Dualie

I second the recommendation of family therapy. This is a big transition for all parts and having a qualified neutral party help navigate it seems appropriate since there have been issues already. It's not gonna change if the family keeps avoiding each other in their rooms unfortunately. 
 
As for the quoted part - things can get very chaotic with immigration but your kids already feel like you're being "taken" by someone else so I can see why they would react poorly to the surprise of having your fiance in the house unannounced even if they had an idea she was coming. What is done is done but this could have been handled better if they knew the date/time and maybe you had prepared a welcome home/intro little thing where they could warm up to each other a bit since they were about to live together. It is a big change for teens to deal during a tumultuous time in their lives! You and your fiance will have to be the ones with extra patience and effort to make this work.

The OP's case was far from normal, and I would bet that these CBP personnel will be looking for new jobs.  Name me one other case in which an IR-1/CR-1 holder was denied entry.  Show me the regulation which says the IR-1 holder must prove he/she is unemployed.  This visa was NOT issued by mistake.

Crossing on a visitor visa and activating an immigration visa are two different things. A snowbird never immigrates, they are visitors, their place of residence remains Canada even if they are physically in another country for 6 months. With an immigration visa you are declaring you are no longer a resident of Canada, you can not be a resident of two countries at the same time, at least not in Canada's eyes. Everything in Canada is based on Residency.

It's possible that is the case, but highly unlikely. I'm entitled to my opinion just as you are. My opinion is that yes this may have sped the process up, but now we are in a situation where it pays to play. I can easily afford to pay a lawyer $3000 to put my name on a list, but is that really the precedent we want to set in the immigration process. Now I need to sue to get what I want, in the very classical American way? No I will not do this, I was originally a Canadian citizen, and I went through the correct immigration process to become a citizen, now I will bring my fiancé to the United States in the proper manner  and not screw other people ahead of me in the process.
This is exactly the point I'm making...these people may not be in the same situation as me. I've been waiting well over a year for my case to move to the embassy and now potentially someone who hasn't even waited 3 months can jump me in the line. This is not how this is supposed to work. 
 
 
 
 

Redirect your anger at Covid that created a worldwide pandemic instead

I am guessing that the website is down for maintenance, or is having some sort of technical difficulties. I would just wait for a bit and try again.
Good luck!  

Congratulations @Dualie!!

I attended my oath ceremony yesterday in Fergus Falls, MN. There were sixteen of us there to be sworn in.  We were there for 12:30PM to check in with our letters and questionnaires.  The USCIS officer had us come up one at a time to turn in our letters and green cards.  The voter registration people were there also, and everyone filled out that form to turn in after the ceremony.  We were all lead into the courtroom at 1:00PM and sat up in a gallery, separate from our guests.  They played a video and the judge made opening remarks.  Then we stood for the Star Spangled Banner. Once we were seated again, the judge read the country list, which included Brazil, Canada, Philippines, Cambodia, and Somalia.  Then the judge had the lead immigration officer put forth the motion of presentation of the candidates, which was accepted.  We all then stood and took the oath of allegiance.  Once we were seated again, the lead immigration officer called us up one at a time to receive our naturalization certificates.  The judge then congratulated us and spoke of our hard work and efforts put forth to achieve citizenship, and of our responsibilities as citizens.  They then played a video called America the Beautiful, after which we stood and said the Pledge of Allegiance.  We sat, and the judge congratulated us again, and then we were dismissed.  Those of us who wanted photos with the judge were allowed to stay and do so.  All told it took a little over an hour.  

I attended my oath ceremony yesterday in Fergus Falls, MN. There were sixteen of us there to be sworn in.  We were there for 12:30PM to check in with our letters and questionnaires.  The USCIS officer had us come up one at a time to turn in our letters and green cards.  The voter registration people were there also, and everyone filled out that form to turn in after the ceremony.  We were all lead into the courtroom at 1:00PM and sat up in a gallery, separate from our guests.  They played a video and the judge made opening remarks.  Then we stood for the Star Spangled Banner. Once we were seated again, the judge read the country list, which included Brazil, Canada, Philippines, Cambodia, and Somalia.  Then the judge had the lead immigration officer put forth the motion of presentation of the candidates, which was accepted.  We all then stood and took the oath of allegiance.  Once we were seated again, the lead immigration officer called us up one at a time to receive our naturalization certificates.  The judge then congratulated us and spoke of our hard work and efforts put forth to achieve citizenship, and of our responsibilities as citizens.  They then played a video called America the Beautiful, after which we stood and said the Pledge of Allegiance.  We sat, and the judge congratulated us again, and then we were dismissed.  Those of us who wanted photos with the judge were allowed to stay and do so.  All told it took a little over an hour.  

