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    FIANCE ON HIS WAY!

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    Congratulations :) I can only imagine how you feel - my fiancée will be here in 38 days and I also am feeling happy , scared , nervous , excited ..; I'm trying to fix up my home to make things perfect - found him a job etc ...

    Just take a deep breath remember all that you love about him - how far he has come to be with you

    And enjoy every minute - this is the day you have been dreaming of :)

    God willing all will be well

    Jen

    Older American woman Younger Algerian man

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    Yes, Beauty for Ashes, but every story is a different story - and what happened to you, or someone else, is NOT a prediction for the future of other relationships. We can say the same things about women who let themselves go and become fat as we can about age. What will the husband do when the wife becomes fat? (insert emoticon with worried face and biting nails) And you will find so many fat women who will say that their husbands cheated on them with a better looking woman, and so forth.

    People used to give these harsh warnings about inter-racial relationships, too. And for a time, people from the city and people from the country had the same warnings, as well. We can say the same about different religions.

    In fact, if we give it enough thought - NO ONE should get married. It's too dangerous! We shouldn't even fall in love, because look at how many people end up with a broken heart.

    We can't think that way - or we'll never be able to live our lives. We have to take a chance, sometimes. Be smart, of course, but there is no love that has ever, or could ever, exist...without the risk of getting hurt. It's impossible.

    We can find ANY excuse under the sun to warn someone not to get married. The truth is, bad things happen to good people, and husbands lie, cheat, and leave their wives behind every single day - all around the world. If it's not one thing, it's another.

    We can direct our lives according to statistics, or we can live our lives according to our unique experiences - and either way we choose is NO guarantee, anyway. We might end up with a broken heart and wiped out financially no matter HOW it starts out. These things happen, sometimes, and not a single one of us is excluded from the possibility.

    I am so with you on this subject - just because someone got burned does not mean we are all naive desperate older women without common sense.

    For me life is about taking chances and following my heart my gut instinct and I knew from day one this amazing man was everything I ever dreamed of

    on so many levels and I was not going to let fear drive me away. All relationships go thru ups and downs trials and tribulations regardless of age and distance. I would much rather take my chance and pray for a wonderful outlook than walk away because of everyone elses fears and negative expierences.

    Older American woman Younger Algerian man

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    Hey Jen wb! It is nice to be older and fabulously looking young isn't it?? My lamb tajine my husband cooked turned out amazing! Now watching a scarey movie... a new twist to Eid celebration. Lol

    Did I mention I am a grandmother also :) :)

    yes my baby girl turned 6 yesterday....

    I cant wait to start cooking a Italian feast for my love's arrival in 39 days - he is a bit of tired of Middle Eastern food.

    We are both total watch movie buffs - it never gets old being wrapped in his arms watching our favorites

    I need some Lamb recipes - thats the one thing I dont know how to cook.

    So many celebrations to come....

    Older American woman Younger Algerian man

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    Purpled... I would like to say that I hope you have not been offended in any way or manner by my posts. I agree with you whole heartedly in your last post. And Jen I am happy for you and know exactly how you feel. Purpled don't equate or compair your experience to those of MENA'S. Yours is your own experience, your writing your own book. I remember when I was beginning my relationship with Mo... I thought to myself "If I ended it because of fear of the unknown" could I be losing the best thing Allah put in my life? I would have lived the rest of my life not knowing what could have been. And I couldn't live with that. Yes there will be different things about the both of you. But that's what makes our marriage exciting was learning from each other. When Mo came over here I never expected him to stop being Moroccan. He will be Moroccan untill his last breath... and I expect him to be. Because that's WHO HE IS. I urged him to make other Moroccan friends here, go to the mosque, He was a soccer player for a team in morocco so we found a league for him to play for here. My mother says.. missy... he's an American now. But no.. I married a Moroccan and thus he will always be. The biggest and best advice I can give is do not try to change him but help him adapt to his new surroundings when he gets here. If you both truely love each other do notttt listen to negativity....put only positive things in your life and you will be blessed will a joyous and wonderful marriage. :-)

    So happy for you as well - I love to read about others success stories - when i first started this journey you cannot imagine the mean visious posts that appeared - it was horrible. Yes we are writing our own books and I am a strong believer in following your gut instinct and praying about your relationship.

    I have no doubt that god brought us together - got us through this two years and allowed him to be approved without AP ( which is almost unheard of in the Middle East ) no relationship / situation or culture is perfect all will expierence hardships - its the committment and desire and strong will to be together no matter what comes that makes or breaks the relationship. I am as you are speaking only positive words - and thanking god many times a day for blessing me with a love I only dreamed of but never thought would be mine.

