CHarvey80

Honestly, and without trying to be disrespectful, you should try to figure out what to do with your current situation- finding out that you have a child- and make sure that is taken care of. It's not your fault that you didn't know and whatever happened before can't be changed, but what you decide to do from know on is your responsability. If that kid is your child, then you are responsible for him/ her. Pal, you seem to have bigger issues now that meeting your russian girlfriend and getting her a visa. Kids first.
Good luck.

You should probably talk to her about it. Is she ok with the idea of staying home and not working? That is her decision to make. I feel that cooking, cleaning and other chores have to be shared. You both live together, you are a team. Let her figure out what she wants, but be supportive, don't tell her what to do. Also, ask her what she likes to do, if she has any hobby do some research about fun activities in your area so she has something to do while adjusting to her new life.
I wish you the best of luck!

You should probably talk to her about it. Is she ok with the idea of staying home and not working? That is her decision to make. I feel that cooking, cleaning and other chores have to be shared. You both live together, you are a team. Let her figure out what she wants, but be supportive, don't tell her what to do. Also, ask her what she likes to do, if she has any hobby do some research about fun activities in your area so she has something to do while adjusting to her new life.
I wish you the best of luck!

This has been an interesting read...So far, I am not sure if the OP is trolling or just very confused :S
To the OP, you got some really good advice, so why don't you act on it? Go get yourself a better lawyer, call someone from Immigration and find out what you can do from now on to fix your situation. There is no point in trying to make us believe your story, our opinion doesn't matter. Do what you are supposed to and stop complaining about things not being the way they should. Things are the way the are no matter what you think. Maybe some other time we can discuss about our ideas of a perfect world, but now focus on the issue at hand.
Good luck.

I hate that everyone thinks they are a unique snow flake that deserves to rise above the rules!!

You said the trip or you. Ultimatum questions rarely come out well, as the other person often thinks #######, he/she loved me, he/she would know how important this is to me.

I'm pretty sure she uses a different brand. If I was equipped with those parts I'd probably be using it though. I had cheap shampoo before, she buys some expensive stuff I now use. I have managed to keep my old brand of bar soap though, as she uses a body wash. All I use is shampoo, bar soap and my razor (and my wife). The two dozen other bottles of stuff I don't touch.

ah geez..KDH is gonna tell us about how she got a can-opener manufacturer to honor a warranty next..... lmao.....

Religion and all that is ok if that's what you like to believe in, but God doesn't pay your bills. You are dealing with US immigration and if you want this to work, you need to make it happen. It's ok to trust God, but you need a plan. You either get a job, save up and fly to meet your future husband or you get a job, save up and move to his country. Those are the only two options I see. I don't mean to be harsh, but you need to be practical. You don't qualify for a waiver, so you better have a plan B.
Good luck, hope you figure out what to do.

Whenever I see same, I think to myself how godlike the USCIS case-approvers must be, and certainly how saintly the U.S. consuls are. Many of the latter need to be hauled back to the U.S. in chains.

Tell him you'll throw in an Indonesian virgin with a small #######. That should seal the deal.

Rant - I think it is horrible when someone marries an immigrant and then doesn't learn their spouses native language so that they can make sure the children are raised bilingual. In my opinion it is the USC responsibility to learn their spouse's native language so that the child can be raised in a bilingual environment.
Just saying.
Learn it!!

Rant - I think it is horrible when someone marries an immigrant and then doesn't learn their spouses native language so that they can make sure the children are raised bilingual. In my opinion it is the USC responsibility to learn their spouse's native language so that the child can be raised in a bilingual environment.
Just saying.
Learn it!!

Rant - I think it is horrible when someone marries an immigrant and then doesn't learn their spouses native language so that they can make sure the children are raised bilingual. In my opinion it is the USC responsibility to learn their spouse's native language so that the child can be raised in a bilingual environment.
Just saying.
Learn it!!

This is at least mildly reminiscent of --http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/382775-mrs-t-b-the-citizenship-test/
-- which everyone here who hasn't read it should read so that they have rather than have not read it, see man.

Rant - I think it is horrible when someone marries an immigrant and then doesn't learn their spouses native language so that they can make sure the children are raised bilingual. In my opinion it is the USC responsibility to learn their spouse's native language so that the child can be raised in a bilingual environment.
Just saying.
Learn it!!

I speak only English and my husband speaks English and Spanish. Our baby is 15 months old. It was/is important to me that my husband teaches him how to speak spanish. Most of his family only speaks spanish so i wanted our baby to be able to talk to his grandmother as well as other family members. My husband speaks both english and spanish to our son and he understands both. He even learned to say Hola before he said Hi. Babies learn so fast that it is very easy for them to pick up on both languages if they are used to hearing both. Your mothers concern is probably just wanting to be included and being able to communicate with her grandchild.

Looking at big roll of paper towels in the picture and wondering what the problem was with the empty roll.

Religion and all that is ok if that's what you like to believe in, but God doesn't pay your bills. You are dealing with US immigration and if you want this to work, you need to make it happen. It's ok to trust God, but you need a plan. You either get a job, save up and fly to meet your future husband or you get a job, save up and move to his country. Those are the only two options I see. I don't mean to be harsh, but you need to be practical. You don't qualify for a waiver, so you better have a plan B.
Good luck, hope you figure out what to do.

Religion and all that is ok if that's what you like to believe in, but God doesn't pay your bills. You are dealing with US immigration and if you want this to work, you need to make it happen. It's ok to trust God, but you need a plan. You either get a job, save up and fly to meet your future husband or you get a job, save up and move to his country. Those are the only two options I see. I don't mean to be harsh, but you need to be practical. You don't qualify for a waiver, so you better have a plan B.
Good luck, hope you figure out what to do.

The reason I say that is because when the I-130 is done your spouse will have everything she needs to start her life when you land in state side. She will have her green card, will be able to work, etc.
Get a civil union abroad to file the I-130 and then have the big wedding once you get to the states. Doesn't really change anything other then when you get state side you don't have a $1000+ AOS bill to deal with and your spouse is, more or less, ready to hit the ground running instead of having to wait months for their EAD, AP, etc.
Just my two cents.

I am dispassionate about the situation, but I have no time for people "buying or selling" husbands or wives or "sending them home" like they are a package for FedEx.
Good luck to you.