amal

no such thing as overdoing cuteness when it comes to menaweeds I say post'em if u gott'em

I'd love to say it's culture shock.......Some of it may be...but I'm afraid a large portion of it is more-than-likely not. I won't get into specifics here about it because I don't want to cause doubts or any bad vibes.
He is going through a tough transition. Being here vs there is a MAJOR setback for these guys. In the issues of culture shock, Bridget is very much right. There are other issues that will need to be addressed though, that are not only culture shock. Shock has something to do with heightening the "tight" discussions....but not everything. It also has to do with him clamming up and being harsh...but not entirely. This stage, with men in this phase, takes a LOT of patience on both parties' sides. You have to let him clam up and "be a man" and allow him to live through his "hell". the best thing is to JUST listen when he is complaining. Let him know that you support him in his feelings and that you are doing everything in your power to make his transition to this country an easy one. This can last a long long long time, so get ur boots on, grab ur umbrella, and get ready for a downpour for a while. A lot of this SHOULD slowly subside as he gets more accustomed to his new environment. Just keep a close watch on the way he talks to you and the way he handles misunderstandings. This area is really hairy. Most of all, know that this group of ppl here will have a better understanding than your usual "go to" people. Our situations are so different from the "norm" and one can only understand and possibly empathize if they've been through an intercultural marriage with a man from that side of the world.
I wish you both luck in the transition. Take care
amal

LOL sooo true! You should see the beating I got a year or so ago in my muslim/hijab thread! I got a new one ripped real quick!
I've always been the kind of person to try to keep things somewhat calm and somewhat peaceful if at all possible. I always try to see both sides of the fence...and it has definitely come back to bite me in the azzz a few times! I think I tend to lean this way because I have always had an UBER guilty conscience and feel if something bad is said, it's coz of something I did (most of the time I've done nothing wrong, but still feel guilty...yeah, I'm a dork).
I love finding a topic I know something about because I love love love to help people. I usually don't know a dang thing about a dang thing...so I just hang out lol!
Who was it that said posting stuff on here is like standing on a street corner and yelling ur question for the world to hear ...? Well, they were close...but not quite. Posting stuff on here is like standing on a street corner and yelling ur question for the world to hear is gonna get a SIMILAR reaction....BUT.... online, people don't have faces so they tend to be a little bit more abrupt than they normally would. Ok, not a little bit...but a whole lot more abrupt.
Tough skin is a definite "must" in any online forum. Some of us have been here since VJ was just 1 page....we've seen where things can go. Heck, I've been here since 2004! It can definitely get crazy. I always like to suggest strapping your seatbelt good and tight before clicking on anything here lol!

one of the most famous questions is...are you going to turn muslim too? i just laugh at them when they ask....is it anybodys business? and how, exactly do you "turn" muslim?? wait until midnight , turn around 3 times, and poof, you're in hijab??? hmmmmmmmmm