TJandJR

You should really post this in the forum that pertains to Nigeria. Lagos is a very difficult embassy. It is considered a high fraud area and so they are more suspicious of couples whether the relationship is BONA-FIDE or not. So even though technically it is not necessary, people who have had actual experience with the Lagos embassy are the ones to listen to. You need to provide as much evidence as you can supporting the fact that you two have a genuine and ongoing relationship. That's why front loading is so important. Go to the Nigeria portal and consulate reviews... read...learn... take the advice of others and their experiences with this specific embassy.

You should really post this in the forum that pertains to Nigeria. Lagos is a very difficult embassy. It is considered a high fraud area and so they are more suspicious of couples whether the relationship is BONA-FIDE or not. So even though technically it is not necessary, people who have had actual experience with the Lagos embassy are the ones to listen to. You need to provide as much evidence as you can supporting the fact that you two have a genuine and ongoing relationship. That's why front loading is so important. Go to the Nigeria portal and consulate reviews... read...learn... take the advice of others and their experiences with this specific embassy.

You should really post this in the forum that pertains to Nigeria. Lagos is a very difficult embassy. It is considered a high fraud area and so they are more suspicious of couples whether the relationship is BONA-FIDE or not. So even though technically it is not necessary, people who have had actual experience with the Lagos embassy are the ones to listen to. You need to provide as much evidence as you can supporting the fact that you two have a genuine and ongoing relationship. That's why front loading is so important. Go to the Nigeria portal and consulate reviews... read...learn... take the advice of others and their experiences with this specific embassy.

You should really post this in the forum that pertains to Nigeria. Lagos is a very difficult embassy. It is considered a high fraud area and so they are more suspicious of couples whether the relationship is BONA-FIDE or not. So even though technically it is not necessary, people who have had actual experience with the Lagos embassy are the ones to listen to. You need to provide as much evidence as you can supporting the fact that you two have a genuine and ongoing relationship. That's why front loading is so important. Go to the Nigeria portal and consulate reviews... read...learn... take the advice of others and their experiences with this specific embassy.

I swear, I have seen some big messes on this site caused by so called immigration lawyers. And cases that don't use lawyers, just advice from one to another, seem to have less problems. I agree about asking the lawyer exactly how and to who the alleged payment was made. It doesn't make sense.

And the cost of the police report for the interview.

And btw... Congrats giants fan. I live in cardinal territory and it was embarrassing to watch the cards play. But they r still my team.

Please, do not endure the abuse. Mental abuse or physical abuse.... don't be a victim. I am a survivor from a very abusive relationship. Remember that who you are is not defined by him. I'm sure you are a strong, intelligent, beautiful person. Do not doubt yourself or your gut feelings. I'm going to guess (I may be wrong) that you are confused and hurt right now. Are you wondering if this man has used you to get to the US? I'm curious, too, how long you knew him and how much time you spent face to face. Please share with us. But regardless of that, you have two choices. To fix the relationship or end it. I don't know if you are able to tell him how he makes you feel, or ask him what he is feeling, or let him know his behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it, or ask if wants to help you fix the marriage... maybe with counseling. But please, if he is unwilling to cooperate or continues to brow beat you... end the relationship. You may message me in private if you want to discuss this further. Be safe. Mental abuse often turns physical. But both are harmful and unacceptable.

My evidence for our relationship being ongoing doesn't rest in those chats. I have tons of cell records for our calls and texts, emails, 2 actual paper letters (wow! remember them? haha). But my phone and text records only go back 18 months. The chats and emails show the dates we first met (April 2010) so I think it's important to include them.
I want to say that everytime I have a question, no matter how trivial, all of you have been quick to respond and help me out with your opinions, advice, and experience. I am so appreciative of it. I want you to know how good it makes me feel to be a part of this community. I don't feel alone. Any time I can help with my own advice, I try to do so. Big thank you to everyone!!!

My evidence for our relationship being ongoing doesn't rest in those chats. I have tons of cell records for our calls and texts, emails, 2 actual paper letters (wow! remember them? haha). But my phone and text records only go back 18 months. The chats and emails show the dates we first met (April 2010) so I think it's important to include them.
I want to say that everytime I have a question, no matter how trivial, all of you have been quick to respond and help me out with your opinions, advice, and experience. I am so appreciative of it. I want you to know how good it makes me feel to be a part of this community. I don't feel alone. Any time I can help with my own advice, I try to do so. Big thank you to everyone!!!

