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Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Here is a link to the uscis judgements on decisions to deny petition appeals - if you use the drop-down to select 129f fiancé visa and use the search words meeting and disability you will see the scenarios they do not think are serious enough. 
 
https://search.usa.gov/search/docs?affiliate=uscis-aao&dc=9491&query=Meeting
 
This one was specific to not being able to travel due to disability - someone who needed two home helps daily was denied 
 
https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/err/D6 - Fiancees and Fiances of U.S. Citizen (K-1)/Decisions_Issued_in_2022/APR012022_01D6101.pdf
 
I would suggest you read some of the judgements to see the level of evidence they require to meet the standard of not having to meet the requirement. 
 
I used to read the appeal denial notices out of curiosity and the common themes are - prove the foreign fiancé cannot make it into the US, prove the us petitioner cannot travel (using any method at all) to meet foreign fiancé in their country or a third country. 

Thanks for answering - hmm this was my only thought when  saw that you knew your second husband as children.
 
Hopefully the notice of intent to deny will shed light and you can refute each point with evidence - though as has been pointed out it may just result in a decision of ‘you may reapply’ but at least you can then tailor your new application to address these points early on.
 
Wishing you the best in your immigration journey. 

Did your previous husband apply for immigration for you?
 
If the first husband sponsor you for immigration - when did you marry, immigrate, and divorce?
 
How soon after divorce did you marry second husband?
 
For those who marry to immigrate, divorce, then marry someone else from home they can be suspicious that you used first husband to get here when really were planning on bringing second husband the whole time. 
 
As @jorgedig says you could go live with your husband - maybe not the first choice but at least you would be together

According to Google - nope but that doesn’t mean people don’t do it. 
 
‘The commercial importation of secondhand clothing to the Philippines has been prohibited since 1966 under the Republic Act No. 4653, also known as the "Act to safeguard the health of the Filipino people and maintain the dignity of the nation through the prohibition of the importation of used clothing and rags". It renders a significant part of the ukay-ukay business illegal. There have been many calls to review and amend the law legalizing the sale of imported used clothing by ukay-ukay stores.’

Do not make this worse by your fiancée ’adopting’ her daughter and do not make it worse by just omitting the child. Rules for immigrating adopted children are complicated, even more so when related (technically by law her sibling), and especially so in a country known for using falsified birth certificates to bring ‘children’ over. They are known to require dna test on suspect relationships - if they see a modified or late registered birth certificate or if you omit the child on the forms but later petition. 
 
Get the DNA tests for your own records (this may even be needed for the changing of the certificates), you will prob have to do them again through the embassy for immigration, then correct the birth certificate. Personally I would suggest to delay the fiancée visa application until this is sorted out for two reasons - 1) if they are lying and it turns out that the kid isn’t hers/isn’t theirs you know before too much has gone into it and 2) so that all paperwork on her end is sorted before you start talking to us government.
 
Much easier to say here is situation rather than say one thing and have to correct later on. US govt isn’t too fond of the do now and ask for forgiveness later. 
 
Hopefully she wasn’t also  married to the child’s father as well? 
 
This is going to require patience on everyone’s parts, I would recommend you also consider the CR1 instead of K1 
 
Edit - adopting or adding a niece or nephew or sibling as their own is a common thing we see. The embassy is wise to it. 

Sometimes it’s hard to see all the possibilities when you are part of a situation - that’s what this site is great for.
 
You may also want to look into getting married online and filing after you visit her. One of the US states does it - here is someone it worked for but the Philippine angle might add in a complication or two thought probably just with her CFO getting them to u set stand how she has a Utah marriage cert without leaving the country - 
The thing with the Utah zoom marriage is you have to meet up in person after the zoom marriage but before filing the I-130
 

Do not make this worse by your fiancée ’adopting’ her daughter and do not make it worse by just omitting the child. Rules for immigrating adopted children are complicated, even more so when related (technically by law her sibling), and especially so in a country known for using falsified birth certificates to bring ‘children’ over. They are known to require dna test on suspect relationships - if they see a modified or late registered birth certificate or if you omit the child on the forms but later petition. 
 
Get the DNA tests for your own records (this may even be needed for the changing of the certificates), you will prob have to do them again through the embassy for immigration, then correct the birth certificate. Personally I would suggest to delay the fiancée visa application until this is sorted out for two reasons - 1) if they are lying and it turns out that the kid isn’t hers/isn’t theirs you know before too much has gone into it and 2) so that all paperwork on her end is sorted before you start talking to us government.
 
Much easier to say here is situation rather than say one thing and have to correct later on. US govt isn’t too fond of the do now and ask for forgiveness later. 
 
