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But for dual citizenship, doesn't that also mean that you have to pay taxes in both countries?

This is why you'll have to look into the laws of those countries, some require it and some do not. As United States Citizens we are obligated to pay taxes no matter where we live in the world. You can have no attachments, like property or living family, in the USA but still be required to pay. If you don't like it you can renounce your citizenship, but that is a one time deal and is never reinstated. Some countries allow temporary renouncements or the ability to regain Citizenship, but each government is different. Though thank you for bringing to my attention something I hadn't thought about

http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare Will give you an estimation of the costs for each of the types of visa you could decide on. Roughly you are looking at $1600 for K1, that includes the Initial filing cost, Embassy Fee, Medical fee, and Adjustment of Status fee. What it does not include is costs to mail forms back and forth, travel to embassy, or plane ticket to the USA. Which are the "Other" costs that should be considered as well.

Our plan is to have her maintain dual citizenship for as long as it is allowed, making it much easier for her to visit home. As for the citizenship vs green card that choice will be made later down the road when she has that option.

In our case we received our NoA 2 June 26, and waited until July 18 to get the email from USCIS that our petition was being shipped out of TSC to the NVC. Then it wasn't until Aug 3 that we received the letter from the NVC saying it would be shipped within a week. However I had contacted the Department of State after 3 weeks of TSC to NVC and found out they had the case before NVC even acknowledged they had it. My timeline seems to be average for what those of us at TSC wait for.

Most certainly not a rekindling (i cant even believe thats a word im using for us. )attempt. He will be very unhappy.

Well your happiness is all that matters right now.

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It seems you have your mind made up with what you want to do, I hope someone can help you with the information you seek. If a mod comes across this just delete my post, thank you!

Very good point. He could end up being sued for debts that she incurs, especially as he's the employed spouse and he would even end up with a lien on his house or his wages or bank accounts garnished to repay her debts. The risk is there for any married couple of course. It's a scary one!

Oh, and I believe in some states if you have a kid in wedlock the kid is assumed to be yours so you could end up trying to get hit for child support. Big huge mess :S

She could put him down as the father from what I understand because she is married to him still. The child support thing is very true as a co-worker of mine just went through this. Though his now ex-wife and him were separated they were not legally divorced. During that time she had 2 kids from another man. Fast forward years later and officially divorced, her and the guy she was with went to jail and left the kids with grandma. Grandma was given the advice to go after my co-worker for child support and won. She was able to get 3 or 4 months of child support while he tried to save up and fight it, and while supporting his now wife and 2 kids. It wasn't easy, but he won in the end with a lot of hardship. Though he was awarded that money back, none can say when she will actually pay him. All of this because he did not divorce her in a timely manner.

I really don't know. But I still love him as abrupt and horrible as what he did was, so I want I hear him out

Even when the ones we love hurt us it doesn't just instantly dissolve all the time and love created together. We all handle the end of it in different ways, but I would mentally prepare yourself for the meeting. No one can predict which way it will swing. I do hope that if you decide to keep the child that you are doing it for yourself and not to salvage any piece of the love you shared with this man. If he is truly over it all then this is the end, and if you keep the baby expect him to oppose it. Even when passions are high, and with the upmost protection anything can happen and when it involves sex we all need to be responsible for the possible outcome. Perhaps you should remind him of that. Either way best of luck on Tuesday.

Thank you all, particularly VanessaTony, for your very helpful responses. I'm glad to know with more certainty that my spouse will be just fine taking care of herself, and that she can't guilt me into being her "only option" for staying in the country. Furthermore, I hadn't thought of the repercussions of another year of "marriage" (401k, insurance, social security, etc)

As tough as it may be, I guess it's true that life never goes as planned, but I'm glad to know there are helpful people along the way! She and I will be having a discussion that she won't like, but it seems will be the best for both of us in the long-term. Again, thank you all for your help.

Well it seems like you know what you need to do brother, so get it done and let us know the outcome. Just stay strong when you are having that conversation with her, I have a feeling she will probably resist and try to turn it back on you. Though she might even do an about face and start being nice to you while using sugar coated words to soothe you back to her side. Just keep a little reminder to yourself about what she has done so far. Sure she will have a difficult path ahead of her, but it is one that she choose by the decisions she made. Some of the hardest things we do in life give some of the best results, so it's time to take your life in the direction you want. Best of Luck.

Meg you have my sympathy in the whole situation you are dealing with right now. You seem like a very strong women, whether you know it or not, and I'm sure with a few days of thinking you'll come up with your answers. Also with him coming to visit I'm sure more things will come to light. None of us here can know your situation exactly, and we've all interpreted it with our own perspectives, but I am somewhat ashamed from the pickering that is going on in this very personal problem. Lets all try to stay on topic here and give her the best advice we can, while leaving our personal feelings and beliefs out of it, and prevent any toxic thoughts we may cause.

The best advice I can give you is to not worry about it right now, but to collect yourself (body and mind) and gather your facts, and then make a choice when you feel comfortable about it. Worrying without doing anything is only going to make it worse, and I see that you have already put things into action and that is good. Keep at it and you will find your answers. Best of luck and I hope things turn around for you soon.