Congratulations !!! 

The current processing time for K1 isn’t much faster than a CR1.  
 
I’ve read so many posts here of people having relationship/financial struggles once their fiancé is here, they get married and then the new spouse must stay home alone all day while the other goes to work. Some relationships ended because of this.  
 
With a CR1 you can drive , study and work right away.
 
other visas have been abandoned because a family emergency came up back home before AOS could be completed and they couldn’t get Advance Parole in time.
 
I personally think the K1 is the cruelest visa out there.  Too many restrictions.  No matter how anxious you are to see your significant other, it’s worth the wait.

Nothing you can do if the husband and lawyer think they are right.   When she applies for citizenship her gc may be revoked and she will be subject to deportation.
 
Tell you friend to get a FREE account here and make it not your problem.

My employer reviews employee immigration status annually, obviously to ensure that we are all legally allowed to work in the US.  I will give HR my naturalization certificate to photocopy for my file once I receive it at my oath ceremony.

Social number will be the same, but opportunity for benefits change as a citizen, so SS needs to be informed of the change. Strongly encouraged by USCIS at the ceremony.  

OMG! They did not adjudicate your I-751 before your interview?  The IO who did my interview told me that he had to adjudicate my ROC case before he could proceed with the N400 interview.  Man, it would sure be nice if USCIS ever followed a standardized protocol.  I would be depressed and pissed if I were you!  I sure hope you hear something soon!

Could someone update the list with my info? I could do severe damage, if you know what I mean.  My interview was on April 15,2019 - combo I-751 and N-400. Was approved for both on April 16, 2019. received the oath ceremony letter today - May 13, 2019.  Oath ceremony scheduled for July 11, 2019.  Much appreciated!

Thank you for the replies. My stamp is valid until October of this year.  I guess I was just over thinking it. I thought that because my I-751 was adjudicated, that the stamp may not be valid at the border.  I see now that that makes no sense.  I just don't want any more drama...been through enough in the last while.  I may just wait until I have a valid passport and be done with it. 
 
Thanks again guys.

I had my interview(s) today in Duluth MN.  Duluth is a small Application Support Center, and it looks fairly new...by that I mean it looks as though the office equipment and such has not been there very long.  The officer there is an older gentleman, stern looking but with a sense of humor in a no nonsense way.  My appointment was for 10:30 and we arrived shortly after 10AM.  Security was easy and pleasant.  We were directed to the second floor to room 208, where we checked in at the desk.  The lady asked for my appointment letter, took it and said that she would tell the officer we were there and he would call me when he was ready.  
 
It was nearly 11AM when he called me.  I went in alone, figuring that if the IO wanted my husband to come in, he would say so.  He did not.  The officer had my file(s) on the desk.  He spent a lot of time reading over my files, and entering stuff into the computer.  He asked to see my green card, my Canadian passport, and my state drivers license. I explained that the IO in Saint Paul had taken my green card when I got my first I551 stamp, and I gave him the photocopy of my green card that was given to me there.  He made copies of these and gave them back to me.  Then he said, "I see you have a pending I-751. I will have to adjudicate that before we continue.  I expected him to ask my husband to join us, but he did not.   He asked me how many times I had been married, how many times my husband had been married, and then how long we have been married to each other.  I answered all of these, and he said, "So you haven't kicked him to the curb?" He didn't smile but his voice did.  Then he unlocked a file drawer and brought out a stamp, and stamped my I-751 file "Approved".  
 
At this point he began having issues with the computer program, and it took quite a while before he could proceed.  He finally was able to move forward, he had me stand and take the oath to tell the truth....  He asked me how many Supreme Court judges there are; what is the capital of my state; who was one of the writers of the Federation Papers; what one of the reasons the colonists came to America; what is the political party of the present President.....and I can't for the life of me remember the last one, but I was counting in my head and I got six correct.  Then he had me read the sentence "Who can vote".  Then he had me write "Citizens can vote".  He asked me about my military service in Canada, and about the unions I had belonged to, and we chatted a little bit about each.  Then he asked me all of the questions at the end of the N400 application.  He updated my employer, as that had changed last year and I was unable to change it online.  He had me read the changes and what we talked about on the iPad.  I signed the iPad again.  He printed out a form for me which said that I had passed the tests and my application was being recommended for approval.  He told me my oath ceremony would be held in Saint Paul, and that it shouldn't be too long of a wait...but don't hold him to it, lol.  He thanked me for my patience and I thanked him, and I left.  I was in the office for about an hour and a half, as I got out at 12:30.
 