Hopefully she wasn’t also  married to the child’s father as well? 
 
This is going to require patience on everyone’s parts, I would recommend you also consider the CR1 instead of K1 
 
Edit - adopting or adding a niece or nephew or sibling as their own is a common thing we see. The embassy is wise to it. 

Do not make this worse by your fiancée ’adopting’ her daughter and do not make it worse by just omitting the child. Rules for immigrating adopted children are complicated, even more so when related (technically by law her sibling), and especially so in a country known for using falsified birth certificates to bring ‘children’ over. They are known to require dna test on suspect relationships - if they see a modified or late registered birth certificate or if you omit the child on the forms but later petition. 
 
Get the DNA tests for your own records (this may even be needed for the changing of the certificates), you will prob have to do them again through the embassy for immigration, then correct the birth certificate. Personally I would suggest to delay the fiancée visa application until this is sorted out for two reasons - 1) if they are lying and it turns out that the kid isn’t hers/isn’t theirs you know before too much has gone into it and 2) so that all paperwork on her end is sorted before you start talking to us government.
 
Much easier to say here is situation rather than say one thing and have to correct later on. US govt isn’t too fond of the do now and ask for forgiveness later. 
 
Hopefully she wasn’t also  married to the child’s father as well? 
 
This is going to require patience on everyone’s parts, I would recommend you also consider the CR1 instead of K1 
 
Edit - adopting or adding a niece or nephew or sibling as their own is a common thing we see. The embassy is wise to it. 

If you have not already filed the i-130, you cannot get samples taken, get the results personally, and send them with the I-130. The DNA results must always be part of USCIS's chain of custody.  Therefore, you have to ask the lab to send the results directly to USCIS using your case receipt number.  You cannot submit them directly to USCIS.  Hopefully, they will get paired up correctly with your case file if you try this.

Also I saw that your profile says naturalisation complete - were you the immigrant in your first marriage? 
 
If so is your girlfriend from the same country? 
 
And crucially, did you know her before your first marriage? 

Also I saw that your profile says naturalisation complete - were you the immigrant in your first marriage? 
 
If so is your girlfriend from the same country? 
 
And crucially, did you know her before your first marriage? 

Also I saw that your profile says naturalisation complete - were you the immigrant in your first marriage? 
 
If so is your girlfriend from the same country? 
 
And crucially, did you know her before your first marriage? 

Also I saw that your profile says naturalisation complete - were you the immigrant in your first marriage? 
 
If so is your girlfriend from the same country? 
 
And crucially, did you know her before your first marriage? 

Also I saw that your profile says naturalisation complete - were you the immigrant in your first marriage? 
 
If so is your girlfriend from the same country? 
 
And crucially, did you know her before your first marriage? 

Does your birth certificate list your step mother name as your mother? 

A caution is an admission of guilt.

Potentially, it could be very bad.  Immigration is a federal matter.  Marijuana is not legal federally.  
 
https://www.ilrc.org/warning-immigrants-about-medical-and-legalized-marijuana
"Based on this, immigrants may reasonably think that using marijuana in accord with state law will not hurt their immigration status. Unfortunately, that's wrong. Marijuana remains a federal controlled substance. In April 2019, USCIS amended its Practice Manual to emphasize that even "legal" conduct involving marijuana is a basis for severe immigration penalties. It provides that noncitizens who admit that they have used marijuana, or been employed in the  legitimate cannabis industry, can be denied naturalization for lack of good moral character. The same conduct can be a basis for a finding of inadmissibility, either as an "admission" of a controlled substance offense or because it gives the government "reason to believe" the person is a drug trafficker. See INA 212(a)(2). Admitting to having possessed marijuana can disqualify an applicant for cancellation of removal, cause any non-citizen, including a permanent resident, to be excluded at the border; and destroy eligibility for family immigration."
 
https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/can-green-card-holders-use-medical-marijuana-states-where-its-legal.html
Deportation, Entry Denial, Citizenship Denial, etc., are all possible.

Don't feel guilty.  You are being responsible and assessing your accountability if you sign that form - many, many do not do that.
 
I am in your age group, and apart from my spouse or one of his kids, I would not sponsor anyone.

its $1225 to AOS
but the burden is  on them 
the decision to marry is so important and needs to be thought out completely and sorry,   to say,  doesn't seem like they did
i married 2nd year of college and had twins in 3rd year and it wasn't easy
it can be done 
but if i  could go back,   i would wait (just 2 years ) and graduate to make this life changing move
BTW i love my twins 
wishing them the best 
 
Put it this way
one way the son in law resents the decision
the other way u resent being forced 
either way someone is at odds with the other party
no winner here