dwinge

Baby Octopus

Rendang

Rendang

Rendang

Hey VJ,
We just wanted to give a gigantic "thank you" to the admins, moderators, and active contributors to this wonderful site. My fiance is finally home after what felt like an eternity, and without your help, it may have taken much, much longer.
To everyone who's just starting their own journey, hang in there, and use this site to it's absolute potential. It has mountains of useful information, and really helped Amanda and I prepare, compile, and submit a successful (RFE Free) a I-129F.
To everyone who's already completed their journey, yet continue to post, a huge thank you. Your experience in an area that is vastly unknown to everyone, is priceless. Keep it up... there's plenty more people madly in love, separated by continents, who need your help.
Much love from Matthew and Amanda!

Only saw this now, glad you got a long window for your visa!! =)
- A

If you have trouble understanding your fiancee, then sure, you should go right ahead to find better ways of communicating. If you found rlogan's advice useful, more power to you. I feel like his suggestions are more appropriate for those who don't speak English as a first language. I also think that if a couple frequently misunderstands each other to the point of frustration, then it is the relationship that needs work first and foremost, and not the accent.
I don't think Dwinge's example showed any serious lack of communication between her and her hsuband. I don't think her use of uppercase was indicative of tension or frustration. If anything, it'll be something they laugh about for years to come. To be told that she "should" learn to change how she speaks, is going a little overboard. Accents are part of our identity, our roots, that remind us of where we came from and who we are. If America is really such a melting pot of immigrants, then the diversity in accents should be celebrated.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

Actually, my point was to highlight the different pronunciations of the 'i' vowel across the two countries/languages - the long 'i' note in /kip/, and the shorter 'i' note in /tɪp/. It happens even when a person has been speaking English/Singlish all his/her life.
Husband and I are familiar enough with each other that I can afford to drop words off my sentences and he is still able to understand me.. Though of course, strangers would be more prone to confusion if they aren't expecting it. We do not need help/advice with communication, but thank you anyway.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

I get what you are saying. I am, however, surprised that you would speak to others (especially over the internet) using directives (eg. you "should") and absolutes instead of giving suggestions (eg. "why don't you try this"). Your manner of speech is annoying, to be very honest. Put another way, I would not have given you a defensive response to your earlier post.

(K1 fiancee/wife in the US now) I first visited the US on a work&travel program.. did not expect to fit in, got a sense of what America is like. There were some Asians at my workplace.. but I interacted with the USC population at my workplace too, and they understood me fine (perhaps because they're used to foreigners).. I did get some people who did not understand my accent in various states, so I noted that.. But on the whole, they were pretty pleasant to me!
In terms of "fitting in".. it is how fitting into anywhere (be it family, work, or community) is. If your fiancee would like to "fit in", then she will have to be prepared to find out what the "norm" is, and perhaps change her habits/behavior to that of her neighbors-to-be. (Fitting in is pretty tedious though =p) As for myself, the only thing I have really changed to "fit in" is my accent.. So people have less trouble understanding what I say. The pronunciation of some words in Singlish makes it tough to get one's point across.. So you might like to practice changing accents with her, if that's what she wants.
(Case in point, on our honeymoon last week--
Me: Are we tipping the room?
Husband: Keep the room? What do you mean?
Me: Tip the room! Tip!!
Husband: Huh?? Keep?
Me: T-I-P!!
Husband: Ohh, TIP! you were saying, "teep"! Teep teep teep!)
That aside.. America isn't that much different from Singapore (seeing as how Singapore is one of the more Western of the Asian countries). I have a handful of friends in the US that I got to know through the internet, and they are pretty great people =)

hobbit? how chinese are you ? Usually there are some old Uncles hanging out at the Chinese Community Center that would be more than happy to teach you, for a reduced fee or some home-cooked food.
Course, you gots to find the Chinese Community Center, make some new friends, first.

ah - maybe best to take a food break,
and cook something nowish,
to celebrate.

I found a great sample I-485 cover letter in this thread: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/247358-i-485-cover-letter-example/
And one for the I-130 here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/333487-example-cover-letter-for-i-130/

if you are marrying a USCitizen in the USA - why does it matter if your divorce is recognized in the PI ?
DanaBanana - I really love how you write - I am going to copy your word of relationshit for future use.

I would find another civil surgeon that doesn't require that... If she came on K1 visa, she doesn't need another medical but if she hasn't completed all her vaccinations she will need to go get that done...and a lot of civil surgeons don't want to do just the vaccination part but instead they want to do the full medical to get more of your money... just find another civil surgeon...

Remember, you are only hearing one part of the story. People could be being played by their partner and not know, or they have a scam marriage and don't want to admit it or didn't handle the interview as eloquently as they claimed.
I would bet at least half of the denials you hear about on here have a huge part of the story undisclosed.

I actually see it as a positive. Me and my husband talk all the time via email, and met online, so by them looking into it it actually confirms what we are saying in our application!
And I agree to what others are saying - you shouldn't post anything on the internet that you don't want people to say. Visa application or no visa application. Once it's out there it's hard to get it back!

Yay, Obama ! You have my full support in not halting deportations of illegal aliens from the USA.
Go Get Em, and Good Luck !