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I also wanted to add that maybe it might be helpful to write down your problems. Write the pros and cons about each one, and then look them over. Sometimes the act of just writing it down makes you feel better and more clear.

Well since she is in China now...I only have her passport photo that she emailed to me. I don't see how I can get some actual photos from her...does she actually have to mail them or something? So I will turn in the letter of intent to marry from both me and her along with the I-129F petition right?

Well an idea would be to see if she can get her picture taken with the USA specification and have them give her a digital copy of it. Then she can email it to you, and if you have a Walmart nearby up you can upload it to their photo center. Walmart gives you the option to print passport photos on their website which gives you 2 prints.

The letter of intent for the I-129F packet from both of you, with original signatures, will be sent in with the rest of the packet. Again I urge you to follow the guidelines and follow them as they tell you exactly what you need and give you an order to use. The cover letter example is a great overview of everything you will include in the packet.

Here is a link to our passport style specifications:

http://travel.state.gov/passport/pptphotoreq/photocomptemplate/photocomptemplate_5297.html

It should be 2in x 2in which is 50mm x 50mm.

I don't need schooling on less monogamous cultures. But I don't believe this is the case here. If that was true in this case then why did the fiancee lie about the cheating? If it was simply a cultural difference, she wouldn't have gone to such lengths to keep it secret. Her mistake was getting knocked up. She would have never come clean to him otherwise. He has the perfect opportunity to walk away now before it's too late and he's saddled with total financial responsibility. He's already been "taking care" of her financially so what are the odds she'll get here and get a job to support herself? Slim to none.

Hence why I deleted it after reconsidering it was outside the scope of the original message being said by the OP. It was my personal opinion on the whole thing in general, and should have left it out.

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Thanks everyone for your insight..I definitly can see where most everyone is comming from here. And i would give the same advice if i was asked about this situation. and here it comes the but. We have been together for 4 years i helped her a lot thru those years in heard times finacially and emotionally. But something interesting is around the time something was going on she wouldnt accept any financial help from me..none.

Anyway, Im taking a chance probobly the biggest of my life. I'm putting my faith in her that she is not trying to scam me. I just cant let this go if there is any chance i accept responsibility for whatever happens to me. If she keeps that baby i dont see much chance for her being able to come here. Time will tell all..Oh btw approved yesterday August 6th..LOL

Thanks everyone again you were very helpful even if im as stubborn as an ####.

I spent the night after work reading your topic and listening to what everyone was telling you. At least you can admit to being stubborn and being the Salmon going against the stream. Though I would urge you to sit on it and think about it for a few days before making your final decision, maybe even spend a few days away from her. I know the NoA2 might have revitalized you but tell her you need time to think about everything that has happened, at least let it be known to her that you have doubts about your relationship. Reinforce that message with the absence of you in her life. It may not be easy if you are use to talking to each other everyday or every other day, but it's better to test the waters now. As humans we have a tendency to take the things in front of us for granted, and when removed we realize the meaning of them. Ask yourself what is the worse that can happen by giving each other a break? What? Maybe you find out the space between you is good and you accept not being with her. Perhaps she realizes how much she misses you in her life, and wants to repair the damage, or nothing happens and you keep going down your marry path. None of us can really tell you what to do, because of course that decision is yours, but this is the time for you to show you strength as person and as a man.

Good Luck and I hope you make the best decision for you life now and for the future.

It definitely seems to me that you are just starting out on your K1 journey, welcome to the club, and as someone else recommended: Read the Guides. Not only the K1 but also the Adjustment of Status (AoS) guides. You'll need to know what is coming up in the future as well, because there is a lot to this process and if you are planning to do it alone then you need to study up. If it feels like too much then get a lawyer but it's a very doable process on its own, which is what many of us do.

Also to answer your question about the passport style photos you will need hers. Also the letter of Intent, one from you and one from her, should be the originals with signatures. She'll also have to sign her G-1145a, which is where the passport photo is needed.

K1 Guide: http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1guide

K1 Flowchart: http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1flow

Another thing is to look at the comparisons, http://www.visajourney.com/content/compare, and see how much the process will cost in government fees. Though these prices do not reflect mailing documents back and forth, plane ticket to USA, or the things she/he will need to start their life here. Remember to plan it well and everything will go fine.

Best of Luck and Smooth Sailing on your Journey.

I want to know exactly what the next steps are so as to avoid any delays.

I am going to send my Fiance the remaining papers (she has the duplicate I-129F packet already). I have heard conflicting things about the medical and the consulate interview.

One post mentioned you have to wait to schedule the medical until you get your interview date? That can't be right can it? We would like to go ahead and get the medical completed and ensure we have all the immunizations required (help with this if you know about these please) so when the interview is scheduled in Frankfurt, we will be 100% ready.

As it is now, she is going to get her medical done next week. The immunizations are something we would like clarification on, if anyone has passed this step please let me know if there is anything we need to prepare for

I'm not sure if it exactly works the same for each embassy, and well you should really create a new topic for this, once you have the case number you can schedule the medical.