I was surprised that the I-751 was so easy.  I had a whole file folder full of evidence, and I never once opened it.  Anyway, that was my experience. I sure hope my oath ceremony is closer to home.  I did go online to check case status and got an error message.  I have read that that is common.  I will try again later.  

I had my interview(s) today in Duluth MN.  Duluth is a small Application Support Center, and it looks fairly new...by that I mean it looks as though the office equipment and such has not been there very long.  The officer there is an older gentleman, stern looking but with a sense of humor in a no nonsense way.  My appointment was for 10:30 and we arrived shortly after 10AM.  Security was easy and pleasant.  We were directed to the second floor to room 208, where we checked in at the desk.  The lady asked for my appointment letter, took it and said that she would tell the officer we were there and he would call me when he was ready.  
 
It was nearly 11AM when he called me.  I went in alone, figuring that if the IO wanted my husband to come in, he would say so.  He did not.  The officer had my file(s) on the desk.  He spent a lot of time reading over my files, and entering stuff into the computer.  He asked to see my green card, my Canadian passport, and my state drivers license. I explained that the IO in Saint Paul had taken my green card when I got my first I551 stamp, and I gave him the photocopy of my green card that was given to me there.  He made copies of these and gave them back to me.  Then he said, "I see you have a pending I-751. I will have to adjudicate that before we continue.  I expected him to ask my husband to join us, but he did not.   He asked me how many times I had been married, how many times my husband had been married, and then how long we have been married to each other.  I answered all of these, and he said, "So you haven't kicked him to the curb?" He didn't smile but his voice did.  Then he unlocked a file drawer and brought out a stamp, and stamped my I-751 file "Approved".  
 
At this point he began having issues with the computer program, and it took quite a while before he could proceed.  He finally was able to move forward, he had me stand and take the oath to tell the truth....  He asked me how many Supreme Court judges there are; what is the capital of my state; who was one of the writers of the Federation Papers; what one of the reasons the colonists came to America; what is the political party of the present President.....and I can't for the life of me remember the last one, but I was counting in my head and I got six correct.  Then he had me read the sentence "Who can vote".  Then he had me write "Citizens can vote".  He asked me about my military service in Canada, and about the unions I had belonged to, and we chatted a little bit about each.  Then he asked me all of the questions at the end of the N400 application.  He updated my employer, as that had changed last year and I was unable to change it online.  He had me read the changes and what we talked about on the iPad.  I signed the iPad again.  He printed out a form for me which said that I had passed the tests and my application was being recommended for approval.  He told me my oath ceremony would be held in Saint Paul, and that it shouldn't be too long of a wait...but don't hold him to it, lol.  He thanked me for my patience and I thanked him, and I left.  I was in the office for about an hour and a half, as I got out at 12:30.
 
I was surprised that the I-751 was so easy.  I had a whole file folder full of evidence, and I never once opened it.  Anyway, that was my experience. I sure hope my oath ceremony is closer to home.  I did go online to check case status and got an error message.  I have read that that is common.  I will try again later.  

When your state has less people than a city, people sometimes forget about it, you know?  Upper Midwesterners are really good at waiting, though!

Hi there! Just got your message. I hadn't run across this group before. Will follow up with you after my interview on Monday!

Thanks, Sukie. It certainly has been a long, frustrating ride. Amazingly, my online status has updated more times today than it has for the last two years. Thank you for your guidance and assistance during the process. Only one week until I'm at the courthouse taking the oath and for the first time in years it's taking place in my hometown, a mere 13 minute walk from work. I'm also very relieved that I'll never ever have to see the inside of that dratted USCIS office again (knock on wood). I hope you're both well!!!

Late UPDATE I had my N400 Interview on Jan 29, 2019 (passed/ approved) and got the oath letter on  03/06/2019
 
The "Naturalization Oath Ceremony" was on 04/03/2019
 
Thanks for all that help here on this site, its been it's been quite a ride ✌
 
Thanks all!