Treva

Yep, the more I think about it, the more I believe he must have got that date by plugging in my receipt number (EAC # -> VSC processing date). The only way to try to understand Atlanta's true processing time is to talk to the I130 supervisor there.

Its 3 sides to every story, yours may be correct , no one knows but stop the hate, she had 2 kids with you, make her life miserable
the kids will be too, marriages break up, if counselling cant help wish her the best, let her stay here and continue to take care of
your kids in a lifestyle that will afford them a life as yours.May be hard but move on .

OP, in first place what I want to tell you, whether you are lying or not is, people CAN learn English or any other language from different sources, you can be just naturally gifted like someone else said. Good for whoever went to college, school, whatever to learn a language but some people just don't need it. I'm one of those, thanks to Backstreet Boys (lol), my old radio, TV, my old dictionary and my brain I learned English by myself. Perfect? Not at all but it could be! And I'm still learning!! Native speakers in EVERY country make mistakes, every language has slang and I really do not see how native americans here speak that good.
In fact, I don't know about everybody but where we live there are so many called "rednecks" and their grammar is terrible, way worse when speaking because of slang. The public schools here are also not that great and I see a lot of people here having a hard time spelling/reading. So basically, yes you can learn by yourself, great if you went to college but there are thousands of ways to learn a language.
Anyway, some people gave you good advice and in my opinion your husband will NOT love you more if you get your AOS done at all. There's some things that cannot be fixed, things will get worse. Just think, he will "lose" control over you and then things will get more serious. The fact that he is a military does not mean anything, their character is not tested when joining. You should follow the advice it was given to you and get yourself together, you need a plan to keep you and your son safe.
If your story is true or not, it does not matter. Too bad if it is not, at least you can see that people care. If it is real, good luck and I wish you the best.
P.S: And by the way, stop defending yourself though if you are really saying the truth. You do not owe anything to anyone in here, you got good advice already and this whole argument about your English skills is pointless. If you have any other question about the main topic, feel free to send me a message, I'll be happy to help.

Thank you, Peter Pan.
Some people have a talent for languages. Having studied English at school and watched subtitled TV all my life, I could pass for an American after less than a year in the US at 18+, a long time ago. Not the only language I learned like that, either. There's nothing suspicious about that.

Many abusive people don't want to file for a GC because they fear that by keeping the spouse "un-free" will force them to rely on the USC so the immigrant can't leave. Many men also fear "independent" women (there are a million on this board) so in an extreme version, keeping them chained keeps them dependent on the USC. That way they get a wife at home that depends on them totally no matter what they do.
I find it despicable to attack the OP's use of English as a reason to attack her or her story. The question of her English shouldn't be answered by someone who "lives with a Russian" but by people who actually speak at least two languages. Someone who speaks only one language is not capable, in my view, of understanding what it is like to learn a second language and what is possible. When someone gets attacked they would naturally get flustered and probably reply faster and make more mistakes. For a second language, speaking is not easier than writing for all people.
The OP is very possibly a hurting abused person who needs help, and is making all kinds of excuses because that is what an abused person does. USCIS can make an appropriate determination regarding her story (if she goes that route). It's not up to us.
OP - you got some good info on your options at the start of the thread.

There is a lot of fraud in the intent of anyone from a 3 world country gaining access to the US. You know if there is anything odd about how you met and how your relationship progressed. Although you may be a little clingy at the moment it takes 2 seconds to text something as a response expecially if it your soulmate involved. His behavior towards your needs will not change when he gets here. If you are not on the same grounds maybe you will never be.

If you really love her like you say you do, you will find out why she is so unhappy and go to great lengths to try and reverse it. Simply put, marriages can almost always be saved if the husband is willing to do what the wife wants.
Probably there were some misunderstandings and miscommunications maybe due to cultural differences. Find out what you misunderstood and what messages you completely missed altogether. It wouldn't hurt to talk to her best friends to ask their advice, and follow it.
In case you do ultimately divorce, you'll probably be alright on your own. Be grateful your English is good. You can get a job. It could be worse. You could get kicked out with no family, no friends, and no English.

I agree that RFE is good news for you. It means that they have gotten to your case already. Some people are waiting more than five months for USCIS to review their cases. As soon as you respond satisfactorily to the RFE, your case will be approved.
Best wishes