge will order them. This is just my opinion though. If Sara can show a history of violence/anger issues of the husband then it could be ordered. But I really dont see anything in her posts that show she has evidence of that. This seems to be the first time shes called the police. So she would have to give detailed testimony about his temper/anger issues. Like if he has a pattern of breaking things. This could be shown by photographs. Obviously it would be weak evidence. Perhaps a photo of the living room at Christmas time or what not and she would point out a vase or a table and then a more recent photograph in which the item is missing and then testify that the item is gone because husband broke it in a rage. Weak evidence but evidence nonetheless. Or if there are damage to the walls in the house- photos of that.
Basically I would ask Sara what is something he damaged in a rage- can you photograph it? or question him about it in the RO hearing.
She wasnt very specific about what happened in the hearings. But her questions are how long are the permanent orders, can she have shorter ones etc.
I did not google her county because Ive spent more time typing this out then I wanted to spend online to begin with. But its very easy to find out how long the permanent orders are. I think its 3 yrs for San Diego/CA.
Right now you have a temp order. You got the first one and they set a hearing to make it permanent and the hearing for that takes place with in about 20 days from when you get your temp one. Now I wasnt at that hearing but apparently they extended your temp one for another 20 days. (they gave you another temp one and the new one ordered him to move out)
My guess is what happened in that hearing was the judge was like ####### is this- you have a RO and you are living together? Which is odd. He probably asked how that was working out for you- if you were ok/safe/ uncomfortable/ You probably said you werent so cool with that. So he changed it so husband had to leave.
He probably also saw that either you didnt have an interpreter there (yes? no?) and or you didnt have an attorney (yes? no?) SO he extended it to give time for both to happen.
The interpreter the court will handle. The attny is your problem. But its not so much a problem because you just call legal aide. Unlike being put on a waiting list for a pro bono divorce attny when you call and say you need a RO and there is a hearing already set they will get you one to be there.
But again like at the supermarket this attny will only help with the RO not a divorce. SO you do need to get a divorce attny. However if he files for divorce and you are served, youll get one faster. Its a longer wait when you want to file against someone but if someone serves you and you need representation they will represent you.
Going back a bit you do want to meet with your attny for the RO ahead of time and not like an hour before in the hallway because they will try that- they are on a tight schedule. In some states, depending on the laws- you can get things written into the RO like you get to stay in the house and he must keep the utilities on and pay the rent until the matter is resolved in divorce court. Judges can and do order support to a victim who has been economically dependent on her abuser even in the absence of any traditional legal duty of support. But again it depends on where you live- which is why you need to speak to an attny.
(Some will remember a thread posted by an immigrant who came to the US on a CR1 after the USC told her he didnt wish her to- he tried to have her visa pulled and it caused some complications at arrival/inspection for her but she was admitted. After she got out of the airport she went to his residence had him arrested for DV and had him and his mother removed from the home with a RO. She was asking for advice about what steps to take next as she explained she felt entitled to everything as he had made promised to her through their wedding vows and had no guilt or remorse. Bottom line, she was living in the house- he was paying the expenses- rent utilities as per the RO and her complaint was he shut of the internet and cable- anyone remember this and she was crying abuse. The thread got nasty and was closed/deleted I believe.) But it wasnt a troll thread. It was someone abusing the system. But it is the actual system in some places.
Sara needs to find out if that is feasible in her county or not so she can make preparations financially.
As for immigration and Sandras comments- please do not twist them to suit your point. Some appear to be contradicting lest we not forget she is a lawyer but she is also a person with her own personal views and opinions and frustrations.
So this
and this
are two different things. Breaking up and reconciling are two different things. Making one sworn statement on a TRO about being fearful for your life and then making a different conflicting statement at the Permanent hearing that you are NOT fearful means that you are not a credible person- you tell different stories under oath depending on what suits you so USCIS will have no reason to believe you. Youll say what ever you need to to get your card.
Regardless its unclear if Sara is even choosing to file ROC under extreme cruelty waiver or not. She has the same choices as any other marriage that did not work out and is not filing jointly. She has to evaluate her paperwork and see what she has. If she is lacking joint evidence because her spouse was controlling or the marriage was very short then she may choose to check the abuse box to explain why that is lacking and submit abuse evidence. She would really have to give more information about her ROC evidences to get advice on which filing method is better for her.

