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Jeez.....take it ez bro...60 days without sex is nothing. Treat her nice and know her before you get in her pants.This seems so surreal that I feel like you're just lying. Btw my parents got married and saw each other on the day of marriage, imagine that...28th wedding anniversary coming up!! The real definition of arranged wedding :-)

I think we will need some clarification on that.
A woman is a lot like a piece of fine porcelain. She needs to be treated gently and carefully. Trying to force a woman who is disinterested in sex to have sex is not only bordering marital rape, but unless she has some hardcore fetishes, is likely to lead to her withdrawing more. She might be scared out of her mind, she might not be attracted to you, etc. You really have no idea but unless you learn how to behave around a woman especially one as cherished as your wife, it is probably best that you divorce and not get remarried. This woman is your life partner and she deserves to be treated as such.

Hahaha...this has got to be someone's idea of a joke.
You prefer living in Pakistan where people are put to death for blasphemy? Or where women are subjected to honor killings? Well, if that's where you want to be, then Delta is ready when you are.

I'm from south america and I don't know much of indian culture, but so far I know your women are way different from women from the western hemisphere. You should gave her the chance to adjust. She is not only traded her whole culture for a totally new one and wayyyyy different from hers but also she needed to adjust to a new life as married women with a guy she barely knew. What did you expected? That she was going to jump into your bed like that? She doesn't know you, and if your marriage was arranged we CAN'T talk about love. So I bet she was scared and the only thing you did was preasured her while she was struggleing trying to adjust to her new life. I am from Venezuela, we are totally a western culture and we are pretty much liberal thinkers and even when I was happy to moved here I was scared to deathhhh! I can't imagine what your poor wife went through. And adjusting to a marry life is not easy either. I'm sorry if you feel insulted by my comments but ut really piss me of, cause as a non US beneficiary I know how hard it is too be in her position. We have to leave our family, our friends, our jobs, our culture abd everything we know in order to be with our loveones. Not only thst but we have to start from scratch, waiting for our documents to travel, drive, work or at least been able to open a freaking bank account. I feel like if I'm 15 again and is not fun. So to end with this the best thing you can do for her was sent her back to her family cause OBVIOUSLY you are NOT able to take care of her. Good luck! Btw 60 days is NOTHING! i've been here for 10 month and till working on it!

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are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

are you serious??? there are no jobs in pakistan, not even minimum wage jobs, much less an enforcable minimum wage and it doesn't matter your education there either just who you know and what connections you have. no racism in pakistan either huh? just in usa? what a bunch of b/s, racism in pakistan is severe. sorry to tell you but hard work is a virtue in the USA not something we look down on as something for the "labor class." hard work isn't beneath you because you have an education, get over it. go back to pakistan, you are never going to be happy here with your attitude.

Not everything is ideal here true.I lived in Netherlands for a while before US and loved it.But it was very difficult to find a good job there not being fluent in Dutch. For me US was a better option and the fact I was very young when I came here helped to adapt.
At first I wanted to blame this country and it's people for my failures too.But you have to reconcile yourself to the simple truth that everyone is in charge of their own life and decisions to certain extent.I am curious too,why can't you go back to great life in your home country?
My happiness is people I love, not good work and a lot of money.
When all is said and done US of A is not even close to the worst place a person could live.I learned to love this country and appreciate what it have given me.I would not have a better life in Ukraine,where I was born.
Be positive and open minded,be kind and good to people and they will treat you the same.

Yes, it would be best to remove me from the Pending AP list until we get our paperwork resubmitted. I do check the site often to check everyone's status and I wish Good Luck to all!

sir i am still waiting for my visa here in pakistan nd will not go to usa without informing to all vj members, friends.

helooo guys love u alll yesterday i recvd my paspport with visa.....thanx evry one

Sorry but that letter is not coming a USC but a Nigerian and trust me the Consular reading this letter wud be SHDH! Sorry bout ur denial but you have to be truthful and honest both here and the embassy. Also take it slow to avoid mistakes.GOODLUCK!

Thanks and what I said originally wasn't that bad, but I did have the good sense to ask to have it edited myself as posts here have an edit time limit and the titles can't be edited. You are being really snotty and being that you are AOSing your presence in this thread isn't helpful at all, especially because you are contributing nothing.
You have no idea the mess that USCIS could have created by doing this and the extra money and time it might have cost us to have it fixed later on. ( I think we'd need to file something for action on an approved petition if the SEnator hasn't discovered it). This is no small error.

Thank-you, we need an edit title function.
Ok, please stay out of my thread.

My issue is simply this - none of us WANT to be apart from our loved ones so why are people here on visitors visas more special than other couples? AOS is simply not necessary for these couples. Go back to your country and process a fiance/e or spousal visa.
If it really is just about being a courtesy for the USC, then let any spouse of a USC just come here on a VWP or visitor visa and then adjust their status. Why keep those couples apart just because other couples are lucky enough to come from VWP countries, or were able to get visitor visas? It's just not fair to other couples.
Yes I'm sure there are lots of couples who actually plan it. We'll never really know the real figure because no-one will ADMIT immigration fraud.
There are people saying "what if I miss the birth of my child?" well other people DO. Why are you more special? because you were able to get a visitor/student/work visa or come on the VWP? "what if I can't visit?" well other people can't either.
The playing field needs to be leveled. It's legal to "change your mind" of course, I'm not disputing that some people have done it "legally" but it should no longer be legal just to change your mind. Go back to your country and process a visa like everyone else or let everyone else in a relationship with a USC just come visit and AOS.

I like this idea because if the tourist visa cannot be "converted" to another visa that means there will be a higher chance of approval for those who TRULY want to just visit and go back. I know a number of people who just want to visit this country and go back but because getting a B2 is almost impossible, they are forced to use another visa route.

It is a loophole that needs to be closed. Just cause you had unprotected sex that resulted in pregnancy does not mean you woild have died if you had to go back home. Thousands of people miss the birth of their kids. It is sad but not detrimental

Sending Urdu one, English Translation & Nadra Nikah Nama will only help you less questions at Interview stage, so I endorse on sending all three together to NVC.
Stay Blessed

Urdu one plus certified translation works great. The english only one can confuse them that you forgot to mail in your urdu original, so best bet is to mail urdu + translation. Mail all three if you feel like it because it won't hurt.

I'm happy to help my fellow VJers any way I can
Good luck to you, too!
My biggest concern right now is my 4-year-old and 7-year-old boys behaving themselves at the consulate.

Good Job.