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Thank you for sharing your experience and recommendations. It's great to hear from someone who has already gone through the process. We will try to make the best of the situation with all the information we have so far.

Hi Damara,

thanks, those are some helpful words.

I was of course thinking way ahead. I agree that life should come first, but I believe its good to look at the system and set things up so that they can later go as smooth as possible. For example, collecting whatever evidence is needed later for USCIS in advance is certainly helpful. For us divorce would also be one of those things, because for our situation our legal status doesn't really change how we can live our actual relationship.

But you made me reconsider, why not wait, let things cool off, and see what life brings since there is really no pressure to do divorce right now. Things can get a little heated when people separate, and having legal issues in the back of your mind surely doesn't help

Also, I am now considering hiring a lawyer because it's a pretty complex case already...

Thanks again!

So you can't deal with each other's idiosyncrasies but you love each other and want to stay married? You need to think long and hard about staying in a relationship where you don't want to live with your spouse. Maybe you guys are just really good friends but not a good fit for each other romantically. I think some couples counselling is in order and may help if you're planning to file jointly to show you're working on your marriage.

Thanks for the advice, NLR. We have already started doing couples counseling. By now we are sure enough that we will not be living together, actually exactly for the reason you mentioned.

That said, our entire relationship doesn't end with that (yes, we still love each other), but it is definitely not what people would consider a traditional marriage. We wouldn't bother getting a divorce, but so far it looks like it is maybe the best to avoid unnecessary problems with USCIS.

Also thanks to everyone else for your help! If anyone has more information on what to do for the ROC, please let us know. I will also be posting our progress, so others can learn from it.

Its just not working out???

Yeah, living together is not working out. We have learned a lot finding this out and in many ways being honest throughout this process has brought us even closer. Love is really unpredictable!

...not really related to the I-751, just commenting.

Hi all,

I am living in the US with a conditional residency greencard, after going the K1 visa route and marrying my partner.

We have been living together for about a year. Unfortunately, life has not worked out as we had planned. After many talks and tears we are now living separately. However, we still have a loving relationship and want to keep it that way. We do both still share responsibility for our dog, for example. We don't necessarily want to get a divorce.

So my main concers are:

- Could living apart be a problem when filing for the removal of conditions? In other words, would this likely still count as a "bona fide" marriage in the eyes of whoever will decide about our case?

- Might it be better to get a divorce and file myself?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

I can confirm this, I just got the same email allowing me to pick my own interview date via ustraveldocs. Looks like this is the new procedure in Frankfurt

Hi,

I just wanted to let everyone who will be going through Frankfurt, Germany know that there may be a new interview scheduling procedure for K1 visa applicants as of June.
Instead of getting Packet 4 in the mail I got an email after the Consulate had received my Packet 3 saying that my 'request to schedule has been approved' (I guess they're referring to the last page one is able to get to in the ustraveldocs-account before sending off Packet 3). I then logged into my account and was able to pick an interview date on my own (there was a calender with lots of open interviews). Shortly after scheduling my interview online I got an email with my Appointment Confirmation (including 2 barcodes). That Appointment Confirmation was also available in my ustraveldocs-account and I was able to download it as a pdf-file there.

I haven't heard of anyone else being able to schedule their own interview yet. That's why I feel like it would be very helpful for anyone who will be going through Frankfurt in the future to find out whether this was just an odd exception or a new procedure.

Thanks to anyone who can contribute (eg. confirm) to this!

Tina