You're missing this person's other posts which are very similar to this, and state the same things over and over without accepting any reasonable responses from others. Do not bother engaging with OP...

I have no experience trying to make a correction, but it seems that most service requests are pretty useless. You could try sending in a letter of explanation along with a copy of the letter you received. However, since the letter says that you should bring information with you to the interview, I assume that they're going to schedule your wife's interview anyway. If you can take a printout of results of the online voter search, I would do that. Just wait until the interview and be prepared to explain that there was a mistake of the officer brings it up. It could be that there's nothing wrong with your file, but they sent the wrong form letter so it may not even come up. Just remember that I'm only telling you what seems logical to me... USCIS doesn't always do things I think are logical.

The Citizenship is awesome and the Oath ceremony itself was very moving. I still cheer for Finnish athletes and so on.
Some of the traditional foods are strange and I was never a fan of that sausage myself. Mostly I've offered it to my husband as a gag (literally) when we visited Tampere. The salty licorice on the other hand is a hard habit to shake. So I get my fix from an American online store that actually sells German goodies but they have other European stuff too. And the chocolates.. And the authentic rye sourdough bread. Good luck to both of you!

Well I'm part of a Finnish-American couple but I've lived in the States since 1991 so not going through any of the K-1 or other processes anymore... But I noticed your fiance lives in Tampere and that's where I was born and raised. Did you ever get to eat Mustamakkara? LOL!!!!

File by yourself based on 5 years of permanent resident. Just make sure you have all the docs from your current spouse you need or divorce him, and then file later once everything is clear. That way you don't need anything more from him since you will have the final divorce decree and that's that. Sorry to hear about your situation but it happens and we just move on. There's no hurry to file for citizenship and it's more straightforward once you have all of your personal situation sorted away. He can't stop you at all.

This is a decision you want to make; most people I saw yesterday in Los Angeles were somewhat dressed up and the atmosphere was excited and happy. All the guests for the applicants were there to cheer and make sure that the applicant's day was special. Some people were dressed in jeans but most were in dressier clothes and it's just what you feel makes for a truly special day, because that's what it is. People usually dress up for special occasions and I think it's appropriate to so so. Your wife is becoming a citizen of United States so make it special for both of you! A little effort makes for big rewards and shows that you care.

This is a decision you want to make; most people I saw yesterday in Los Angeles were somewhat dressed up and the atmosphere was excited and happy. All the guests for the applicants were there to cheer and make sure that the applicant's day was special. Some people were dressed in jeans but most were in dressier clothes and it's just what you feel makes for a truly special day, because that's what it is. People usually dress up for special occasions and I think it's appropriate to so so. Your wife is becoming a citizen of United States so make it special for both of you! A little effort makes for big rewards and shows that you care.

Three years from the date on the green card that says Resident Since. You can file up to 90 days prior to that date.

Your employer is wrong. They just need to look at the Instructions for the I-9 form which clearly state that the I-551 in your passport is in List A of acceptable documents that establish both identity and employment authorization. Here is the link to it. http://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/files/form/i-9.pdf

Your employer is wrong. They just need to look at the Instructions for the I-9 form which clearly state that the I-551 in your passport is in List A of acceptable documents that establish both identity and employment authorization. Here is the link to it. http://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/files/form/i-9.pdf

Your employer is wrong. They just need to look at the Instructions for the I-9 form which clearly state that the I-551 in your passport is in List A of acceptable documents that establish both identity and employment authorization. Here is the link to it. http://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/files/form/i-9.pdf

Check out http://www.trackitt.com/usa-immigration-trackers/n400
You can filter by field office and it shows current times for your office. At least Portland does same day oaths, so once you finally get your interview date, it will also be your Oath date!!!

Tread very lightly on this. You have broken laws by working "under the table" - not just not reporting taxes but employment laws as well. You have put yourself in a precarious situation and my advice is to consult an attorney before you apply for naturalization.

Look on your green card for the date "resident since" and calculate the time. We don't know what the date is. Only you can look it up.

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