Please, do not endure the abuse. Mental abuse or physical abuse.... don't be a victim. I am a survivor from a very abusive relationship. Remember that who you are is not defined by him. I'm sure you are a strong, intelligent, beautiful person. Do not doubt yourself or your gut feelings. I'm going to guess (I may be wrong) that you are confused and hurt right now. Are you wondering if this man has used you to get to the US? I'm curious, too, how long you knew him and how much time you spent face to face. Please share with us. But regardless of that, you have two choices. To fix the relationship or end it. I don't know if you are able to tell him how he makes you feel, or ask him what he is feeling, or let him know his behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it, or ask if wants to help you fix the marriage... maybe with counseling. But please, if he is unwilling to cooperate or continues to brow beat you... end the relationship. You may message me in private if you want to discuss this further. Be safe. Mental abuse often turns physical. But both are harmful and unacceptable.

Please, do not endure the abuse. Mental abuse or physical abuse.... don't be a victim. I am a survivor from a very abusive relationship. Remember that who you are is not defined by him. I'm sure you are a strong, intelligent, beautiful person. Do not doubt yourself or your gut feelings. I'm going to guess (I may be wrong) that you are confused and hurt right now. Are you wondering if this man has used you to get to the US? I'm curious, too, how long you knew him and how much time you spent face to face. Please share with us. But regardless of that, you have two choices. To fix the relationship or end it. I don't know if you are able to tell him how he makes you feel, or ask him what he is feeling, or let him know his behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it, or ask if wants to help you fix the marriage... maybe with counseling. But please, if he is unwilling to cooperate or continues to brow beat you... end the relationship. You may message me in private if you want to discuss this further. Be safe. Mental abuse often turns physical. But both are harmful and unacceptable.

Please, do not endure the abuse. Mental abuse or physical abuse.... don't be a victim. I am a survivor from a very abusive relationship. Remember that who you are is not defined by him. I'm sure you are a strong, intelligent, beautiful person. Do not doubt yourself or your gut feelings. I'm going to guess (I may be wrong) that you are confused and hurt right now. Are you wondering if this man has used you to get to the US? I'm curious, too, how long you knew him and how much time you spent face to face. Please share with us. But regardless of that, you have two choices. To fix the relationship or end it. I don't know if you are able to tell him how he makes you feel, or ask him what he is feeling, or let him know his behavior is unacceptable and you will not tolerate it, or ask if wants to help you fix the marriage... maybe with counseling. But please, if he is unwilling to cooperate or continues to brow beat you... end the relationship. You may message me in private if you want to discuss this further. Be safe. Mental abuse often turns physical. But both are harmful and unacceptable.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

I know we all know about the 419 scams and all the other scams that are rampant in Nigeria, I'm not naieve to them, but I want to share this experience I had today.
I just received a very disturbing phone call from Nigeria. The man said he was from the Consulate and he had my forms. But he needed payment of fees. BUT I HAVEN'T SENT ANY FORMS YET! So I told him "let me call you back" and he said "Why? Are you very busy right now? Because this is very important." I said "yes, I will call back." He asked "when?" I said "about twenty minutes." He said "ok but this is very important matter."
So I called my fiance. Julius told me not to accept any calls from Nigeria unless I know it is him (Julius). He said there are men in his country making a very bad name for Nigeria. (But I know all about the scams already. He nows that I know. Yet he feels he needs to keep telling me and protecting me). Julius called the number and told the man he has been reported for fraud and "we know you called an American asking for money." He said the man denied calling. Julius asked him where he was calling from and the man hung up.
Julius said no one knows (except family) we are making plans to file our petition so it must be connected to the cyber cafe somehow, where he went to print out the forms and letter of intent. He told me the people there would not let him print from his laptop and said he had to forward the forms to be printed. But we are trying to figure out where my phone number is. I sent him a copy of one of the forms I filled out so he could help me check it for accuracy. My number may have been on it.
Julius told me the scammers are very clever and he's not quite sure how they get all their information but he warned me again not to send any money to anyone even if they sound very convincing, not to answer nigerian phone calls, and we are going to rethink how we use the cyber cafes. Again... I know you all know this already (as do I) but just want to pass it on.

We planned for him to visit in April this year. We filed everything and he had an interview date but I was laid off work for 4 months then promised I could return to work in April. I travel all over the US with my coworkers. No way he could accompany me. And I only had unemployment income those 4 months...so we canceled the interview and trip. Forfeited money spent on fees. There's no way my job would let me off to go visit him again. Should I write a letter explaining that??
I know all about the romance scams and internet scams. We are the real deal. I'm not nieve about that stuff. We are genuine. Soul mates. Best friends. Lovers. Oh.... I miss him so much. You have me worried about the one visit only.