OMG

Finally , after exactly 8 months waiting - Approved!

Your Case Status: Post Decision Activity

On August 5, 2013, we mailed you a notice that we have approved this I129F PETITION FOR FIANCE(E). Please follow any instructions on the notice. If you move before you receive the notice, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283.

I am so happy . After few hours I will wake up my sunshine with the news!

Now we can take a breath , it was hard process for us.

GREAT TO HEAR! It's about time they sent your approval your way. Keep those sleeves rolled up though, you may still need them yet but at least you are moving onto the next stage!

I would contact the Dept of State and talk to them. This is what I had to do, and just as in your case I saw the ready and thought everything was good. There were no notice from the NVC yet and I had to call the DoS to get our number and find out that it was at the NVC, even after they told me it was not. After I saw the ready status I told my Fiancée to go ahead and pay her fee because everything was good. I then emailed the embassy to ask for instructions and surprise, surprise, they did not have it. So I called up the DoS again and was told the website was inaccurate but that the NVC was preparing to ship it to the embassy. Just this past Saturday I received a letter from the NVC with our case number and that it will be forwarded to the embassy within the week. The good part is the fee payment is good for up to a year, but I would definitely call up the DoS at 202-663-1225.

We now live in New Jersey. Before then, Colorado.

How come you left Colorado? Just curious because I'm thinking of taking us to Denver.

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I realize if you read earlier i was talking about Boston Vs. Buffalo, but i've expanded our horizons to a few more places that we will decide together. So far on the list is: Burlington, VT - Portland, ME, Charleston, SC (spent my childhood days here), Virginia Beach, VA, and Denver, CO. Aye they are all kind of all over the map, but each place offers us something we are looking for.

Yuck! And she was cute (when she said 'Oh, heavens' i laughed). I mean, seriously, getting married just for a green card is so sad. And another thing puzzles me: how can you get married when you can't even communicate to each other??

I watched this not to long ago too, and was surprised she decided to come here. You at least need to be able to talk to one another to really understand what the other person thinks and feels. I lucked out and my fiancée speaks great english, part of her love for languages, but this hasn't stopping me from learning hers. I never intended to go out and find myself a RUB girl, it just kind of happened, and I couldn't be happier it did. Though It's important to me to learn Russian even if that damn ы gives me so much trouble! I'll get it one of these days!!!

That's nothing, just wait until she/they get here and start reading the 'unhappy RUBette Cinderellas in Amerika' forums!

Too late in my case, she's already read some of these. Being that she has never been to the states either, her only sources are me and the internet, and the internet has way more sources than I do. I tell her everything you read will be different than you experience it, but everything I tell you is a cold stone hard fact. The good thing is she has at least traveled, and believes me more but sometimes those damn internet stories kick up some irritating dust.

I called the NVC on the 22 of July and they told me that the case was sent to Mumbai on the 19 of July and I got a letter in the mail from them dated July 22, 2013 saying it was shipped.

Wow, ok now I understand the white hairs the government is giving you, don't you love them for that? In your shoes I would keep on the Embassy until they said they did have it, maybe it's still in the mail but I would think it would be there at least sometime this coming week. As for the Packet 3 can you download it now and have it filled out and ready to for when they do have it? Just my thought.

I would call the Dept of State or the NVC the first chance you get. We also has this message on our visa status around the 26th, and I think all it means is your case is ready to be shipped. I say this because last week we contacted our Embassy to ask for the instruction, and were told that they had yet to receive it. I called the DoS and was told that while the website status is misleading our case was being shipped out soon, and to check with the Embassy in a week. Then today I received a letter in the mail from the NVC dated on the 30th saying our case was shipped off to the Embassy.

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NVC [603-334-0700]

Dept of State [202-663-1225]

Incase you don't have the numbers on hand.

When I said "originals" I thought I clearly indicated I'm questioning bringing the originals from the I-129 PACKET vs. JUST the originals from my recent trip to her just pre-NOA2 (so i dont have to make all those damn copies once again). Especially since it doesn't state anything on letter K to bring the ORIGINALS.............

My response was based on the I-129F packet in which you provided, potentially, scanned evidence ("documentary proof") to the USCIS. Evidence that they can ask to see in person at the beneficiaries interview. You may believe you have all the right evidence in the world to prove your relationship without sending the originals, but remember you are not the one doing the interview. Every case is handled differently, and what if you are the 1 in a million that gets asked "We'd like to see the originals" and you did not send them. Cover all your bases, and don't worry about how much work it is. If you send too much, at least you were prepared and not caught with your pants down.

Though it's your petition, and you should do what you want to do and what feels right to you. If I had interrupted your question wrong then apparently we are just on two different pages.

As far as I can recall it's an original copy with the original signature, and I cannot think of any cases off the top of my head that said they used a copy. Perhaps there are a few, and hopefully they will chime in and let you know. For now I would plan on obtaining an original from the beneficiary.