    Older American woman Younger Algerian man

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    I joined this site to get advice from people that were going thru the same thing. Good or bad, I did want to hear it all. But, some of you have been trash talking others and have been rude and hateful. You can take that ####### somewhere else. Even if you had a bad experience, I am sorry to hear that. If you left a reply, then leave it at that and move on. You can say all you want about MENA men but it won't change my mind about my man. I am sick of hearing you degrade him. You don't know him, you know nothing about him so who are you to pass judgement based on your bad experience?

    good for you!! what is wrong with these people?

    follow your heart - your a smart woman who has life expierence

    like you I am intelligent , wordly and successful and could have my pick of men but have found my soulmate and nothing and no one in the world can talk me out my destiny. Our relationship is rock solid and even with the age difference - he is more mature, kind, loving affectionate than any man i have met my age here in the US or in the Middle East - and he knows exactly what I need and how I need to be loved.

    Not every man / situation is the same - just because some women were scammed doesnt mean the MENA men are all bad.

    My love arrives next month and I cannot wait to start our life together...

    I wish you the best and if you need to vent PM me -

    Jen

    Older American woman Younger Algerian man

    in Middle East and North Africa

    Posted

    I am 20 years older than my fiancée and have 4 children from my previous marriages. We were approved without AP on 9/12 for his K1 visa. He will be here god willing by December 15th. We have been together 2 years and I have been to Amman 5 times and I am also Middle Eastern. I believe the number of my visits and the fact we applied one year after being together plus all the proof of our relationship I presented assured the consulate our relationship was solid.

    It has not been easy by any means, it tests every fiber of the relationship and trust me when I say I have been on an emotional roller coaster. If it weren’t for my friends here such as the lovely mimolicious supporting me and listening to me complain I probably would have thrown in the towel.

    Thank god I didn’t cause we are so happy right now - over the hurdle and with the stress of the visa gone we are once again madly in love :)

    I know it won’t always be like this and we have many more hurdles to face once he arrives but nothing can be as hard as being separated for two years and not knowing if we would be approved or end up in AP.

    My best advice is get to know him - dont rush into the visa process because you need a solid foundation to build on.

    Age is just a number and we laugh all the time because he is much more mature than I am and thankfully I take excellent care of myself so the age difference is not too apparent.

    I pray to continue to be one of the success stories too :)

    best of luck

    Jen

    questions about work authorization after arrival

    in Adjustment of Status (Green Card) from K1 and K3 Family Based Visas

    Posted

    I have a few questions if anyone can offer any advice

    Once my fiancee arrives how soon can he begin working?

    I understand we can apply for his social security card right away but what about the work authorization?

    We planon marrying right away and adjust his status which takes 90 days to get his green card, so can he work during these 90 days?

    I have a job ready for him but want to make sure that once he is hired he wont have like a lapse in work authorization.

    thanks!

    Jen

    The unfairness of it all

    in IR-1 / CR-1 Spouse Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    My lawyer told me that the K1 visa was processing faster than the spousal? we went with the K1visa

    the process has taken as of the 29th of this month - 1 year since I mailed our petition.

    My fiancée received his visa without AP on the 17th September - I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to throw

    in the towel and give up - call your congressman - I harassed everyone at the 6 month mark.

    You should have some kind of response by now ? what kind of proof did you send in ? are there any possible red flags?

    I will keep you in my prayers...

    inshallah things will improve soon...

    Confused - medical expires in November visa issued September??

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    My fiancee had his medical exam in June a few days before our original interview appointment. We had to be rescheduled till this past September 12th when he was approved. From what I am reading he must travel before his medical exam expires which would be in November , yet his visa itself should be valid for 6 months which would be in February?.

    Can the medical be re-done?

    Any clarifications would be great - i have emailed the embassy but have not gotten a response.

    thanks!

    Jen

    Some information on administrative processing

    in Waivers (I-601 and I-212) and Administrative Processes (221g)

    Posted

    http://administrativeprocessing.blogspot.com/2008/12/national-name-check-program.html

    Individuals applying for an immigrant visa may find that their cases have been placed in Administrative Processing for one reason or another. They are neither denied nor approved as additional time may be needed to make a determinative response in the case. This decision is made after the visa applicant's interview by a consular officer. Most administrative processing is resolved within 60 days of the visa interview, however, when placed in administrative processing, the timing will vary based on individual circumstances of each case.

    In immigrant visa cases such as the K1 fiance visa, a consular officer may conclude at the end of the interview that there is simply insufficient evidence to approve the case. The reason may be that new evidence was discovered during the interview that raised a red flag, or an administrative discrepancy to warrant a secondary review. A visa case requiring additional administrative processing may take months to conclude, however, in this writer's experience, providing additional compelling evidence of the bona fides of the applicant's relationship to the American petition may assist the officer in making a definitive decision in the case.

    Administrative processing is a state of flux that leaves a visa applicant frustrated and confused as there is no definitive guidelines as to what the immigration issues are and whether the applicants can do anything to compel the proper agency to respond. Additionally, it is within the discretion of the interviewing consular officer to place a visa case in further administrative processing as the Foreign Affairs Manual (FAM) provides ample guidance for officers to exercise this power based on their factual finding.

    Whether the case is outright denied or placed in administrative processing, a visa denial applicant should consult with a competent immigration attorney to review the case and provide the best course of action based on the applicant's unique sets of facts. Consular processing attorneys are in a highly advantageous position to assist since they are able to inquire directly with the consulate and embassy where the applicant's case was denied.

    Very informative

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